THE GIFTS OF PEACE IN A LIFE OF CHRONIC PAIN

Most days I feel like that cartoon picture of Bambi on ice. If I don’t move I’m in trouble but if I do move; who knows? As we age and simultaneously watch our bodies fall apart, some of us more than others, we can become dismayed, disoriented and discouraged. Where does peace lie in all this mess of “disses” or is it even attainable? Here we are living with and in pain every day and counting the losses in all the other areas of our lives. We’ve lost our appearance, our function, our form if you count all the bodily changes and for many of us all or most of our social life. As for me, I was never a raving beauty but I did used to be attractive, stand up straight and have enough of a figure to draw a glance or two. I used to be free to socialize, sit and walk freely. So much of that is gone for me; how about you?

 

During this holiday season we are often wished peace on earth and that doesn’t seem too likely this year for the world but that doesn’t mean we have to give up entirely on the whole idea. We pray for the leaders of this world, both good and evil and vote according to our beliefs but much of it is out of our hands. I believe in order to find peace we have to look for it first within ourselves. Many people confuse peace with happiness or joy. I see them as two entirely different packages or gifts; although they are closely related.

 

Personal peace has to go all the way to your core, including your core values and beliefs. For many of us it is a sense of personal faith in a power greater than we are. For others it is in the comforting rituals of religion and for others, it is as personal a quest as finding love can be. Do you remember when you were a child in school and you’d be searching for commiseration over some math problem and your mother would say, “Put it away. It will all make more sense in the morning”? That is, I believe how it is to find joy, peace and love. You have to sow the field of yourself, rest quietly and let them come to you. Therefore, let’s talk about sowing the fields of our minds and hearts.

 

I know that all sounds pretty dry and cerebral but let me explain. When we are in a constant state of pain, we become agitated. Peace cannot be attained with agitation, worry and anger. It just isn’t a fertile soil for it to grow in. Life becomes a sort of confusing mess because we become so angry in our agitated pain-filled state we can’t achieve peace and around and around it goes. Each of us have to find our own answers but I can, for the sake of this blog, share some of the methods that have helped me with all of you.

 

In my own quest for coping with all the joint pain I live with every day, I use the power of joy. That’s one of the reasons I love animals, children and yes, even the laugh lines of Facebook, cartoons, light films. Each of us sharing a laugh can bring about a relief of that horrible tension living in pain can produce. Joy is all around us if we have the eyes to see it. It’s in films, TV, human behavior and often in ourselves and our own behavior.

 

In the early years of my illness I talked about my pain constantly. I was deeply frustrated by the years it took to get a diagnosis. I think I was trying to engender sympathy from others but had to eventually learn that sympathy is a shallow pool indeed for bathing and for the basis of a relationship. Understanding and true empathy can go much further to soothe a troubled soul. I also believe my constant chatter was my way of accepting these diseases that befell on me.

 

I also used to cry a great deal and still do but not nearly so often and not for the same reasons. I cried for myself out of self-pity and frustration but found it to be a wet and lonely place. I simply learned to prefer joy and laughter. It’s difficult to laugh and cry at the same time unless you’re laughing so hard at something it’s causing you to cry. When I cry now it is out of physical pain, because I don’t take nearly enough medication for complete relief of the pain. I cry out of frustration over some stupidity I observe has happened to me or someone I care about. I cry in sad movies, when reading sad stories or those of triumph over hardship and am totally unashamed for doing so. As far as my remark about not taking strong pain medication, I decided many years ago I would rather endure the physical pain my body can produce than to be going through life in a stupor. I just don’t like it and find it also dangerous for those of us who are in danger of falling or hurting ourselves by some clumsy act. Heavy drugs also rob us of our independence, i.e. driving, etc. I’ve seen a lot of abuse of prescribed drugs in my own family and have seen the damage they can do to the body, the mind and extended family.

 

At one time in my nursing career I worked as a Director of Nursing at a hospital with an alcohol rehabilitation wing and wanted to learn to do all that the rehab nurses were doing. I went on rounds with the doctors each day and vividly remember one elderly woman who was asked, “When did you start drinking?”

 

She replied, “Oh, I can’t remember when I didn’t. My pappy had a still outback and I used to drink what was left in the jars. I musta’ been about seven or eight years old.” All those years she went on to explain, were like fog to her. She couldn’t remember segments of her life amounting to many years in some cases. Imagine what that would be like. I also observed over the years that people who are stoned or drunk, even with good cause, don’t realize what fools they often make of themselves and never note how dangerous it is to be walking, driving and interacting with others, especially children and small animals. Life is full of so many natural “highs.”

 

I’ve explained that part of my life to you as an explanation for why I’m against heavy drug use but my reasons are more vast than that. Among my problems with rheumatoid diseases, I also suffer from Irritable Bowel Syndrome and simply can’t tolerate the chronic constipation that most of the narcotic drugs induce. I’m a writer and I need a calm stomach and a clear mind. I have become adept at finding other methods for alleviating pain and use many of them such as heat, ice, stretching, etc. No, I’m not a martyr and have not come to like my pain, in fact on most days, my body and I are barely on speaking terms but my mind has to be in charge. Peace has to come from the soul, the mind and lastly, the body. As for joy, I think that starts in the brain then sort of trickles down and bubbles in the gut. I think joy is good for us and we need more of it in order to find peace. It is not possible to have more than one thought at a time. When the pain becomes my primary thought I have learned through painful days and nights to use distraction through simply thinking of something else which is more uplifting, reading, music, TV, etc. The world is full of distraction and when we gaze at our own navels too long…well, you know what happens; that’s all we see. Pain behaves like a spoiled child when given too much attention and time. It, like a spoiled child will dominate your life and steal more than it already has.

 

I’d like to share an anonymous poem I probably have previously shared. Please gain some peace this holy season from its words and significance.

 

“I asked God for strength, that I might achieve

I was made weak, that I might learn humbly to obey…

I asked for health, that I might do greater things

I was given infirmity, that I might do better things…

I asked for riches, that I might be happy

I was given poverty, that I might be wise…

 

I asked for power, that I might have the praise of men

I was given weakness, that I might feel the need of God…

 

I asked for all things, that I might enjoy life

I was given life, that I might enjoy all things…

 

I got nothing that I asked for—but everything I had hoped for.

Almost despite myself, my unspoken prayers were answered.

 

I am, among all men, most richly blessed!”

 

Anonymous

 

Be blessed my friends this Christmas in spite of what life throws at you. You and I have been given life; let us enjoy all things.

 

 

210 thoughts on “THE GIFTS OF PEACE IN A LIFE OF CHRONIC PAIN

  1. Yes I remember Mark ….that’s really good news
    Jen when you have ibs does it hurt your bladder when it fills up and go to loo? Anyone help
    Like a cramp where you imagine the ibs is
    Chris

    • Chris, Yes, when I have IBS it does effect the bladder. I think it might be swelling, edema, against it. There is only so much room in there, especially if you are slightly constipated. Do try the cranberry capsules for keeping the bladder free of infection and clean out the bowel. Good luck sweet lady, Sue

  2. Thankyou sue.thats a great help for me…its like a dragging cramp .spoke to Dr this afternoon and he made me an appt tomorrow am,he said it could happen theoretically !! pompous twit !
    so its now off my mind if you have had it too.thats better than any theoretical.!
    I’ve got some cranberry tabs I’ll take them
    you mentioned you were in a dark place ..I hope it feels easier soon
    Jen hope the sciatica improves..that ache is awful
    Live chris

    • Chris, in my extended lifetime of living with IBS, I have never found one doctor who knows much about it. I’ve seen some ones that were supposed to be quite good at what they do but it’s beyond them; maybe some day. As I’ve shared with you previously, keeping the tube within the tube, the GI tract rolling is most important. It’s difficult for many of us because we have both constipation and diarrhea and that’s why I find fiber so important. Many folks can eat exotic, spicy food. I cannot. Gas producing food also cause a problem such as onions but garlic, not as bad. We each have to find what works for us but as far as the pressure on the bladder, I always noted the timing with a bad bout in the gut. For me it exhibits in having to go more often. We who also have Sjogren’s syndrome also have to hydrate and can’t cut down on the liquids which is never a good idea anyway unless you have one of a few conditions which must limit fluid intake i.e. kidney failure, heart failure, etc. Hope for you, if the problem is the rich foods over the holidays, that they get out of your system quickly and you get back to simple food you know is safe. Thinking of you, Sue

  3. It’s always amazed me, no matter what my bowels are doing, when my bladder is full,it hurts. Gas hurts too. it’s rained non stop here for about 10 days, and my pain has compounded upon itself. I’m even taking Ed’s Indocin. Not supposed to, but I don’t care.

    My Yorkie died this morning. The 3 of us have cried all day. I knew she was ill, but didn’t expect her to die this soon. I will miss her so badly. There never lived a sweeter dog. Good-bye Sammy my little love. I’ve Asked Gizmo And Shauna to meet you on the rainbow bridge and show you around. I’m asked them to tell you how to get over missing us so much, And to tell you that we’ll never get over you, you’ll live in our hearts forever.
    I think all hell is supposed to break lose with our weather now. It’s been weird, so warm this time of year.
    Tonie, hope your baby is okay.
    Happy New Year to all.
    Linda

    • Linda, I am so sorry. I know so well how you feel at this point. We lost our Mini-Schnauzer Jake a couple of weeks ago and it hurts. I can’t imagine what it will be like to lose our little Yorkie. With Jake he was 14 and we had time to prepare. Hold onto those sweet memories and know you’ll see your pup again one day. Sue

    • Linda, so sorry for your loss. We all know that feeling. I may have it again soon. Only God knows.
      Yes the weather has me in knots as well. I ache all over. I will actually be glad for the cold so the rain goes. Take care dear heart. Time heals.
      Tonie

      • OH LINDA SO SORRY FOR YOUR WHOLE FAMILY. I’VE BEEN DOWN THAT PATH ALSO SO DO UNDERSTAND.
        YOU HAVE MY PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS . AS TONIE SAID, TIME HEALS, BUT WE NEVER FORGET THEM.
        GOD BLESS YOU LINDA. XXX

  4. Tonie, unreal how long it takes a caring vet to get back to you. Hope she calls very soon. Yep, you should get to the gyno or your GP soon or at least once a year. Glad you heard from your friend and I know, I really know how frustrating getting that retirement can be. Going through similar frustrations here with DH. I know you two are in the first bursts of love and the distance is so much harder to take. I know you and know you will keep the faith strong on this matter.
    Oh but that mud sounds dangerous so please be careful and I guess the freeze is a good thing but it sounds pretty slippery also. I’m glad you’ll have a break from the babysitting for awhile. Will you still be checking their mail, house, etc.? Rest well tonight dear friend, Love, Sue

  5. Okay, now I seem to have missed something major here!!! Tonie, in the first burst of love?????? Who, where , when, how? This is news I need to hear all about! This is the kind of thing that makes one (at least this one) happy as spring!
    I just watched this 2016 Christmas episode of Downton Abbey. I didn’t know they were showing this and I’m so glad. I’ve been mad at the powers that be with that show since I watched the last episode. They ended Mary’s story very well, but left poor sweet Edith hanging in the wind, as well as the pregnant ladies maid. I was just so dissatisfied with the end of the series. They had known all season that this was their last season, I thought all loose end should be tied. Now they pretty much are, and the ones that aren’t tied, you see clearly where they’re going. I have really enjoyed this series and wish it could have run 5 more years, but all good things must end.
    Wishing you all a wonderful New Year. Be careful if you’re getting out on the Eve, roads are dangerous. All are in my prayers.
    Linda

    • LINDA……SO GLAD YOU ENJOYED THE FINAL EPISODE OF OUR “DOWNTON” THEY ENDED IT VERY WELL, WATCHED THE OUT TAKES, THE WERE HYSTERICALLY FUNNY, WHAT A GREAT TROUPE OF ACTORS.
      I WAS SO VERY SORRY FOR THE LOSS OF YOUR LITTLE YORKIE, FOR THOSE WHO HAVE NEVER OWNED A DOG OR CAT OR ANY ANIMAL, THE LOSS IS BEYOND WORDS, AND LIKE NO OTHER….WISHING YOU LOVE AND BETTER HEALTH IN THE COMING YEAR………JENNIE XX

  6. Hi all
    Linda
    Sorry for your loss and as tonie says time does heal .but it’s an awful feeling of missing
    Tonie
    Do wish that vet would turn up
    Well went to Dr.he says its ibs examined my Tum it was sore all over.and when I sit down Took water sample just incase that was clear
    So it’s keep taking the spasmonal .by mistake I had a couple of spoonful of jam with seeds in it.i usually have it seedless….I think that may have caused it
    Chris

    • CHRIS…………STEP AWAY FROM THAT JAM POT…..HOPE YOUR PROBLEM SOON CLEARS UP LOVE, ITS A PAINFUL CONDITION, SO PAMPER YOURSELF A BIT, AND REST UP WITH A HOTTIE, AND SOUP AND STUFF…YOU STAYING UP TO WATCH THE LONDON CELEBRATIONS? DON’T THINK I WILL, WILL MAKE DO WITH THE PARIS ONES I THINK…….LOVE AND GOD BLESS…JEN X

  7. Jen
    I think we’ll take this evening as it comes.in bed probably
    Everyone seems to be chasing a good time ..its wearing !
    Well that jam pot was at out tea shop she always has seedless jam in for me.then she bought one that said no bits..so she though that was the same..I had a couple of mouthfuls on a scone before I noticed.i was talking to someone at the time
    Hoped I’d get away with it but about 5 days after there it went
    Yes I will miss Dowton.
    Anyway a happy healthy new year to all
    Chris

    • TONIE, HOPE THAT VET GETS THERE SOON. IT MUST BE AWFUL WAITING TO FIND OUT WHAT SHE REALLY HAS. POOR BABY.
      GOD BLESS YOU STRONG LADY.
      LOVE YOU
      XXX

  8. HELLO……THINK I HAVE LEFT A FEW POSTS UNANSWERED, IF I HAVE PLEASE ACCEPT MY APOLOGIES. HOPE YOU ARE ALL OK, CHRIS WITH YOUR TUMMY, TONIE WITH THE VET, SUE HOPEFULLY RESTED IN TIME FOR THE NEW YEAR.
    ALSO HOPE WEATHER CONDITIONS ARE NOT HAMPERING ANYONE TRYING TO GET TO SEE FAMILY AND FRIENDS.
    COULD I WISH YOU ALL THAT YOU WANT FOR YOURSELVES, AND A BIG THANK YOU FOR YOUR FRIENDSHIP THROUGH THE LAST YEAR…..MAY IT CONTINUE INTO THE NEXT ONE……GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU ALL SAFE……MUCH LOVE …..JENNIE XXXXX

  9. I WANT TO WISH EACH OF YOU A WONDERFUL, PEACE-FILLED, BLESSED AND AS HEALTHY AS POSSIBLE NEW YEAR. EACH OF YOU HAVE EARNED A SPECIAL PLACE IN MY HEART AND FEELINGS BY SHARING, CARING AND ALWAYS BEING THERE FOR NOT ONLY ME BUT FOR EACH OTHER. NINE YEARS OF WRITING THIS BLOG, FIRST FOR HEALTHTALK.COM WHICH BECAME EVERYDAYHEALTH.COM AND THIS LAST TWO OR MORE YEARS HERE ON OUR OWN. SOME VERY SPECIAL FEELINGS AND RELATIONSHIPS HAVE COME OUT OF OUR SHARING OUR MUTUAL HEALTH PROBLEMS. I’M NOT GOING TO NAME EACH OF YOU BECAUSE I’M TIRED TONIGHT AND MIGHT LEAVE ONE OF YOU OUT BUT, OH WHAT THE HECK, I’LL TRY. I LOVE EACH OF YOU FROM ALL OVER THE WORLD AND HERE IN OUR OWN BELOVED COUNTRY WHO HAVE TAKEN THE TIME, EFFORT AND LOVE TO SHARE YOUR LIVES WITH EACH AND ALL OF US: JANET, TONIE, JENNIE, CHRIS, JO, ANNIE, POMMOM, 2 BRENDAS, SUZANNE, LAURA, LYN, LINDA, DONNA AND THE OCCASIONAL FRIEND FROM FB. I WANT TO ONCE AGAIN THANK NATALIE FOR POSTING IT AND PICKING OUT A WONDERFUL, REMARKABLE PICTURE FOR EACH BLOG. I’VE ALWAYS KNOWN I COULD SHARE ANYTHING WITH ALL OF YOU AND OFTEN HAVE. I ALSO WANT TO ACKNOWLEDGE THE THOUSANDS WHO READ AND HAVE FOR YEARS BUT NEVER COMMENT. AS LONG AS YOU READ AND ARE SOMEHOW TOUCHED IN YOUR HEARTS WHEN YOU NEED IT; THAT’S WHAT MATTERS. THANK YOU FOR BEING THERE FOR ME. MAY THE DEAR LORD BLESS AND BE CLOSE TO EACH OF YOU THIS YEAR. I LOVE YOU, SUE

    • Sue, I wish you all the same this coming year. I hope 2016 will be the year of turnarounds…better health, more joy and laughter and many special moments with family and friends. The best thing I’ve ever done was find you and your blog many years ago at Everyday Health. You have helped me get through some rough times, and I am so grateful for you and your wisdom. So, thank you for being who you are. I pray for a brighter year ahead for you. With Love , Jo ♡

      • Jo, thanks for hanging in there with me over the years. Wishing you less pain in the coming and sitting year. Love, Sue

    • HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ONE AND ALL. I HOPE THE NEW YEAR WILL BRING US ALL OUR HEART ‘ S DESIRES. GOD BLESS AND HAPPY 2016!
      LOVE, JO

  10. Happy New Year All !!
    Sue I pray you ring it in this year with blessings of the year to come !
    God bless you all with His love and grace.

    Sue, the vet is coming on Saturday to see Baby. And yes, I will still be taking care of the house and mail for them while they are gone
    Going to sleep now all.
    Love
    Tonie

    • Tonie, Glad the vet is coming out and hope Baby is much better by then with progress. Have a good rest while your charge is out of town. Comes at a good time. Yes, I have had many problems on larger doses of Gabapentin so don’t take it in large amounts anymore. Love, Sue

  11. Hi
    Sue
    What lovely words.I hope this new year bring you and all of us health and joy..
    Also to Natalie.who helps us all stick together
    Well I stayed up and saw the year in ,saw the fireworks in London.and I thought all this hope in all of us has got to be a force for good for the world
    Happy new year to all on the blog
    Love Chris

    • Chris, What a lovely way to express it; yes hope for each of us and hope for the world. Poor old world is certainly taking a dose of evil right now but we have defeated evil before as you in England know more than most from history. Glad you enjoyed the festivities. It is only 10:30 here right now…more noise to come. I’ll probably be asleep by then and George will be frightened. Jim is working until later tonight. SHould get a few drunks into the jail tonight unfortunately. Happy NY dear friend. Sue

    • CHRIS….DECIDED TO BRAVE IT AND WATCH THE NEW YEAR COME IN IN BOTH MY COUNTRIES, GOT TO BED AT 2AM……WORTH IT THOUGH…..HAPPY NEW YEAR SWEETHEART………HAVE A LOVELY DAY….LOVE JENNIE XX

  12. Dear all my wonderful friends on Sue’s Blog , I wish all of you a Happy New Year! I pray for good health, less pain, prosperity and every need met! I pray for each and everyone of you, Sue, Jennie, Chris, Tonie, Lyn,Josephine,
    Pommum, Janet, 2 Brendas, Annie, Suzanne,
    Linda and Laura! I pray that no one will develop anymore chro1nic pain or any new health problems! I pray for healing for all of us and all the people who are also sick and battling so many health problems! We are starting a new year and I just hope it will be a better year for all of us! I love you all! God Bless! Once again, HAPPY NEW YEAR! Love Donna

    • DONNA……RIGHT BACK AT YOU LOVE, WE ARE ALL PRAYING FOR EACH OTHER EVEN IF WE ARE NOT ON THE BLOG AT THE SAME TIME….ISN’T THAT GREAT? …TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF LOVE……THINKING OF YOU…LOVE JENNIE XXXX

      • HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL MY GREAT FRIENDS ON THIS BLOG. SUE I STARTED FOLLOWING YOU ON EVERYDAY LIFE. THAT WAS A SWEET DAY FOR ME. YOU HAVE SHARED SO MUCH WISDOM WITH ME AND ALL HERE AND HELPED ME GET THROUGH ROUGH TIMES. I THANK GOD I FOUND YOU. NOT SURE WHERE I WOULD BE TODAY IF I HADN’T. MY WISH FOR ALL IS FOR 2016 TO BE ALL YOU WANT IT TO BE. OF COURSE HEALTH IS AT THE TOP OF THE LIST. LOVE YOU SUE!, AND LOVE TO ALL HERE.
        GOD BLESS US ALL.
        XXX

    • OOPS, ALSO WANTED TO THANK NATALIE FOR ALL HER GREAT WORK AND KEEPING US ALL TOGETHER. SO HERE’S TO YOU NATALIE! MAY THE NEW YEAR SHINE ON YOU. THANKS AGAIN.
      XXX

  13. Oh was sinking in mood …..but GS and his lovely girlfriend came and stayed two hrs chatting .it was great
    She does bring out a happy side in him.and they made us happy too….they laugh easy too that’s always good
    My ibs was getting worse again ..but guess what it got a bit better! That’s what the mind does sometimes!
    But am gonna not eat for two days to give it a rest there,just liquids
    Jen
    Hope you had a good day as well.was thinking of you if you were watching the UK one at 12. I thought it was the best they’ve done by the Thames there ..did you see the bbc one ?
    Saw the New York one live too that was great..lot of kissing ! Always good. Thought of all over there mite be all watching at same time
    Well gonna try and settle now I feel high after the visit
    Hope all had an enjoyable day
    Chris

    • HI CHRIS……NICE THAT YOUR GS CAME WITH HIS GIRL AND FILLED YOUR HOME WITH LAUGHTER……YES I STAYED UP TO WATCH BOTH MY COUNTRIES…..THE FIREWORK DISPLAY FOR BOTH WAS AMAZING I THOUGHT…….
      YESTERDAY I GOT A CALL FROM TIM TO SAY THE SWIM FOR “CLIC” WAS THOUGHT TOO DANGEROUS TO DO THIS TIME AS THE GALES WERE BLOWING THE SEA UP OVER THE HARBOUR WALL, AND THE AUTHORITIES WERE NOT PREPARED TO TAKE THE CHANCE.
      GOOD JOB IN A WAY AS TIM IS SICK AGAIN WITH THE SAME STOMACH PROBLEM AS BEFORE WHEN HE UNDERWENT ALL THOSE TESTS….POOR CLAIRE IS AT HER WITS END, AND I AM DOING MY BEST TO MAKE HIM SEE THAT ITS ANXIETY RELATED…….WHAT A WAY TO START NEW YEAR. SORRY YOU TOO ARE HAVING IBS STILL GOING ON………HOPE IT SOON LETS UP…..MUCH LOVE …JEN XX

  14. I’ve been reading and gleaning knowledge on how to survive, living not just existing from nearly the start of my immune system mutiny starting on health talk to everyday health and now here. This year my motto will be “stay alive you’re still here for some crazy reason”. Having a strong enough dog to give me more support and the ability to actually pull a wheelchair if it becomes necessary mean no excuse to stay home if I’m up to going. My issues aren’t earth shattering. Still between rheumatologist and no biological but maybe my liver needs time to heal. GI tract is slightly less annoying (I should own stock in immodium which is crazy as I take Tylenol 3 routinely) here is to 2016 every one.

    • POOR LAURA……I HOPE YOU CAN GET SOME HELP FOR THAT LIVER, I USED TO TAKE MILK THISTLE TO SUPPORT MY LIVER, MAYBE IT COULD WORK FOR YOU???? WISHING YOU BETTER HEALTH SOONER RATHER THAN LATER, AND PRAYING FOR YOU SWEETHEART……LOVE JENNIE X

      • LAURA, I USE TO TAKE MILK THISTLE ALSO. MAYBE YOU SHOULD GIVE IT A TRY. THINKING OF YOU AND HOPING THINGS WILL TURN AROUND FOR YOU. SENDING PRAYERS YOUR WAY.
        LOVE YOU BIG. GOD BLESS.
        XXX

    • Bobsled, still no biologic. I’m sorry and pray this coming month will bring some changes for you. Perhaps, you are right about the liver and I must agree with Jennie, as I’ve also read some good, reliable sources regarding Milk Thistle for liver integrity. It’s such a good thing that you are looking for the good in this current situation as we all know that isn’t always easy. Yes, you are indeed a long time reader as well as being a very knowledgeable nurse yourself. It’s been a long, painful road but you’ve made many friends to add to your already long list locally. Hope the coming year is a better one for you. Love, Sue

  15. Happy New Year, everyone! I’m late getting on here. Been busy getting ready for and hosting my husband’s side of the family here for our Christmas on New Year’s Day. We also celebrated my great niece’s first birthday! Big day! I’m wiped out.
    Linda, so sorry for your loss. Our pets are our furry children and it is so difficult when they leave us.
    Tonie, been praying and will be thinking of you and Baby tomorrow.
    Wishing all our friends here a most wonderful new year! Time now to rest. Sweet dreams, all.

    • Lyn, and a happy New Year to you as well. I saw all the pics of Sadie all worn out from too much partying with DH’s family. Hope you’re resting up and hope the food was as delicious as always. You do string out the holidays and that’s probably the best way to survive. May the coming year be kind to both your spirit and your body. Love ya, Sue

    • Tonie, I second that. I have thought of you all day and know you must have some answers by now and pray for cures, courage and strength for both you and Baby. Love, Sue

      • TONIE, I FEEL THE SAME WAY AS JENNIE AND SUE. THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS GOING YOUR WAY.
        LOVE YOU SWEET PEA. GOD BLESS
        XXX

  16. Jen
    Oh no you mentioned that Tim mite be feeling his tum again a little while ago.hes had the tests so his mind must tell him it’s ok. But it’s something bugging him turning itself around into this.its as if it’s cyclical and won’t let it up on him..I expect he’s telling himself it’s ok and his body is doing otherwise . Do wish it would vanish for him…I wonder if he does recognise it’s worry but… doesn’t matter it’s still there.Clare must be worried
    My tum is easier but still like sh.t.had to stop meds as I’m so sore where I’m dried up with them.
    And have to go to shed tomorrow to pack up…ugh..
    Hope all recovering from the year change!
    Chris

    • HI CHRIS…….YES ITS A TRICKY ONE, HE IS WORSE AT NIGHT WHEN HE HAS TIME TO THINK…..HOPE IT COMES TO NOTHING AND JUST ANXIETY, THING IS BECAUSE WE ARE SO CLOSE, I WORRY AND IT THEN IN TURN BRINGS ON MY IBS…….EEEEK!!!
      OH I USED TO HATE ALL THE PACKING UP INVOLVING END OF SEASON, MORE WORK, NEVER MIND, IT WILL PASS QUICKLY, AND YOU WILL BE BACK BEFORE YOU KNOW IT.
      HAVE A GOOD WEEKEND, IF YOU GET TIME…….MUCH LOVE….JEN X

      • Jennie, reading your comments I realized for the first time how contagious IBS truly is. It can be such a reflection of all of our lives at the current moment. For those of us who also have diverticulitis it is even more of a trick with the roughage of the wrong kind. I do hope your dear son gets some answers or at least starts to have some relief. Is it the move and the job do you think? So much going on in England right now with all the flooding. It is so terribly tragic.
        Sorry to hear you are also having problems with the tum. It’s sort of a never ending cycle, I know.
        I haven’t been on here as much recently mostly due to problems with the eyes. They have been so dry with all the heaters going in the house, and get so dry it is really hard to see the computer and even the TV in the evenings. Time for a trip to the eye doc and see if she has something new to say. So many problems can really bring about depression and with the let down after the holidays feeling a bit of that, also. Life is just so hard sometimes, right? Too hard. Much love, Sue

  17. Jen
    Well we didn’t really do much last year and all was ok so it’ll be less this year.just clean out fridge freezer
    And make sure all cupboards are open a bit.its a very dry place and not much to do.leaving beds made and soft furniture as it is..so hardly much to do.they are draining it down for us.
    It’ll be open in a few weeks again. That’s if we want it,but with the weather it’ll be better to leave it protected with being drained I think
    On my last part of first day of fluids only..it’s the only thing that helps it when it gets to the diver stage.cant take my meds my throat and chest is so sore
    Yea well you watch with the ibs and worrying

    Well my dad called wanted to see Me today went over and heis rowing with carer over meds.he wants more sleeping tabs and she won’t give them ….he used to take 2 but when she went to Dr with him she says one was best and that’s on the write up….so he says he hadn’t slept..she says he does….she’s lying he says ..she says he’s too sleepy next day…so we all agreed to take an extra half only..see how it goes and speak to Dr on Monday about it…..she says he is addicted to them..Parkinson’s patients don’t sleep well…..he can’t have TV on at night as it is too loud for her to sleep…which I understand as he has it on too loud ….oh dear….but what I didn’t like was the carer talking about my dad to one of the people outside ,when I went to see her ,about what was happening .i know this lady lives just down the hall and she is nice ,but it felt wrong
    My dad says she shouts at him and leaves him wet etc…I know that bit isn’t true as she is always making sure he’s clean. Shouting well maybe as he plays her up …but I did tell her how he was viewing it and how could we make him see it different ….oh dear the things you have to make sure are ok!…..and she was saying she understands it’s the Parkinson’s and he will forget all this by tonite ……..huh not so tho! He is still complaining….but I do think once he’s got a hook on something this is the main event. She us only there for another 4 weeks…..but the others were not as good as her…he says she upsets him at nite but it’s him wanting meds….and not getting them
    That’s it finished my monologue
    Chris

    • Oh Chris, I am sorry to hear about the conflicts between your Dad and the caregiver. Frankly, it is not her place to talk to anyone about him, nice neighbor or not. It is also not her position or even duty to criticize his prescriptions. He needs to sleep. So what if she thinks he’s addicted. If the med is ordered, he can take it and again, must sleep. She is not authorized or frankly, qualified to make such decisions for him. ALso, at his age, what if he is a bit addicted to his sleeping pills? Oh not, she is much too pushy. She is also robbing him of his dignity by criticizing him to anyone, especially those outside the family and to him. He still needs to have a say in his own life. OKAY? Rant over.
      Sounds like you are wrapping things up over at the coast. If you get some pleasant weather maybe you can get over there again. I know how much good it does both of you.
      As I just told Jen, my eyes have been acting up lately and it’s aggravating on top of everything else. Still don’t have the new crown in so mouth still sore. Cold here at night down to slight freezing but days have been clear which is giving everyone a chance to dry out. WIsh I could say the same for your part of the world. All those beautiful old buildings, so sad. Do take care and don’t let DH’s B/P go up over your Dad’s problems..you take care dear girl. Love, Sue

      • OH DEAR CHRIS, MY AUNTY GOT A LETTER FROM THE BUILDING SAYING SOMETHING LIKE “INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR” THEY SAID IN THE LETTER SHE JUST WALKED INTO THE MAN NEXT DOOR’S APT. OF COURSE OTHER THINGS BUT I JUST CAN’T REMEMBER RIGHT AT THE MOMENT. I PUT IN A CALL TO THE SOCIAL WORKER (THIS MORNING) ABOUT THIS AND ALL SHE HAS BEEN TELLING ME ABOUT THIS MAN. I REALLY THINK AUNTY IS NOT DOING VERY WELL IN HER HEAD THESE DAYS. WE BROUGHT HER CHRISTMAS DINNER ON THE 26 DEC THEN ON THE 27TH SHE CALLED TO TELL ME SHE DIDN’T LIKE ANYTHING I HAD MADE. ON THE 28TH SHE CALLED AND TOLD ME SHE ATE EVERYTHING ON HER PLATE?????? NOT SURE IF I’M COMING OR GOING WITH ALL OF THIS GOING ON. DID CALL MY COUSIN AND SHE TOLD ME TO WAIT UNTIL AFTER THE HOLIDAYS TO DEAL WITH ALL OF THIS. I’M AFRAID IF SHE GETS ANOTHER LETTER SHE WILL BE OUT OF THERE. MY REAL WORRY IS TO FIND A PLACE FOR HER TO LIVE. SHE WANTED TO COME LIVE HERE IN MY BASEMENT CAUSE I HAVE A WHOLE APT DOWN THERE. NO WAY IS AUNTY COMING TO LIVE WITH ME. I THINK IT WOULD BE THE DEATH OF ME.
        WELL ENOUGH SAID. PRAYERS PLEASE.
        LOVE YOU BIG TIME.
        XXX

  18. Sue
    I use viscotears for my eyes .put them in all thru the day.
    Wonder if you use same.
    Yes there is a let down to all the build up. I think it carries us then drops us like the clouds do!
    Yes life is hard….but I hope it gets good again for you soon and all of us
    Love Chris

    • Chris, indeed I use artificial tears throughout the day and evening. I know it’s the heaters and it’s been chilly. I also use an allergy drop for irritation in the eyes morning and night. I do need to see the eye doc though. Could be my cataracts have become worse from all the years of steroids. Hope not.
      Indeed, I think if your Dad’s caregiver was a school teacher you can count on the fact she was a bossy one. Stick to your guns…do you use that expression over there? And just make it clear you are in charge and she isi not. Too big for her britches…there’s another one…Love, Sue

  19. Sue
    We crossed over with posts above
    Yea I bloo.y well agree with you….
    I hope he has a better night with the extra half.ill ring him on way to shed as we will leave before he up and going
    She is very inflexable….and seems always to have an answer
    She says her mother had Parkinson’s and she knows all about it…and it’s all what she says
    Yep keeping a watch on Dh bp
    She certainly changed when I said give another tablet and said ok.
    But otherwise she seems to keep him good and good food liquidised.she used to be a teacher so maybe she was a bossy one
    Chris

  20. Oh sue just another thing
    She says after two tablets he’s too tired to move about and shower the next day.and just sleeps in the chair and can’t swallow his day time tablets so his Parkinson’s gets worse
    What you suggest I come back with ? So my dad feels comfortable…is there an answer??
    Chris

    • Chris, you could suggest a time frame so she doesn’t give them to him too late in the evening. I think she’s just arguing to be in charge. Sue

  21. Oh yes that’s a good idea…when she complains as she mite do about the extra half tomorrow I will say that
    No answer to that hopefully!
    Thankyou sue gonna try and sleep now up early to beat the crowds to the coast tomorrow .still school hols here.
    My eyes get worse with the heating in winter too.do wish they’d come up with something
    Chris

  22. Evening all :
    Well good and not so good news today. Baby’s infection is all gone, all the swelling is gone. However, there is a big hole in there now, and still granulated tissue. Along with hard tissue inside her rectum. Necrotic tissue is going into her leg. SO…she says it really looks like squamous cell carcinoma. But.. she says just watch it and make sure she can defecate ok, if not feed her shredded beets. Keep her moving. The hay can constipate her. So..it is a wait and see, she said she could be wrong and hopes so. My Frenchman is hoping she will be okay until he comes back so he can be here to help me see her through it. So do I. She has just been through so much.
    I have a houseful of grands. The baby even came home with me today, He never has. Nate, Devin and Hailey. DS comes tomorrow with his, and we will eat too much again.
    Just keep praying for Baby. I couldn’t believe when I saw it this morning. God can heal her.
    Love to you all,
    Long day and I am going to rest now
    Tonie

    • Tonie, so sorry you and Baby have to go this. Hopefully she will hang in there at least until your FM comes back. Better if you can face it together. Meanwhile, we’ll keep praying for health and healing. Hugs to you – now rest well.

    • Tonie, I see what you mean about the mixed news. In time…I do have one thought. Several years ago when Annie, our Jack Russell got that huge abscess on her backside and the vet said it had to heal one little section at a time and she poked holes all over her; she told us to put honey all over it because it promotes healing. It worked on the biggest mess you ever saw. Her whole backside was a raw open wound and Jim and I, and it took both of us, spread honey all over her every night then wrapped gauze and stretchy gauze all over her to keep the house clean. It healed. It took about a month or two but it did heal and she even got her hair back. I sure do recommend it but don’t know how it would work outside…might draw flies and if it is cancer, well, as you said. Time will tell. Thanks for letting us know sweet friend. God has this. Love you, Sue

      • Sue:
        I might try that just for the healing properties. She does have that one wound there. As far flies, too cold they are gone. The vet said the larva probably helped get rid of the infection anyway

  23. HELLO…..WELL I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU SUE…..HONEY IS THE BEST NATURAL HEALER KNOWN TO MAN…..A CASE IN KIND….WHEN I WORKED FOR A GROUP PRACTICE OF DOCTORS, WE HAD A LADY USED TO COME ABOUT HER LEG ULCERS, THEY STANK SO BAD THE POOR THING….THEY TRIED HER WITH EVERYTHING, SHE WAS GETTING UPSET, SO I TOOK HER AND HER CARER TO ONE SIDE AFTER SHE HAD BEEN GIVEN YET ANOTHER SCRIPT FOR MEDS, I TOLD HER TO GET THE BEST HONEY SHE COULD AFFORD…MANUKA IF SHE COULD, APPLY IT TO THE WOUND, BIND IT, AND CANGE IT EVERY OTHER DAY…….I HAD A VERY TONGUE IN CHEEK MOMENT AFTER THREE WEEKS WHEN THE DOCTORS COULDN’T BELIEVE WHAT THEY SAW,NEW FLESH BEGINNING……..SMILED ALL THE WAY HOME.
    SO TONIE….HAVE A GO, WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO LOSE?? STILL PRAYING FOR BABY, SHE HAS A WONDERFUL MOM, AND HOPEFULLY YOUR GUY WILL SOON BE THERE TO HELP.
    CHRIS….TAKE CARE OF THOSE EYES……I HAVE DROPS FOR ALLERGIES, I TIP SOME ONTO A PAD AND RUN IT ROUND THE EYE RIMS, THEN USE TEAR PRODUCING DROPS BESIDES…….HOPE THERE IS NOTHING THAT CAN’T BE SORTED OUT WITH THE CARER AND YOUR DAD.
    SUE….I HAVE WRITTEN TO YOU.
    HAPPY SUNDAY TO ALL…………………….JENNIE XX

  24. Hi. at shed and it’s pouring ….
    Wel my dad didn’t sleep with the extra half tab..he was a bit dozy when I spoke at 9.30 am but carer said he had a shower and they went shopping and came back and he is sleeping deeply in chair
    So I said even if he slept the same at nite as before if he feels comfortable just let him take the other half .she said ok and we’d see how he goes…so that’s where I’m at.
    On second day of fluids only and blimmin fed up.one day to go..good thing is my weight is where I want it to be..lost 20 lbs now…always a silver lining
    Over here they now use honey for healing in hosp for that MRSI thing
    Back later Chris

    • Chris, raining, huh? We actually have had a couple of dry days and it’s been nice but very cold. Ice all around the drainage dishes on the porch plants from all the rain freezing over. Supposed to get rain tomorrow or maybe even tonight. Just hope it isn’t snow. We have to go to Portland Thursday. Jim is making a trip for business to Portland tomorrow so hope for better weather and safety for him, please.
      Glad you’re where you love to be, at the coast. Just stay healthy, okay, with the dieting. I assume you are trying to get back to where you were before Christmas. I don’t think it’s that unusual for your Dad to sleep during the day with his Parkinson’s and his age and medical history. Hope you’re resting well now. Love, Sue

      • Sue
        Oh Jims got two long trips this week. Yes pray for good travel weather and a pleasant trip for him
        Is the trip Thursday your usual one ?
        My dad seems quite happy tonite . The carer more subdued
        Well this fluid only is for the diver…this is the only thing that will settle it .hopefully it will again.clear fluids till late tomorrow ,then I can have light stuff…am blimmin starving. Sat next to DH having a lovely snack at the place we usually go to.but I had a pot of tea…I didn’t mind to much as it saved me cooking when arriving shed
        Partly packed up and back home tomorrow
        How are you sue?
        Chris

  25. Chris, I’m sorry, I did know that about the divert. I would eat something bland if I were you dear lady like a baked potato or some cream soup. Doesn’t that also help? I have been kind of down due to the very cold weather upon us. We’re due for rain soon and will probably have it for our trip. Yes, it’s time for the shots in the bum again. I am pushing myself to exercise. Got kind of lazy over the holidays I admit and haven’t felt well but feel I am adjusting to the meds and some of the small tumors appear to be shrinking. I have also lost weight with all this dental nonsense. Hope that crown is in this week but not the day before I have to go to Portland. Making a good dinner tonight of scalloped cheesy potato casserole and a rack of spareribs. Should be able to manage them. We sent out for Jim a burger and fries last night and I tried a salad and was up half the night and also had to take small bites. What a challenge life can be, huh? Do feel better, okay? Love, Sue

    • Oh sue I’m so pleased to hear some of the tumours are shrinking ..that’s so good to hear.infact it’s bl..dy marvellous .and to hear your doing a dinner as well and it sounds lovely. That’s such an improvement from a few months ago
      But yep that sore mouth and the sjogrens .could you delay the dentists Appt if the tooth comes thru the wrong day for you
      Couldn’t work out why you said sorry……
      Infact I think I could eat that whole potatoe casserole you are making…I plan to have something light tonight ..am a bit scared to eat really as it has improved ,but not 100pc
      I hope the weather is good for jims trip today.
      This weather does make you feel so down,and that tooth problem doesn’t help.after Xmas is a let down too..but the nights will be getting shorter soon and more light in the day. Those long trips ..but necessary..I do pray Thursday’s weather improves for that long trip
      Well going to try and get to sleep again
      Chris

  26. Hello all:
    Had a long day, but a good one. All my kids and grands (minus one) under the same roof. Off an on. They were in and out playing and feeding hay to Baby petting her. She loved the attention. It was good to see my son, although he has lost weight again. Down to a size 30 waist on his jeans he said. Why can most men loose accidentally what we have to go thru heck to do on purpose ?
    Anyway, after church, and then all of them here and standing too long…..I was on the heating pad soon as they left. Then a nap, then clean , and feed, and lock up the chicks.
    Chris, I feel so bloated I think I will follow suit with you, just have protein drinks tomorrow see if it helps me. I sent all the cookies, candies and various things I made home with my son and daughter. Don’t need them here. Long as I have ice cream 🙂
    Well , Sue praying for clear sailing for Jim tomorrow and you both on Thursday.
    Love to you all
    Tonie

    • Tonie, oh my but you all must have had so much fun. I saw the pics of the grands on FB and they’re all growing so much, not sure I could identify each now. Good idea to get rid of the desserts. All of mine went into the freezer to be enjoyed later or was sent with Beth. Hope you feel better tomorrow and the shakes help. Know that feeling. Why is your son losing so much weight?That’s an awfully small waist for a man of his height, isn’t it? Did DIL come up with all? Hope Judy enjoyed them all and hope the weather allowed for them to enjoy it all. Glad Baby got some spoiling in and hope you do try the honey. I know it won’t help if it’s cancer but it could be just a terribly nasty abscess. Rest well now and hope tomorrow is a restful day for you. Love, Sue

      • Sue:
        I think it is the stress from all he is going thru with the separation that has caused the weight loss. Being on his own, no regular meals, yadda yadda. Yes it is small for his height, that is smaller than he was in high school. He was a 28 at 14 or 16, but jumped up to a 32. He had so many clothes on I couldn’t tell plus with that bushy beard. I sent him home with 2 dozen eggs and all those sweets, so maybe that will help. No DIL didn’t come up, thank you Lord. Judy wasn’t home, so she didn’t get to see them. Sammy made me an eternity scarf on his fingers, it is so cool. He made one for Judy and Nikki also. He was so pleased with himself, So much like my Daddy, likes to work with his hands, and make things, grow things. Says he is gonna be a farmer when he grows up 🙂
        I feel better today, been doing productive things already. And I will go swimming here shortly. Very cold wind chill today (from the North) and spitting some snow pellets. Tuesday is Devin’s birthday and Sat is Haileys. I cannot believe she is turning 18 !! I am so old !! 🙂
        Hope Jim had a good trip today !
        Love
        Tonie

    • Tonie
      I have to have clear fluids.no milk..but you may be different if you’ve no cramping.i think eating after dieting contributed to mine.but I’m not sure if you should do it like me as you do a lot more strenuous work and stuff….but maybe the protein drinks will be fine.as you are used to those. I hate that bloated feeling too
      I can’t work that out with men either ,one of those difference in the sexes things
      I love icecream as you know..but a lot of it has the wrong sugars in it for me and so I look for the right yogurts and freeze those sometimes….humph not as good
      You rest now after all you family being with you
      Chris

      • Chris:
        I make my shakes with juice instead of milk, and if I have milk I use almond or coconut mixtures. Can’t do the milk thing, really bloats me. A little better today with it, course it may have been the tortilla chips with cheese dip I stuffed my face with ,think ?
        No I don’t like frozen yogurts as well either. A little bit goes a long way with me. I always get me a cone of soft serve at Burger King after my workout at the gym. My treat to myself, and usually serves as my lunch. You take care, and remember to “take your pleasure” in something you like 🙂
        Love
        Tonie

  27. HELLO……A NICE SUNNY DAY HERE IN FRANCE, NOT GOING TO LAST THOUGH, I HOPE TE WEATHER CONDITIONS WILL BE OK FOR YOU SUE AND FOR JIM…….SOON YOU WILL HAVE YOUR SHOTS AND IT WILL BE OVER FOR ANOTHER MONTH, AND I AGREE WITH CHRIS, GREAT NEWS ABOUT THE SHRINKING.
    GOT GUT PROBLEMS GOING ON, I KNOW ITS THE WORRY OF THE KIDS, FEEL LIKE I HAVE A BIG BURNING BALL STUCK IN MY GUT………….YUK.
    HOPING MY SON CAN GET REGISTERED TODAY, AND GET TO THE NITTY GRITTY ON WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HIM, DIDN’T SLEEP LAST NIGHT FOR THE WORRYING, YOU NEVER STOP BEING A MOM HOWEVER OLD THEY ARE I GUESS.
    HOPING BY NOW THAT TONIE HAS TRIED THE HONEY, AS SUE SAYS IF ITS THE WORST CASE SCENARIO, IT WON’T HELP, BUT THEN AGAIN, IT MIGHT NOT BE.
    I AM TACKLING A MOUNTAIN OF IRONING, SO JUST TAKING A BREAK TO WRITE TO EVERYONE…..
    TONIE GREAT PICS OF ALL OUR KIDS AND GRANDS, YOU ALL LOOK SO HAPPY…….
    CHRIS…HOPE YOU ARE NOT MISSING THE SHED TOO MUCH, AND YOU SOON FEEL BETTER.
    LOVE TO EACH……..BACK TO THE IRONING………JENNIE XX

    • Jennie, I have occasionally thought how nice it would be to have a portable heating pad without the cord. Guess one could always use the bean bag thingy and stuff it in the front of one’s pants for these terrible belly aches. IBS is the worst. I am so sorry you are suffering so and yes, I hope Tim gets registered with a doctor very soon. It’s all a bit strange to us here in the states and educational to hear how the system in Britain and in France is run. He needs to see someone soon, I know you will also feel better.
      Unfortunately Jim is running into some bad weather. We had not turned on the news this AM and we didn’t know they had an ice storm yesterday in Portland so there was snow followed by freezing rain and the roads are a mess. I just talked to him and he said he is just going very slowly as are most others. Unfortunately, I fear the office he had to go to is closed because I heard all of the schools are closed and usually that means the state and official offices are closed, too. I recommended he just grab a motel and spend the night because the temps are rising a bit by tomorrow but don’t know if he will do that.
      It sounds like the ironing is just a vital part of who you are. I have to admit I’m with Tonie. The only thing I occasionally iron is something right out of a box or a holiday table cloth. I have one tiny portable ironing board. I’m glad you can’t see my house. I believe you are a much more thorough house cleaner than I.
      I pray you do get to feeling better very soon dear girl. Love, Sue

  28. Morning all:
    Jennie, haven’t gotten to the honey yet, but will do it soon. It is very cold here today, wind chill is off the charts. I forgot to drain the water hose and left water to freeze in it, so had to carry a little water this morning 😦 Bet I won’t forget it again ! IRONING ? UGH !! I hate that chore, usually don’t buy anything that needs it 🙂 Try to fold everything out of the dryer so it is not wrinkled. But you may be like Fran and my SIL, and iron blue jeans and t shirts ?? My mother made us iron everything growing up. Handkerchiefs, sheets, tea towels, bras, every single thing. She said they had to look good in the drawers as well as on. I don’t even own an ironing board.
    Although, my sister said I could have my mother;s old antique wooden one, I just need to refinish it.
    Hope you feel better.
    Well, gonna get going and go swim my laps, hopefully do a little past 3/4 of a mi. I feel so good afterwards. Just take my time and push. Hopefully the pool won’t be full of kids today.
    Take care all, have a wonderful Monday
    Love
    Tonie

    • HI TONIE….YES I IRON EVERYTHING, COMES FROM MY MOM TOO I GUESS, I TOO LIKE TO OPEN A DRAWER AND SEE IT ALL NEAT…..YEAH I KNOW!!!!
      ENJOY YOUR SWIM……..GOD BLESS….JENNIE XX

    • Tonie, it sounds like all of us are dealing with gut issues right now. Do you have lactose intolerance? I just wondered with you talking about the cheese dip, etc. I always am amazed that you can eat hot, spicy foods. So pleased that you had a warm visit with the kids and they all got home safely before the weather went cold on you. Oh my, frozen water pipes does sound so chilly. Take care for now and know you’re thought of fondly, always. Sue

  29. Tonie
    Hope the tum clears up
    And I like the to take your pleasure phrase from you FRM.certainly makes you look for it

    Jen
    Tum now…isn’t it blimmin annoying . We can foretell our health!
    I Had a tin of custard at the shed had that and some white toast ?SO FAR SO,GOOD
    Still the residual pain there
    Got some vanilla yogurt for tonite…looked at the jellies they have all got sweetness in them ,no,good for me
    Even a lot of the yogurts have too.Why don’t they just use sugar and less of it?

    Suzanne
    Noooooo.dont let that happen. .your auntie moving in with you …if you get pressure from your cousins you must hold your health up and you’ve been doing so much as it is
    Your cousin saying for you to deal with it after Xmas …where did she not see herself in helping as well?
    The social worker. Does she understand your predicament with your health..could she get her somewhere…it definitely sounds as if she’s worse and too much for you now. I feel for you with the worry of it ….it overtakes all else and you have enough with your health.

    Well I’m back home and just going to see to some washing
    Chris

    • CHRIS…….I LOVE VANILLA YOGURT, ESPECIALLY THE BIO ONES……CUSTARD AND WHITE TOAST….INTERESTING, NOT TOGETHER I HOPE….HA HA!! TUMMY AND DIAPHRAGM VERY UNCOMFORTABLE, AND THE BURNING YOU GET WHEN YOU FORGET YOUR STOMACH PROTECTOR, ONLY IN MY CASE I TOOK IT, AND IT HASN’T WORKED TODAY….CRAP…….LOVE JEN X

    • Chris, hope the chores went well and the nice, ordinary calming food went down okay. You’re right. After a bad bout just the simplest things can taste so very good. As you know I’m a potato girl in hard times with my stomach and bowel. I also eat yogurt and one of the ones I eat is Activia but not the one with artificial sweetener..never. I’m with you on what they do to the gut. I also keep a bottle of acidophilus caps in the refrig. for bad times and should take it everyday. Trying to take all the ornaments off the tiny tree we had. Can’t believe how many I got on there. Glad I didn’t put out more Christmas this year. Still have a bit to go but taking a lie down to catch up with everyone. New blog will be posted this evening. Love, Sue

  30. Yea Jen mine was a ..0 pc fat Yeo valley one with the right stuff for my tum. Activia has those false sweetners in them
    Just had some pot mash.it was lovely
    Plan to have fish tommorow
    Yep had the toast first then custard…lovely! After no food for three days
    Your whole tum at it….nowt to do but go thru it with a hottie
    Hope it’s a bit better tomorrow
    Chris

    • HI CHRIS….YES I USED TO BUY THAT ONE WHEN WE LIVED IN THE UK….ALSO ONKEN, HAVE YOU HEARD OF THAT ONE??? I AM MAD ON CUSTARD, BUT MUST HAVE THE SKIN ON THE TOP….SAME WITH RICE PUDDING, ESPECIALLY IF ITS A BIT BURNT.
      I MADE A TUNA PASTA BAKE TODAY, AND A BIG POT OF WINTER SOUP…..OR HOUSEHOLD SOUP AS MY DH CALLS IT, I EVEN PUT LETTUCE IN, IN FACT ANYTHING THAT DOESN’T HAVE LEGS REALLY.
      I FEEL A LITTLE MORE COMFORTABLE TODAY, AND TAKING YOUR ADVICE WITH THE HOTTIE.
      HOPE YOU ARE OK LOVE, COLD INIT????……………………..JEN X

      • Yea
        It’s cold Jen ….good your a bit easier.mine is still sore
        I use up lettuce too spec in stir frys..
        Tuna bake sounds lovely
        I like onken yog too..also Rachel’s
        And I like burnt rice pud too…….oh dear all this talk of food…
        But I like using what’s left in fridge and making summat from nowt
        Did a bit around house today ..its trying to get in the mood to do it.
        In fact I mite do a tuna bake ready for tomorrow now…your fault
        Chris

  31. Suzanne, I am sorry to hear about your problems with your aunt. Oh dear. This whole aging scenario can be such a sad one but my dear…no. Are you nuts? I can’t believe you would ever consider taking her in to live with you, basement or otherwise. Time to stand up to your very pushy cousin. Let her do it if she’s healthy or maybe all of you can go and look for new quarters for her. I know there is pressure there comes a time when you must stand up for you. Be strong. Love, Sue

  32. Good morning all:
    A frosty cold morning here in the mtns. Temp has gone down to 19′ windchill of 10′ BRRR, Now I must get out of my warm bed, dress and get the animals fed and watered. I forgot to cover my windshield and it will be frosty too. I bought me a cover this year, but it doesn’t work if you don’t use it huh ?
    Suzanne, I pray for the best outcome for your Aunt. But of course , that is not YOU !! You cannot let that happen. Too much. Take it from me, just a few hours a day is tough, I can’t imagine all the time. Plus, there is an answer out there. Push for it.
    Chris, hope your tummy is feeling better. Mine is somewhat. I felt so good after my swim yesterday. I am SOOO close to one mile, only 7 more laps. Sounds like such a small amount huh ? But I am so tired at the end I just can’t push for more, Only a few at a time and I will build up to it. I can almost bring my arms out to do a stroke like I should as well., SO getting there. Amazing how much I can do in the water, that I cannot do on land.
    Sue, hopefully your man made it up and back in one piece. Hope all goes well for him. I think I have some intolerance to lactose. I can eat a lot of cheese, but not drink milk. The corn chips was the culprit I think, I don’t do good with that sort of thing, it just upsets me for days. White breads, corn chips, pastas. Something with certain types of gluten.
    Well, a good day to you all, I need to go and brave the frost. I will warm up tossing the hay over the fence.
    My love to all
    Tonie

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