THINGS THAT GO BUMP IN THE NIGHT!

things that go bump in the night

When you think about it, all we really have to consider is the foot in front of our face. I know. That does sound anatomically incorrect but I promise, I will explain if you’ll just stick with me. As we all know, a foot is measured as 12 inches. That isn’t very far but it is the tiny bit of life we can moderately control. Everything else, beyond our grasp, is truly not in our control. Rain, earthquakes, and wind are all out of our control. The need for trust has to be displayed by us every day of our lives when we send our children off to school, drive a car or cross a street. Without a certain amount of trust, we would be totally immobile and would never go anywhere or do anything in this life. Even turning on a light switch is an act of faith and trust.

 

As we pause to think about it just simply put, we’re in the dark and we need to be enlightened. We trust that light switch will lighten our way and when it does, we take it for granted, much like we say a prayer during a difficult time yet never think about it when the prayer is answered. I’m not saying we should go around saying “thank you” to light switches and lamps because you would definitely be locked up for that, but a simple thank you to a loving God would be good. It keeps the line of communication open with someone who truly cares. How much of life we live by faith and don’t even realize we are doing it.

 

Much closer to “home” we have issues going on in our own bodies that we cannot stop but can merely feel, observe and for which we pursue a solution. The only control we have regarding our health is to check out and educate ourselves as to how our own human body works. We can control our diets, our exercise and our daily activities, all to some extent. We can and do go to the doctors of our choice or who are referred to us. In this current age everything is a specialty. It grows so tiresome and I so often miss the old-fashioned family doctor don’t you? Certainly, I realize as a retired RN how complicated the world of medicine is today and am allowed to grieve for what once was while also appreciating modern advancements. Once again the trust factor enters the picture as we trust our current doctor’s judgment in referring us to some stranger.

 

It’s very difficult for each of us to know how to gauge a new physician. I think it’s a little easier for those of us who have worked in medicine but even we do not know what and who we are dealing with. The criterion for choosing a new doctor is a bit simpler with the internet as we can read critiques from other patients. One can’t base a lot on those however without knowing the whole story of each patient. But the biggest gauge of all is whether or not any new physician helps and communicates with us. Going to a new doctor takes trust. We each know that feeling of expectation and anxiety with each new visit. I truly hate starting from scratch with a new physician. Are they going to help? Why do I have to fill out fifteen forms? Can anybody help and will I like him? My dear Mom used to choose doctors by whether or not they were sweet to her. He or she could be as stupid as a stick but if they were kind to her, patted her on the hand then she loved them and that was a good doctor in her opinion. Bless her.

 

I have been at war with my body for thirty years while having to also remain friends with it. Since it’s the only one I have I had to take the friendly position many years ago. I’ve had much to fear in my life, particularly when it comes to my health. Certainly, like many of you I have had hard times financially, family trouble as well as marital problems. We are human beings who are each vulnerable to the rocks in the walk of life. Along the way we stub our toes, step on sharp objects and walk through grit but we still have to get where we are going. Once again, we cannot remain immobile, even when we have health problems.

 

I know that feeling of being trapped inside one’s own life. I know what it is to be near death and that amazing feeling when you realize you have defeated death. I’ve been through that three times, thus far, in this life and it has a way of making one realize how wonderful life truly is and also acts as a dramatic reminder that heaven isn’t ready for you yet. To me that always acts as a reminder that I still have much to do on this earth and that is the lesson I took from each experience. Those are the experiences that made me who I am but we are also, each of us, shaped by the small daily twists and turns of life which we traverse each day. The interesting fact about each crisis life brings our way is that we usually have been surprised by them. We usually have no control over these times, great or small.

 

Often, I am confronted by individuals who are ill who have great burdens of worry on their shoulders. Worry and fear are those intangible items which do go bump in the night. Being full of fear is a monster each of us has and do face. Often each of us has been in the position of waiting for a procedure, waiting for a report from the doctor or hospital or some other worry regarding our health. If you have faith in a God of love you should be reassured but that reassurance does not always come easily. Our minds take off in a specific direction and we wonder “what if” and worry about what is coming down the road. Things that go bump in the night can also prowl around during the daylight. Ideally, those of us with faith in God should not worry but it can take some time and much soul searching to create the positive juices it takes to trust during hard times. It seems we can have faith in a lightbulb but not in a loving God. There is always the possibility He will allow us to travel down a painful road and of course, who would want that? In this whole faith department, we are in for a penny, in for a pound. Either we believe in a plan of love and growth for our life or we do not. It is often easier to have faith for someone else but when you are the one with the imagination and cancer is looming in your mind, or some other horrible event such as being an invalid for the rest of your life, then it is more difficult. Remember those of us who embrace Christianity are given a pattern to live by but we aren’t the finished product just yet. I’m not saying you need to be a Christian but I am recommending that you have faith in a higher power outside yourself. Whatever your belief, be consistent in it and embrace its precepts to allow your life and those you love to be enriched.
I think it is only human of us to worry but we don’t have to move in and live there. There are many times I have been caught in a cycle of worry, peddling away with my mind filled with some horrific “what if” when I have had to have a chat with myself. A firm scolding would be more accurate a way to define it. I know each of you understand what I am expressing when you recall tossing and turning, fighting the monster of fear and unable to sleep; things that go bump in the night.

 

What do I do when I’m overwhelmed by worry and fear? First of all I pray. I give the whole situation over to One I know loves me and tell Him, or rather remind myself, that He is in charge. Then I try to learn as much about the situation as I can. Education and information always bring enlightenment and none of us want to be in the dark. The next step for me is to remember to take the whole situation one step at a time. If I look at the whole picture of a scary situation, it is too overwhelming. Nothing is built that way and a step at a time is a doable project.

 

This list of what I do to handle worry is longer than I thought as I think back on it. I also try to get myself busy. For one to lie around consumed with fear of the “what if’s” of life leads to nothing that is good. If I can handle movement I do stretching, walk somewhere, even a store or I find something in my home that needs cleaning. Come on, we always have something that needs to be done. Right now I have too much to handle so finding a chore is not a problem. I may talk to a friend, make a call or enjoy a TV show with my husband as company.

 

For those times when I don’t feel up to much activity, because the body is unwilling, I go online, read a book, or pick up a needlework project. I have a needlepoint pillow I’ve been working on for years. When I first became ill, thirty years ago, I was cranking out counted cross-stitch pieces at an almost alarming rate but now my energy is less and my eyesight is not what it was then. In the early days of being disabled I was a massive mess of frustration and pent up energy. Now I have eased into the role…still don’t like it, but have learned to shake hands with it.

 

Lastly and perhaps the most important thing I do when I am filled with worry or fear is to look outside myself to someone else. We can each become so consumed with ourselves and our own small world, we quite forget there are millions of others beyond our doorway who also suffer, love, hate and grieve for parts of life lost to them. It also doesn’t hurt to tell someone I love them. That act brings a magic quality to one’s life, don’t you think? Tell someone today that you love them.

 

 

 

 

Get up, clean up, cheer up, telllsomeone you love them

576 thoughts on “THINGS THAT GO BUMP IN THE NIGHT!

  1. Oh, goodness, I just realized it has been a week since I’ve been on here! Yes, very busy time!

    Jennie, heavens! I’m so sorry you are having such a time of it! I’m sorry, I confess I don’t know what remark you were referring to either… I’m sure no one here means you any ill will. Praying you are more yourself soon.

    Sue, what a trip you had. Sorry it was a so-so visit to the pain clinic. I hope the injection helps when you return. I’ve had a second session with the Pilates gal and felt really good after. SB should find out this Thurs. a better idea of his tuition and hopefully I can see if I can swing paying the reduced price for the 10 visit package. I think I want to commit to that and really give this a try. Starting to get a little sore from it now, but it is a good sore. I think the strengthening and stretching would be really good for my arthritises.

    Chris, what good news about your DH! Now let’s get you under control. 😉

    Donna, hurray! Good cancer report! My doc didn’t recommend that drug for me, but I hope it gives you some relief. I assume the other you don’t wish to take was one of the biologics. I’m avoiding them, too, for the same reason – increased cancer risk.

    Tonie, I believe this is ablation day! Praying it works as well for you as it has for SB. 🙂

    Busy time here, but the concerts went well. Chris, my voice is doing very well, thanks. 🙂 Knocking on wood and doing my best to keep it so! Another concert this coming Sunday, then we record this repertoire on the 21st and sing it again in the end of June at Chautauqua, NY and in August back in PA. Whew. In July I’ll sing the chorus parts in La Traviata (the opera) in a concert setting, so must refresh this. DD and I sang it a couple of years ago. Busy singing summer. DD and I must also pick music for a program we are doing in October and get ready for that.
    Our 8 mo. old kitten, Luka, just curled up on my lap – all 10 1/2 pounds of him! He has been growing by leaps and bounds. He’s going to be a big cat. Such a playful, sweet cat. Sadie is stretched out by my chair. We just had a walk a short while ago. Time to relax a bit this evening. Take care, one and all!

    • Hi everyone, I know I posted my doctor said I was fine as far as the cancer. I got a call this afternoon from his nurse saying my blood work for my tumor markers was good for the one test but for the other one, it was up quite a bit! Normal range is 0-38.6. Mine was 59.4! These markers tell the doctor if there might be some cells that could be cancer. Mine have been up before but always went back down. They have never been this high before. So, I have to go back in 2 weeks and have the blood work done again. What has me concerned is he has always waited 6 weeks before retesting not 2. He said if the numbers are still up or have gotten higher, I will have to have a PET scan and a bone scan, which looks for cancer! I have usually been ok when this has happened before but I have to say this time I am a little uneasy about it. So I am asking for your prayers.. They are very much needed! The next 2 weeks is going to be tuff. My blood work will be done again on May, 24th at 11:30 AM Love all of you, Donna

      • Oh Donna I was shocked to read this…my prayers all will be well and it will go down as it has before . Also that these two weeks will pass easily and quickly . What a shock it must have been for you and family. But it has gone up and down before so it must be a test that maybe does that. And at least two weeks is better to wait than six.
        My prayers for you Donna
        Chris

      • My prayers for you Donna that this all will turn out okay and be just another one of those times that the numbers will go down again like before. Two weeks is better than waiting game 6 weeks but I understand the waiting is hard. My continuous prayers that it will turn out to be nothing.
        Jo ♡

      • Dear Donna, reading this this AM I truly understand how you feel in the pit of your stomach. I’m grateful your doctor is waiting only 2 weeks even though it will feel longer to you. It’s better than six. You have been here before and I know you will persevere. You are a strong woman of faith and of course, you have our love, our prayers and anything else you seek. When you begin to have fear, please know the Lord has this and will guide you, give you the strength you need and also know you have so many friends, both here and in your community. Much love and hugs, Sue

      • Donna, PRAYERS! They are yours. I know you are apprehensive. Try your best to remain positive. As you know, attitude is so important. Know we are all in your corner!

  2. Hi, everyone. I popped on here to whine a bit about feeling lousy (knowing you all know the feeling), now I’m glad I did for a whole different reason, although it is not a good one necessarily. Donna, you will have continued prayers. So much hurts today. SB hated to inform me it probably won’t be going away for a few weeks. What!?!?!? Well, apparently we are in a rainy weather pattern for the next 3 weeks. If that is what set me off, then he may be right. 😦 I sure hope not. That’ll teach me for feeling pretty good about how I’d been feeling. Sorry if I’m sounding a bit disjointed. Also fatigued and we all know that is not the best combination for the brain and thought processes. Hoping and praying you all are feeling as well as can be expected. I must rest now a bit. I have had a small trip planned to visit a friend a couple of hours away and see her in a community show. I planned on taking my little convertible due to limited parking and narrow streets there. Hope I’m feeling up to the trip and driving. This one is a solo trip. Best to all!

    • Lyn, so sad to hear you’re in a bad spell at this time. It does sound like it is related to the weather. Love This is some way of life. Looking for good on some days and always manage to find a bit but other days…not so much and just have to wait for those days to pass. I hope you get to make your trip and have a visit with a friend; always helps so much. Love to you, as ever..Sue

  3. DEAR FRIENDS, IT IS WITH A CONCERNED HEART THAT I MUST SHARE THAT THE BLOG, THIS ONE, MAY BE ENDING. NATALIE WHO HAS BEEN SO HELPFUL FOR THE LAST 2.5 YEARS CAN’T POST IT ANY LONGER. SHE DID SUCH A GOOD JOB AND I KNOW WE ALL LOVED HER PICTURES SHE CHOSE EACH TIME. SHE WILL BE MISSED BUT THE BUSY SCHEDULE OF HER LIFE CALLS. I WILL LOOK INTO GETTING SOMEONE ELSE TO POST BUT FOR NOW WILL PROBABLY BE RUNNING OLDER BLOGS ON FACEBOOK. I HAVE A BACKLOG OF AT LEAST 1000 ARTICLES AND POEMS FROM THE LAST 10 YEARS INCLUDING THE ONES FROM WHEN I WROTE FOR EVERYDAYHEALTH.COM. I KNOW IT WON’T REACH AS MANY PEOPLE ON FB BUT MY SKILLS AT THE COMPUTER ARE NOT GOOD AND RIGHT NOW I DON’T FEEL UP TO THE CHALLENGE OF LEARNING TECHNICAL STUFF. PLEASE PRAY THAT SOMETHING WORKS OUT FOR US ALL AS I WILL MISS YOU AND I KNOW THE FORMAT WON’T BE AS INTIMATE AS IT IS NOW. LOVE TO EACH OF YOU…SUE

    • Sue
      Don’t worry
      Something will turn out for the best..something out of the blue
      You look after yourself for now
      Love chris

      • Thanks Chris. The same goes for you dear girl. You do what you want to do about the FB situation. We all understand and know it’s your business. Hope all toward the move is going well. Here I am waiting for approval to have my sacroiliac joints injected…soon I hope. Same old problems with gut. Pray DH is doing well. Glad he’s able to drive. Love, Sue

    • Sue…don’t worry too much about it..I am sure some other avenue or idea will show up. Running your older blogs on FB for awhile is a good idea and and an avenue for keeping in communication with everyone. You have had so many excellent ones that many people have never seen before, including myself. Thinking of you and I hope you can get in for your injections very soon and it will give you some relief. I’m in Chicago now and looking forward to coming home. Love, Jo

  4. OH SUE, YOU MUST BE FEELING DOWN KNOWING THAT MAYBE THIS WILL BE THE END OF THIS BLOG. I’LL PRAY FOR SOMEONE TO APPEAR OUT OF THE BLUE TO HELP YOU CONTINUE. I CERTAINLY UNDERSTAND THE CHALLENGE OF ALL THAT TECHNICAL STUFF. I MYSELF AM CHALLENGED THAT WAY. I THANK GOD FOR MY GRANDCHILDREN EVERYDAY AS THEY ALL KNOW MORE THAN ME AND COME AND FIX THINGS WHEN THEY ARE NOT WORKING. CAN’T SEEM TO REMEMBER ANYTHING TECHNICAL ANYMORE.
    IF IT’S MEANT TO BE IT WILL SUE. DON’T WORRY ABOUT IT. AS CHRIS SAID LOOK AFTER YOURSELF FOR NOW. SENDING YOU PRAYERS AND GUIDING ANGELS. LOVE YOU SO MUCH SUE. YOU CONTINUE TO HELP ME GET THROUGH MY STRUGGLES EVERYDAY. SO HAPPY I FOUND YOU ON THE OTHER BLOG. NO, FB WON’T BE THE SAME BUT AT LEAST WE CAN STILL KEEP IN TOUCH. IT MEANS ALOT TO ME. WE CAN ALSO GET EACH OTHER’S E-MAILS AND TALK THAT WAY.
    MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU SWEET FRIEND OF MINE. GOD BLESS YOU AND KEEP YOU STRONG.
    LOVE TO ALL ON THIS BLOG.
    XXX

    • Sue, I too will be praying that God will send someone else to help you with the blog. If not, we always have Facebook. Chris isn’t on Facebook so we can communicate with her through email. I wish there was someone she knows to teach her how easy it really is. I remember how scared I was to start using it. I will have to pray for her about using it.
      I know your heart must be heavy with this news. I know how you care about all of us and we all care about you. I believe it will all work out. Love you my friend! It’s not like we can’t get in touch with each other. Chat with you later. Love Donna

    • Suzanne, thanks for your kind words. We will see what works out when I am feeling up to it. Hope you get to plant soon. Love, Sue

      • I SURE HOPE TO PLANT SOON TOO. TONIGHT THEY SAY IT WILL SNOW AND MONDAY ALSO. NOT SURE WHAT IS GOING ON WITH THE WEATHER?????? OF COURSE THAT WEATHER MAKES MY BODY VERY PAINFUL.
        HOPE YOU GET THAT INJECTION SOON SUE SO YOU CAN HAVE SOME RELIEF. LOVE YOU MY FRIEND.
        GOD BLESS.
        XXX

    • Jen, thanks dear. Something will work out eventually. In the meantime I will run them on FB. Hope you’re feeling a bit better. Love, Sue

      • It’s a plan, Sue. And, yes, I was able to get down to my friend’s house for a visit, albeit a short one. I have a concert tomorrow I needed to be back for. What a wonderful visit we had! A much needed respite.

  5. Sue
    We will work something out. If I had all the infor, I could do it for you. I used to post out blog and pics on our website we had in Arizona. But we will find a way . Your words that help us all so much, as I know it helps you to,write, will go on as long as we have a venue I am certain. Hang in there woman, we got your back.
    Lyn, I hope you are feeling better. We have a cold front here, along with rain showers coming and going. I had to turn the heat on this morning. I think we are getting Aprils showers in May.
    Jo, glad you are with your Mom, how is she doing ? Chris, take care dear. Jennie, I am sure you are enjoying that beautiful garden
    Today I am driving down to North Carolina to pick up the people I work for. Tomorrow back to work. Tuesday is my ablation day. Thursday and Saturday, are graduation days for my granddaughter. And I may be getting my special visitor a week early ! FM may be here on Thursday as well. So I have a very busy,very happy and emotional week coming up.
    Well more coffee is needed and some breakfast. I need to leave by nine o clock. They stayed in a hotel last night so I have to pick them up by checkout time at 11 .
    Do take care all, love to all of you. We can pray and find an answer to the blog
    Tonie

    • Tonie, mom has made some slight progress. She’s got a new wonderful caregiver. You have a busy week ahead!! Good luck with the ablation. I pray it helps you.

      • Jo, pleased to hear your Mom has a new, competent and kind caregiver. That can hit so close to heart if you have to worry about that. I know you’re anxious to get home and pray that’s soon. How the bum holding up? Think of you so often and hope you get into a good pain doc and hope the same for me as well. All will eventually work out, I know. So much trust involved in this life of ours, isn’t there? Loving thoughts. Sue

  6. CHRIS MY AUNT IS STARTING TO TELL ME SHE DOESN’T LIKE IT THERE, SHE WOULD LIKE TO BE BACK WHERE SHE WAS. I WILL GO VISIT HER THIS WEEK AND TALK ABOUT WHY SHE IS WHERE SHE IS. SHE CALLS ME OFTEN AND ASKS ME WHY SHE IS LIVING THERE. I USUALLY TELL HER SHE WANTED TO MOVE TO A SAFER PLACE WITH MEALS,,,,,, BUT YESTERDAY SHE WOULD HAVE NONE OF IT. GUESS I’LL HAVE TO TELL HER WHAT SHE DID. DIDN’T WANT TO DO THAT. ANY SUGGESTIONS?
    YOU TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF AND HAPPY DH IS FEELING BETTER AND CAN NOW DRIVE AGAIN. PRAYING FOR BOTH OF YOU. LOVE TO YOU AND DH.
    XXX

  7. Suzanne
    I think sometimes you have to tell what actually happened and somehow keep yourself distant from the feelings you have and immune yourself from how your aunt reacts to it. As what will happen she will probably not remember it as it was and also will forget next time when she asks and you have to go through it again
    You can tell her in the kindliest way possible and leave it there..maybe change the subject soon after
    That’s what I had to do with my dad when the agency complained I just went and did it….I know it’s not nice but the situation isn’t normal as we see it.and for just that moment before you tell her you have normal feelings but just withstand it and just say it.
    Thats if you have to say anything she may forget all about moving again when you see her.
    I felt so bad to tell my dad….and still do but you have been put in that situation because you care about her and looked after her. Just say it and get onto another subject.
    I don’t know any other way. Suzanne you are so careing of her you will do it right naturally..would your cousin be there to lighten it?
    Not liking it there…what do the others seem like ..happy etc? It’s so hard to judge things like that.is there anyone to ask how your aunt fits in?
    Went to the bungalow late this afternoon and I’m quite pleased with it now and getting on better with the owner there.. She did seem a bit cold…also the sun was shining in the evening in the back garden..was pleased with that.as here it goes by 2 pm
    Snow for you ..when will it go.it must affect your joints .lets hope just goes magic
    Hope all goes well be thinking of you I know what it’s like
    Love chris

    • THANKS CHRIS, GUESS THAT IS JUST WHAT I WILL DO. JUST SAY IT AND THEN TRY AND MOVE ON TO ANOTHER SUBJECT. AS YOU SAID THAT’S IF SHE ASKS AGAIN, SHE MIGHT HAVE FORGOTTEN ONCE I VISIT HER. SO HAPPY YOU ARE PLEASED WITH THE BUNGALOW, OH AND THE EVENING SUN WOULD CERTAINLY BE ANOHER PLUS. ENJOY IT ALL CHRIS. HOPE DH IS DOING WELL AS YOU OF COURSE.
      LOVE YOU AND THANKS FOR THE ADVICE.
      GOD BLESS
      XXX

      • Suzanne, love and agree with Chris’s advice regarding your aunt. It’s so hard for many to grow old. Bless you for your help to her. Keep thinking about all the young plants you have right now each time I hear about snow up your way. It’s still a bit wet here but nothing as cold as you are facing. Hope for sun. Love, Sue

  8. Tonie
    What a week you have coming..look after yourself and take care
    Jo
    That’s excellent your mum has a good caregiver and making progres
    Chris.

  9. Good morning all
    Well, made the trip to and back yesterday just fine. But this weather change has hit me as well, Lyn. I could do nothing after I got back home but lay on the couch with the heating pad and rest, napping a bit. I felt awful. Feeling better today some. I must get ready to go to work soon.
    FM got ahead of himself, it is next week he will be here on Wed if nothing happens. Which is as well, because I still have things to get ready and have it mapped out. Of course cleaning is always on, isn’t it ? The necessary evil of life, housework !
    Guys I haven’t forgotten the recipe book. I am trying to put it all together still, so it will be finished one day soon.
    Jo, so glad you mom is doing better. Having a good caregiver means a lot. Someone you are both comfortable with. Ms Alice made the trip just fine. She looks.better than when she left.
    I pray you all have a good day, week, and send you love.
    Tonie

    • TONIE YOU STILL HAVE TO PACE YOURSELF MY DEAR. WOW ARE YOU EVERY BUSY. I’M SOMEHOW SUPPOSE TO HELP YOU WITH THAT COOKBOOK. I’M STILL READY TO DO THAT BUT IN SLOW MO.
      HAVE A GREAT DAY SWEET PEA!
      GOD BLESS.
      XXX

    • Tonie, Since I did chat with you about the blog on FB, I do want everyone to know I did acknowledge your kind offer. I would prefer staying on this same site as not to lose anybody like I did when I left EH online after seven years there. If and when Natalie gets that info to me we will chat again. In the meantime, older blogs which are worth a re-read will be on FB.
      I’m so pleased your trip is behind you yet sorry you had to come home directly to the heating pad yet completely relate. I’m pleased your friends are home and hope they are. Glad to hear Ms. Alice made the trip so well and looked well. Sorry FM won’t be as yesterday but another week but you do have so much going on.
      I appreciate your attitude about the cookbook but would understand completely if you just forgot the idea. Sounds like too much work to me. I wouldn’t worry about it dear friend. Much love as ever…remember you’re going to be very busy once your man arrives and we’re each pleased for you. Love as ever, Sue

  10. HI JENNIE POO, HOPE THE WEATHER IS BEING GOOD TO YOU. HOW ARE YOU FEELING THESE DAYS? THINKING AND PRAYING FOR YOU. LOVE YOU DEAR HEART.
    GOD BLESS.
    XXX

  11. Hi all
    Had my ultra sound on shoulders today one is frozen the other has fluid on it.wait to see what rheumy can do
    My hip still sore had to come off inflams ibs playing up and burning tum I am taking stuff for that..but dr said to stop inflams as I have had a bleed in stomach once
    So back to square one as I cancelled injection ..I was concerned about it and now it is a week Wednesday ..sh.t!
    I am so unsure of stuff and what has gone wrong before
    Hope all ok
    Tonie
    It won’t be long now to see FM.
    woohoo
    Sue
    How are you
    Suzanne
    Hope all goes ok
    DH is okish
    Jen
    How are those swellings on your foot did you see anyone about it yet
    Nite all Chris

    • Oh Chris, I am so sorry to hear about your shoulders especially with the move coming up. I know you’re getting professional movers and that is great. Why did you cancel the injection? Was it because they were going to inject an NSAID? Good to hear DH is okish. I understand how difficult life can be with bad shoulders as I also have them. I’ll see a foot guy tomorrow regarding a small tumor on my foot. Hope Jen got to the doctor already. Sorry I’ve been absent so much lately. So much on my mind right now. Jim has two weeks to go and we’re finalizing our insurance since we’ve had to change all of it with retirement. SI joints still miserable and waiting for date for injections into them under X-ray. Will get it done before end of the month on old insurance.
      Around here we’ve been fighting an ant infestation…everywhere, up and downstairs. Kitchen cupboards, even had one walk across the keyboard on the bed last week. Had exterminator out and now better but he found fleas. Poor George is covered. Jim gave him a bath yesterday and we didn’t want to spray poison so put non-poisonous stuff in back yard. UGH. Mammogram tomorrow. So much to do plus the disappointment of blog but will get that sorted out eventually. Since you’re not on FB will contact you by email. Never fear. Love you and thinking of you, Sue

      • Hi Sue
        I cancelled the steroid inj. Hoping it would just get better and because I was apprehensive about it..so many things go wrong on me…I’ve got another week to go till the Wednesday .still putting ice and gel on it
        It us totally understandable you have been so busy ,but you’ve still been on the blog tho
        We all know your situation and you’ve been posting quite regularly . You do it all as you can with how things are
        Hope the ins. sorts itself out quickly for you and you get those injections soon
        Ants ld hate to have them again . They get everywhere .our neighbours come back from being away and they had them all over the house and upstairs all in and under the bath
        How were your eyes and chest with the stuff they used.oh and poor George
        Thinking of you today with your foot and mammogram . Hope you don’t have to go far travelling
        Love chris

      • sue
        poor you, always so much one after another it seems. I know we all have it, but somehow it seems in the last few years that is like the plaques of Pharoah on you !! I have a yard full of anthills and if it ever stops raining I need to put out the ant killer stuff . I have to be careful because of the the chickens. Leave them in for a few days so the ants carry it all away. They kill(the chickens) all the other bugs in the yard, including fleas and ticks. The boys go out in the fields and pick up ticks. I put a flea and tick collar on them both after a good shampoo. So far so good. You will feel better after the injections, I just know it. That is how I get all my back injections, under xray Gotta get ready now to go and get the ablation done. It is raining here so no wasted day. Nikki is going to start staying with Ms Alice on the rest of the days I am not there. She is needing a job, so…it worked out well.
        One more week and FM will be on his way up. He plans to drive it all in one day unless it is raining. So he will be here by evening. Needless to say, I am excited and anxious as well.
        take care dear friend, as always you are in my prayers and ever on my mind
        Love
        Tonie

  12. Lyn, hope your weather warms up soon and you get to feeling better. ENjoying the pics of Luka and Sadie on FB. Do take care, Love you, Sue

  13. Morning all
    Getting ready for my long day. Going to get the ablation done/ My apt is at 3, but usually an hour wait to get in. Drive is close to two hours, so……
    Chris, dear, I understand your cancelling the injection. But I think you will end up rescheduling it, because not much that can be done outside of that to calm down the bursa. Take care and keep moving
    Suzanne, I will get with you on the recipes. Stay warm up there. Lyn I hope you are feeling better. I do understand, this weather is getting to me as well. next week we are having warm and no rain !!!
    Talk to you all later
    My love and prayers to all
    Tonie

    • Tonie, you know you have my concern and prayers tonight after your long day. Hope you’re resting comfortably by now. Much love, Sue

  14. Chris, never fear about our ants treatment. The gent sprayed only out front of the house, not in George’s backyard and inside he used a gel that seems to be working quite well. I am so thankful. Now I must clean out the food cupboard and put anything at all sweet into a plastic container. Jim put diatomaceous earth all over the dog run and the planters out back so here’s hoping poor George will also be relieved of his fleas. Can’t stand it but can’t bathe the poor thing every day.
    I know dear how torn we can be about treatment. It seems with Sjogren’s there are so many things that could go wrong. Hope your treatment is helping. Went to the foot doctor today and they X-rayed my foot and think it’s a fibroma on the bottom of one foot. We are to see him monthly for awhile. When you’ve had cancer, everyone worries. Hope you are able to rest and gets lots of help with any packing. Much love, Sue

  15. Sue
    Such a lot of work entailed with ants .it seems as if you’ve got them licked now tho.and then there’s George ..he must wonder what’s going on
    It is good that they are checking your foot regular for you for a while
    Well can’t pack up yet till we exchange contracts…that’s when no one can go back on the deal….,and the lady who’s purchasing from us she is ready to go but her purchaser …( a first time buyer) the father died unexpectedly and they have put the sale on hold…..well it has been now for three weeks.so we are all wondering ,she says she still wants to go ahead but……Mmmm . So I’ve giving up worrying about it what will be..and I can’t change it..so I might as well just go on living in the present..but have spent a lot of money on surveys and solicitors .but that’s house moving! If that’s the only worry to have it ain’t much in the scheme of things
    So am resting this hip…but it ain’t responding to kindness
    Hope you feeling ok after your day
    Chris

    • Chris, thanks for explaining about the contracts on the houses. Sounds like a chain reaction, indeed. I think after all you’ve been through it is just a matter of time and patience…both things which come painfully at times.
      Living in the moment and for today is always good advice.
      I hope your hip will get better and also that you will reschedule that injection because I believe it will help. I have had the bursa injected a couple of times but not recently and always found it to help. Rest and heat…we could make it our motto, right? Love, Sue

      • Sue
        Yes I’ve rescheduled the injection for next Wednesday .thinking of you Sue and praying x

  16. Morning all
    Made it thru the procedure just fine. I little more uncomfortable than the injections, but worth it I think. My back is a little pained this morning, but it will get better as time goes on. That was an invasion !! Now I must be up and about and on my way to Ms Alice.
    Prayers for you all to have a good day
    Love
    Tonie

    • One down, one to go! I hope you iced after the procedure. I think it helps, but have a hard time getting the boy to continue after the first round or so.

      • Tonie..I hope you are doing okay after your ablation. My friend had a little more pain for 3 days after hers and then felt better. She iced, iced and more ice!!

  17. Morning all
    Yes, I iced yesterday off and on all day. Will do the same today once I get Ms Alice up and a shower. Then I will sit on the ice. It is doing well, pretty swollen. But nothing to complain about. Yes Lyn, one down, one to go. I got a message from FM this morning. Now his granddaughters have him busy, but tomorrow he is going out with a park ranger to capture an alligator ! What fun ! 5 more days till he comes up here. So excited, so much going on til then. Tonight is Haileys graduation from vocational school, tomorrow from a high School, Saturday her party. And things to do at home once the rain stops outside, and inside cleaning, changin bed linens, yadda yadda.
    Sue, praying for you . All of you
    Love
    Tonie

    • Tonie, I know you must be getting so excited about your FM arriving. Take it easy on the work and just feel better for yourself and him. With all the icing you’ve been doing, hope the swelling goes down quickly. Since we talked there is not much to say except, be good and take care. Love you, Sue

    • Capturing an alligator?? No thanks! Wishing him well on that one. I hope today has you feeling better yet. Please don’t overdo. I know you have so much going on. I also hope it is as beautiful out at your place as it is here today. I’d love to sneak a little time outside with a book into my day. Not sure that can happen, though. Take care!

      • Lyn
        FM is only observing the capture. I am sure he will have no hands reaching out to pet him ! LOL !! Hope he gets some good pics though.
        It was nasty here yesterday, but today is looking better. So I had better get on with it and go swim !! Then I have to mow the yard or work on the garden fence, something !!
        Take care

  18. Well tonie
    He must be certainly a fit one …..an alligator??!
    Hope the swelling has gone down and the back is better ..take it easy
    Lyn
    Hope you got to read your book outside..magic
    Suzanne
    Hows things?
    Donna
    How are you? Been thinking of you
    Sue
    Love you
    Chris

    • Hey CHRIS THINGS ARE HARD FOR ME RIGHT NOW. PAIN 24/7 AND I AM ALWAYS VERY TIRED. NOT SURE HOWI WILL GET ALL MY BULBS PLANTED. SEEMS LIKE I PLANT MAYBE 7 Or8 AND I AM DONE FOR THE DAY. NEED TO GO TO BED ALL THE TIME CAUSE OF THE PAIN AND FATIGUE. NOT SURE WHATIS GOING ON WITH ME THESES DAYS BUT JUST NOT UP TO PAR AND REALLY FEEL LIKE I AM GETTING WORSE FASTER THAN I THOUGHT. PRETTY DISCOURAGING. AUNTY DIDN’T SPEAK OR QUESTION ANYTHINGSO THOUGHT IT WOULD BE BETTER TO NOT MENTION ANYTHING. I AM SURE IT WILL COME UP SOON ENOUGH. MY COMPUTER IS NOT WORKING SO I AM ON MY IPAD. SORRY FOR ALL THE MISTAKES IN THIS COMMENT. WOW I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU FOR YOUR INJECTION. HOPE ALL WILL GO WELL. SOSORRY TO READ ABOUT YOUR SHOULDERS CHRIS. JUST NEVER. SEEMS TO STOP. WISH I HAD A DOC TO GO AND SEE BUT HE IS NOW ON SICK LEAVE AND WILL ONLY BE BACK IN AUGUST, IF ALL GOES WELL FOR HIM. YOU AND DH TAKE GOOD CARE OF EACH OTHER. LOVE TO BOTH OF YOU. HOPE YOU ARE ENJOYING THAT VERY BEAUTIFUL AND COMFY DRESS OF YOURS. WISH ICOULD FIND ONE LIKE THAT HERE. GOD BLESS YOU CHRIS. XXX

    • Hey Chris and all of you. I am not doing too bad over overall. I have had a friend of mine at my house helping me spring clean my bedroom. Several years of things piling up. She was here 2 different days and will be coming back Monday. I think we might finish this time. My clothes have been gone through and separated from summer and winter. A lot I donated to a charity and she took a lot for someone she knows. I used to have a hard time getting rid of things but now I just want my BR clean and everything in its place. I had to keep my clothes where I could get to them and most of the time that meant still in the laundry basket. I couldn’t hang anything up because of my arm and shoulder and I am so bent with my back when I would try and reach up it hurt and I would give out of breath. My husband is going to lower the bar so I don’t have to reach and make me another closet where I can have storage. Now that things aren’t piled up in plastic bins and in front of my dressers, clothes are folded up and put away. I have mainly sat on my bed and told her what to keep, throw away and give away. I just can’t do it by myself. I am paying her because her husband died a few years ago and she is always having a hard time. It helps her and me. She is also a breast cancer survivor but she was one of the blessed ones who didn’t get any side affects from the treatments. She went back to being the way she was pre cancer. I am just glad she was willing to come help. Well, Tuesday, I will get my blood work for the tumor markers again. I will let you all know what the results are as soon as I hear. Probably not until Thursday. I have been checking on one of the pills I have taken for years and I didn’t realize that a lot of my issues were side effects from that pill. I stopped taking it less than a week ago and I feel so much better already. I will continue to see how I do. I will be praying for all of you. Chris I hope things will go smoothly with your sale and moving. Sorry about your shoulders.
      Tonie, I am like the rest of us, I do not know how you do all you do dear. Your FM will be there in a few days and maybe you will relax a little. I know he will help you a lot.
      Suzanne, I am so sorry you are going through all this pain and fatigue! I know how you feel. It is miserable to feel that way all the time. Now you know why I haven’t been able to clean my own bedroom. I hate being like this. One day at a time is what I do.
      Lyn, I am glad you seem to be better. Did you get to read your book at all? Hang in there.
      I did have to stop my PT and pool therapy. I tried to keep going but having to get dressed again after being in the pool was so hard for me. It was so humid and sticky and I had no one to help me get my clothes on. I was still wet after I dried. My clothes didn’t want to go on right and it was more than I could handle. It exhausted me. Plus I am on oxygen and it made my breathing worse. I tried and I am not going to beat myself up because I couldn’t do it. Well, I need to stop and send this. Love you all. Donna

  19. Good morning all
    Well, GD graduation went well last night. She got her certificate in Early Childhood devolpment. Tonight is high school graduation. doesn’t start until 8, small auditorium, I don’t see this one ending well. with all the speeches, and awards, and she is W on the list !!! But, I gotta have pictures !! They put pics of the kids on the screen as the graduate and all are mine. I gave her a pic of her Dad holding her so she can feel he is there also. He would have been so proud, he and I would cry together !! I miss him.
    Well, need to get going and go swim. Maybe the rain will hold off today so I can go outside and work some. Still have a lot to do inside before Tuesday. Don’t want to do it now and have to redo huh ??
    Take care all
    Love
    Tonie

  20. Tonie
    Bitter sweet for all of you tonite hope all goes well
    Busy still i see ..I never known you not busy
    Not long till FM comes now
    been to sols for an appt this morning about house more questions more hassle.
    Cold here but it gives it warm next week and says a hot summer!
    Chris

  21. DONNA HOW ARE YOU DOING DEAR HEART! THIKING ABOUTYOU AND SENDING YOU PRAYERS AND HEALING ANGELS. GOD BLESS
    XXX

  22. TO NIE I JUST DON’T KNOW HOW YOU DO ALL YOU MANAGE TO DO. WISHING YOUALL THE BEST. ARE YOU STILL ICING? YOU MUSTBEEXCITED YOUR FRIEND WILL BE ARRIVING SOON. ALL THE BESTTO YOU GUYS. LOVE YOU SWEET PEA. DO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF. PACE, PACE , PACE. GOD BLESS YOU.
    LOVE YOU GIRL.
    XXX

  23. Hey all ! Sue asked me to tell you that she will be off the blog until she can get her computer fixed. Or get a new one….which ever comes first. She didn’t want you to worry about her.
    Got run….love to all
    Tonie

    • Hey guys, I sent a post but it is under one of Suzanne’s posts. I don’t know why it isn’t at the end. So you will need to look for it. Thanks. Have a Blessed Sunday!

  24. Morning all
    Well, graduation weekend is over, thank goodness !! I survived, but barely. My back is still sore from the procedure and not stopped hurting yet. They told me it could take up to 3 weeks. so….hanging in. Or sitting in. I have to be off and swim shortly, the pool is off limits this afternoon, so …. FINALLY some sunshine today. I was beginning to feel I was Sue;s neighbor !! I must get the yard mowed today after swimming, then finish up the house cleaning….FM will be here tomorrow !!! I am aflutter with butterflies !!
    anyway, wanted to wish you all a good day, hope you are all doing well. Chris, I know you are still in the midst of trying to move.
    Love to all
    Tonie

  25. Donna
    Hi
    Let us know when you can and I pray all goes well
    Everything sorted in your cupboards ..it’s a good feeling .nice to get to stuff you need
    That’s why I don’t go swimming it’s too much moving about and hassle. Wet hair wet everything damp clothes
    Tonie how do you cope with all that drying and stuff…..
    .only hrs now to go till FM arrives..
    We went away today for a trip to the coast…..went around our old place..I’m so glad we sold …too much to do ..we can easy get to that area in an hour if we want….so good to get out
    Well I cancelled my inj again till 2 June …just so mixed about it
    Ive heard that backs improve after a few days.. lots of ice like Lyn says tonie
    Chris

  26. Good morning !
    Well, he is HERE ! Got in around 8:30 last evening. And we stayed up WAY too late talking, and I didn’t sleep good. Just someone else in the house, not used to it yet …lol. Woke up too early and we continued our talking, planning . Now I a, at work and it is going to be a LONG day !
    Chris, sometimes the injection is needed to calm down the nerve or bursa in the case. It is not painful, and you will not regret it I assure you. It doesn’t hurt as much as the hip moving. Plus you are favoring the hip when you stand, walk, etc which aggravates the back. It is a vicious circle.
    Donna, I have so much purging to do ! Especially with FM bringing his things, must make room. And so much stuff I really don’t need anymore, just keep becaus …….? I don’t know why ! But major cleanup is coming
    Lyn, hang I. There. My back has the feelings she said would be there a week ago. All the numbing came out yesterday and it is so sore. Ice and heat. I like heat the best really.
    I have to check in with Sue…she may be getting a new computer, so maybe she will be back online this week or so.
    Well, off here, time to wake Ms Alice up from her morning nap !
    Love to all
    Tonie

    • Hurray, Tonie! Not surprised with all the catching up, you’ve been apart quite a while! Now you have some help with some of those chores. 🙂 Yes, now that initial swelling/discomfort is passing, adding the heat sounds right. I find heat most helpful when I’m sore, too unless it is wound swelling, then I realize the value of the ice. Started my day with heat ask well 😉

  27. Good morning
    Man I miss Sue, hope she gets her computer situation fixed. I found out that FM has diver as well as you guys Chris, Jenny. He says it is a family trait. Yet we sit and eat strawberries. He says his is brought on by stress a lot, pain and discomfort.
    Yes, Lyn, help is here. We worked in the garden some last eve and on the deer fence. Today it is cloudy with a Chance of rain again !
    Now, I must get ready for work. Love you all. Hope you all have a wonderful day !
    Love
    Tonie

    • Hey guys, I haven’t heard back from the oncologist yet. I am hoping to hear something today.
      Tonie, so glad your FM has gotten here safely! I can only imagine how happy you are feeling. So happy for you! I think it is awesome that God has sent someone in your life that is willing to help you with all you have going on in your life. You deserve it! Hope the soreness and any pain goes away quickly. Have you ever had an S I joint injection? Has anyone else had one besides Sue? My pain doctor told me yesterday that he would like to try one on me since my pain is in both back and hips. What do you think? Is it very painful? He said I could get it without sedation. I’m willing to try. I get the bursa injections with no pain but he can only do one at the time.
      Lyn, hope you are feeling better.
      Chris, I will post as soon as I hear from the oncologist. Hopefully today! Hope you are ok. My room looks and feels so much better. We have one more day. We didn’t quite finish on Monday.
      Ok, I love you all and will chat more later!
      (((HUGS))) Donna

      • Donna
        Thanks for your prayers. Yes I have had the SI injections. A little pain( to me). But not that much as they numb you some. And my dr gives me a light dose of something to calm me. You will be fine. And it helps. Yes, I am happy FM is here. He is an awesome man who is a true friend as well
        Prayers that your test comes back good.
        Love Tonie

    • Hya tonie
      So good today to have him back with you to talk and help both together..magic
      I think I have heard diver can be handed down In families ….the seeds and nuts are a no no for me tho ..even currants can ,as well as any peel…Strange ,but on three times have had abcesses and on antibiotics when I’ve eaten them. Sitting eating strawberries together…..romantic
      Got the inj booked for next Thursday ..feel more positive with it now
      Hope the back is easing Chris

      • Hi everyone, I got the call from my oncologist late Friday afternoon. He said my numbers were down some but still high. So he wants to go ahead and schedule a bone scan and a PET scan. He has to get the ok from medicare to pay for them. I hope they get set up soon so I don’t have to sit around and worry about it. I will let you know when they are scheduled. I guess it is better to get them done than wonder about it. Hope everyone has a great weekend.
        Love to you all.
        Tonie I have not received my stuff you sent me yet.
        Donna

      • Donna, prayers for a clean scan and that it gets done quickly and for Peace of mind while waiting …..Jo

        P.s. Suzanne wanted me to tell you she wrote you a long response here on the blog, but it didn’t show up.

  28. Donna
    I’m so sorry to hear that..I hope they get the permission thru quick and you have the scans . I pray they are clear and your worry gone. Also you have peace of mind while you wait …
    Thinking of you love Chris

  29. Hi All, Well, I’m back online but feeling the stress of a new computer. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a beauty but I’m just awkward with it. I had a gal come over and help me get it all set up on microsoft 10. She does it for a living and is very knowledgeable. My old computer crashed twice but came back on but with the new mic. 10 on it and I was lost sooooo, bought a new Toshiba and it’s great…or will be when it becomes second hand to me. Hopefully this same friend will help me get the blog back online if and when I hear from Natalie who was posting it previously.
    Donna, I know how you are feeling, just went through that last week with two new lumps in my remaining breast and had two days before ultrasound proved them to be cysts. Prayers for you dear friend, of course.
    Tonie, glad your friend is there and thought of you all day last Tuesday. I almost called you to say, “Put that man down!” So happy for both of you. We must talk soon.
    Chris, hope all is well for you and your plans. Thinking of each of you as I get used to this new computer. Love you all, Sue

    • Hi Sue, glad to see you are back on! New equipment takes some getting used to. Glad you have someone to help you. That is always a good thing! Glad everything is going ok with you, well as ok as can be. So glad the lumps proved to be cysts and nothing else. I admit I am a little scared but I would rather do the tests and find out either way so I am not wondering if their is something somewhere. I just told my husband at supper that it is nerve wracking after 15 years of being “clean and no evidence of disease”. He said he would feel the same way but he is praying for me!
      I asked a question about SI joint injections when your computer was down. No one answered so I was wondering. Haven’t you had these injections? My pain doctor thinks it might help me since my pain is in my back and both hips. He said I could probably do it without sedation. If you have had one, are they very painful? I guess a little pain for a little while is better than pain on and on everyday. Do they help you?
      Hope you have a nice Memorial Day! I will most likely be working in my bedroom to finish things up.
      Love you Sue and glad to have you back on. We all missed you. Donna

      • Sue, I just saw where Tonie replied to my question about the SI joint injection. I had not seen it before I had written to you. Would like your opinion as well!
        Will chat later. Donna

  30. Hya Sue
    So good to hear you and I understand well about a new comp. love hate relationship!
    Things ticking along slowly here but at least in right direction
    Had to cancel physio for my knees as my hip too sore….have inj on Thursday in am and sjogrens appt in pm…all go!
    Seeing DD here for lunch tomorrow .its a holiday here
    Yea I’ve been athinkin about tonie….such a good time for her
    Ok gonna sleep now ….well if I can
    Chris

  31. Hello…..Sue glad you are back online, good luck with windows10, not as easy as what went before, taken me ages to sort it all out, and it updates all the time, so getting used to it is difficult. I hope you are keeping as well as you can, and like the others, I was so happy to hear the lumps found in your breast were nothing but cysts…..great result.
    Horrible weather here, like Chris, I am wearing winter stuff and socks….awful.
    Petrol strike here in France, been running for two weeks and not a sign it being on the wane, so very worried we won’t have fuel t get to our hospital appointments next month, especially as my tumours have grown to more than twice the size they were.
    On a lighter note, my Mom has been able to move back in to her apartment one and a half years since the fire happened that caused her to become homeless, just in time for her 93rd birthday.
    It was great to see the kids when they came at the beginning of the month, but the emptiness when they went back, and the fact that I was ill for half their visit, was not so good, don’t know when they will be back….maybe next year.
    Trouble with my daughter again, she is refusing to communicate, I was getting spiteful emails because I couldn’t solve her problems by throwing cash her way, so now I am a roten egg, despite being the one member of the family supporting her in any way I could, but even though she is mine, she makes me feel ashamed with her attitude to everyone who has worked hard to get where they are, and she hasn’t……like the world owes her a living, even thoug she doesn’t want to work for it….I have had to step away from it all, Tim my boy, and my DH think its a lot of the reason for my depression, I get upset when I can’t solve her problems, but to get all this abuse thrown in too, has proved too much for me…..hence the long absence…..
    Anyway despite not being able to get on here, and sometimes not even being able to read all the posts, I have a general idea of how things have been going with everyone……..
    Donna….been praying that all will be well with you my friend.
    Chris….hoping all will be ok with your DD, and DG, and of course the house.
    Tonie……thank you for all the updates.
    Much love to everyone on here, never stopped praying for you all.
    Whew !! I’m knackered now, think I need a cup of Yorkshire brew……..ta ra for now…….Jennie

  32. Good morning all
    So glad to see Sue back online ! Donna, praying for good results for you as well. Jennie, I do so know what you go through with your daughter, as I did so myself. It is hard not to worry, you are like me, am THE FIXER ! But, if you will let it go, step back, give it to HIM who can solve it……it is great !
    All is good here on my little farm. Each day brings us closer in our relationship, talking and sharing. Working together. Today we go to Roanoke to get the other side of my back finished. Still hurting and sore some on the original, but it is better each day.
    Watching my FM do his “gym” He works out everyday. Wish I could move that way. But he has many years done this with running and karate, so is in much better shape than I. But he helps me with my exercising with ideas for helping my back and such.
    Hope you all have a wonderful day. Chris, how goes the house capades ? And Lyn, I thought of you Sunday, we went walking on the trail here and enjoyed it so much. Lots of horses, dogs, and birds. Got all my steps in yesterday and Sunday.
    Love to all
    Tonie

    • Hi Tonie…….I think Nikki could be back on drugs…..can’t be sure, the fact that she is not returning my mail tells me that could be what is going on……I can’t force her to talk to me, and as I don’t live in the UK, its beyond my control in what I can do…..just praying for her is all I can do.
      I hope you enjoyed Roanoke, and your back held up, and I am glad your man is helping you with exercises, so many things you can share now……love you x Jennie

  33. Hi all
    Tonie
    Good to get that back done now ..take it easy for a few days
    The house move is still on but hanging by a thread the wait just goes on with nothing happening the one side ,whilst everyone else is waiting to go ahead
    Sounds one fit man tonie….so good to have one of them around the house! 😄
    Jen
    Like tonie and you I’m too a fixer but it don’t help sometimes it’s gotto be sorted by the person themselves .it hurts to not be able to do it but that’s how it is . I suppose they’ve got to learn to be fixers ..
    It’s so worrying I know but she’ll come around daughters do . She’ll be feeling it how she’s reacted later.
    Well my hip ,both hips sore.but have that inj Thursday morning not looking forward to it stuff goes wrong on me last few years
    Hope all ok..hope you got that OK to,go ahead with scans Donna
    Sue
    How you
    Chris

    • Hi Chris……Sorry you are having to put up with all the waiting for your house to go through, hang on in there, it will happen as it is meant to.
      I’m afraid my daughter does not do compromise or anything close……when she decides to shut down, that’s it, could be a couple of years or more till I hear from her……I can only gain news from Tim, and she will only tell him what she wants him to know too…….now he lives a few hundred miles from her, he is in the same boat as I am.
      Best of luck for Thursday love, e thinking of you…..Jen x

  34. Sue, good to see you back. Be patient, you’ll get there with the new PC.
    Donna, prayers to you.
    Chris, prayers as well. You’ve had so much on your plate. I do hope it slows a bit soon.
    Jennie, hang into here. This Mrs. Fixit “gets it”. Tonie’s advice is the real deal. 😉
    Tonie, I thought of you today. I hadn’t been on here, but the timing was right for that other side. Hope all went well. 3 of the 4 of us here are fitness oriented. It is helpful to have each other’s support. I’ve been working with a very talented practitioner with some body work and Pilates. Today was body work oriented and something I really thing SB would benefit from. It is also something I may be able to show him and help him with 🙂 I’m excited to do some more work myself this week and see. I really feel I’m on the right track with this and think it will take some stress off my joints. 🙂
    Best to all! The weather here has been beautiful and nice and warm! I’m loving it. The pup and I have been getting some nice walks in on the Rail Trail – nice and shady on those hot days. Some days the walks are longer than others, but all are good for both of us. She has put a little too much weight on I think, but DH doesn’t seem concerned and I have a hard time getting him to take it seriously. Both of us feed her, so it is a bit of a problem. Hm…
    Blessings, one and all!

    • Hi Lyn……I too am in to fitness, do Pilates and Isometrics daily, as well as going on my Treadmill…..its a way of life to me, and the only way to get my body going, just can’t get out of bed and start the day the way others do…..can you?
      Good luck with all you are doing to help yourself, its rewarding when you get relief, no-matter how small. I have stopped taking all anti-inflams for the last month, but still needing muscle relaxers and paracetamol, but tummy feeling better for it……can you send some of your weather over to France, as I think we are having a Summer by-pass, a bit like Spring which we never had too……..keep well…..Jennie x

  35. Hi all
    Jen
    Would DD be on drugs if she is short if money…or is that why she needs it do you think.perhaps that’s why she is being like she is to you……difficult one…you can only leave it till she gets intouch and maybe send the odd (how are you )even if she doesn’t answer..I always say it’s best to keep in contact even if they don’t
    Had the central heating on and socks on so damp and cold
    Gives it nice next week tho
    Inj tomorrow not looking forward to it.. Hospital appt in pm
    Do you have to rest after the injection?
    Chris

  36. Dear Friends, well dears, it is time for an update on what is going on in my life. During the last three weeks I have seen a pain management doctor who was a complete jerk and waited for him to send an order out here but he wouldn’t do all the paper work involved for in injection of the sacroiliac joints and he wanted me to have it done there. I would not let that man touch me. I prefer it to be done here, anyway where I know the radiologist and have had several other procedures performed. He ordered some creme for my tush but I don’t put much faith in it either but think it would probably be great for a smaller joint, not the SI’s. I think when I had pneumonia in April I coughed that joint out of place due to the extreme pain I’ve been in. Out of the blue I got a call from my rheumy last week’s office who said they had an opening the very net day so I wouldn’t have to wait until my appt. in Sept. I took it even though it meant another trip to Portland. She has now ordered the procedure and the paperwork is being processed. I also had a scare with two new cysts on my breast and one on my foot. All are believed to be benign, thank God. I then had a deep corn removed from the bottom of my foot. Didn’t hurt. Both involved X-rays and one ultrasound.
    In the meantime we had a GD graduate HS who is now planning on going to nursing college.. and a GS who just got his bachelor’s degree and is also now going into nursing. So proud of all six of our grands.
    Jim’s last day of work was yesterday so he is now officially retired. Whoopee. Tomorrow we are going to Portland to the oncology office for shots in both hips for the cancer and an IV infusion for the osteoporosis. As you all know I had computer problems and will eventually love my new one when I get accustomed to it. Also, we hope to get the blog up and running very soon if it is meant to be. Tonie, yes, our Tonie, is trying to help me. Wouldn’t it be great if we could? Hopeful here. It is nice to read about all of you again and get updated on how your lives are going.
    Jennie, I am heartsick over your Nikki and pray she reaches out for help very soon. I can’t even begin to imagine how you are feeling and hope you get some heat and a sign of summer to help a bit. I hope you are feeling better and am sorry to hear the growths on your feet or is it foot have gotten larger. I think of you often and now that I’m back online we’ll see more of each other.
    Chris, don’t you hate the waiting for the wheels of paperwork to turn for your buying of the new home. Hope all moves come quickly. I’m glad you’re getting that hip injected and yes you should rest. Be sure to let us know how it goes. In the meantime are you still cleaning things out? It’s a big job but will feel so good when it’s over and you’re more organized. I can’t believe that Jim brought home four boxes of stuff from his office. Funny how much he accumulated at the job in 17 years. Yes, they had a party for him with a cake and many of the older retired guys stopping by to see him, including the retired former sheriff. I know he was pleased.
    Donna, hang in there dear and get those scans for peace of mind. I know you deal with so very much, just like I do and know it isn’t fun but you are strong. Breast cancer is one of the sneakiest of all cancers, as we both know. Prayers for you dear friend.
    Lyn, I envy you your vigor in spite of the pain and I know Sadie appreciates it thoroughly. As I recall you were going to try a new NSAID. Is it helping you with the joint pain? Hope the kids are doing well as ever.
    Tonie, you and I have talked on the phone so there is not much left to be said. Hope yesterday went well for you.
    Jo, home at last? Are you still showing your house? I know how much work that is and hope your tushie has recovered from your trip to see your dear Mom.
    Forgive me if I’ve forgotten anyone or any details. So much to catch up with and so much has been going on in my own life I am still recovering. Love to each of you…Sue

    • Wow Sue…..that was an extra special long post! I know all you have been thru. And then for the computer to act up! I’m sure they know when to mess people about !
      I hope tomorrow is not to much strain on your back and all goes well
      Jim home now ….It will be so much easier for everything..and it sounds he had a good last day there
      It would be great to have you and tonie fix the blog
      I have to go to the hospital in the afternoon so that’ll entail a walk,I hope that won’t upset the injection
      No more movement of the house only contact to say all is ok…whatever that means
      Anyway good to hear from you sue love chris

    • Sue, Yes, I am home at last!!! Still recuperating from all the traveling and waiting in LONG TSA security lines in Chicago. It was a nightmare. The lines were miles long and people were missing their flights because of it. I barely made my flight and I arrived at the airport 3 hours before my flight. Never again, or not for a long time anyway. I am glad I got to see my mom and meet her new caregiver, a wonderful Ukranian lady I think I told you about her already. She is very attentive and patient with my mother who can be extremely difficult most of the time. I hope she lasts and doesn’t get tired of her ways. She is also an excellent cook and I got to enjoy her tasty dishes while staying there.
      So glad to see you back on line. It seems like a long time and You have been missed by all. I hope you can work something out with Tonie to get a new blog underway. It will happen all in good time. Are you getting the hang of your new computer and the 10 version? I have resisted downloading the new version. I probably should start using it, too.
      I am so happy for you that your DH is officially retired now. I know it will be nice for you to have him around and to help with things, too. It sounds like he was very much liked where he worked.
      My house is still for sale, but we haven’t been putting much effort into trying to sell it. We are doing it by owner, and I have had a lot of other things on my plate which come first. Now that the HOT weather is upon us here in the Valley of the Sun, I don’t think we will have many lookers, but you never know. I did find the house I want and it is still for sale, too. So maybe things will work out.
      Sue, I hope your new pain management clinic will work out for you. I know firsthand about how it feels to go to a horrible pain doctor. I saw one several years ago like the one you saw. She made me feel like I was faking things and told me I don’t see any reason for your pain. She was rude, nasty and I left there in tears. I filed a complaint against her.
      I will be thinking of you as you make your trip into Portland. I hope it will not be too too difficult on you. Love, Jo

      Chris, wishing you good luck with your hip injection. I, too, have had one a couplle years ago for trochanteric bursitis in my left hip. It helped, but felt sore for a few days, so don’t overdo things.

      Hope everyone is doing well and wishing you all a good night. X

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      • Jo
        Good to hear from you .it must feel settling to have a good carer for your mom. It is so difficult to get the right person
        The travelling does sound a nightmare .such as life today tho that such stuff is necessary ,such a worry ,at least it is done now.
        I’m sure some of these Drs must be on some sort of power trip!
        It’s such a bind selling houses you feel unsettled and transient. The time will be right when it is I think for you
        Yes I aim to rest after the inj. Just not looking forward to it
        Chris

      • Jo, so pleased you survived such an arduous trip. How awful traveling has become and if you have pain from the waiting it is three times worse. Yes, you did mention your Mom’s caregiver and she will prove to be a treasure I suspect. You’re so right. There is no rush with the house unless you want to get the other but funny, isn’t it how our priorities change when we suffer pain. First we have to make it through one day at a time and try to feel better. The doctor you saw years ago sounds hideous. Do take care in all your lovely sun and know you’re loved. Sue

  37. Sue
    Reread your post missed a lot
    You’ve got clever grands you should be proud
    Yea and what a jerk that dr does sound…your too vulnerable when they’ve got a needle
    X

    • Chris dear, so good to be back and connected. I am sorry it was so long…my entry. Believe it or not there is a lot I left out about that jerk of a doctor. I have another appt. with a different pain clinic in July. My rheumy says that one is great. She also said she had heard a lot of bad things about that last one even though they are in the same building she is in. She had two patients tell her he made them feel like criminals. He had three pages to fill out about if you had been arrested for drugs or drunk driving, etc. and 12 more with weird questions.
      Hang in there with the hip and no the walk shouldn’t hurt you but do take it slowly and safely. Look forward to the day you get in your lovely new home. Much love, Sue

      • Hi all, Just a quick note to let everyone know my scans have been set up! Friday, June 3, I will get my bone scan and Monday, June 6, I will get my PET scan. I am glad they were set up so quickly! I am at peace that everything is going to be ok! As soon as I know, I will let you all know. I will wait until I get the results back before I set up the SI joint injection.
        Tonie, got your package today. Looking forward to trying it.
        I am praying for the rest of you and all everyone is going through. Thanks for everyone ‘s prayers, I can feel them! I am signing off as I keep dozing off.
        Love, Donna

  38. As I said to Jo what is it with some Drs…..bad home life or a power trip . If others Drs can say that about him he must have a bad reputation……good to have this new one and feel confident
    Yep I’ll take it easy after the inj. Maybe the dr will tell me to cancel the appt.dont like to do so at a late stage tho
    Thinking of you today with your trip
    Loved your post ….like them long and newsy
    Chris

    • Chris, I have found in my years of nursing there are all sorts of doctors, some awful, some ornery and others very filled with compassion. I think pain specialists see more than their share of those seeking drugs and they become jaded in their approach unfortunately. I’ve seen that in Emergency doctors as well as others. Oh well, took me awhile to get over but trying to learn from the experience. Hope the next one is better. I’m glad you’re getting your injection and know it will make you feel better. Dreading tomorrow but enjoy the oncology office for it’s comfort and friendliness in what could be a grim place…but isn’t. Take care of yourself dear friend, Love, Sue

  39. Hi Chris, I don’t know if you will get a chance to read this before your appointment but if you do just know that I have been praying for you and will continue to pray for you and your doctor who is doing the injection. The fear of the unknown is so hard for us as we face something new. Especially when we fear it is going to cause pain. I have been there. I was so afraid of a procedure one time I literally threw up as they were getting ready to do it. I stopped them and cancelled it and went home. When I went back later and had it done, I was so amazed that it wasn’t painful and it helped me for 6 months. I was also hesitate to get my first hip bursa injection but my doctor kept telling me it wasn’t going to hurt. I had it done and honestly I did not have any pain. He told me to ice it later that evening and I was fine. I had no swelling and no pain after the numbing medicine wore off. It is one injection with the numbing medicine added. I know every doctor is different but Tonie told you too it didn’t hurt. You will be surprised at how much it helps you. I sure wish I was close to you so I could go with you dear. Remember my prayer for you is one you like. I pray that God gives you that peace that passes all understanding. I pray for extra peace and an excellent doctor in Jesus name . I love you Chris. You are going to feel so much better in a little while. Love, Donna

  40. Okay, for now I a, having to post as Chronic Sue, so I have to figure out why it doesn’t like to post me as me ! It has been a while since I did a webmaster, so say a prayer. Lots of things going on with everyone. Prayers all around. My back is doing better, the last ablation went well. A little more painful in this one and a three hour wait ! Yesterday Ms Alice had picked up a stomach virus and I had to be at her beck and call. 7 changes in six hours along with a shower and all that goes with it. I was exhausted ! My FM fed me a wonderful salad. My personal chef who can fix salads, coffee and tea ! Lol. Getting greens from the garden now, which is wonderful. All coming on good. Getting ready to start work on the porch. We are still debating buying something or adding on, but he wants to put the porch in regardless so I have it better in the winter ( sigh) .
    My Nikki has had her James to take off with his sister on a ” 3 week vacation” ! And left his kid with her. I could kill her anyway. For taking him laying around not working, but this ? However what can you do ? Just give support and unwanted advise huh ? I must say I am envious when I see other kids whose lives are on track….but time will tell.
    Sitting with Ms Alice, waiting on her to wake. Her daughter had to sleep in with her all night up and down. So another shower today and change sheets. Earning my pay. Tomorrow we are going to the rodeo. Hope you all have a wonderful day.
    Sue, thinking of you as my sitter is not happy today. Off to get an ice pack
    Love to all
    Tonie

  41. Hi all
    Love to answer you tonie and Donna ,but daren’t Ive lost two long ones twice
    Just seeing if this goes ..ill keep trying seems only my short ones go thru
    Chris

  42. HELLO……JUST HAD MAIL FROM CHRIS, SHE IS HAVING DIFFICULTY POSTING OFF AND ON, I SEE SHE HAS INFORMED YOU ANYWAY, BUT AS SHE REQUESTED I HAVE DONE IT TOO.
    A LOT GOING ON NOW ON HERE, AND I HAVE MISSED A DAY IT SEEMS, JUST TO SAY ANYWAY, THAT THE PETROL STRIKE IS NOW OVER….WHEW!! SOMETHING TO SMILE ABOUT……ON THE DOWN SIDE, SEVERE FLOODING IN PARIS, AND SET TO SPREAD OVER MOST OF NORTHERN FRANCE WHERE WE ARE….BUT WE ARE 20MINS FROM WATER, AND ON HIGH GROUND, SO HOPEFULLY WE SHOULD BE OK, BUT EQUALLY WORRIED FOR EVERYONE ELSE.
    SUE…TONIE AND CHRIS….I TOOK YOUR ADVICE REGARDING NIKKI, I SENT HER A MAIL, LETTING HER KNOW I AM HERE FOR HER, BUT ONCE AGAIN SHE HAS IGNORED ME…..ITS SO UPSETTING, I DON’T KNOW WHAT IS HAPPENING TO HER AT ALL.

    DONNA ….I WILL BE THINKING OF YOU TOMORROW.

    CHRIS….SORRY YOU DIDN’T GET THE INJECTIONS, BUT LET’S HOPE THE DOCTOR KNOWS BEST IF HE THINKS THEY WON’T BE GOOD FOR YOU.

    TONIE…SO GLAD THE ABLATION WENT WELL, HOPE YOU ARE RESTING THAT BACK NOW AND NOT TRYING TO DO TOO MUCH, YOU HAVE A MAN TO DO ALL THE HEAVY STUFF NOW.

    SUE….I AM GLAD YOU WILL HAVE A NEW PAIN CLINIC IN JULY, DIDN’T LIKE THE SOUND OF THE OTHER ONE BEFORE, AND NOW WHAT YOU HAVE SAID ABOUT PATIENTS FEELING LIKE CRIMINALS, EVEN MORE SO.
    I TOO AM SO HAPPY JIM IS OFFICIALLY RETIRED, AND YOU WON’T BE ALONE SO MUCH…….HOPE YOU ARE HAVING BETTER WEATHER THAN US, STILL NOT HAD THE BREAKTHROUGH TO SUMMER WE SO DESPERATELY NEED, ITS SO DEPRESSING, I AM DOING MY BEST NOT TO GET SUCKED BACK DOWN THE HOLE, WITH EVERYTHING THAT HAS BEEN HAPPENING, ITS A STRUGGLE.

    HAVE A GOOD DAY EACH……MUCH LOVE….JENNIE X

    PS…..SUZANNE IS HAVING DIFFICULTY POSTING TOO.

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