Note: please allow me to share an older blog with you which I wrote several years ago. It seems appropriate to this very strange and sad time we are currently experiencing. Enjoy, keep your chin or chins up and take life one day at a time.
ATTITUDE IS YOUR LAUNCHING PAD
I frequently cared for individuals in my past as an RN, who thought they were the only ones who were suffering. That attitude still appears to be thriving, today. What is this whole living with pain business, some morbid contest to see who’s suffered the most?
It’s far too easy to slide down into that “hole” of depression and self-pity and think you’re the most unfortunate, the most tortured and the most miserable of them all. If that’s your approach you’ll get a prize for certain; all you have to do is win. Your prize is a life of darkness engulfed in pain and suffering. Your attitude will stink. Your friends and family will eventually resent you and remember, it can get awfully dark down in that “hole,”where you will be all alone.
I have many goals and hopes for my life but the big one is to avoid this whole contest idea. I know as a former RN, many individuals crave attention and love to talk about their health. It’s the old bit that roughly means, “Do you want to see my scar?”
Sometimes it gets worse with age as many elderly are lonely and feeling bereft but there are other individuals who just love the attention they get from describing and embracing any health problem that comes along. I love to quote the wonderful actress Rosalind Russell, who suffered the effects of rheumatoid arthritis for many years. She says in herautobiography, “There are people who love to tell you how sick they are. Ask them how they feel, and they bore you with the details. They’ll write it out for you, carve it in granite. They want the attention.”
It was very difficult for her to come to grips with talking about her painful bouts of arthritis in her book but she finally decided it might help someone. That’s basically what I also decided to do. She finally succumbed to cancer and when asked why she didn’t mention cancer in her book she said, “One disease to a book is enough.” I love that.
Let us all look for answers, solutions and a better way to live. Attaining a positive, cheerful attitude is not always possible but it is a worthwhile goal. To quote Ms. Russell once more, from a prayer her husband found tucked away after she died, “Keep my mind free of the recital of endless details; give me wings to get to the point. Seal my lips onaches and pains. They are increasing, and the love of rehearsing them is becoming sweeter as the years go by.” As an actress, she never wanted to bore her audience.
Please let me share with all of you some of my personal ways to work on my own, often sagging, attitude.
You’ll never get off the ground if you don’t find a positive attitude so don’t let a bad one ground you when a more pleasantly expectant, hopeful attitude could be your launching pad. Always remember: It’s what lives in your head that counts.