SOMETIMES YOU CAN’T SAY NO

When your body takes leave of you before your mind does, everything you do is changed. Decisions, priorities and all that is comfortable, suddenly no longer fits. Action is required if we are to lead fulfilling and joy filled lives. I know it’s the inclination of all of us to slide and do nothing. We certainly have every excuse known to man to do so; as we are in pain, suffering and have lost so much. We have closets full of excuses, reasons and self-pity by the bucketful. The unfortunate result of sliding is, of course, the destination. If we even take a careful slide, we can end up at the bottom of that cold aluminum slide of life finding ourselves ending up, end up. You’d better be wearing your best underwear. We also lose much that we could have hung onto if we had put just a bit more care and thoughtfulness into our daily lives.

Lethargy requires no action, no batteries and no deodorant. I have learned to loathe the whole process of adapting, changing and altering so much in my life. I’m certain you often feel the same. Our thoughts and speech become full of “If only I had…” and our actions reek of anger. We are angry with destiny, God and anyone else we can think of. We must beware of who gets in the line of fire when that anger explodes. Innocent people can be hurt.

Winston Churchill, the famous leader of England during WII used to use the initials, KBO. They stood for Keep Buggering On. My friends who also suffer loss of health, ordinary life and other losses, we must Keep Buggering On. I realize it is extremely difficult to muster up the courage and grit it takes to plan, read and inquire when we are in pain, but we have much to lose and everything to gain. I know your life and mine, well, they haven’t gone according to plan; but life seldom does. We never seem to mind changes when they are happy ones, but the bad ones, that’s a different matter. None of us stood by our school desks in the fifth grade, wearing saddle oxfords and a cardigan sweater and shared, “When I grow up I want to have pain every day. I want to be depressed, downtrodden and miserable. I want to lose the job I went to college to learn and want to worry about how I’m going to help support my family. I am really looking forward to that.” It would be ridiculous of course, but is it more ridiculous than giving up? Incidentally, when I stood by my desk as a child, I stated I wanted to be a nurse when I grew up. I think it had something to do with the fact the boy I crushed on wanted to be a doctor; but I could be wrong.

1.  Once we decide we are going to fight back and keep buggering on, we have many decisions to make. The first decision we must decide is that we are in charge. This is my life. This is your life and belongs to no one else. It’s difficult to stand tall when you hardly feel like standing at all, but you can be mighty from a sitting position or even a lying down one. Each time I write to you I am lying down. I like to think a few of the words that flow from my brain onto this computer have strength from that position.  It’s the words and the courage our words convey that carry the message, don’t you think?

2.  Next we must decide what we are going to do about this condition, if I can use so kind a word. There are so many other words which apply, but we’re being nice here, right? We are not at the mercy of doctors unless we allow ourselves to be. We must question, seek and fight back a bit at times. Most of us usually face that painful decision regarding our life’s vocation. Can we work? Can we work a little or not at all? It took me three years of working part time as a hospital supervisor, crying all the way home after a shift then struggling to get out of my car to decide I could not work. It took another two years to apply for disability insurance because I was certain, any day, I’d find something I could do as a nurse. Writing filled in the gaps in my life and I would have gone nuts without it. I found other crafts I could do while lying down such as counted cross stitch and quilting. Expressing how we feel is of utmost importance. It’s that little valve on top of the pressure cooker of life. I urge you to keep a journal. It keeps you from spewing all that pressure onto your family and friends.

3.  For me and for you, the search was to find something that helped. I’m referring to all rescue activities and lifelines, from physical therapy to creative projects and crafts. There is so much of each of us we never had the time to unveil, it’s good to start unveiling and some of the therapies help to make that possible. Imagery can be very helpful in this area. Imagine your life is a beautiful, finely etched crystal vase. It has fallen and lays shattered on the floor in hundreds of tiny, sharp shards. Now, imagine your life, that vase, in backward photography, as when they run a movie backwards and all of those pieces are flying through the air and finding their original placement and that vase is becoming whole, once again.  Imagery has been used for damaged and diseased bodies and does make a difference. It isn’t magic but it does urge the mind toward healing. It makes life doable.

4.  You must learn to love yourself. Shakespeare said, “Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting.” You can loathe the disease, the injury or the pain but you and I must learn to love, respect and honor ourselves.

5.  Each of us must learn to be selective in our activities. We need to know when to say no and when to say yes. Pain is limiting and can tie you to home as surely as cords or a leash but sometimes, we must decide. Is it to be rest for me or is it time for an activity. So many things influence that decision. At first, I had a tendency to soldier on, and then I would arrive home, crawl into bed on my hands and knees because I couldn’t do it any other way and cry. I soon realized I had to learn how to say no to certain activities and occasions. Over the years, I have learned to be more forthright with others about my limitations and find there are times I must also say, “Yes.” These yes times are selected very carefully based on the importance of the event not only for me but for others. Holidays, family birthdays, family emergencies: all fit into that category. When my son was married, several years ago I knew I had to wear high heels to his formal wedding. A lovely peach colored lace dress needed peach heels, not tennis shoes. I wore them and removed them at every opportunity even dancing with my son in my stocking feet. No one cared. I survived but that was the last time I wore a high heeled shoe. I adore “kidsitting” but often have to limit the time spent at it. My smallest grandchildren accept me for my “bad tush” and lie down with me as we watch the latest Disney flick. You don’t have to have a good sitter to be a loving parent or grandparent, nor do you have to have a whole, well body. You just need love, willingness and a sense of humor. These are the things you and your children and grandchildren will remember. You can’t always say “No.”

76 thoughts on “SOMETIMES YOU CAN’T SAY NO

  1. Sue
    Just what I needed at the moment
    I will ome back and say why later.cant open my eyes to see to good they are dry till I put the drops in from a trip out with sand ad wind
    Prob spell errors here
    Till later
    Chrs

  2. Ok I’m here now
    Well it all started a couple of days ago…it’s this darned drainage board day out they asked us to go on.DH is taking photos of it
    The nearest I can describe it for you folks over there is they are like what I imagine levees to be.
    Across the flat land for drainage …well it was a tour of two counties and the pumping stations
    Ohhhh dear..what can I say…it must be a man thing
    However..still bright eyed and bushy tailed i looked ! Ohh I needed some sort of drink tho! If I could have one
    Anyway…it was windy and some of the drains(levees) were being built up by sand …shouldn’t have gone out…couldn’t say no could I….the wind and the sand in my sjogren eyes!
    Then the coach steps up and down…..ugh . There was a lunch out which was nice?but the whole thing oh dear
    There was a board meeting with coffee for an hour before going over it ,then the tour ..then the pumping stations.not one but three!!
    Good to be back home…so the thing is as you say..when to say no .when to say yes and put up with the consequences.. However DH enjoyed the photo oportunity and I do like observing people.so looking back it had some good points……I HAD to look for the dam thing tho!
    So here I am sore eyes bad hips and knees. and sore bum. still looking at its good points….but never again ,I will say no
    So Sue as you see your blog was well timed for me and it was such a good read
    So endeth my post her
    All best
    Chris

    • Chris:
      So sorry you are hurting. I know DH loves those photo ops. I can share that passion for it. Don’t you carry a water bottle with you ? I never leave home without one, even in church. Maybe you should try one. Pray you feel better soon. I would love to see some of his pics he has taken all around the country. I bet he has a PILE of em. I think it is wonderful how you and he have gone to all those neat places in your country. I look around here and see all the old Victorian homes that were built 150 years or so ago, yet it is nothing compared to the hundreds if not thousands of years of history around you. Take care my dear.
      Love
      TOnie

  3. Got half way through this post and it just cleared off…..frustrating!!! Laughed myself silly at the KBO bit of your blog Sue…so very Yorkshire. I enjoyed reading it, so thank you. Harvest spider time here, comes every October, they are as big as bloody saucers and come with their own website ha ha!! Had one crawl up my arm as I watched tv the other night, nearly freaked out. Chris, I hope you are feeling better with your eyes, they hurt when they are dry don’t they? Sue, each day a step nearer to normality, hope its not too long now, Barry is having a cystoscopy not a colonoscopy, I will let you know after the 22nd how it goes. Ok have a good weekend folks, love to everyone….Jennie xx

    • Jennie, I am sorry about mistaking which test DH is going to have. It is truly the best of the two. Before I had one several years ago I ask someone what it felt like and they said it was like having a red hot poker shoved up your urethra. It wasn’t nearly that bad…easier said for a gal than a guy, however. Hope all is well there.
      Please let me know if you continue to have problems with the site. Hope you get to read the whole thing eventually. If not, I’ll send it to you on email. Those harvest spiders sound hideous. Do they bite? Can you spray? I hate creepy crawlie stuff and if a spider is that big…whoa.
      I have our yard man coming today to spread fresh mulch/bark in our dog run in back and when I went to the lumber yard yesterday it had rained and the five huge bags were wet so I parked uphill and hope the huge mat in the car holds enough of the water. I also bought a fun hot pink Adirondack chair (plastic molded) for our freshly painted front porch. Will be nice to have someone move our rubber mats and some plants back onto the porches. Getting back to normal here but still road work and just gravel and dirt out there. Cement, half completed for this four blocks. Take care and dodge those nasty giants..Love, Sue

      • HI SUE,
        YES THOSE SPIDERS DO BITE, EVEN THE LITTLE ONES, I DON’T LIKE USING SPRAYS BECAUSE OF SACHA, A COUPLE MORE WEEKS AND THEY SHOULD BE GONE, THEY DON’T LIKE THE COLD. I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO BUY A NIGHTLIGHT OVER HERE FOR THE TOP OF THE STAIRS, WHEN IT GETS DARK EARLY AND STILL DARK AT 6/7AM I CAN’T SEE WHEN I NEED THE BATHROOM, WE SEARCHED EVERYWHERE, ENDED UP BUYING A BABY ONE….IT CAN CHANGE COLOURS, AND SING TO YOU HA HA! CAN YOU IMAGINE ME GETTING UP TO PEE TO THE TUNE OF “OLD MACDONALD HAD A FREAKING FARM” EEYI FREAKING EEYI OH….CRASH!!!
        I HOPE THE YARD MAN TURNED UP AND JOB DONE, A HOT PINK FUN CHAIR…LIKE THE SOUND OF THAT, SHOULD LOOK GREAT BETWEEN THE POTTED PLANTS ETC, ETC. GOD BLESS SUE….JENXX

    • Jennie Poo !!
      Spiders in Oct. How very Halloweeny !! 🙂 Hope you don’t get bitten. Yes, I know they start trying to expand their lives and move indoors with you. We have “stinkbugs” here. THey are overwhelming the area. And just like their name they stink if you touch them. You don’t squeeze them cause their scent causes more to come. Prayers for DH and you .
      Love
      Tonie

  4. Chris, I completely understand about your grit in the eyes. It is so miserable.Thanks so much for the explanation so others can understand what it is like for those of us with SS. I have been fighting conjunctivitis this week with the soreness, drainage from my eyes getting too dry. I think it’s have the heater on more now, even with a humidifier going all the time. Do you also get the dry, scratchy throat when you don’t wake up at night and drink water, etc.? I think you are a loving wife to put up with that part of your DH’s life and interest. It does sound boring, I must admit and with all the flying sand, oh my. Hope you’re rinsing those poor eyes.
    Dredging over here is somewhat different…it’s scraping the bottom of the river and the eco folks get very upset and worry about the tiny living creatures down there. The other side of that argument is to keep enough room for the huge freighters to get up to Portland to unload and load. Hope you find comfort today as well as rest. Let me know how you’re doing. Love, Sue

  5. Hya sue
    Well these drains ain’t big enough for freighters.. they are small…but yes they get dredged too and they’ve got to keep on their toes with the environment people as well I KNOW all about it!!!
    Eyes still a bit rough and yes I dread that throat I usually do a steam thing for it.
    But the fan in the summer seems to make it worse than the heating…very odd
    I expect your eyes are playing up with all that work going on
    You do sound as if things are getting to normal ..bring it on!
    Weather blowy here and cold.people shuffling about then straight to their homes.
    days getting sooo short now ..I don’t mind it tho
    Chris

    • HI CHRIS,
      BLOODY FREEZING HERE, WENT SHOPPING AND THERE WERE STILL A FEW SILLY BUGGERS REFUSING TO ACCEPT THAT SUMMER HAS GONE, THERE THEY WERE IN THEIR SHORT SLEEVES, AND GOOSE PIMPLES THE SIZE OF GOLF BALLS….WHATEVER!!!???? I HOPE YOUR EYES AND THROAT RETURN TO NORMAL SOONER RATHER THAN LATER LOVE, ARE YOU DOING ANYTHING FOR THE WEEKEND??? TALK SOON..JEN X

      • No usual stuff..cleaning …out for b.fast.off diet for a few days😃
        Eyes will get better soon with the drops every 30 mins
        Blimmin leaves everywhere trying to get in and do! Pretty but not all in my garden loads of em
        Last year they were half way up the car,couldn’t get in it!
        Have a good w.end as poss
        Chrisx

      • Jennie, I chuckled at your silly buggers in shorts because we can always tell tourists here because of their shorts, jackets and cameras. SOmetimes they act like they’re at Disneyland…standing in the middle of the street to take photos.Of course, the local merchants love the business but it’s a bit crowded downtown with 5 or 6 thousand tourists off of a touring ship.
        Quietly trying to get back to normal in spite of no road, as yet…although we do have curbs and gravel so we’re getting there. We didn’t really get to enjoy our flowers at all this year because they were all huddled together on the deck while we waited for dry days to get progress on the painting. Still a lot of dirt and dust from the roads but hopefully, it won’t be long.
        I had Jim carry up a load of his Tshirts for me to fold and we laid them flat on the bed and instead of folding, I am writing you and George has taken over the pile of T’s and is asleep like the prince he thinks himself to be. Jake is tolerating him a bit better and they tend to chase each other in the back patio which is fun. George is still standing in the smallest water bowl and splashing away and hides his rawhide chews all over the house, under everything. He’s been a bright spot in a grim summer…looking up now. Do let us know how DH gets on and hope you are enjoying up to your eyeballs in peaches. Love you, Sue

  6. Hello, everyone! I just realized I’ve not checked in here for a few days and had to play some catch up. Another good and timely entry, Sue. I must say, if anyone asked me to do much of anything the last day or two, the answer would definitely be no. Been hit with good old RA fatigue, pain and achiness. Not surprising, I suppose considering our weather. Just last week we were up around 90, yesterday 55 and rainy. Today also in the 50’s with more intense rain and flooding. No roads closed around us yet, but I’m not sure how much more rain to come. fun, fun. Sue, I am so sorry to read such news about Herb. Please do keep us up to date. He may be a bit of a big goof, but what a sweet boy!
    Chris, so sorry about your poor eyes. You’re a real trooper! But I’d say no next time, too!
    Jennie, oh ick. I am NOT a fan of spiders, particularly big ones. If that bugger had been on my arm, he’d have ended up across the room and they would have heard my blood curdling scream a mile away!… for real.
    Sitting here with Lily cat on my lap watching a cooking program. They are making a very tasty looking soup. It looks better than the tomato soup I had planned on having with sandwiches for dinner tonight. Ah, well. Tomato it is. I’m not heading out for the ingredients necessary for that soup. It is very much a grilled cheese or other sandwich and soup kind of day.
    Happy Friday, everyone, and have a great weekend!

    • Lyn, it is always good to hear from you. Indeed, winter is approaching and your grilled cheese and tomato soup dinner exemplify that. For me it’s apple pie and a pot of beef stew. Wish I felt up to making either one of them. Oh dear, I do hate to hear about your rain starting already, after thinking about last year and all the flooding.
      Unfortunately Beth’s chocolate lab, Herb, is still ill however he is improving in hospital.It is still very 50/50. She and SIL have been going back and forth to see him and check, I’ve been doing more kidsitting than usual and am taking the weekend to attempt to stay down. All around us is settling down at long last. Yesterday a huge roller was rolling the gravel on the side street as well as the main street, I suppose to prepare to lay asphalt this week, and our house was shaking. My very funny little granddaughter did this mock bit saying, “Nana, if I’m going to die we’ll die with you.” I assured her after all we’d put in in time and money on the house this summer, there was no way it was going to fall over from anymore street commotion. Quiet out there right now…thankfully it’s weekend. Naturally the children are worried about losing dear Herb. He’s always been there.
      Hope your weekend is going well and restful. Some rain here interspersed in clouds and sun. Can’t make up it’s mind. Thinking of you, Sue

      • HI SUE,
        WELL A LOT TO THINK ABOUT AT THE MOMENT, NOT HEARD ANYTHING FROM TIM AS TO HOW HIS PAIN IS, I AM WORRIED ABOUT MY DAUGHTER NIKKI TOO, I THINK SHE IS IN A STATE OF DEPRESSION, I ALWAYS KNOW WHEN SHE GOES QUIET ON ME. SHE AND HER PARTNER LIVE IN LESS THAN 4OFT OF SPACE, SHE CAN’T GET OUT AND ABOUT BECAUSE OF MOBILITY PROBLEMS, SO WHAT SHE DOES ALL DAY I HAVE NO IDEA. SHE HAS TRAPPED HERSELF THROUGH HER OWN STUPIDITY, ALL THE YEARS SHE THREW AWAY TO DRUGS AND NOT TRYING TO BUILD A LIFE, NOW SHE IS APPROACHING 50 AND WONDERING WHERE HER LIFE HAS GONE TO…….AH WELL, WHAT CAN YOU DO???????/
        I LOVE HEARING THE DOGGIE STORIES YOU POST NOW AND AGAIN, ITS A BIT OF LIGHT RELIEF FROM WORRYING ALL THE TIME, AND LETS FACE IT, THERE IS ALWAYS SOMETHING ISN’T THERE? GOOD TO KNOW THE ASPHALT IS DUE TO GO DOWN SOON, THEN THE ROLLING AND HOPEFULLY…JOB DONE. STILL PRAYING FOR “HERB” POOR OLD LOVE, PLEASE GOD HE RECOVERS FOR THE KIDS SAKE AS MUCH AS ANYTHING. ITS A HORRIBLE DAY HERE, HUBBY GOT THE PATH FINISHED YESTERDAY, BUT HE IS FIT TO DROP NOW, SO MAKING HIM REST TODAY AND KEEPING MY WORK TO A MINIMUM AS I HAVE BEEN OVERDOING TO FREE HIM UP SO HE COULD DO IT. OK SUE, I PRAY FOR YOUR HEALTH, AS ALWAYS, TAKE CARE OF YOU MY FRIEND, LOVE YOU….JENNIE X

    • HI LYN,
      I HOPE YOUR R/A IS MORE COMFORTABLE NOW, SOUNDS A BIT LIKE O/A TOO, I FIND MY BODY REACTS TO THE WEATHER, ALWAYS KNOW WHEN A STORM IS COMING, IS IT LIKE THAT FOR YOU??
      FOUNSD ANOTHER BIG SPIDER IN THE KITCHEN A LITTLE WHILE AGO…MASSIVE THING, IT WAS DIRECTLY ABOVE THE SLOW COOKER WHERE THE PORK CASSEROLE WAS BUBBLING, GOOD JOB HUBBIES AIM WAS GOOD OR IT COULD HAVE LANDED IN THE POT…..CASSEROLED SPIDER..HMMMM.
      HUBBY PUT IT OUT THE DOOR AND THE BUGGER ONLY TRIED TO GET BACK IN. I LOVE TOMATO SOUP WITH CHEESE ON TOAST, LAY ANOTHER PLACE AT THE TABLE PLEASE, WILL BE THERE DIRECTLY. XXXXXXXX

  7. Sue-You nailed it on the head, not missing a single thing–covering every HUGE issue we find in our pathway of Chronic Pain and you even got the Small ones too~~which can bring “big Stumbles” that we don’t expect to happen. As I read your Post, my mind was going back–recalling the Day I fell out of a Tree, how PAIN seemed to be patiently waiting for me, remembering how long it took me to CRAWL to our house, (it hurt too much to even think of taking a step) and then the sad memory of how I simply tucked that awful day inside. The Denial was amazing~~wondering why it felt like somebody was rubbing my knee with Sandpaper each day, feeling this sudden BURN in my Butt and trying everything to make it stop, and my Wakeup call–all the toes were numb on my left foot. Confession time came–yes it was hard for my husband to grasp, but he stepped up to the plate and has never left my side.

    I began to see my life that I cherished~~~ well lets call that THINGS I cherished doing—sliding, slipping—-away from me and I resented it like crazy. Loved to ride a Lawn Mower–somehow pushing aside the horrendous Pain that would hit once I stopped mowing and all I could do was hit the bed and moan. My Doctor begged me to stop, friends joined in, my husband waited quietly—he knew I would find my way and yes–I did. Mowing the yard is a thing of the past, but the FIRST time I saw my husband flying past the house on our Mower–there I stood, arms wrapped tight with anger. This too I had to let go of—I have learned anger takes me no place special but down! Doesn’t mean I don’t get angry–we are human and emotions hit. DANCING—oh one of the hardest losses~~we loved to dance and have made some feeble attempts–which find me begging for a chair—FAST….

    So you keep learning—and I have opened my mind to “taking a peak” around the corner-challenging myself to try taking a longer trip, knowing there are hotels we can make fast stops at. Its the little things I am truly learning to cherish with all my heart. Your post today helped me to see the entire picture of living with Pain–each person handles this differently and I am allowing myself to be more open and LIVE, LEARN, and best of all—LOVE….. thank you Sue for letting me leave a long post. Your words touched me deep today! I send love and blessings your way. martha

    • Martha dear, I am gratified life is growing, changing and adjusting with your help. It’s a hard business. How long since your fall? I’m sure you’ve said but I can’t recall. You are blessed with a dear man indeed, but the work has to be done by us, doesn’t it. Thank you for your wise insights as you grow, along with all of us. Love, Sue

  8. Sue, I really loved this blog and this is the one thing I still find hard … to say no! My little granddollie still asked me to pick her up or to get down on the floor to play with her, and it hurts so much that I can’t do it!!!
    I just wrote a long message to everyone which I lost just when I was read to post. I can only use one finger on the keyboard and maybe I accidentally hit another key with a fused finger … but it is very frustrating because it took over an hour to write.!
    I have been thinking of you all, and I will try to write another message soon.
    Love and Hugs … Brenda

    • Nana B !! I just found this ! So good to see you here. Sorry for the long message lost. I miss seeing you and sweet Teddi online. Please take care and come back to let us know what is going on. Are you still at the cottage ?
      Love ya
      Tonie

    • Hi Brenda, so nice to see you! What a chore, trying to type that way. Hats off to you for trying!
      When I first joined Al-Anon, I realized that I didn’t know how to say “no”. I would stand in front of a mirror and “practice” saying “no”. AT first I would say “no, I”m sorry but”, and I decided that was wrong, for I wasn’t always sorry that I needed to say “no”. Then I would say “no, because”. But then I realized that I didn’t have to justify every decision I made to someone else. It took me a long time to be able to just say “no”. I still will sometimes say yes when I really know I’m not up to something, but at least it’s not all the time. Often I would really like to do something that I must say “no” to. But, just like picking one’s battles, we must pick our activities and do what’s best for us. I still keep you in my prayers. I think you’re probably the bravest woman I know! Much love to you. Linda S

  9. Hi all
    Will get back with more news but my dad in hosp in resus.with sepsis.he is fighting it but I’ve been made aware of any assisted breathing they WON’T do
    It’s from his fall he had with ribs a few days ago. know you will all pray
    Chris

  10. Chris dear, of course I will pray for your Dad. Poor man, it’s just been one thing after another for him it seems, this year. I just got on the blog this afternoon and am so concerned for the stress and heartache this brings to you. Please know you’re on my heart and thoughts. I pray for the Lord’s will to be done in this for your Dad. Love you, Sue

  11. Thankyou all
    Well he has pneumonia as well as sepsis from his ribs
    Loads of antibiotics and drips and stuff to keep his bp up .and morphine.he is critical but he opened his eyes to wave me off and waved his hand as I went
    Kidneys no good and they found a heart murmur
    Gonna sleep now all this talk of them not continuing life and ringing me up about it…..hes talking ,well mumbling and I don’t want to know the rest only the now and I want it all xx

    • Oh Chris my dear, life can be so miserable for those of us who love and have to take as much charge as we can for our loved ones who suffer. I think you’re doing a splendid job under a stressful, heartfelt situation. The dye is most likely cast and you are doing the kind and merciful thing for him. He knows, I would imagine how very final all of this feels and with the morphine and pneumonia, he is undoubtedly having oxygen problems. These have been rough times for you, I know. His quality of life hasn’t been good for awhile now and I have always admired his ornery, perky spirit. I’m feeling so many things in my heart right now, remembering when my dear Dad passed away. He died in the hospital where I was the supervisor. It was so hard to remain objective but at least we had our way with the docs per Dad’s requests. Prayers and big hugs for you. Write anytime tonight, email or here and I will check. You are not alone. love you, hang in there my dear…Sue

    • CHRIS MY FRIEND,
      WONDERED WHY I HADN’T HEARD FROM YOU, POOR OLD DAD, MY PRAYERS WILL BE ADDED TO EVERYONE ELSE’S, MAIL ME IF AND WHEN YOU GET THE CHANCE, OR LET ME KNOW IF YOU WANT A CHAT, YOU KNOW I WILL CALL YOU. THINKING OF YOU SWEETS, I AM REAL SORRY YOU ARE HAVING TO GO THROUGH THIS AS WELL AS YOUR OWN STUFF…….LOVE JENNIE X

  12. Chris, Just woke up to go to the BR and thought I needed to check..it’s 1AM here. All quiet here, a bit chilly, My prayers are with you as I remember what this particular experience feels like, although I do know how different it is for each of us. Hope your Dad is resting comfortably at his time. I’ll be back in a couple of hours. All the comforts of your faith are with you now, I just know it. I’m holding your hand across the sea…strength my dear. Sue

  13. First:
    Dear CHris. My heart is so with you at this moment in your life. Like Sue I remember my Daddy’s passing and how it was. Took a chunk of my heart. My Dad was only 58 and had a massive heart failure when I was 18. But whatever the age, it is your Daddy and always will be. Prayers for you sweetie. Like SUe I am so concerned for you right now. So much you have been through of late. BUt again I echo her in saying I admire what you are doing for him. GOd bless you and keep you through all of this
    Love
    Tonie

    • HI TONIE LOVE,
      YES YOU ARE RIGHT TO LOSE A FATHER AT ANY AGE IS HARD, MINE WAS A SHIT, BUT MY STEP-DADDY WAS AWESOME, HIS PASSING AFFECTED ME BADLY AND STILL DOES TO THIS DAY. HOW ARE YOU DOING MY FRIEND? YOUR POOCH GOT THE FLEAS? OH HECK!!, SACHA HAD A BATH/SHOWER THIS MORNING, HE HATES THE HAIRDRYER, GOES ROUND IN CIRCLES SO HE CAN’T BE GOT AT, SAME WHEN TRYING TO PUT THE COLLAR BACK ON…….WHY DO THEY DO THAT??????? LOVE YOU TONIE, XXXX

      • Jennie, I enjoyed your remarks to Tonie about Sacha. Aren’t they a riot? Our pooches are so much smarter than we give them credit for. Just talked to Beth about dear Herb and they’re determined to break him out of the doggie hospital today. He was so depressed yesterday. He is better by degrees and still no definitive diagnosis but he’s so depressed and they can see he needs his family. Several years ago we had our Saint Bernard and a new Mini Schnauzer pup, Josh and he contracted parvo. We almost lost him and it was an enormous expense. He was droopy and we were told he wouldn’t eat or drink but we could take him home if we would watch those things. We carefully carried him home and as soon as we hit the door and he saw home and our Saint who was his substitute Mom he started running around the house, drank, ate a bowl of food and was adorable. When he was small he used to hang onto our Saint’s neck and she’d carry him around that way. She eventually got such sores on her neck we had to put bitter tasting stuff on her neck to make him stop and dress her wounds. I think we often underestimate the intelligence and the spirit of our pets.
        In case I didn’t tell you before, I adored the pics of your lovely house. You flowers are incredible. Love you much, Sue

      • Hey Jennie Poo !
        I have to quietly sneak up on Brutie to give him a bath or else he runs and hides under the bed. I guess it is like when my mother used to switch our legs and we ran round and round her like we were gonna get away. I just got back from Ms Alice duty and am worn out (WHY ??) I am going to rest tonight. It is dreary and overcast today. But oh driving up there the trees are so pretty wiht the red,golds and yellows. Pumpkins on all the porches and pot of mums all over. Fall is fell !!
        Take care and stay out of spiders !
        Love ya too

  14. Sue:
    Wonderful blog. I haven’t been on in a couple of days due to running around like a chicken or just being too tired.. I know you all unIderstand when I say I can;t concentrate to write. Saying “no” is a learning experience is it not ? I had learned to be selective with my grands in Az. But like yours, they were content to lay down with me and watch a movie. Or get in the hottub or swim. I miss them so.
    I am glad they are finally finishing your street. You have had one really BAD summer. And what do you mean that George thinks he is a prince. THat baby KNOWS he is a prince !! I would love to hold him and cuddle him. I found fleas all over Brutie yesterday and sprayed him. Tonight I must bathe him and change the sheets.
    I am sitting with Ms Alice today and thank the Lord for the extra time. He knows I need the $$ and will excuse me not being in church. I have to leave soon so I will close off here. I think I will take my laptop with me as I don’t like to use someone else’s unit.
    Love to you all,
    SUe rest up, hope and pray you are feeling better. Been praying for you my dear friend.
    Tonie

  15. Chris, Know you probably slept little. You know sometimes we have to do what we can and leave the rest to the Lord. Finding the line between the two is often the tricky part. To thine own self be true…or you don’t have anything left to give. Prayers and thoughts..wish I could be there with you. The watch continues…love, Sue.

  16. Tonie, Glad you have the day of work. There’s no reason you and Ms. Alice can’t worship together. I know how much you must brighten her world. I am sorry to hear about the fleas. Sruborn little tiny devils. The other night I spotted one on George after all we’ve been through and since he’s so tiny I sprayed a towel with the flea spray I’d bought and wrapped him in it and held it around his neck so those pests couldn’t travel. Seemed to have worked. Did the same for Jake. He and George were actually romping around together yesterday.
    Too early to hear how Old Herb made it through the night last night. Been on a daily watch. GS cried at school the other day and his teacher called Beth..death is a new foray for the little children. Know it is part of life but hard to watch them learn. Possibility still that he may come home for awhile. The prince just rattled his kennel and Jim got him out and took him to pee pad and he got a drink, peed and then wanted to go back to his kennel. Now I’m going back to mine…bed that is. It’s 6 AM here. Enjoy your day with your ladysitting. Love, Sue

  17. Oh what would I do without all of you!
    So so thankful I have you all
    Sue
    You know what..yep I was up in the nite but went to see him this am and he was so much better.his eyes still puffy but he talked better and said he felt better..exept when the O2 taken off and he was no good then….but he had all his B.fast His kidney bloods are still to high and I will see the dr this evebing when I go back.but he slept well.has a morphine switch he can controll
    Heavy antibiotics still..I think they are saying they don’t know what damage the sepsis will cause yet.so have to see..but he is talking sense.i think he will take a long time to recover from this with Parkinson’s and fractured rib and pneumonia ..but he is a fighter. And he is using the Hindustani he knows to talk to the nurses and showing off!! He does this showing off well…
    Tonie
    yep I carry water al times …but I meant I neede the hard stuff!! Which I can’t have
    So to all of you Thankyou for all your prayers the unimaginable happened overnite…I know still a way to go. But come a long way too
    Speak later Chris

    • Chris, Sounds like good news. Rallying like this surely shows how much spunk he has. I think you’re right. All of these problems would take considerable time in anyone but in an older gent, it’s normal to take longer. I love the way he kicks back. I know it’s a pain for you but a good sign for him and his prognosis. I agree with Jen and hope you can find some quiet time for yourself to unwind a bit. Hang on my dear, we all understand as best we can. We’ll all keep in touch, I’m certain. Love ya lady, Sue

  18. HI CHRIS…………ME AGAIN, POSTED TO YOU BEFORE I READ THE REST, GOOD TO KNOW THERE HAS BEEN SOME IMPROVEMENT HOWEVER SMALL……..A BIG ASK MATEY BUT YOU NEED TO REST UP A BIT, OR WHERE ARE YOU GOING TO FIND YOUR INNER STRENGTH? WISH THERE WAS A WAY WE COULD ALL BE ON A ROTA FOR THOSE WHO NEED HELP THE MOST AT A PARTICULAR TIME WHEN WE SEEM TO BE AT OUR LOWEST, JUST TO BE ABLE TO SIT WITH SOMEONE’S LOVED ONE, OR MAKE A MEAL, DO SOME LAUNDRY…WHATEVER, BUT I GUESS THIS IS WHAT MAKES THE BLOG SPECIAL IN THAT WE CAN AT LEAST LINK UP AND SHARE OUR TROUBLES…….CHIN UP MATE, WE ARE HERE FOR YOU………..JENNIE X

  19. Hi all
    Quick note..my dad is better again.some trouble getting the phlegm up with his fractured ribs .theyve reduced his stuff to keep his bp up .and he mite go onto the respiratory ward tomorrow.told us to bugger off….so,he is more him self..still on 02 and machines.but still better ..they don’t know if the sepsis has damaged anything yet .so I’ve heard it takes a time to get over if even you are young
    DD had it when she had meningitis and had all spots with it too..but she did pick up after a month
    DH not too good with his new tabs..all good innit!! Appt at hosp for him tomorow
    Well every one. A big Thankyou for your prayers
    And how are you all.
    Sue hope DDs Herb come home and betterer and your probs clearing there. They’ve got to cant keep going on can they? Hope you get a better sleep tonite too
    Tonie. Hope you had a good day with your Ms Alice there
    Jen. I’ve emailed you
    Well recorded Downton and there’s a bar of choc waiting for me….going to watch it now and have a hot choc too!!
    Love Chrisx

    • Chris:
      Wow Chocolate and chocolate ! My FAV !!! I am so glad to hear your Dad is perking up. Hindu speak huh ? Smarty pants. Did he pick that up in the service ? I got me a sweet tea at the drive thru and am drinking it. Not much hungry today. Good thing I guess. Any how. Like Jen said, you need to rest up and take care.

      SUe:
      Prayers for Herbie as well. Hope you had a good day and are feeling better. Ms Alice took a nap on the library couch while I stayed in the other room reading. I went to potty and came back to check on her and she was gone ! Went to her room, not there ……I was starting to panice. OH MY I have LOST HER ! Maybe opened the cellar door,…..I go thru the house yelling for her. SHe had doubled back on me and was in the sunroom where I started out !! SHe thought that was so funny !!! Fran and Doc had a good day which is good for them to get away. I made $ and Ms Alice had company. SO rest dear friend and I will tlak to you all tomorrow.
      Love Tonie

      • Oh my. That’s what I get for not getting on here for a couple of days! I had a LOT of catching up to do just now.
        Chris, so sorry to hear of all your dad and you have been going through. Prayers will start, although I pray for all here each time. So glad to here he is making progress. I know, baby steps, but with his spunk my money is on him. 😉
        Jennie, I would not have been a happy camper if a spider was that near my slow cooker! Glad your DH has good aim! I made a delicious soup yesterday in my slow cooker. I saw the recipe on facebook and decided what the heck, I’d try it that day. Glad I did. That one is a keeper. Zuppa Toscana. Yum! Of course, I think I was an Italian in another lifetime. 😉
        Martha, what a lovely commentary you wrote above. Blessings to you.
        Sue, if they can get him there, home might be good for Herb. I pray they find what is wrong quickly and that it is easily treatable. I hope your weekend has been quiet. We all need a quiet one from time to time. I’ve had an involuntary one until today. Friday and Saturday I wasn’t feeling the greatest whether due to weather or just the course of things. And, yes, Jennie, I have RA and OA and in many ways they feel similar. Weather can set them off. Of course RA carries that lovely fatigue which had me the last couple of days as well. Thankfully I was feeling better today. It was a full day at church. Morning service, then our pastor’s installation this afternoon. I’m taking it easy tonight.
        Tonie, thank goodness you found Ms Alice! I bet she had a good laugh at your expense. Of course, you were probably laughing right along with her.
        Best to all. Time for some R&R.

      • Tonie, It sounds like Ms. Alice was playing with you. Hope chicks are all behaving and you’re okay..know you’re tired but for a good cause, huh? It sounds lovely there with all the fall colors. We don’t see that much of it here because most of the trees are evergreens. They did have pumpkins everywhere at the market..couldn’t lift even one but loved to look upon their little orange shapes. Rest, Sue

    • Chris, I know, sometimes we just seem to go from problem to problem. I wish it wasn’t so but each of us unfortunately can testify to that fact. I’m glad your Dad has rallied and you will have more time with him. I know he drives you crazy at time…what a character he is and I suspect you could tell some tales about him. I’m sorry to hear DH is still having so many problems. Hope you’re finding some joy in all of this dear lady, Much love, Sue

    • Chris, my half sister has been recording books on tapes. She just finished Downton Abbey. I can’t wait to get a copy and listen. Her name is Carla Mercer-Meyer, if you should happen to get the audio version.
      So glad your Dad is rallying around. I always found that when folks would tell you things like “bugger off”, they were definitely getting better! Prayers for him and you. Don’t forget to take care of yourself, love.
      Linda S

  20. Lyn, I saw that Italian soup on FB. I think it was from our friend Ruby. May try it also. Have white beans and ham on the menu this week. Sounds like fall fare and Jim loves it. We’re enjoying George so much…what a character. Jake is finally playing with him and they’re “hanging out.” George has decided how to get around our gate across the living room..so tiny. Must figure it out and block his way. Be so nice when we have road. Funny how you take these things for granted. Enjoy your R & R. Sue

  21. WAS GOING TO DO ALL SEPERATE POSTS TO EACH TODAY, BUT I JUST FEEL SO SAD. MY SON TIM HAS MORE HEALTH PROBLEMS, HE MANAGED SIX WEEKS OF GOOD HEALTH, HE SAID ASKED THE GOOD LORD TO SPARE HIM MORE PAIN AND SICKNESS AS HE HAD BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH OF IT. WE THOUGHT IT WAS A REOCCURANCE OF AN OLD PROBLEM, NOW I AM NOT SO SURE. HE HAS PAIN AFTER USING THE LOO( RECTAL) HE HAS HAD ALL THE TEST LAST TIME, HE HAS ONGOING PROBLEMS THAT HE KNOWS HE HAS TO LIVE WITH AS IT RUNS IN THE FAMILY, BUT THIS SEEMS TO BE MORE SEVERE, SO ITS BACK TO THE BEGINNING AGAIN WITH TESTS ETC, ETC. HAS IT IN HIS HEAD THAT HE IS TOO LUCKY TO HAVE THE DREAM HOUSE AND PARTNER AND AREA, AND HE IS BEING PUNISHED FOR HAVING ALL OF THIS WHEN SOME FOLKS HAVE NOTHING……GOT TO GO TO THE VET’S NOW, SACHA HAS SO MUCH ITCHING ITS DRIVING HIM MAD, I WILL GET VETINARY ADVICE BUT THINKING OF PUTTING HIM ON A COURSE OF EVENING PRIMROSE OIL CAPSULES, I CHECKED ITS SAFE AND IT IS, ANYONE EVER TRIED THIS FOR PROBLEM LIKE THAT??
    CHRIS…WRITTEN TO YOU….TONIE, THAT MISS ALICE IS A CARD, LOVE HER. SUE..GREAT DOGGY STORIES AGAIN, LOVE IT…LYN…SOUP FROM TUSCANY, YUM YUM …….GOT TO GO OR I WILL BE LATE, LOVE YOU ALL…JENNIE XXXX

    • Jenni Poo:
      So sorry to hear about Tim. He is in pain and depressed. You KNOW how that does your mind. You start thinking “What did I do?” Such an easy hole to fall into. He is young and I know it has hit him hard when he sees people his age running around while he can’t. WE do that ourselves. Judy’s BF has MS, has had it since she was in her 30’s and now she is 70. She is in a fragile state and cannot even stay by herself. I have listened to my sister tell me how she has to constantly lift her up and not let her see she is upset. Her friend is like one of the family, so don’t think I am telling you something lightly. I will pray for you guys (as always) I know that is the ONE thing that can be done that is positive for all of us. I love ya gal and pray you are hanging in there.
      Tonie

    • Jennie, I am so sad to hear Tim is having trouble once again. I know how his heartache becomes your heartache. We know how much our doubts and fears can prey upon our minds and make the body feel worse, and can certainly understand. I also know how you must be worrying for him. I know, you want to be there with him so very much. It’s so difficult to get some of those we love to see the good in situations instead of the bad; my DH tends to be more that way. I think many of us feel like we’re undeserving at times of anything good, don’t you? Surely they can start with some of the test results he had previously, can’t they? Can he choose another doctor to get a different perspective or is that allowed in the British system? I know each of us will be thinking and praying for each of you as well as his dear Claire.
      Yes dear friend, I have used primrose oil for my dogs. Our Saint lost all the hair on her tail at one time and it turned out she was allergic to even one flea bite. I didn’t know that at the time and that’s when I started the oil and began cooking for her. Brown rice, boneless chicken thighs and some vegies, usually carrots. She loved it and it helped immensely. I had already tried some of the allergy type dog foods and they didn’t help.When she was in the terribly miserable itchy phase I bought bottles of aloe vera juice or gel and kept it in the refrigerator and used it on her and she loved it. Rubbing it on her gave her so much relief. I know you’ll get this solved. Poor pup.
      SIL is going to Portland today to pick up dear Herb. They don’t want him staying there any longer since the vets there have tried everything to no avail. I believe as they do they are bringing himi home to die.It’s terribly hard on all of them and they are broken hearted. Another lesson in pain and for the children, a huge one. Awe life, it can hurt so much sometimes.
      Well, the construction trucks are rumbling outside and I should try to get a few things done around here today in the old work a little, rest a little mode. Love and hugs from across the pond…they fly you know. Sue

  22. Hidee hoo peeps !
    How ya’all doing ? Lyn, I am glad you are feeling better. I have your illness today. Hurt all over and not a drop of extra energy. It has been drizzly and wet for the past two days and I am sure that is the cause of it. Your soup sounds great. I made me some chili beans (vegie style) the other day and was canning apples so I canned the rest of the big pot I made. Sue the chickens are behaving.
    I just wrote a long entry and lost it !! Oh well
    Chris how is your dad ?? Glad he is perking up some.
    Sue hope you rested up. Your doggies are so sweet. Glad they are bonding. I am doing laundry and vegging on the couch. I need to make some banana bread later. Well gotta rest my hands.
    Love to all
    Tonie

    • Tonie, I know it’s frustrating when your best stuff comes pouring off your fingers and the entry disappears..hate it. As far as my sweet pups, tiny George marched all over the freshly filled dog run, rolling in the mulchy bark, came to the door like “Pigpen” spreading it all over the porch. Came marching in with black feet and face, ran into the kitchen and stepped in the water, sploshed is more like it and ran all over the kitchen. I captured the little mess and dropped him into the bathtub. Came out a whole new color. Reminded me of that story about the dirty dog. I think his name was Harry.
      Looks like sun here today. Hope your aches subside with time. Ug oh, sounds like today is the day they’re breaking up the last piece of old sidewalk out there. Every picture in our house is crooked..what a summer it’s been. Love, Sue

      • SUe:
        It is almost done. repeat after me ad infinitum. Peeled some more apples (just can;t let them go to waste) put them in the freezer. I have SOOO much stuff piled up on the couch where I am working on projects. Two afghans, my book, pillow stuffing,and I need to finish them. I only have to fringe the one afghan, just starting on the next one. THe pillows are for the bazaar and I need to get started on them time is ticking. I would have loved to have seen little Georgie running around 🙂 Makes me smile, he is such a cutie. I am overwhelmed with eggs. We are having (me n the boys) scrambled eggs for supper. I need to bake some banana bread today also.
        You rest easy and know you are in my prayers
        love
        Tonie

  23. Dear Friends, our daughter and SIL’s dog, a gorgeous large English chocolate lab named Herb died today. He was 12 years old and a wonderful creature. It’s the first family pet loss for the grandkids who live here. Beth and SIL are immensely upset and did everything they could do get him the best care possible. They arrived up in Portland today to bring him home but he was near death…at least he got to see them for the last few mins. of his life. Love to all, Sue

  24. HELLO FOLKS,
    FIRST OFF, DEVASTATING NEWS ABOUT HERB, HE IS OUT OF PAIN WHICH IS SOMETHING TO BE THANKFUL FOR, BUT THE GRIEF HE LEAVES BEHIND WILL REMAIN FOR A LONG TIME TO COME….SO VERY SORRY FOR THE KIDS.
    SUE….YES TIM IS SEEING A DIFFERENT SPECIALIST, AND HAS CHANGED DOCTORS DUE TO CHANGE OF ADDRESS, SO HOPING, AS THEY HAVE HIS NOTES, HE WILL NOT HAVE TO GO DOWN THE ROUTE OF ENDLESS TESTS, DON’T KNOW YET. GOT SO MUCH BAD NEWS, THE LADY (BEP) WHO STAYED WITH US WHEN MY MOM WAS HERE, HAS JUST RECOVERED FROM BOWEL SURGERY FROM CANCER, AND WE HAVE JUST FOUND OUT HER DAUGHTER HAS THROAT CANCER AND IS BEING OPERATED ON TOMORROW, SO IF I COULD ASK FOR PRAYER FOR BOTH OF THEM I WOULD BE GRATEFUL, THEY LIVE IN HOLLAND.
    TOOK SACH TO THE VET, OH BOY DID HE MAKE A SHOW OF US, HE GOT THE JELLY LEGS, THEN SAT ON MY DH’S LAP, TRIED TO CRAWL UP HIS SHOULDER AND OUT THE WINDOW. WHEN HE WENT IN TO THE VET, WE PUT HIM ON THE TABLE AND HE PEED ON IT, THEN WHEN WE HAD TO TURN HIM OVER TO BE EXAMINED, HE PEED ALL UP THE VETS COAT, SHE GAVE HIM AN INJECTION, HE HAS AN ALLERGY…DON’T KNOW WHAT TO….THE VET SAID TO ME WELL HE HAS NO PEE LEFT NOW, AND I THOUGHT THATS WHAT YOU THINK, SURE ENOUGH AS WE BROUGHT HIM OUT OF THE SURGERY, HE PEED UP THE WALL WHILST LOOKING AT THE VET, LIKE HE WAS SAYING “TAKE THAT”.
    SO, ARMED TO THE TEETH WITH SHAMPOO, AND TABLETS, WHEN THEY ARE FINISHED SUE, I AM WHACKING HIM ON THE EVENING PRIMROSE OIL.
    WE ALSO HAD NEWS ON LITTLE HARRY TOO..NOT GOOD, HE IS FADING FAST, STILL INSISTING ON GOING TO SCHOOL WITH HIS MORPHINE IN TOW, AND WOULD YOU BELIEVE THIS, THE KIDS AT SCHOOL ARE TEASING HIM BECAUSE HE CAN’T RUN ETC, HE IS FIVE AND GOING TO DIE…SOON, WHY ARE THEY SO CRUEL, EVEN WHEN THEY KNOW WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIM….DEAR OH DEAR!!!!
    TONIE….ITS CHUCK AND CAT SITTING FOR US THIS WEEK, SO WE WILL BE HAVING ENOUGH EGGS TO SINK THE BISMARK TOO, GOOD INIT??? WE HAVE PORRIDGE WITH STEWED APPLE ON TOP AND CINNAMON….YUM!I ITS COLD AND WET HERE, MAKES YOU WANT TO HIBERNATE AND DO NOWT, BUT GOT TO KEEP MOVING OR I WON’T BE ABLE TO. GOT TO GO, GOT TO GET SOME CRANBERRY JUICE DOWN ME, GOT A DOSE OF CYSTITIS, CAN’T SIT FOR TOO LONG…LIFE IS A BUGGER AT THE MOMENT, JUST NEED SOME GOOD NEWS FOR A CHANGE. LOVE YOU GUYS, LYN, JANET, SUZANNE AND MARTHA, HAVEN’T FORGOTTEN YOU. …….JENNIE XXXXXXXXXX

    • Dear Jennie, Oh that question sounds so familiar. In life we are in death. We are fragile as dry plants but when it hits our kids or a small child, it twists the heart. As for Sacha, I think he “speaks” for all of us!! Go, go and go Sacha. I would still change his diet. We just switched to Blue Buffalo because I got tired of cooking a couple of years back and our dogs like it and it’s first ingredient is meat. Got it from Amazon. I know that’s not your favorite site but it’s so convenient.
      Oh that blessed little boy Harry. I can’t think of anything more tragic. As far as other kids…their parents are to blame although many of the little buggers haven’t a clue. I am so sorry to hear about your dear friends in Holland. Throat cancer, oh, it’s bad. Hope they got all of her Mom’s cancer out of the bowel.Prayers most certainly.
      Thanks for your sympathy for my kids regarding dear Herb. Yes, he was quite a presence in their lives and will be greatly missed.
      Life’s sorrows can hurt so much when they come in groups, I know. Love you dear friend.
      Now as far as eggs, I love eggs benedcit or just plain cream eggs…boiled, chopped and served in a cream sauce from roux with whole milk or cream added then served on toast. Hang on my dear and try to get out and among your neighbors garden and your own. DH been tested yet? Sorry to hear you’re also dealing with cystitis. If the cranberry juice is sweetened you might try the caps..they pack a whollop.with lots of fluid chasers. Love you and will have you on my heart. Sue .

  25. Hi
    Well my dad wasn’t too good tonite telling all to go away and he wouldn’t open his eyes,but on ringing up later he was ok..so I suppose he will be up and down..he is very weak..tired from sitting a chair for 3 mins
    My hips are so sore from all the walking at the hosp the corridors go on and on..now go by wheelchair .but still aching..
    Weather been nice for a day but rain before and forcast today. Been feeling cold myself tho ,had heating on and hot water bottle.
    DH not too good bp tabs side effects kicking in and he gets all muddled with them
    Did I say at the hosp the other day he went to get the car and went to go home and forgot to pick me up .we are both exhausted from everything !
    Jennie
    Spoken to you
    Sue
    How are your grands and family now ?such a time for you all and a big piece missing from your lives to come to terms with

    Tonie
    Banana bread ..I love it..you sound all cosy with your projects there for the winter

    Well try and go back to sleep not bad 6.45 am it’s usually earlier
    Chrs

    • Chris dear, I know, you’ve been through so much with your Dad and his health issues. Such serious problems, his antics and the toll it took on you and I’m so sorry. Unfortunately, we are so often in this role with our parents. My dear, it sounds like his systems are failing and I know that comes as no surprise to you. Enjoy him as much as you can, okay? All that walking for you must be awful. Wheelchair sounds like a good idea. I’m so glad I finally gave up my pride and got a handicapped parking sticker after all these years. As far as hospitals, oh those long corridors.
      Looks like DH’s stress is showing. My Dad and my son once left my DD at the mall when she was little. They both assumed she was in the back of Dad’s station wagon. He never heard the end of that and she just sat down, cried and waited for them to come back, as they did. Hope you find a little spot of peace dear lady in all the chaos. One day at a time, right? Do be good to your own body as best you can…Love, Sue

  26. Morning all:
    It is a cold 47′ this am here in the Blue Ridge Mtns ! Winter is on the way. But I am warm and cozy in my soft bed with Brutie laying on my legs and peeping around the computer waiting on my yogurt container. 🙂 I am so sad for your grands Sue and dd and hubby. I know it is a sad time. I pray that all will be at peace soon.
    Jenny Poo, hang on mama. I know how you hurt for your kids. As we all who have them do. THey are an extension of us, you are ever in my prayers.
    Chris: Goodness dear. DId ya bonk hubby up side the head to get them marbles back in place ? 🙂 Didn’t you say your Dad was on morphine ?? He could have just been groggy and out of it huh ? Take care of you dear. If you run yourself down where will they all be ? Nana B !! WHere are you ?? Miss you awful on here. Theresa, Annie, BSL, Linda S , …. there are so many more of you. I think you read but not speaking up. Miss you all.
    Well, I go to get the MRI soon. Judy and Mary are driving me since I am so claustrophobic and need the nerve pill. $4 for 2 nerve pills yesterday ! Unreal. My back,hips,knees,wrists and all other joints are talking to me today. My jaws are really in a snit. Have been for a while. I can’t seem to get them relaxed.
    Well, gotta finish this yogurt so the dog can have his.
    Love to all
    Tonie

    • Tonie, if you’ve already had your MRI, hope it went well; if not try closing your eyes the whole time or sing. I’ve tried both and they do help. Souped up for the trip, huh? You and Judy behave yourselves. Don’t want to have to fly down there and bail you guys out of jail.
      I awoke this AM to the odor of asphalt and the air full of fog. Can’t even see the Columbia R. today. It’s sort of a surreal feeling to see the steam rising off the hot asphalt, the house rumbling from the road rollers and the fog also gray. I’ve been waiting for the cable guy who didn’t show on Monday after I waited two hours for him. Seems he couldn’t get “access”, which means he didn’t want to walk a block to get here. The problem is one they created when they came out last week; we just didn’t know it until Jim turned on the downstairs TV Sat. morning. Trucks everywhere out there but no cable truck.
      Picked up the kids from the school buses yesterday and they were dim and a bit sad but doing well after losing their dear Herb. GS didn’t want to talk about it. GD said, “I knew he had died when I saw Mommy’s face yesterday when I got off the bus.” I said, “Well, Daddy got you off the bus, what about his face?” Her reply, “Well, he was wearing dark glasses.” I love the directness of children and the way the male and female are so right on, even when they’re little. Time will heal their loss but now it hurts. When SIL took Herb’s body out to the vet’s that night for cremation, some moron out there said to him, when he was leaving, “Well, have a nice day.” People never cease to amaze me.
      Let us know how life is going after your trip. Love, Sue

  27. HI ALL
    JUST WHEN YOU THINK THINGS CAN’T GET ANY WORSE!!!!! MY SON’S JOB IS NOW ON THE LINE, AND SUE, REMEMBER THE EX IN TIM AND CLAIRE’S LIFE? FOUND OUT YESTERDAY SHE IS GOING TO TRY AND SUE TIM AND GET CASH FROM HIM, SHE SAID HE RUINED HER LIFE……..SHE WALKED OUT ON HIM AS SHE COULDN’T COPE WHEN HE WAS GOING DOWN THE MS ROAD. AS FAR AS I KNOW HER NAME WAS NEVER ON ANYTHING TO DO WITH HIS PREVIOUS HOUSE, CERTAINLY NEVER ON THE MORTGAGE, I THINK SHE ONLY PAID THE PHONE BILL AND SOME OF THE GROCERY BILLS……..THE VINDICTIVE COW, SHE IS SO EATEN UP WITH JEALOUSY SHE IS DETERMINED TO TRY AND BRING TIM DOWN. HE HAS TO HAVE ANOTHER COLONOSCOPY, WHAT WITH ALL THIS AND MY DH’S CYSTOSCOPY NEXT WEEK, I DON’T KNOW IF I AM COMING OR GOING………SORRY IF I AM RANTING, JUST NEEDED TO SHARE IT WITH YOU ALL…MY MATES. LOVE YOU ALL………JENNIE XX

    • Jennie, Yes I do remember your telling me about that insane ex of your son’s. She is truly certifiable. I can’t imagine she will get anywhere with a lawsuit but crazy goes all the way through this girl. I’m, like you, worried about the stress morons like that put on others, like Tim and Claire. Can he go to the police? I know you want to be there with them during Tim’s health problems and that’s so hard, also, for your health. I wish we could all live in a bubble or on an island but shoot…it doesn’t work that way. The raw side of life can really work us into the ground. Sweet friend, pray for peace. I think you should just do what you can to change whatever you can; leave the rest to chance, God fate and time.
      What do you do to take your mind off things and worries? I know it’s cooling out in your garden so what else gives you much pleasure? You’ve got a big load right now but there is something that can get your mind off of it if only for a brief span of time and let you renew. Ranting is good. We do a lot of ranting on here. Much love…prayers. Sue

  28. Tonie
    Couldn’t get your first email about the horse. Well the pics anyway
    Hope MRI goes ok for you they are not nice even if not claustrophobic.
    Is it today?
    Jennie
    I know we talked about this but what a thing to happen at the moment.poor old Tim
    Thinking of you such a lot to go thru
    Chris

  29. Hey all:
    MRI went ok. Cept I could hardly walk after and it hurt really bad to be on that table.And Sue she gave me headphones and I prayed a lot. The nerve pill helped so much, but came home and napped for a little. Then off to church. We are planning the Thanksgiving fundraiser which my sister so sweetly gave to me since she is having surgery. Ever have times that people hurt your feelings so easy even when you know it isn’t meant that way ? I think it is just the emotional status of me right now. SO next up…local Dr next week for Lyrica trial, then the 5th I go to the Orthopod and my sister is having knee replacement that day as well. Prayers for you each and every one who reads this. It is gonna get cool here the next few nights and days. Take care and talk to you soon.
    Love
    Tonie

    • Tonie my dear friend, so pleased MRI went well, did the doc say anything to you about any findings, or do you have to play the waiting game? Good luck for your sister and her knee replacement and for you on the fifth, I take it we wre talking November here? Lovely day here, just had three days and nights of rain, so a little Autumn sun is welcome. Take care and God bless…Jennie x

      • Hey Jennie Poo:
        Nope waiting game. I will find out on the 5th. We are having a couple days of cool and rain here, so enjoy your sunshine. It is raining now. And yes we are talking November. Praying for all your kids and you. Take care my friend.
        Love
        Tonie

  30. Hi folks
    Got trouble with my email acct
    Jennie
    Can’t get any you send
    Could you tell Suzanne I can’t email her till all is sorted
    Not gonna try and sort it yet there is a big prob apparently

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