THINGS THAT GO BUMP IN THE NIGHT!

things that go bump in the night

When you think about it, all we really have to consider is the foot in front of our face. I know. That does sound anatomically incorrect but I promise, I will explain if you’ll just stick with me. As we all know, a foot is measured as 12 inches. That isn’t very far but it is the tiny bit of life we can moderately control. Everything else, beyond our grasp, is truly not in our control. Rain, earthquakes, and wind are all out of our control. The need for trust has to be displayed by us every day of our lives when we send our children off to school, drive a car or cross a street. Without a certain amount of trust, we would be totally immobile and would never go anywhere or do anything in this life. Even turning on a light switch is an act of faith and trust.

 

As we pause to think about it just simply put, we’re in the dark and we need to be enlightened. We trust that light switch will lighten our way and when it does, we take it for granted, much like we say a prayer during a difficult time yet never think about it when the prayer is answered. I’m not saying we should go around saying “thank you” to light switches and lamps because you would definitely be locked up for that, but a simple thank you to a loving God would be good. It keeps the line of communication open with someone who truly cares. How much of life we live by faith and don’t even realize we are doing it.

 

Much closer to “home” we have issues going on in our own bodies that we cannot stop but can merely feel, observe and for which we pursue a solution. The only control we have regarding our health is to check out and educate ourselves as to how our own human body works. We can control our diets, our exercise and our daily activities, all to some extent. We can and do go to the doctors of our choice or who are referred to us. In this current age everything is a specialty. It grows so tiresome and I so often miss the old-fashioned family doctor don’t you? Certainly, I realize as a retired RN how complicated the world of medicine is today and am allowed to grieve for what once was while also appreciating modern advancements. Once again the trust factor enters the picture as we trust our current doctor’s judgment in referring us to some stranger.

 

It’s very difficult for each of us to know how to gauge a new physician. I think it’s a little easier for those of us who have worked in medicine but even we do not know what and who we are dealing with. The criterion for choosing a new doctor is a bit simpler with the internet as we can read critiques from other patients. One can’t base a lot on those however without knowing the whole story of each patient. But the biggest gauge of all is whether or not any new physician helps and communicates with us. Going to a new doctor takes trust. We each know that feeling of expectation and anxiety with each new visit. I truly hate starting from scratch with a new physician. Are they going to help? Why do I have to fill out fifteen forms? Can anybody help and will I like him? My dear Mom used to choose doctors by whether or not they were sweet to her. He or she could be as stupid as a stick but if they were kind to her, patted her on the hand then she loved them and that was a good doctor in her opinion. Bless her.

 

I have been at war with my body for thirty years while having to also remain friends with it. Since it’s the only one I have I had to take the friendly position many years ago. I’ve had much to fear in my life, particularly when it comes to my health. Certainly, like many of you I have had hard times financially, family trouble as well as marital problems. We are human beings who are each vulnerable to the rocks in the walk of life. Along the way we stub our toes, step on sharp objects and walk through grit but we still have to get where we are going. Once again, we cannot remain immobile, even when we have health problems.

 

I know that feeling of being trapped inside one’s own life. I know what it is to be near death and that amazing feeling when you realize you have defeated death. I’ve been through that three times, thus far, in this life and it has a way of making one realize how wonderful life truly is and also acts as a dramatic reminder that heaven isn’t ready for you yet. To me that always acts as a reminder that I still have much to do on this earth and that is the lesson I took from each experience. Those are the experiences that made me who I am but we are also, each of us, shaped by the small daily twists and turns of life which we traverse each day. The interesting fact about each crisis life brings our way is that we usually have been surprised by them. We usually have no control over these times, great or small.

 

Often, I am confronted by individuals who are ill who have great burdens of worry on their shoulders. Worry and fear are those intangible items which do go bump in the night. Being full of fear is a monster each of us has and do face. Often each of us has been in the position of waiting for a procedure, waiting for a report from the doctor or hospital or some other worry regarding our health. If you have faith in a God of love you should be reassured but that reassurance does not always come easily. Our minds take off in a specific direction and we wonder “what if” and worry about what is coming down the road. Things that go bump in the night can also prowl around during the daylight. Ideally, those of us with faith in God should not worry but it can take some time and much soul searching to create the positive juices it takes to trust during hard times. It seems we can have faith in a lightbulb but not in a loving God. There is always the possibility He will allow us to travel down a painful road and of course, who would want that? In this whole faith department, we are in for a penny, in for a pound. Either we believe in a plan of love and growth for our life or we do not. It is often easier to have faith for someone else but when you are the one with the imagination and cancer is looming in your mind, or some other horrible event such as being an invalid for the rest of your life, then it is more difficult. Remember those of us who embrace Christianity are given a pattern to live by but we aren’t the finished product just yet. I’m not saying you need to be a Christian but I am recommending that you have faith in a higher power outside yourself. Whatever your belief, be consistent in it and embrace its precepts to allow your life and those you love to be enriched.
I think it is only human of us to worry but we don’t have to move in and live there. There are many times I have been caught in a cycle of worry, peddling away with my mind filled with some horrific “what if” when I have had to have a chat with myself. A firm scolding would be more accurate a way to define it. I know each of you understand what I am expressing when you recall tossing and turning, fighting the monster of fear and unable to sleep; things that go bump in the night.

 

What do I do when I’m overwhelmed by worry and fear? First of all I pray. I give the whole situation over to One I know loves me and tell Him, or rather remind myself, that He is in charge. Then I try to learn as much about the situation as I can. Education and information always bring enlightenment and none of us want to be in the dark. The next step for me is to remember to take the whole situation one step at a time. If I look at the whole picture of a scary situation, it is too overwhelming. Nothing is built that way and a step at a time is a doable project.

 

This list of what I do to handle worry is longer than I thought as I think back on it. I also try to get myself busy. For one to lie around consumed with fear of the “what if’s” of life leads to nothing that is good. If I can handle movement I do stretching, walk somewhere, even a store or I find something in my home that needs cleaning. Come on, we always have something that needs to be done. Right now I have too much to handle so finding a chore is not a problem. I may talk to a friend, make a call or enjoy a TV show with my husband as company.

 

For those times when I don’t feel up to much activity, because the body is unwilling, I go online, read a book, or pick up a needlework project. I have a needlepoint pillow I’ve been working on for years. When I first became ill, thirty years ago, I was cranking out counted cross-stitch pieces at an almost alarming rate but now my energy is less and my eyesight is not what it was then. In the early days of being disabled I was a massive mess of frustration and pent up energy. Now I have eased into the role…still don’t like it, but have learned to shake hands with it.

 

Lastly and perhaps the most important thing I do when I am filled with worry or fear is to look outside myself to someone else. We can each become so consumed with ourselves and our own small world, we quite forget there are millions of others beyond our doorway who also suffer, love, hate and grieve for parts of life lost to them. It also doesn’t hurt to tell someone I love them. That act brings a magic quality to one’s life, don’t you think? Tell someone today that you love them.

 

 

 

 

Get up, clean up, cheer up, telllsomeone you love them

576 thoughts on “THINGS THAT GO BUMP IN THE NIGHT!

  1. Sue,First off, I love you and love your blogs. What a wonderful blog this one is and was just what I needed to read right now. I have been overwhelmed with all the things going on lately. This is just the reminder I need to take baby steps and focus on just one thing at a time instead of trying to figure out the whole picture. I often live in a cycle of worry. I am starting up with new doctors, too, and new tests, etc. and I hate having to start from scratch again. But it is what I need to do to figure out where the pain is being generated besides my “sitter” pain. So, now I have an MRA scheduled for my right hip as this new doc thinks I have a labral tear in that hip. Oh joy:) I also have a new pain management doctor appointment coming up end of March. I am hoping she will be able to figure things out. She comes highly recommended and was also in our Top Doctors magazine here in Arizona. It’s all in God’s hands anyway. He is our Light that guides us to keep moving forward in faith. Thanks for the inspiration once again, Sue. I pray you are doing okay with all that you deal with on a daily basis. I think of you often. Love you, Jo

    • Jo, You are always so kind about my words and it is always rewarding for me to know I am communicating fully. I think we always communicate but sometimes the soil is more fertile than at other times. It sounds like you have a good pain doctor to see. I’m concerned about the one I’m seeing in April because she requires that I first attend a 90 minute class before my appt. What is with that? If I could sit that long and then have an hour long appt. I wouldn’t need a pain doctor. I have to call them and see if I can skip it. I’ll be a mess.
      I do hope they are wrong and you do not have a tear in the hip joint or anything of that nature. I am pretty much as usual and trying to get back into more exercise but it’s hard. I got so soft during all that nausea, chemo bit over the last year. It’s hard to be a good patient, you know? Take care and let us know how you do with all the above. Love you, too, Sue

      • READ THE BLOG LOVE IT SUE. TOO TIRED TO WRITE AND MY HAND IS GIVING MY LOTS OF TROUBLE.
        LOVE TO ALL. GOD BLESS YOU.
        XXX

      • Oh Sue, I almost had to sit through a 90 minute presentation/counseling session with the new pain Center I’m going to end of March. I said the same thing you did that if I could sit that easily and long, I probably wouldn’t need them!! I told them I will probably be cancelling my appointment because that all that sitting between the hours drive there and back would aggravate my back. To my surprise:) they said I didn’t have to go!! I stressed to them it would be a hardship and counter-productive for me (I was surprised at myself for speaking up)
        I bet you can get them to make an exception too. Hope your day is starting off okay.

        Lyn, thank for the wishes.

        Chris…Happy anniversary. Enjoy your time out ! That’s a lot of years together!

        Suzanne. .there you are . Hope your all squared away with Aunty’s move. Sent you a message.

        Tonie…that’s interesting about the bursa. I have that problem and never heard of having a surgery. I will research that now.

        Wishing everyone who reads the blog a great day!!

      • Jo, Glad you got out of the long meeting at the new pain center appt. I was thinking of cancelling or trying that same tactic. Unfortunately, it looks like a universal procedure now for these places. Sometimes our healthcare system can be such a pain in itself. So, I guess we can only move forward and be as positive as possible. It all goes back to the standing up for ourselves and being as positive as we can. I do hate to use that word positive because it is often misused and misunderstood but what others don’t know is that we often have to be positive to put up with others and even show up to see some doctorsl Thanks for your remarks and do continue to do what is right for you dear lady. Love, Sue

  2. Sue
    How close to my life is your blog right now….I’m seeing a new rheumy in April and ent shortly and have awaited tests and still more to come . And it’s the waiting and waiting is the worst
    I got lost in your story this time. You are one brave lady. It is the curved ball as well that gets us .the most unexpected around the corner . Things going ok then wham from somewhere
    Went to see my dad Today he is very weak.called his dr to see him.took urine sample and said he should not really be having surgery how he is.so I’m going to cancel it tomorrow and delay it for a few weeks.that will give some time to see what’s happening ,he is too weak to change Chanel on tv remote. I also called occ therapist and they are getting a hoist in tomorrow. As he is bed bound. And he can only moan not speak and sleeps all the time
    Yet it’s funny I told my DD how he was and she rang to speak to carer to say to my dad she rang and there he was speaking in short words to her as if I was dreaming it all up…..
    Side effects are creeping in for new bp meds for DH….legs ache and cramps.only walk a bit..Shame as bp is good…still if it just stays as it is it will be ok he says
    Went out for tea and cake yesterday ,always lifts my spirits
    For our anniversary we will go out for a meal Friday..mainly as the weekends are to busy everywhere,then go out for a short drive both days somewhere .that will be great. Also won’t be away incase my dad has problems
    Tonie
    You’ve certainly got a keeper there
    Jen
    how things?
    Lyn
    Nope as you see my dad still to have the op….well not even on Friday now?hows SB?
    Gonna get some shuteye…well try
    Chris

    • Chris, I’m glad you postponed your Dad’s surgery. It definitely sounds like the right thing to do in light of his current status. It sounds like he has more coherent times than others and not necessarily a game playing bit although how could you know? Please you have appts. lined up and just know they will come in their right time. Sorry to hear about DH’s medication problems. Wow. He has had nothing but trouble with those meds. Hope you are resting and I hope to soon. Good to get an update from you tonight. Love, Sue

  3. Sue
    Such a sweet, lovely blog. Very calming to me. You know I feel the same way as you with talking to the Man above. Indomitable all day. Start off the day with scripture and prayer, if possible, but all during the day there are things I need His help with. And I always say “thank you”
    Productive day. Got my swi. I . Came home and repaired the fence on Judys field, which happens to be full of beautiful green grass. Brought the horses in there for a while so they can graze it down for her. Then I took the mower out in the field to drag all the poop to spread it out. We got a big thunder storm with a lot of rain and hail. The dogs were not happy with that. Then we all got a bath and I changed the sheets. Tomorrow is dentist. Man I dread that numbing so bad, and it is a front tooth.ugh !
    Lyn, as far as the bursa removal. It would be kinda sucked out via laparoscopy . And if that guy was trying to burst the bursa, i think I would have burst his bursa ! No reason to be moving that needle around. I have to go to an orthopedic surgeon to have it done. Mine retired, so I am going back to the one who did my wrist when I first came back. I will let you know what is decided.
    Love to all
    Tonie

    • Tonie, oh my but you did have a full day and so did the horses. What a perfect circle of life that they fertilize their own dinner; disgusting yet practical.
      I’m glad you liked the blog and yes, I know we share our faith. I’m so glad we do, and I know you are. The swim sounds good and LYN, I agree with Tonie, I would question the process of any doctor digging around with a needle in the bursa of what I assume was the shoulder. WHen I had mine injected last week, I can’t imagine that happening. TONIE, i’ve never heard of that taking out the bursa and having it grow back business. Maybe I’m confused by some of the facts. It’s late and I’m beat. Will close for now. Love to you, Sue

  4. Hello……another thought provoking bog Sue……how do you manage to get to the heart of things and inspire us all? I am reading a book about a lady battling her way through similar problems, its about an English actress and like you she injects humour into her stories which are often tough to read, but make you want to cry too….its called “Something I have been dying to tell you” a very brave lady, Chris probably knows who I mean.
    I hope you manage to scrap the 90 minute lesson, that is absurd and will do more damage than good.
    Well Spring is here Sue, and it warms the heart to see things starting to take off, its been a stressful few days trying to get things sorted out after the stolen handbag and its contents.
    Yesterday I had to travel over four hours to get the medical side of it sorted, I now have a cover note which I can take to the hospital/doctor and pharmacy until my new card comes through……I am feeling the affects today…….God bless xx

    Jo……sent you a PM, you know I am thinking of you ….xx

    Chris….I totally agree with Sue with regards to your Dad’s surgery, if he is as weak as that, surely it would be dangerous for him? I hope your DH is doing ok, and he gets his meds changed if they are not suiting him. Happy Anniversary for Friday love, I shall be off my pc then, its got problems to sort out, got to go to the poorly shop……..so try and have a nice evening and a nice meal…xx

    Tonie….I too start my day with a scripture reading, makes you think about things more clearly I think…….Wow you certainly did have a productive day, glad you got your swim in. Good luck at the dentist, yes the front teeth seem to be more sensitive.
    Yes I agree with you in regards to Lyn’s Bursa, what was that guy thinking of?

    Well……could be off-air for a time, certainly from Friday anyway, but will keep plonking away until it goes down and I can’t access anything for awhile…….much love to all……I won’t be able to read on here either, so going to miss you all….take care
    Jennie xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    • Jennie, glad you got through to read this today. Hope the problems get sorted out over the weekend with your PC. The book you mentioned sounds interesting. I’ll have to look into it. Sorry you had so much traveling and discomfort to go through to get your medical insurance, etc. straightened out. Hope you got a visit from the locksmith as well. Do take care and we know you love us even if you are off line for a bit. Love, Sue

  5. Hi all
    Dull day here today
    Started sorting out a lot of paperwork to shred
    Years of it bills statements old receipts ,pile up to my knee..only done half a drawer of a filing cabinet
    Do a bit at a time
    Gives It better tomorrow
    Jen the anniversary is on the Sunday..but we both don’t do crowds so going out on the Friday during the day..dh hearing no good with a lot of people..be less stress now my dads op is cancelled too
    Glad you got something sorted out hope the pain of it is better tomorrow
    Oh is that book you’re reading the oxo advert lady?
    Ok folks hope all fine
    Chris

    • Chris……yes the book is by LINDA BELLINGHAM or “Bellers” as she was affectionately known……made me laugh and cry at the same time, she is still missed a lot…………sent you a PM earlier xx

    • Chris
      I know when Ms Alice gets a bladder infection, it really affects her speech, mind and the whole nine yards. So yeah could be it. Hope he recovers soon. Have a good time out for your anniversary
      Love
      Tonie

  6. Sue, kudos! I know how difficult it is for your to turn these gems out at times any more. That said, they are truly enjoyed and appreciated by all and therapeutic for readers as well as yourself. I have no clue why that doc did what he did in my shoulder. I can tell you I was already in some of the worst pain ever, that put me over the edge. DD and I were discussing shots last evening. I told her I will likely avoid a shot in any joint ever again as a result – had to go on to explain to her. She was a bit dumbfounded as well. She assures me the doctors in her office would never do as this guy did. I can’t imagine what 90 minute video would possibly be necessary to view before an appointment with a pain specialist. Going over options? I don’t even buy that. Each situation is unique and frankly only options available for that particular circumstance is really necessary. I do hope you can get out of it.

    Chris, so sorry, I must have misread about your dad. Happy Anniversary in advance in case I am unable to pop on Friday. Your planned outings sound lovely.

    Jen, ugh. Sorry you had to take that trip. I hope your PC is fixed and back quickly.

    Hello, Jo! Best wishes!
    Everyone, including those who read but don’t comment, are in my thoughts and in my prayers. Been doing a lot of that in the middle of the night and early morning lately. :/ Sleep, oh elusive sleep…

    • Lyn, I’m pleased you appear to like this blog. Just to clarify. I think the meeting I’m required to attend is a meeting, not a video. I’m still thinking about that whole situation. As far as the shot I just got in my shoulder, it was done under fluoroscopy (X-ray) by an interventional radiologist. It didn’t hurt at all. He injected it with a numbing agent and then all I felt was pressure. It helped within a couple of hours. Don’t give up on the idea but do give up on that doctor.
      I hate to have to say I have seen many doctors do many stupid, painful things to patients…not many, but some. Hang in there and I hope your energy is holding up. Love, Sue

      ) X-ray

      • Sheesh. I either read too fast or mis-remembered. What kind of meeting would need to take place ahead of an appointment? I’ve never heard of such a thing. I completely get your being tired. Rest well.

      • Lyn, I think you saw that Jo ran into the same thing at another pain clinic. I think it’s a way of saving time for the doctor and would probably involve some of the alternatives for pain control like what is PT, what is a TENS unit, what is counseling, etc. I will have to talk to them as the time draws near. Sorry if I misled you on that. It’s the trend right now and I’m being swept away by the tide…will go as far as I can. Love, and enjoy the spring, Sue

    • Lyn…….Hope you are sleeping better, don’t you just hate it when you watch the clock go round when sleep alludes you? Got a worse trip next week, but got to keep sorting this out, after this it should all be done….PC too…so tired with it all, seem to be spending forever on the road. ……take care of yourself…..xxx

  7. Well Sue he has difficulty as its all thickened.but I saw him asking for water when I was there so I think the dr must have told him ..but that is a cause I think
    I called the dr out today as well to se him as his eyes are drooping and bright red when I saw him yesterday..I surprised the dr didn’t see them then. She has given some ointment for him. But the bottom lids are pulling down and you can see all the eye and the rims are red
    Well all being well going out for a cheese scone and tea tomorrow for breakfast .visit to the library and home….oh dear I sound ancient!
    But we enjoy it. Are you feeling better Sue
    Chris

    • Chris, does your dad have trouble with his vision ? The description of his eyes sounds like Ms Alice, and she suffers from. Macular degeneration. Might ask about it, or get him to an optometrist

      • Funny you should say that.in the night the carer said he woke up screaming he’d gone blind.with what he looked like as well that’s why I got the dr out but in the day it was ok…but he can’t get out of the bed now to go anywhere.so that’s difficult. He’s having a hoist fitted to the wall later today to get to a commode and chair
        Yea I’ve heard when you are older urine infections fo that.hes had them and been quite ill before but if course its worse now
        Chris

  8. Evening all
    Well, I made it to the dentist, had two shots of novacaine. Got the fillings done, helped James take off all their trash to the dump.ncame home and socked out on the couch for the rest of the afternoon and evening. I get so sick from that stuff. Still have a headache. All I can do is try to go to sleep. But I a, done until my next cleaning in August . Yeah !
    Jennie I am glad you are getting your self back together after your purse was stolen. Hard to do. Lyn, like we said that guy wasn’t your everyday pain man evidentially. I would go to someone else, but a shot might really help your shoulder.
    Sue, yeah, I read up about the bursa. I am tired of all the pain, and having to wait for shots and the side effects, yadda yadda. So I asked the pain Dr and he said yeah, common surgery, and he would refer me over for it. So…definitely thinking about it.
    Hope you are all feeling better. Prayers for all
    Love
    Tonie

    • Tonie, glad you got your dental work behind you. I know what you mean about those dental meds and visits. Small wonder you slept after all that and hauling trash to the dump. Some days I know we share the same frustration over the life we are forced to live. All we can do is take it as we do, one step, one prayer and one blessing at a time. Hang in sweet friend. Love you, Sue

    • Tonie…..glad you got all your dental work done, wishing you better from the headache, and hope you managed to get some sleep……I know you are tired of being in pain dear friend, hang on in there, you will feel better when the weather heats up and you can sit in the sun….any news on the French front???? xxx

  9. Life is strange and as it should be
    My GS and GF I said were moving in together.they have actually got a house to rent now,and are so exited. He was telling me all they are getting to fill it up. I had to think ahhh..he said they got a bin for the kitchen and picture frames ….of course we have all chipped in so they have an easier time. And also it’s nice to share their happiness . Her family are very close and are helping too.
    So I think what I mean is life goes in cycles for all generations. I remember when we started we were living in the outback near the desert and nearing our anniversary it seems poignant. And also with my dad’s life as it is
    It’s life just rolling on
    Well I’m awake it’s nearly 3am here
    Your election on tv here at moment.
    Chris

    • Chris, I’ll try to catch you while you’re awake. I’m happy for your GS and his GF. I know what you mean. Life is truly a circle of life just like in the Lion King movies. It’s kind of all of you to be helping the kids. I like thinking about you as a young couple living in the outback. What fun other people’s life look from our own perspective.
      As far as your Dad, a kidney or bladder infection (which can lead to a kidney infection) is serious in all of us but especially in the aged. I would guess your Dad also has an eye infection and probably cannot see as well as he could before the inflammation. I know for you and I with Sjogren’s, when the eyes are red and painful, vision is definitely affected. His resistance to all infection will be low now that he has one part or two or his body infected so hope caregiver is keeping anyone with any virus, etc. away from him and also hope they are getting protein into his diet. As I said earlier, fluids are a must. Once you kill the bacteria in a bladder infection, you have to sweep out the bacteria, debris, infection and medication. He could become septic and you don’t want that.
      Continue to enjoy the happy bits dear girl and we’ll help you trudge through the hard times. Love you, Sue

      • Still awake
        Yea your right..he’s had sepsis once a few years ago ..I didn’t connect it for now so will keep an eye on that and say about anyone with colds coming in.thankyou
        The outback days seems a long way away.but were such fun in a small country community . People were so helpful to a young pale pommie girl! We had only just married
        I know I’m always stronger after venting,worrying,shouting ,sharing on here !
        Oh I am hungry..looking forward to my cheese scone in a few hrs..
        Love Chris

    • Chris….delighted for you GS, nice that all the families are pitching in to help them, when we started out we were living in a two up and two down, how the times have changed….thank goodness. Hope there will be better news on Dad next time……xx

      • It certainly has Jen
        When we were in Oz we lived in the side of a wood carpenters place .the men used the outside toilet we had to share.it was a shack really.we were there for about six mths before we moved to a more modern apartment . There was only a wood stove to cook on in 110 f heat .the flies oh dear it was an experience
        We didn’t know what we were going to we just did it
        My dad stil no good
        X

  10. Good morning all:
    Well, here I am , not at it yet and it is almost 11. Drinking my last cup of coffee and then I am off to swim. When I get back maybe I will start stripping that table of Mother’s. It is beautiful out and it would be a good day for it. Get it done then start on the chairs.
    Chris, I have always wanted to visit and spend some time in the Outback. There is an old movie, with William Holden and Ricky Shroeder called “The earthling’ I have loved it so, filmed in Australia and so much beautiful country. You must watch it, if you haven’t already.
    Lyn, I hope you are enjoying this same weather I am having here. However, from Friday til Monday it is supposed to be cold again. I just hope it doesn’t kill the things coming to life. Such as my lilac bush.
    Sue, I hope you are waking up feeling strong today. I have to give you a call I owe you. Last week got away from me.
    Love to you all
    Tonie

    • Tonie, I can’t get over how erratic your weather has been this year, or maybe that is it’s normal pattern. Out here it is just wet and windy, wet and windy. Sun is shining at the moment. Doesn’t guarantee it will last. Your Mom’s table has a special sound to it due to the sentimentality. Hope you get a chance to clean it up. Are you stripping it down to the original and staining accordingly? It will be great to have for family gatherings. Your poor lilac bush. Hope it’s safe. I’ll PM you about sharing a conversation. You sound a bit better today…physically. Later, Sue

      • Sue;
        Yes, stripping away the layers of paint down to the original wood. I have one layer gone and a few spots have actually gone all the way down. I will try and finish it today before the weather turns cold again, for I have it out on the deck. It is mostly normal for this time of year here in the mountains. Fairly unpredictable. You never know from one day to the next. Especially in March and even into April. We can have frost here up to May 1 st. Most people don’t set out live plants until after that because of the frost. or if they do they keep them covered up at night.

        Love
        Tonie

  11. Hi tonie
    No I haven’t watched it..but just googled it .looks good.they said where it was filmed but it was only 40 miles from Sidney .!
    So DH says they call that the bush……we lived in semi arid country and that’s the outback .
    Gotta get these terms right !
    My DD went there for the first time about ten years ago and spent three hours travelling from the city.just a straight line of road ,hot and dry.the only time it kinks is to cross a railway line.anyway she said mum it was so boring getting there (as there is nothing only a water pipe to follow) ..she said however did you find a place like that..well life happens
    Sue hope you are picking up
    Jen
    We’ll see you in afew days
    Lynn
    You didn’t say how Sb was
    Chris

    • Dear Chris, just lost a long post to you and will endeavor to remember all of it. Hope your stack of files to be shredded is getting smaller. Sounds like you were on a tear. I’m always shocked at how quickly our shredder fills with mail we don’t want that has our name all over it and has to be shredded. Such a waste of paper and the catalogs…amazing how they keep arriving.
      Hope your Dad is improving now that he’s on antibiotics. SO much going on in your life. Do enjoy your anniversary.
      Am I the only one that loved the film AUSTRALIA? I thought it was beautiful.
      Yes, I’ve had a couple of better days. I’ve started doing the stretching every day and I know it helps…maybe not a lot, but some and that is something. It feels good to be getting rid of much that is in my closet although it is hard to see some of the nice clothes go but I’m much smaller now and that’s just the way it is. Do take care and enjoy your life, Sue

      • Woohoo…better days ,that sounds good steps
        I have difficulty throwing stuff away…books are the worst I can’t do those have to keep them all
        I haven’t seen that film I think becos it was a long one
        DH not too good heart pounding face flushing side effects again but dr said it was ok but if he can’t put up with it come back in and change them….well he’s tried all of them….

        Jo thank you for your wishes
        Chris

      • Oh I LOVED Australia !! Judy has it and I watch it from time to time. The little boy in there reminds me so much of Devin when she was small !

  12. Yikes! So much to catch up with here! Yes, we’ve been having very similar weather to Tonie. Yesterday was a bit raw out, but today around noon and early this evening were quite nice. Sadie and I made it out for a walk around noon time – she was a happy dog!
    Chris, so sorry, I forgot you asked about SB. He is doing pretty well. He finally got his car and engine to the shop where they will swap out the old with the new and then tune it up. Hurray! In another week or two I should have my little convertible back to myself. (He’s been driving it while he’s been without his car.) He did, however, get another migraine yesterday at work. Did I share that? Sorry, I can’t recall. He texted asking me to bring his meds. This time he said fumes from work they were doing in some bathrooms of some rooms set it off. Thankfully, he got it under control and was feeling better later. He was off today, no headache. He is doing well in his class 🙂 . DD is doing well at work and getting ready for her trip to Newfoundland to visit her friend who is working on his Master’s Degree there. She is going to hear his recital (he plays flute) and to see a little of the country before heading back home. She’ll be gone Tuesday – Sunday next week. Yes, she comes back Easter Sunday. SB is hoping to get away to Punta Cana with a friend of his for his friend’s 21st birthday. They found a great deal. DH and I are the only ones not getting away! Maybe we can plan a get away weekend this summer some time.
    I must put my Surface aside for a while. My neck and back have been giving me fits lately and sitting as I need to with it needs to be kept to a minimum. DD chastised me because I’m having tingling and numbness again and haven’t told the doc. Been taking more of the muscle relaxant and doing my stretches and exercises for my neck (bulging disc between c4&5, I believe.) Hm, would taking anti-inflammatory help? I think that’s about the only thing I haven’t been doing. It may be time for some PT.
    Take care, everyone.

    • Lyn, Sorry to hear about your pain and tingling. Numbness is always a concern.Yes, NSAID’s are worth at least a try…a decent one of a month or more. THey’re slow to react. Sorry to hear about the bulging disc. What a life this can be for many of us. Have you seen a back doctor? Can they do something before it gets worse? There again, life. Somehow though, I think we enjoy the colors and see them more brightly, hear laughter more vibrantly and feel deep love so very deeply and profoundly. We live in a world of taking so much for granted, you know?
      Sounds like DD is in for a wonderful trip. Visiting another country is always so enlightening, don’t you think? I know it can be hard not to be moderately envious of our kids. I think I am, quite often when my kids are always off to somewhere wonderful.
      Sorry to hear about SB but that could be a reaction caused by the olfactory nerve depending on where his damage or trauma was located. He’s a strong kid and I know he’ll probably hate to give up your convertible. One day at a time dear friend, one day at a time. Love ya lots, Sue

  13. HAPPY ST.PATRICK’S DAY EVERYONE. GETTING READY TO GO TO AUNTY’S OLD PLACE TO CLEAN IT UP BEFORE HANDING IN THE KEYS. PHEW. WILL READ EVERYONE’S COMMENTS LATER. JENNIE DID SEE YOU LOST YOUR PURSE. HOPE ALL THAT IS GOING WELL FOR YOU. WHAT A BUMMER. CHRIS HAPPY YOU CANCELLED YOUR DAD’S OP. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY IN CASE I DON’T GET BACK ON. SUE LOVE YOU, HOPE YOU ARE FEELING A LITTLE BETTER. LYN YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH, YIKES!!! GOD BLESS YOU. TONIE TAKE IT EASY ON THAT GORGEOUS BOD.
    LOVE TO ALL ON THE BLOG. GOT TO GET GOING.
    XXX

  14. HELLO….OFF TO TAKE THE LAPTOP IN, AND JUST WANTED TO SAY, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES EVERYONE, BE THINKING AND PRAYING FOR YOU ALL…….SEE YOU ON THE OTHER SIDE…..HA HA!!! ………JENNIE XX

  15. Good morning all;
    Well, I woke up bright and early, made me some coffee, and a pancake with strawberries and blueberries and then promptly fell back into a deep sleep while on the computer. must have been tired ! Anyhow, more coffee to get me primed up for the day ahead (what is left of it ) and get things rolling. My house is such a mess where I have been unpacking things and finding things I want to keep, but not sure where I should keep them loL !!
    Chris, there are just scenes throughout the movie with spots in the outback and then they are in the bush, up high in the mountains. You are right, no outback. But now Australia is filmed int he outback, so beautiful that. That is the way Arizona and New Mexico is. straight road, no curves, just dead ahead. Boring driving. But beautiful scenery.
    Lyn, hope you neck and back feel better. I agree with our resident head nurse that you should try the anti-inflammatories. Especially with the disc, it will take a few months to get some real relief. I take two a day and still sometimes it is just not enough. Today I feel pretty loose and back pain at a minimum. After my swim yesterday I basically did yoga in the pool. I was all limbered up from the swim and deep deep stretching and it really helped me a lot.
    Poor FM, he is telling me that France has redone their education system to balance their budget for spending and so many teachers are having 30 or mor kids in a class at a time. he says no way one teacher can do a good job with all those kids. And if a teacher is out sick, or burnout , he said, no one is there to substitute, whatever teacher is there must take another class . Unreal. But I think we can realte to the education cuts can’t we. Hopefully all this will change one day for us anyway.
    Well, another cup of coffee and I am off out in the sunshine and warmth while I have it.
    Love to all
    Tonie

    • Indeed, we can relate to education cut backs, Tonie. I’ve had classes with 30 (or more), and of course, my choruses were more than 30. It is a challenge at any age, more so with the younger ones. Think I”ll start those anti-inflammatories. 😉

      • Lyn, Glad to hear you’re going to try the NSAIDS. Be sure to always take them with milk or food. I know you eat wisely so I’m not worried. Your son’s car sounds so great…a Miata. Makes me miss my Mustang. Hope you’re maintaining with the cold spell moving in on your area. Love ya, Sue

  16. Pancakes for breakfast ..you do look after yourself tonie all that fruit too
    Well my dad looked worse today..he asked me to smile for him
    My DD is leaving work early tomorrow and we are meeting for lunch (Anniversary) and then going to see my dad .it will take her about two hrs from her work to here. We will meet her 3/4 way as that is where we are going for lunch anyway
    DH a bit better today but still has some not well feeling like sh.t times
    Me I’m just running with it all.had to arrange another carer to help washing etc in the morning and for bed at nite.they will start as soon as they can.also had to get local surgery to write to Hospital so they can change type of pads for incontinence for him.and did a bit of food shopping for him he’s losing weight not eating much.so I got some ready made porridge and fresh strawberries he mite like
    That giving myself a break never worked out ..how could it..it just can’t happen in this situation.i couldn’t do it.
    Well gonna try and get some sleep
    Chris

    • Chris
      Poor mite. So sorry for all the trouble with Dad. At this point in time, let him eat whatever he will just so he eats. Do you have Ensure over there ? it is a high protein drink to insure the calories and protein necessary for them. I drink them sometimes and I know Sue does. Might try some of that. They have a wonderful chocolate one, tastes like chocolate milk almost. Enjoy your anniversary dear one. Share our congrats with hubby !
      Love
      TOnie

  17. Good morning all:
    a rather chilly morning her in the Blue Ridge. My heater was on for the first time in weeks. and will continue to be until Tuesday if all is as they predict. I fear for the tender little plants putting out shoots. I see my peonie peeping up, I must cover it to protect it. I guess I could throw something over the lilacs as well. Calling for possible snow showers Sunday and Monday. UGH !! oh well,tis march.
    Well, I almost have the table finished. I have to get some more sandpaper today and some boiled linseed oil to finish it with. It is just a pine table, but beautiful wood. And as I got thru the layers of paint, I could see letters on one end of the table side. When I got it all down, it was my Daddys name carved into the table edge. I bet he was drinking at the time and I bet Mother gave him a good going over for it later too. It just made me smile to see it. Of course that table was in the basement for any number of years, then went to my Grandmothers for a number then back in our basement again. So no saying when it was put there. I am thinking, or my hands are doing it for me, just to leave the legs distressed with the paint partially removed and the tabletop clean. I cannot hand sand all that on the legs. Necessity is the Mother of all invention, isn’t it said ?
    Lyn, yes, I have told FM that the education system is the same here, and I think probably everywhere these days. It is shocking how little our children are taught compared to what we learned. I went to my granddaughter Devin’s choral recital last night. How I wanted to get my hands on that Baby Grand they have just acquired. They sounded very good. I am proud of her. She has a beautiful voice and will sing for anyone anytime. She is also getting into track and field. So next up are track meets. Of course Keekee always has to be there. Taking pics.
    well, it is swim day, so I am off. Must stop and check on the house as well. Hoping you are all having a wonderful day and that your weekend will be blessed as well.
    Love to all
    Tonie

    • Tonie, I chuckled at the story about your Dad. Memories, memories. Suddenly there they are, standing in front of you as if they haven’t been gone long at all. I believe memories can be such comforting things.
      I think you’d be right in style leaving the legs and just distressing them a bit. I know Lyn likes that look. Just sand them a very little bit, paint them a color you like and then wipe it off and you’ve got it. Knowing you, you already have a plan. I know round objects can be awfully time consuming for your back, shoulder and hands.
      I’m not a bit surprised to hear Devin sings. That DNA is strong, isn’t it?
      More cold and snow? Well, I think it was just yesterday you were saying you expected it. Hope all the new buds survive and it passes quickly. Enjoy your swim today dear girl. Love, Sue

  18. Hi
    I called the ambulance to my dad this am….they took him in…pneumonia,sepsis ,waterworks.then they did a chest X-ray and he has metasis covering one lung and half of the other…..it wasn’t there last year
    It looks like cotton wool balls covering the whole lung and half the other
    They said it wouldn’t be from the prostate there or the mole on his neck..so where from
    So his temp was 102.5f…pulse 117 oxygen 75
    Bp 80/45
    So I was willing him to fight it then they told me about the cancer….I stayed most of day but he is sleeping so back home will go in tomorrow’s .they have got drips galore and o2
    Back later chris

    • Chris dear, Well, now you know. That explains so much about how he has been going downhill this past year. Poor fellow. I’m glad he is in the hospital where he can get some comfort and all of his needs met. My dear girl, I know you are dealing with a lot of feelings right now and you have my understanding and prayers. I don’t see any way out of this for him but you never know what kind of time you’re dealing with. At least in the hospital he can get some comfort, medications and 24 hour medical watch. Please know that all of us are as close to you in spirit as any sister could be. Much love and remember, I’m always here. Sue

      • OH CHRIS JUST READ THE BLOG ABOUT YOUR DAD. KNOW WE ARE ALL PRAYING FOR YOU SWEET FRIEND AND YOUR DAD TO BE COMFORTABLE. I WAS JUST STUNNED WHEN I READ THAT. GOD BLESS YOU AND FAMILY.
        LOVE YOU CHRIS. XXX

  19. Thank you so much for all the kind words and prayers,it means so much to me
    And Sue I know you are all as close as can be…of which I am so grateful for
    Just rang and he is holding ,temp down,o2 sats ok so off o2.
    But they have put him on a patch for Parkinson’s ,as he cant take anything orally.i know he never liked those for some reason but no choice
    Life still goes on
    GS come down and DD.gS went back when dad was just sleeping as he moves into house over weekend
    DD had to get to work again for something ,so life churns as it does and takes you along with it
    Back later chris

    • Chris, indeed, I have often thought it is the “life moving on” phenomenon that keeps us all going in hard times. Are you and DH going out for dinner for your anniversary…or I guess you have already. I always forget the time change for us.
      Sounds like your Dad is improving from the pneumonia and sepsis. Thoughts and love, Sue

  20. Nope Sue
    We were meeting DD for lunch.,as she was coming to see my dad anyway today. but this all happened at 8 am this morning..so the day’s been all at hosp.but we all has a toasted sandwich at Costas at the hospital!! Do you have Costas (it’s like Starbucks I suppose )in the USA ?
    The actual day is Sunday..we were going out today as places are too noisy for Dh at weekends ..but I’m not sure whether we will feel like anything this year …feel stunned and nauseated and why didn’t I pick this up before and why didn’t the Drs ….
    How you anyway Sue ?
    Wonder how Jen is going ?
    Got some washing on to keep up with it.
    I know ….we are going to go out for our usual Saturday cheese scones for breakfast we will use that for our anniversary this year !
    Chris

    • Chris, please don’t beat yourself up over your Dad. How could you have known? He presents a very complicated picture with so many symptoms and problems. The sepsis and pneumonia were pretty predictable but without an X-ray in recent months, and with his already existing breathing problem, it would have been difficult to know about the cancer. You did notice the recent changes and that’s what got him to the hospital. I think you sort of knew there could be sepsis and at his age that alone is serious. Just go with it and know you did all you could keeping up with his caregivers at home. Do you feel he’s in a good place now? Do they appear to be taking good care of him? Does he communicate with you at the hospital?
      Now, as far as your anniversary. Remember we’re the couple who never even remember our anniversary. Scones sound good and the company is the thing, right? No, we don’t have any of those coffee spots here where we live but plenty of Starbucks all over the NW US.
      I’m much the same as always. Good old IBS each day and have to watch what I eat very carefully, arm and shoulder better after injection, back always hurts. Easter break coming up for the grands here in town and the family is going to travel. Jim still waiting for info for retirement to be processed. Spring is in the air today but another storm coming in this weekend. Taking life one day at a time. Love, Sue

    • Chris, I’m so sorry. Prayers coming your way. I’m afraid I am just now checking in here. Of course you are stunned, but please don’t beat yourself up. You have been wonderfully attentive to your dad. Important now is that he is made comfortable and get the best care he can going forward. Hugs to you.

  21. Sue
    Yep I know you are right..its Looking at all in retrospect that does it
    I’m happy with where he is they are mindful of all his problems and make him comfy with his head as it is .its so forward all the time that it hurts to lay it back
    No he was out for the count ,but when I first went into resusc he moved his mouth and the next time he opened his eyes when DD came in and when we joked she was going to order everyone about he put his mouth in a smile..but after that they cleaned him up as he had messed and then they moved him to a dependency ward and he was out for the count
    I rang and he was holding his own .i will do so In the morning an go to see him after b.fast out
    Well we don’t always do anything for it either . Don’t know really why we thought so this year…
    Not another storm. When do they stop…
    Heavens Easter so early this year
    Do you feel like going anywhere yet? Maybe when spring comes..
    Well I tried some clothes on ..kept me busy.. I had lost a pound so,I thought I would see what fitted me better.i was pleased with some things
    Well wonder what sleep tonite
    Chris

    • Chris, It’s fun to wear clothes you haven’t been able to wear in awhile. I was stressing over giving away two huge bags of clothes and didn’t want them to go to Goodwill or any charity that charges folks so I called around and found a new women’s shelter that came by and picked them up and gives them away. Feel better about it now.
      It sounds like your Dad is getting good thoughtful care. Good. Wishing him peace and comfort. Sue

  22. Tonie, your table sounds great. I admit your story about your dad and his name on the table made me smile. That’s the kind of thing that makes these pieces extra special. Now, as for those legs, indeed they need not be stripped or sanded down. That is really hard on the hands, I know. If you like them choppy like they are, just lightly sand to desired smoothness and oil or wax. You’re done. If you prefer a painted look, you’ll need to at least remove the chips and paint over. I like mine lightly distressed then oiled or waxed. So many options. I do like the choppy look, too. Of course you can polyurethane if you really want to, but unless it is table top you are concerned with keeping pristine, you really don’t need to. I think you probably know all of this, but just in case not. 😉 Yes, I know. The weather coming our way. I’m not looking forward to it, either. My daffodils are just beginning to bloom! At least they are saying we shouldn’t get much snow and it should be mostly on grassy areas. I’d be just as happy to skip it entirely and continue with 60’s and 70’s temps! Hurray for GD and her concert!

    • Lyn
      Yes, I have rescued numerous pieces, I love to refinish old furniture. I use boiled linseed oil on the wood, deepens the colors and protects it. Just the tabletop, I may put a coat of urethane on to protect against stains, but we will see. I use placemats anyway. Yeah, my Daddy’s name was a kick, we have all laughed over it. He had a bad drinking problem at one time, and mother banished hi. To the basement, I I figure that is where it happened, and he probably decided to paint it after he sobered up and saw his artwork.
      We have gotten rain today, no snow, so very happy. I did cover up my peony that was peaking up, and will do so formate next few nights. Thanks for the how to’s I have never left one with the paint on, always stripped it, just can’t handle all the different directions those legs take on my hands. Just knocking the loose chips off and oiling where the bare wood is
      Enjoy your day
      tonie

      • Sounds great, Tonie. I hope you post a picture of the finished project! I’m sure it’ll look great. I know exactly what you mean about the legs and your hands. I’ve kept my projects small for that reason. I’ve also learned to look closely at the detail on those legs and try to avoid as many crevices and such as possible!

  23. Chris
    I a, just reading all the posts from yesterday. My dear, my prayers and thoughts with you and your family. Don’t think “what if”. You could not have seen it coming unless you had X-ray vision. Just be there when you can. You know he will spend a lot of time sleeping. I a, just glad he is where he will be taken care of 24/7 and his needs seen to. Not that they weren’t already but with this sickness, so much better for him to be in care. Thinking of you today and praying for peace in your spirit. God bless you
    Love
    Tonie

  24. Hello all
    Having a lazy Saturday. Rainy and colder so jot anything to be done outside. I can finish the table top, but not at this moment. Watching Ben Hur and drinking coffee. Letting the Scooba do the kitchen floor. Hope you are all resting or doing something fun this weekend.
    Love to all
    Tonie

  25. Tonie
    Thank you
    Well he was better when I rang this morning..but when I got there they said he wasn’t so good
    He needs more oxygen..he is on o2 and moisture in it
    The dr listened to his lungs and called us in
    She said he is very ill and could last today or a week.it is the worst lung cancer she has seen for a long time..if he doesnt respond to antibiotics they will stop them Monday .even if he responds she said he will not Ieave hospital this time. He is speaking and opening his eyes,fiddling with the mask asking for drinks so I see improvement.he asked me what was wrong with him and why is he not getting better I suppose and where were his antibiotics…they are in the drip
    Come home now DD there and I will go back at 6
    The moisture in o2 is making him cough Flegm up which they want but with just Parkinson’s swallowing he can’t cough it about so he chokes.
    He searches for my hand
    Chris

    • Chris dear, I don’t know where to begin. Hope you are getting some rest now. The oxygen has to be moist and I was surprised they took it off of him yesterday. Jim and I were wondering about that. I know it irritates him but gasping for air is not good. Indeed from your description of his cancer it is advanced very far. It is sweet and courageous of your DD to be there for all of you. You did a good job there raising her. This is certainly a time for final words, love to be expressed and no conflicts. Are you going to tell him he is dying and that it is cancer?
      I suspect you slept very little last night. I thought of you each time I awakened. It’s nine AM here now and you’ll be in my prayers all day. Please write and ask any questions you may have. Much love and many prayers. His comfort is the key now. Sue

      • Didn’t sleep much last nite
        I don’t like to tell him it’s cancer. He would be frightened .i keep saying he looks better.
        I can’t face it but I think he knows with holding my hand when he does ,as he has never done that as we just don’t do that
        The nurses say go in any tine , I said once he was choking on his catarrh and the crash team arrived !
        So I’m off now soon.DD left and hour ago and said he had a few sips of fluid and was sleeping peaceful
        I’ll be back later Chris

    • Chris, Prayers and emails. Just say everything you want to say and holding your hand is wonderful. Yes, he knows. Love, Sue

  26. SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE HAVING A GOOD DAY TONIE. I’M HOPING BEN HUR WILL BE SHOWN ON TV. I LOVE THAT MOVIE. VERY COLD AND WINDY HERE TODAY. I’M ALSO JUST RELAXING AS I’M NOW HAVING TROUBLE WALKING.??? NOT GOING TO AUNTY’S U NTIL NEXT WEDNESDAY. NEEDED A BREAK IN THE ACTION.
    CHRIS, MY COUSIN AND I WENT TO SPEAK WITH THE PERSON NEXT DOOR WHERE AUNTY’S USE TO LIVE AND GOT THE WHOLE STORY. NOT A GOOD ONE I MUST SAY. HOPE YOU ARE HANGING IN THERE. PRAYERS FOR YOUR DAD, YOU AND FAMILY. SUE HAPPY TO READ THE INJECTIONS HELPED SOMEWHAT.
    LOVE TO ALL.
    XXX

  27. Chris, you and your dad will be in my thoughts and prayers today and this coming week for strength and peace in your heart . Such a difficult time to go through.
    Jo

  28. Thankyou all for your prayers and wishes
    I’m just back from my dad and he was the same maybe a bit stronger .wants to know where I am all the time as soon as he knows I’m still there he’s ok
    The dr visited him and his signs are the same so really no improvement .my DD was there today and Gs with gf tonite.we will all be there again tomorrow
    He’s struggling to breath even with the o2
    Tired now best wishes to all and good to have you all here for me
    Love chrisx

    • Chris, he will and can’t help struggling to breathe. With only a quarter of his lung capacity working due to the cancer. I’m pleased you have family all around you dear friend. The oxygen will help a bit to keep him from oxygen starvation. Best that he doesn’t have to struggle.
      It’s a beautiful thing to be there for him. The simple human touch of someone we love can mean the whole world. Love and prayers to each of you, Sue

  29. Chris , my thoughts and prayers with you tonight. I know what you are going through, and how difficult it is.bbso glad your DD is with you. Just be with him when you can. I will be praying for you.
    Love
    Tonie

  30. Good morning all
    Chris, prayers for you this morning. You are deep in my thoughts. Jennie, miss you on here, hope you get your laptop back soon. We had hotdogs and such after church last night. Of course I stood too long and my back is telling me about it today. These weekend revival services wear me out, but the preacher is always a blessing to hear. This one comes out every year. A husband and wife. They are amazing together. I wish I had their ability to play the piano. They have been together since I was a teenager. I remember them working at youth camp. He is an anointed evangelist But by Sunday , I am ready to rest. Another cold day here I. The mountains. I hope you are all enjoying your day
    Love to all
    Tonie

  31. Thankyou tonie
    This morning they put dad on end of life care. His blood tests were bad.keeping on antibiotics to keep temp down.but on morphine and something to dry up secretions.to make him comfy.
    Still giving fluids and oxygen
    We all stayed there 8 till 6. But he is holding his own. So we came back to get some sleep and stuff
    I just rang and he his the same.so I will praps go in late tonite or early hrs
    Sign off tired and achy
    Thankyou all of you
    Chris

    • Chris, You know each of us are praying for him and your whole family. Prayers for his peace, lack of pain and comfort. Prayers for strength for you as well as your aching heart. Love you, Sue

    • Chris
      I had prayer for you at church today. Thinking of you and your family. Rest as much as you can dear lady. Do what you can . You know we are with you in spirit
      Love
      To ie

  32. Good evening all
    I would ask prayers for the area my FM is in. He says the people are taking to the streets striking. In protest of conditions,. Workers, students…but much violence he says. Who knows what will come of it.
    Cold here tonight. And to get colder tonight. Hopefully without a deep frost to kill all. Holding everyone in my prayers tonight.
    God bless you all
    Tonie

    • Tonie, so sorry to hear these conditions are so bad in his area of France. That’s awful. So much of Europe is in chaos and it’s so tragic.
      I hope the frost stays away for all the young plants and for your health’s sake. Thinking of you. Had a bad day here. Ate corned beef for dinner last night. Regretted it all day. Love ya, Sue

  33. good morning and day here, but warming up tomorrow and there was no frost overnight. Very happy on that account. it is beautiful out though, clear sky and the bright sun. cold wind though.By Wednesday it will be 70. Happy days to come. This weekend is Easter, so who knows what will happen. Always a weather question and usually cold on Easter in march.
    Sue sorry you are having upset from your corned beef. I hope you feel better today. Me, I am waiting for the mail to get here, then I am off to swim. I have put the last coat of oil on the table, letting it soak in and then will put some polyurethane on it for protection. I think, I am still undecided. At any rate, I think it looks good. So much paint I couldn’t sand out of the top, little specks, but it just adds to the character I think.
    Thinking of Chris, this morning, prayers for her peace and strength at this time. Very difficult time for anyone to lose their parent. Hard to let go, and go on. But the memories we keep are the sweet ones, that as time goes on mellows even more. Little things, just like finding my Daddy’s name on the table. Wow, how that touched me. But a lot of us know and understand, so Chris, if you need us, we are here for you.
    Well, I must be getting ready to go out. love to you all today
    Tonie

  34. DEAR FRIENDS, I HAVE BEEN COMMUNICATING WITH CHRIS QUITE A BIT LATELY AND SHE IS AT THE HOSPITAL WITH HER DAD AND UNABLE TO HAVE COMPUTER TO COMMUNICATE ON HERE SO ASKED ME TO RELATE THE LATEST. HE IS IN THE FINAL STAGES OF LIFE WITH MUCH SWELLING, SHORTNESS OF BREATH AND IN AND OUT OF CONSCIOUSNESS. HER DAUGHTER WAS ABLE TO BE THERE WITH HIM AND HE DID RECOGNIZE HER AND THEN CLOSED HIS EYES AGAIN. CHRIS’S HUSBAND IS WITH HER AND SHE NOW HAS A BED TO USE FOR HERSELF FOR SOME MOMENTS OF REST, THERE AT THE HOSPITAL. SOUNDS LIKE HE IS GETTING VERY GOOD, CONSIDERATE CARE.
    CHRIS KNOWS WE HAVE HER IN OUR PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS AND APPRECIATES IT. SHE’S TIRED AS YOU WOULD EXPECT BUT HOLDING UP. LOVE TO EACH OF YOU, SUE

  35. Thankyou all of you
    I’m home ,my dad passed away a couple of hours ago.it was such a struggle for him not able to swallow all,the secretions and and awful stuff going on
    But he is at peace now
    Such a big gap left and I find it frightening
    Thankyou Sue
    God bless to all
    Love Chris x

  36. Chris, my deepest sympathy and my prayers for you and your family. My heart breaks for you. I know how you feel. Peace…..Jo

  37. DEAR FRIENDS, CHRIS’S DAD HAS GONE ON TO BE WITH THE ANGELS. I KNOW YOU WILL ALL JOIN ME IN WISHING OUR SWEET FRIEND AND HER FAMILY COURAGE, STRENGTH AND RENEWAL AS SHE FACES THE DAYS AHEAD. WE LOVE YOU CHRIS…SUE

  38. CHRIS, MY SYMPATHY AND PRAYERS FOR YOUR FAMILY TO HOLD UP AND STAY STRONG. MY HEART BREAKS FOR YOU ALSO. I DO KNOW HOW YOU FEEL, AS I HAVE GONE THROUGH THIS TOO. PEACE AND LOVE. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
    XXX

    • Chris, Woke up this morning thinking about you and your family. Little to be said except you are in my prayers as you face all the practical aspects of your Dad’s death. There is, I know, much work ahead for you and I hope you are being kind to yourself in it and taking time to sit, take care of any and all of your symptoms such as your eyes, any pain and deep fatigue that always seems to accompany grief. The days and nights will get better in time. Wish we were all closer physically so we could help. Much love, Sue

      • Well Sue ..I completed a lot of phone calls today.cancelling stuff.and government things,and pension etc a lot of bank stuff
        DD. and GS came over and we sorted out 70pc of drawers and cupboards
        Have to still get med.death form to take to register..but can’t get appt till after Easter .so can’t get funeral people to collect .
        The carer asked can she stay there as her partner can’t pick up till Friday ,but she’s a lovely person and the rent is to pay anyway for me to sort stuff out .she was good to dad really and she helped sort stuff out today and made us all drinks.we bought us all back a takeaway so it was good to share it all.a lot done have to get the charity to collect all things to hand back flat
        She did carry a lot of things for us back an fore
        I discovered she has a huge case full of bibles ,as they are all different ones. So I gave her a few more of dads so she was pleased with that. And a few pictures .
        We are all so close aren’t we..distance is nothing at all
        Chrisx

  39. Chris:
    Have been praying for your strength and peace at this moment in your life. very sad time, but you will get through this. All the strength around you from your family to hold you up. When it settles down, then you will have the good memories to hold you up from now on. yes, and the not so good, but the good will outweigh them in the long run. Things will prick your memory at the strangest time, and you will smile at the little things in the back of your mind. He will live on in your heart and mind, in the expression on your grandsons face, or the wording of a phrase your daughter speaks, or in you, the bit of him that always is in your actions, speech or thoughts. May the Lord lift you up and give you peace and strength to see it all through and beyond. in HIs name , amen. You know I love you
    Tonie

      • Chris, so sorry for your loss. My heart hurts for you as I know how you feel. It isn’t easy losing a parent. I will be praying for you and your family as you prepare for all that has to be done. You took great care of your dad and did all you could to follow his wishes and keep him at home. You can be very proud of yourself for that. We all know how much you loved him and wanted everything right for him. Please take care of yourself and try and rest when you can. I am glad you were and still are surrounded by your family. I will be praying for the peace that passes all understanding and for a special touch from God to help you through all you are going through. I love you my friend! Sending you (((HUGS! ))) Love, Donna

  40. Morning all:
    Sad times all around us. Brussels this morning, in our prayers as well. Evil times we live in where differences are grounds to kill. FM sent me an email this am, telling me of the chaos around him at the schools. Some muslim children in his classes and there will be problems today. Some of the towns he has to travel to have many Muslims in them as well. They not only have to teach, but be able to watch and see the children who will make trouble. teachers being police. He says he will be so glad to retire and come here where he will feel safer. My prayers this morning for all the people injured and the families of those who are killed. And for protection of our country against this sort of thing.
    My love to you all
    Tonie

    • Tonie, Thanks for sharing that bit of inside Europe info from your friend. It must be such a more intense atmosphere than we are feeling here and we are also deeply affected. I understand how he must look forward to his retirement date and his change of life. Thinking of him today as he also has much to face. THeir whole society is so permeated with conflict from this clash of cultures and the element of that culture that is so full of hate for those who aren’t like them. What a terrible feeling to be confronted with others, even children, who are taught to hate all of their lives. Later, Sue

  41. Chris, prayers continue for you and yours. Sending comfort, strength, and hugs.

    Prayers for victims, families, and people of Brussels.

  42. Chris, I am glad you’re busy although hope you aren’t overdoing it. I know there is so much official stuff to do, isn’t there. His caregiver does sound like she has been helpful. Interesting about the Bibles. Good to have GS and DD with you at this time. Please remember to hydrate and take care of your eyes. Remember, tears do take water from your body and with Sjogren’s? When we’re busy we forget to drink sometimes. Hope DH is resting after the last week. All of our thoughts are with you and your aching heart as you have much facing you. Sounds like you had a remarkable day though. Yes, we are as close as we can be without actually being there in person. Love you, Sue

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