THE SECRET OF GIVING

Many years ago I read a true story in a GUIDEPOSTS publication I have never forgotten. One of my favorite actresses/comedians, Carol Burnet told her true story about how she got started in show business. I thought of it today and looked it up to be sure my sharing with you is accurate.

Carol was from a poor background, growing up with her mother, sister and grandmother, living on welfare. In fact, when she later became famous with a TV show of her own, that little gesture she did at the end of her show by tugging on her ear, was a private sign of affection for her beloved grandma. At the time of this incident, she was a student majoring in drama at UCLA and living in Los Angeles with her family. She and a group of her fellow drama students were invited to a party given by one of their professors and asked to perform for a group of his friends and business professionals. She recalls singing a number from ANNIE GET YOUR GUN with a fellow student. After all of the students at the party had performed a feature from a Broadway musical, the guests were served a buffet dinner. She said a kindly man came up to her, as she was standing in the buffet line, and asked her what she intended to do with her life.

She told him she wanted to go into the theater and he told her she should go to New York. She replied she didn’t have the money to get there, and it wasn’t possible at that time. He then proceeded to tell her he would lend her $1000 to get her there and to help her get started. She relays in the story she was stunned and excited but thought he might be up to “no good,” and refused him. A few minutes later he brought his wife over to meet her, probably to allay her fears. He then made his offer over again and told her what the conditions would be.

Carol states in the article, “First, if I did meet with success, I was to repay him the loan without interest in five years. Next I was to never reveal his identity to anyone. Finally, if I accepted his offer, I was to eventually pass the kindness along, to help some other person in similar circumstances when I was able to do so.”

She was to think it over and give him a call. Her mother and grandmother didn’t like the idea of her going so far away from home but she accepted the offer anyway. It was like a dream come true for her. She relates in a humorous manner that she and her singing partner, who had also been offered the same agreement, both accepted. After they left the gentleman’s office the next day in a dazed condition, they realized they didn’t have enough gas in the car to get home since the man was in San Diego and they had to return to LA. They had to find a bank and cash their checks to buy gasoline.

The rest of her story is history and for those of us who have enjoyed her talents and wonderful spirit for many years, this simply made it more wondrous.  She did pay the man back the $1000 in exactly five years, kept his identity a secret and eventually came to accept his theories for herself. She shared scriptures she came across over the years about the importance of humility and privacy in giving, as stated in the Bible in Matthew 6:2-4.

Ms Burnett continued in the article to speak about the principles of giving in secret and not for vanity as well as the fundamental fact that giving to those in need in private, creates a force of goodness that is lost when one brags about one’s “good” deeds.

I have discovered this in my own life if one loses the true benefits of helping and giving to others if one goes around “tooting their own horn.” A simple act of kindness and generosity, even one that starts out with good intentions, can become rancid, self-serving and totally without the original intent, which was pure goodness. I find I must ask myself, what is the intention and secret of giving. Isn’t it to give to one in need and not to be boastful and filled with one’s own self-bloating? Aren’t you as disgusted as I when you see someone telling you all about their good deeds?

This road of giving, caring and loving has to be a free-flowing stream. It cannot be bottled up but has to keep going. I know what it is to build a dam across that flow and to become totally self-absorbed due to pain, changes in lifestyle or grief. For those of us who think we are the only one with problems, we need to get out of our own plight and take a look beyond the mirror of our own lives. Windows are so much lovelier than mirrors, don’t you think? The vision changes so much more often and that’s more stimulating, don’t you think?

Self-indulgence is easy to slip into when you feel rotten. Pain and suffering due to disease make a great excuse to forget we are part of the human condition. I often see or talk to those who act as if this pain business is a contest. What is the prize to be won? Consider it the boobie prize because you make yourself look like one when you become the center of your own universe. Isn’t it ugly and dark enough in your life?

The secret of giving is the lack of expectation of return. You don’t give for that reason because that isn’t how it works. The giving opens the doors to your life in a way nothing else can do. It’s not to be confused with karma or the boomerang affect, however it is similar.

If you’re mumbling to yourself, “What does she expect me to do? She doesn’t know how sick I am. She obviously doesn’t have as many problems as I do.”

The only answer I have for that is what possible difference could it make? If I have fifteen burdens to carry every day, burdens of pain and change forced upon me and you have 16, what have you accomplished and what have I won…or lost? Instead of counting our miseries, let’s learn to count our joys. Part of that joy is in giving.

We may have limited opportunities when we are living a compromised existence, but the opportunities for giving are endless and fall like rain from the sky. Let me count a few, by sharing a list, okay?

You and I can give:

A smile

A hug

A coin or dollar

A lift emotionally by sharing comfort or a funny incident

A bag of groceries

A large box of clothes we never wear to a local shelter

A case of soup to a local food bank

A word of encouragement

A book

A used toy no longer played with

A conversation to one obviously heavy with loneliness

Going the extra mile

A word of thanks to the box boy who helps one out to the car

Knowledge

Some small gift to bring a laugh

A flower

A cake or plate of cookies

A compliment …

And the list goes on…Now it’s your turn to make your own list. You have something to give and someone who needs what you have to give. Find the secret. Blessings.

102 thoughts on “THE SECRET OF GIVING

  1. Sue this is so welcoming today. I’ve had a few weeks where I’ve felt more like a burden than someone that is able to give more than I get. I’ve made a few “interesting” choices like doing snow removal off my roof without help or even a means to get help (from the ground not climbing on the roof) and even though I paid for the choice physically, emotionally it made me feel more of myself. I did choose to keep my nursing license active, completed my continuing education and paid the state for the license (all on line). I’m preparing for my cross country drive to spend a little time with my ranching friend Stacey, get on the back of a horse, see the Sequoias and rocky mountains for the first time in my life. I know most of the eastern half of the well, can close my eyes and see landscapes but have never been west. It is admittedly a bucket list type of trip. I do have friend coming with me to drive when I can’t, take care of me and my sweet Nessie when I need it, make sure I behave (gesh) and am able to accomplish what I set out to do. I look back at what I used to do as a volunteer, and feel like I don’t make much of a contribution now. I’ve always done something as a volunteer (even working on the ambulance for nearly a decade without compensation), for as long as I can remember. My parents were a wonderful example of doing for others without expectations of even a thank you, to do things under the radar as it were. I still do things at times like a prayer shawl and a care kit (mouth care things, bandanas etc) for friends going through chemo, but it just doesn’t seem like I do for others enough now. I do pray for others at least daily and often briefly during the day. I just wish I could physically be present like I used to be. Guess I’m feeling sorry for myself and indulging in some grieving for my former self. Losing Pow and Cupid in the past few months hasn’t helped but in hindsight, neither old girl could have tolerated the snow levels we’ve had this year. Nessie is doing well but the other 2 shelties are struggling. I’ve run out of places to pile snow from the narrow path between my door and carport. The snow piles at the end of the drive are taller than I am but my mailbox is snuggled nicely in the snow so it will stay up the rest of the winter (neighbors boxes went down weeks ago and have had to get post office boxes). The packed snow path Nessie has made to the back yard is about 2 feet deep, it will be months before it melts. Michigan isn’t for sissies I guess.

    • Bobsled Laura, So good to hear from you. I did see that you completed your licensing renewal on FB. My attendance on there has been a bit sketchy of late..due to eyes. Congrats on doing that. I think you bucket list trip is a wonderful idea and am glad you will have company to make it more doable and more fun. I say forget behaving and have a blast..bust the bucket.
      My gosh it sounds like you’re in igloo conditions or at least your mailbox is. Sorry there is so much and think you’re doing a fabulous job just keeping up normal…whatever that is…life. Glad Nessie is hanging in and feel your pain for the two older dogs. We have snow right now and our dogs react so differently. Our old Jakie pees on the way out and want right back in and our little Georgie is snow crazy. He plows across it nose first, spins out in it and digs like crazy. Thankfully, since our last storm he’s developed a bit more sensitivity and sense about coming in when he gets cold. Now he’s like a kid and wants out ALL the time to romp in it.
      I’m excited for you in regards to your trip and look forward to your keeping us up to date. The West is such fun and very different. The giant trees are a sight to behold. Hope you get over to the Pacific Ocean somewhere along the coast.
      Wow, I’m still reeling from all that cold and snow you are dealing with. Much love, Sue

      • Sue I’m around 5’4″ and standing on the packed snow (just fallen not shoveled there) the top of my 6′ fence is shoulder height lol. The snow piles from the driveway are over my head. We get lake effect snow in addition to storm snow so it does get deep. There have been roof failures here and there as well as roofs leaking from “ice dams” on roofs. I don’t have worries of either as I’ve had house roof raking 2 times since Christmas. That takes tons of weight off the roof (literally) and allows the snow melt to runoff and not back up under the roof shingles. We won’t have much lake effect now as the lake is freezing over which prevents it. The storm systems of course cause significant pain and I know Lynlee and Tonie are experiencing the same.

        I worry about the eye issues. I know we are prone to them and I would feel isolated if I had them. I see my opthomologist the day before I leave for the west.

        Sent from my iPhone

    • BOBSLED….THAT SOUNDS WONDERFUL, OH I WISH I COULD COME, IT WOULD BE PART OF MY BUCKET LIST TOO, TO SEE ALL THOSE SIGHTS ONE CAN ONLY DREAM OF…GOOD LUCK TO YOU PET, YOU WILL DO ALL THOSE THINGS AND MORE……..LOVE JENNIE X

  2. Sue:
    Wonderful. I love Carol Burnette, and her story has always made me think it was the key to her success. She never made a press conference whenever she did something good. Not like MOST of the stars these days. Not like MOST people these days. Jesus told us not to be like the Publican and pray out loud and beat your breast and holler about how holy you are. Do it in private and you are double blessed for it. This widow who gave her last coin to the poor was more blessed than the rich man who gave a bunch. No matter how little it seems we do or can do, it is always a lot to the person receiving it. God bless
    Love
    Tonie

    • Thanks for adding your remarks Tonie. Indeed, there is giving and there is giving. There should be two words for it,don’t you think? You’re sounding better…tummy calming down from the new drug? Love you, Sue

  3. BSL:
    You will LOVE the west !! Driving out you are gonna have a blast. Stop and see EVERYTHING you want to. Don’t say “wait” do it now and have fun !!

  4. Sue, great blog and so true!
    We are all recovering from the flu and I sure hope that spring is on the way.
    Love and hugs ~ Pommum.

  5. Enjoyed the blog Sue,Thankyou it is certainly one to think about .
    AND BSL I am in awe of what you have done AND what you are gonna do
    How long will it take you?
    Will you be able to keep In touch with us?
    Now brave you are

    Tonie had a good birthday?

    Sue
    Eyes any better at all ?

    Suzanne
    You have a goo w.end too

    Lyn
    How’s all the dizziness with your menfolk?

    Very windy here and terrible floods over the south west…people’s homes been evacuated ,villages emptied.its such sad news all the time
    Chris

    • Chris dear, I always try to include a lot to think about. Life is simple yet complicated..know what I mean? So tragic to hear about your flooding..how awful that would be to have to leave your homes and not know what you will find when you return. We’ve had snow for the last few days. Cold yet beautiful. Do be good to yourself..Love,, Sue

  6. SUE..THANK YOU FOR YET ANOTHER GREAT BLOG……….MY MOTTO HAS ALWAYS BEEN NEVER GIVE TO RECIEVE, SO I PARTICULARLY LIKED THIS ONE………..LORD ABOVE THIS WEATHER IS FREAKING ME OUT, WHAT’S YOURS LIKE? IT CAN’T SEEM TO MAKE ITS MIND UP, BLACK AS HELL ONE MINUTE, HOWLING GALES AND RAIN, THAT SUDDENLY STOP AND THE SUN BLAZES THROUGH, THEN BACK TO BLACK AGAIN……DID SOME BAKING TODAY…EVER MADE A FATLESS/EGGLESS/MILKLESS CAKE….NO?…NEITHER HAD I TILL TODAY, GOT IT OFF THE INTERNET, “GOOD HOUSEKEEPING” LOTS OF FRUIT AND SPICE, SMELL LIKES CHRISTMAS AGAIN IN THE KITCHEN. HOW ARE YOUR EYES SUE……ANY BETTER?? I WISH YOU A GOOD WEEKEND, AND LOVE YOU HEAPS…….LOVE JEN X

    • Jennie:
      Same weather here yesterday, and this am, went back to sleep after letting the dawgs out, and woke up to a skift of SNOW !! YUK !! Melting off as we speak though !
      THat recipe was created during the depression, when those items were so scarce ! Mother made it a time or two. It is GOOD ain’t it ?? Take care sweet 1
      Love
      Tonie

    • Jennie, How depressing your black weather sounds. I’d send you a bottle of sunshine if I could but right now it would be a bottle of snow. The cake does sound like the old depression cakes. Gotta be good for you. I love cakes with fruit in them. In fact I was thinking about making some spicy fruit bars just to get the raisins, candied cherries and nuts. Love that Christmasy combo. I have more news which I will share with all of you at once below. Do hang on dear…the sun will come out…eventually. Love you dear..Sue

    • Yes Jennie we have been following the weather across the pond on TV. Freaky isn’t it. Never know what is going to happen next.
      Nope never heard of a cake like that. Please let us know how it turns out.
      love ya big.
      XXX

  7. Well, “another day older and deeper in debt ” as the song goes. Anyone know what the name of the song is ?? A hint:: Tennesee Ernie Ford sang it !
    Today is my dear son’s bday. He is 36 today, my baby ! I spoke to him earlier. He was saying it was so strange that in his mind he still thinks of me as his age, and then he comes to see me and I need help doing things, he can’t comprehend the reason ! I told him that is why it is hard to realize your parents getting older. You always see them as the strong people they were. He was laughing cause he has more gray hair than I do !! We have our problems but he still clings to his momma a bit. Brings tears to my eyes.
    I havea LOT I need to do today. Laundry, 9and putting away the clean laundry) washing and cliiping nails on the dogs, and cleaning the floors (that is the easy part, just start up the Scooba !!) Well have a wonderful day all.
    Chris, had a great birthday. Went to the H20 Aerobics class and had a wonderful workout, in the hottub, then the sauna, shower and got me some ice cream. Grocery shopping (yuk) and home to rest. Had a sandwich and pickles for supper (what I wanted !) and then some tea and a sweet roll ! Nice. Was pretty worn out from the day and went to bed early. But thank the Lord for the day and all I got to do.
    LOve to all
    TOnie

    • Tonie, So pleased you had a good birthday. Indeedy I know that song. Used to hear him sing it on his show when I was a kid…SIXTEEN TONS of it. Remember him when he made appearances on I LOVE LUCY as the hill billy cousin? Hope your weather is warming up and you are feeling well enough for activity. Love you, Sue

      • Yes I do remember that show Sue. He had such a BEAUTIFUl voice didn’t he ? Was not bad to look at either. Those were the days of good tv and performers wasn’t it ?

    • OH TONIE, love that saying.” another day older and deeper in debt” Guess I can say it today then. Funny bunny.
      Enjoy the day, you are always one to make me laugh. XXX

  8. SUE..THIS WAS SO BEAUTIFUL and much welcomed to hear today. I remember reading this story about Carol Burnett long ago and how she got started and her poor beginnings. I absolutely love Carol Burnett and have such wonderful memories of watching The Carol Burnett Show every Saturday night with my Mom. We were always sure to giggle a lot watching her funny skits and memorable characters. It brings a smile to my face just thinking about it. She HAS A WONDERFUL spirit.
    I love your list of “good deeds” and have done and still do a lot of those . I have my favorite charities I contribute to regularly with clothes or small donations, and I help out an elderly lady who lives down my block when I can. It bothers me that I c an’t do more coz of health issues. But there is ALWAYS something we can do like you said Sue.
    I sure hope your eyes are improving and praying for solutions to the medication issue etc. Once agsin, I am amazed you are able to crank out one wonderful blog after the next.
    my prayers for all on this blog and all the different challenges we face.
    have a good weekend to all…
    Love …….Jo ♥

    • Jo dear, first of all, I don’t know where the blogs come from. I just write what I feel and believe. As far as weather goes, this is the time of the year you get to win. We’re all jealous of your warm weather. I agree, there is always something to do for and to others. It takes us out of our self-centeredness, don’t you think? How’s your sitter doing? Hope you’re okay. Love, Sue

      • SUE I AM SO GLAD JIM DOES NOT NEED SURGERY. I HOPE HE CAN HEALING QUICKLY. KEEP HIM DRUGGED. MOST IMPORTANTLY, TRY TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. I AM SO SORRY THIS ALL H APPENED. WHAT A HORRIBLE HARD WINTER IT HAS BEEN FO R SO MANY. YOU ARE RIGHT, SUE, FOR NOW, MY WEATHER IS WONDERFUL…BUT…WELL WE KNOW WHAT THE SUMMERS IN AZ ARE
        LIKE!!!
        KEEPING YOU BOTH IN MY PRAYERS.
        LOVE YA….JO ♥

  9. Hello, everyone! I read and enjoyed this week’s offering just after it went up but didn’t reply just then. I think I was reading it on my phone. I’m back now from a short overnight trip and ready for a quiet evening. Will say a quick prayer for all here. 🙂
    Bobsled, your trip sounds wonderful. Enjoy it!
    Pommum, so sorry to hear you and yours had flu! Hope your recovery is speedy!
    Chris, the menfolk were back to ‘normal’ quickly, thank goodness.
    Good to hear from some we haven’t heard from in a while. 🙂
    Time for DH and I to decide what we want to do for dinner. Blessings to all!

    • Lyn dear, sounds like you had a good yet quick trip to Baltimore. Changes of that type plus the singing with such a fabulous group..both wonderful. I know, isn’t it always good to get home to hearth and purrs? Hope you don’t have too many repercussions from the trip with your body. Rest up sweet girl, Love, Sue

  10. Dear Friends, what a weekend thus far. As those of you on FB already know, Jim fell getting out of his car in the snow and ice last night and broke his arm up near the shoulder. Went to ER this AM and has to see orthopod next week. He also hurt his leg but no fractures there. I’m exhausted after rarely sleeping last night. More later. We’re both fine and will be better after he schedules surgery to rid him of this pain he’s in. Prayers please..Love to each of you, Sue

    • Prayers Sue. For Jim and for you as well. Strength for you as you cope with yet another crisis in your already full of them life. I know you don’t like the attention, but it is good to have the support. Father give my friend strength and peace and health to deal with all of this. Heal Jim and give him strength and relieve his pain. Give both of them peace in their heart and soul and deepen the love that is already there. In the name of Jesus I pray.
      Amen

      • Amen to that Tonie. Hope works out well for Sue and Jim but how can it not with prayers being sent your way.
        love to all
        XXX

    • Prayers for you both. You also have the positive energy from all the love coming your way. You must know there are hundreds out here puling for you. Take care. Janet

  11. Oh Sue..what news
    All that happens is supposed to be random,but don’t it feel sometimes like Its commin all round.please both be careful and watch what you do.i wish I could just reach out and help,but ill pray
    Hope you are both sleeping and Jim in not so much pain
    Chris

  12. SUE LOVE…………….WHAT A ROTTEN THING TO HAPPEN, OH POOR JIM, AND POOR YOU, I HOPE YOU WILL HAVE SOME HELP, OTHERWISE HOW WILL YOU MANAGE?? ITS JUST ONE DAMN THING AFTER ANOTHER ISN’T IT. MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU DEAR FRIEND, TRY NOT TO WORRY WE ARE ALL HERE FOR YOU…….LOVE YOU SO MUCH…………..BLESSINGS…..JENNIE XX

  13. So sorry, Sue. Poor Jim, and poor you. I know how rough it is when our men folks are sick and hurting.
    Prayers out to you both.

  14. Thanks so much my dear friends for all of your love, empathy and wellness wishes for Jim and I. He’s in pain but had a peaceful day. A few friends call when they heard. Hope we can get him into the orthopod tomorrow. I’m exhausted…enough said. Love to each..Sue

  15. Exactly how I prefer to live! I am a leader in a critical care unit and everyday I choose to lead and teach by example and with compassion, hoping there will be a small place in heaven for someone that cares.

  16. hi All, we didn’t have to go in to see the doc because he checked out the Xrays online from the hospital ER. He doesn’t think he’ll need to pin it. He wants Jim to come in and have a cast put on it Wed. morning. So, I guess I’ll just keep him comfy and medicated until then… We only have one ortho in town and he’s incredibly busy. Jim is okay until he moves and then it hurts badly. Me, well, just guess. We’ll get through this..Love to all..will write each of you later. Sue

    • SUe, SOOO glad he doesn’t have to have pins or anything. The cast will be enough, but thank GOd !! You take care now and knock him out every now and then when he gets fussy. You still have a baseball bat around don’t you ?? 🙂
      Take care, love you
      Tonie

    • Oh Sue my dear, one more day and he will see the ortho. Praying for both of you to have a good day. I can only imagine what all this is doing to you. Stay strong! Love you big!
      Godspeed.
      XXX

  17. Oh Sue loved this blog. Certainly lots to think about. Feels like I’m certainly not doing what I use to and that makes me sad. I’m all alone here in this house out in the boonies all day long seeing no one at all. I get to go out when one of my friends brings me out or Geo to do groceries. So very hard to feel like your list is easy. Seems so hard for me these days. Guess I’m just finding it hard to be alone all the time. Molly and the birds help but it’s not like human contact. My kids are all busy with there lives and believe it or not I hardly see them and they live about 5 mins maybe 8 mins away from me. Make me kindda sad that they don’t take the time to just drop by for a few mins to say hi and give me a hug. Anyways that a whole other story for another day if I decide to share.
    Hope all works out well for Jim and you Sue my dear one.
    love to all
    XXX

    • Suzanne:
      It is truly hard to get used to being alone. I know , I am there most all the time. I am here with the dogs and chickens. But no humans. My sister lives below me (about 50 yards) and I seldom see her. SHe is gone most of the time and if she is home I still don’t see her unless I go visit. I have projects, the internet, my books , sewing and crochet to keep me busy til warm weather. Then I will have plenty to do and not enough time to do it in ! You hang in there girl, you got them winter blues ! I am out in the booneys as well, so with you there also. Have to drive 20-30 miles to a good store.
      Keep your head up and pray for peace, He is always there with you and will keep you company any time.
      Love
      Tonie

      • Thank you Tonie for the encouraging words. You seem so busy all the time going here and there. I don’t think I could manage 1/3 of what you do cause of the pain and stiffness and now my right hand (I’m right handed) is so painful and swollen I have trouble doing anything.I’m slowly learning how to eat with my left hand.. I don’t drive often now as I find I’m to medicated and don’t think my reaction time would be as fast and certainly don’t want to hurt someone. I do drive around the village to go to the corner store or to go pick up the mail. That’s about how far my travels bring me. Never had the winter blues before always enjoyed every season but I guess this year is different for some reason unknown to me.
        I talk with Him everyday.
        God Bless you my dear for being in my life and everyone else on this blog. You are all so understanding and helpful.
        love you to all.
        XXX

    • SUZANNE…….I FEEL FOR YOU REGARDING YOUR KIDS….GONNA PRAY EXTRA HARD FOR YOU ABOUT THAT, DON’T BE SAD LOVE, I WOULD GIVE YOU A HUG IF I COULD…..BUT SENDING ONE, OK? LOVE YOU….JENNIE X

  18. Suzanne
    Things seem worse in the winter..and you with all that snow,..you must feel hemmed in….life will be lighter come spring..and for us all I think
    Kids are so busy with their lives they think about you I’m sure,just like all of them they don’t think we need their company.
    Sometimes 5mins away is close but because its so close they don’t make the effort
    You sound so down…I think that matches me at the moment..what to do eh!
    Wish we could all get together and sort the world out…
    Anyway thinking of you ..chin up

    Sue roll on Wednesday to get the cast on. Please take care and get all the rest you need..
    Chris

    • Oh Chris now wouldn’t that be a fun time, getting all together, I’m sure we would sort the world out… Haha.
      You are certainly going through a whole lot Chris, with yourself, your dad and the list goes on. So you keep your chin up also sweetpea. How is that infection doing? Must be all most done with those antibiotics. Keep seeing the weather reports over there. Yikes happy to hear you are safe. They said today there would be more rain. God bless those people. So sad to see them with their buckets trying to get the water out.
      love you big. Take good care of yourself.
      XXX

  19. Toni, our forecast is saying 6″ Wed with more Thursday. I was so disheartened at this, I didn’t even check to see what you or Suzanne are to have. I’m sure with Suzanne it’s about the same, you’re probably worse. I do not like snow and ice, I do not find them very nice!
    I’m so glad Jim won’t need surgery. I know you just really need a day of sitting around a hospital on your sore tush all day. Not.
    Hope everybody’s warm. So thankful to have a warm house to live in.
    Toni, I sent you some recipes today, did you get
    them? I think I’m taking my tired and aching body to bed real soon. I finally got around to watching the opening ceremony for the Olympics this morning. I thought it was so beautiful. The Russians do take their ballet and opera seriously, and do a fine job of it. I especially loved the “dove” segment at the end, done to Swan lake. I think I watched too much tv today, my eyeballs are about to itch themselves out of my head and he left one just hurts…not sure if it’s really my eyeball or that sinus cavity. Some body parts are just too lose together to tell the difference.

    G’nite and love to all.
    Linda

    • Linda:
      I haven’t really looked at what the accumulation is supposed to be. I was just glad Wed is not a day I have to be somewhere this week. I have the dentist today and my MRI in Radford on Friday, pray I can get there ! It isn’t supposed to stay I don’t think. I am not looking forward to it either. I am so ready for spring. Poor Suzanne and Nana B, they have it all the time and in such cold. Not to mention what BSL puts up with. I really couldn’t live that way 🙂 I guess you do what you are used to huh ?
      My pastor cleans house for Fran and I don’t have to go up there until the end of the week, cause she will be there. THat is nice cause I don’t use so much gas up. Boy counting pennies really is not fun !:) But I thank God she is paying me while she is gone and need to shut up complaining. My quilt is coming along. It is actually quite fun. Making the pieces and quilting them as I go. No need of frames or holders. Now if I was doing it with a machine, it would be near done I imagine. But this way is more personal I think. Maybe one of the kids will love it after I am gone. I know we do mothers and grandmothers quilts .
      Okay enough babbling. Everyone have a wonderful day.
      Love to all
      Tonie

      • Counting pennies is a way of life for me too since I haven’t been able to work. So I totally understand you Tonie. Yes you are right Tonie we get use to where we live. All my life I’ve lived in Quebec city (as a child) and once married Moved further north (darn) and have been here with Geo for 38 years this Friday.
        I will also be looking into the disability pension but my doc told me to wait until I saw the Rheumy. Better be soon, nothing happens really fast with the government, does it now.
        Hope all goes well for you on Friday sweetie.
        God Bless you.
        XXX

  20. Hi all
    Floods are so bad over here and more rain forecast .peoples homes under water and evacuated.we are ok but so many areas badly hit. It is all a terrible sight to see
    DH got cold virus and its hitting him bad and also my dad ,so hoping I stay clear
    Comming to the end of the antibiotics still taking the spasmodics so fingers crossed
    Gives bad weather and gales here for tomorrow …what a winter for all of us on the blog

    Linda keep safe on that snow,,or don’t go in it
    Sue…don’t go anywhere
    Chris

    • Oh Chris dear, how awful for all of you in England. Mother Nature can be such a bitch, can’t she? I’m also hoping you don’t get that virus. We’re okay but it will be better for Jim tomorrow, hopefully. He saw the Xrays in ER and said it looks more like a compression fracture so hopefully the doctor is right and a cast will do it. Prayers for you wonderful country and for you. Love, Sue

    • Chris thinking of you and sending angels your way. That cold virus is a bad one this year. people are dropping like flies around here. I certainly hope you don’t get it. you have enough on your plate to deal with my dear.
      We keep watching the news and seeing all the devastation over there. Just don’t know what to think. Actually it makes me think of Revelations in the Bible. Scary eh!
      Stay safe.
      love you
      XXX

  21. OH WHAT A HORRIBLE DAY….BLOOMING DAMP AND COLD MAKING MY LEG JUMP AND HURT LIKE THE DEVIL, THATS BEFORE I GET TO MY FACE…..OH WELL NEVER MIND, THERE ARE WORSE OFF. I HAVE BEEN WORRIED ABOUT TIM AND CLAIRE’S HOUSE, THE VILLAGE IS FLOODED, AND THEY ARE IN EGYPT, SO HAD TO PHONE MY EX TO ASK WHAT WAS THE SITUATION…..HE SAID THE HOUSE IS SAFE AS ITS ON A HILL…………NOT SO FOR OTHER POOR FOLKS THOUGH, AS CHRIS SAID, A REAL STATE OF EMERGENCY NOW, HALF OF ENGLAND IS FLOODED, HERE IN FRANCE IN BRITTANY, NEAR THE COAST ALL THE SHOPS ARE UP TO THE AWNINGS IN WATER……WILL IT NEVER END?
    SUE I HAVE WRITTEN TO YOU, I HOPE THE DAYS GET EASIER ONCE THE CAST IS ON, DIFFICULT FOR JIM, GET THE JACK DANIELS OUT….LOVE TO EVERYONE, MIND HOW YOU GO……..HUGS,……..JENNIE XX

    • Jennie dear, pray you feel better very soon as it will most certainly…eventually become spring. Thinking of you and please keep warm and know you’re loved. Sue

    • Happy Birthday Suzanne!! I left you an FB message too. I hope and pray you are having a good birthday and a low level pain day too. Many blessings and good things wished for you this year!! XXXX
      Jo

    • Thank you Tonie,Jo and Chris for the special birthday wishes. I had a great day. Actually my middle son dropped by for a few mins on his way home for lunch. That was really nice. Spoke with my daughter and my youngest son also. He invited us for supper on Friday, that will be nice. Got so many phone calls, I’m pooped tonight, but a good kindda pooped. I FEEL THE LOVE LADIES AND IT IS A WARM COMFORTABLE GENTLE HUG FEELING.
      Love you big.
      XXX

      • HI SUZANNE….DID F/B YOU, PUZZLED AS TO WHY YOUR BIRTHDAY DIDN’T COME UP ON MY CALENDER, ANYWAY SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAD A GOOD TIME, SO GLAD YOU HAD SOME FAMILY WITH YOU, HOW LOVELY THAT YOU WILL SEE YOUR OTHER SON ON FRIDAY, LIFE IS LOOKING UP…..GOD BLESS SWEETHEART…LOVE YOU…JENNIE XX

  22. hi Sue!
    Hope I have this correct~~its your Birthday??? IF so, HAPPY BIRTHDAY sweet Lady!! If I got it wrong, well just hold onto it and I will do my best to catch it again! Loved your post—it touched on just about everything we face in this journey~~ups/downs,, my dear husband tells me “Martha–Life is like a Roller Coaster, and there will be lots of ups and downs–but we hang on, Look Up to the MASTER for help, and lean on each other!”

    As I read all the comments–so many people struggling with Pain, and the Bucket Load of Weather changes causing even further Pain—now as I catch the local weather, seems I am rolling along with it. One day its 70 degrees, followed by ice and down into the 20’s!!! My Body screams at me long before the weather arrives–and I know the facts~~~This is my life—yes I do not like the dang Pain one little bit,, especially now with this major NECK pain~~~ which I had no clue as to how many symptoms, and other areas of the body this impacts.. I had some injections–it does help some. Looking to have the Radial Frequency Ablation done again (burn the nerves) and hope to get long term relief. Surgery is off the table–even the Surgeon told me “well your neck will still hurt!” Geez, thank you so much……….

    If I were to put some items down to do–the list is pretty easy,

    Keep working on taking up my new hobby of Sewing Small items
    Plan to have a wonderful celebration for my 60th bd this summer
    Live, Love, Laugh, Cry, Fuss, Smile,–and thank HIM each day for my blessings.

    Much Love Sue…. You are a special lady!!! martha

    • Martha dear, I do hope the ablation works to offer you some relief. I think small projects to be creative, are wonderful. I did a ton of counted cross-stitch when I was first ill. It was such fun. To be involved with color, flowers, fabrics and design is so life-giving. It also makes us feel like we’re useful.
      I think a temp of 70 sounds wonderful. I don’t think we’ve seen 70 since mid summer. My son and his family live north of you in a town outside of Dallas. Did I tell you my Dad was born in TX? I feel like a Texan through and through. Do take care and no dear, it is not my birthday but Suzanne’s who is one of our Canadian friends. Love you, Sue

      • Sue-
        I continue to be amazed at how much we ALL have in common! So you have some Texas roots—thats Wonderful!!! When I hear about how much SNOW, and horrendous COLD temps your part of the country is going through–I am stunned! I felt a bit silly on getting the birthday wish mixed up~~~but then we all can use a “WHO the heck is this Martha person wishing me a Happy Birthday?”

        Thank you for the kind words about my Neck Pain—I know it does not get even close to how others Suffer~~~but its now a daily part of me that faces continual changes and picking up my Sewing has been wonderful for me… I do limit my time when working at the machine–as the NECK will start letting me know~~~ IT IS TIME FOR A BREAK!!! Hoping for good relief with the Radial Freq procedure—had it done before and as long as I behave—and don’t try to overdo, the results are amazing……

        Take care Sue, have a great Valentines day and know you are always in my thoughts and prayers…. lol,martha

    • MARTHA……I FELL YOUR NECK PAIN, DO YOU FIND IF YOU HAVE SPENT TOO MUCH TIME ON THE COMPUTER, OR SEWING ETC, YOU CAN’T LIFT YOUR HEAD UP AGAIN….BLOOMING AWFUL ISN’T IT? YES I AGREE WE HAVE TO BE THANKFUL FOR WHAT WE HAVE THAT IS GOOD……GOD BLESS…JENNIE X

      • Jennie–I make sure to not spend more than about an hour at the machine–and my NECK has its way of letting me know—TAKE A BREAK!!!! When this thing starts to throb, it does feel like a Bowling Ball sitting on my shoulders….. I must respect it…..

        Thanks Jennie for your caring words…. I wish good days for you too….

  23. Suzanne, Sorry I’m late to the party. Happy Birthday with every blessing possible for you and yours. I had the grands after school today after I went to pick up some meds for Jim and had to go out and buy him an electric razor. Chin up dear lady. Dark spells will eventually have sunshine. Maybe you’ll feel better with a sun light lamp. Might be worth a try. Love, Sue

    • Oh Sue you are not late, my birthday lasts at least the week. Haha. Hope you are keeping strong dear lady. I know you are right about dark spells. Gee, I have one of those lamps in the storage room, I’ll be taking it out in the morning and giving it a try. Thanks Sue I had just forgotten about it.
      Tomorrow is the big day for your DH and for you, sending prayers and angels to keep you company. Let us know how it all turns out. Really hope it’s just the cast. You are one strong lady Sue, blessings upon you.
      Love you big.
      XXX

      • Suzanne, It sounds like some of the kids made it over to see their Mom on her birthday…good for you. That makes me happy for you. Let me know about the sun lamp, dear lady. Sometimes we just have to hang on and ride out these times…kinda like surfing, although I’ve only watched that activity. Sometimes life raises you to the heights and at other times it drags you under and you’re certain you’re doing to drown. Keep swimming, take a deep breath and hang ten.
        Yes, It will be a relief to get the cast on and hopefully give Jim relief. I have an eye appt. tomorrow afternoon. I’m awake right now…impossible to sleep for a couple of reasons…Irritable bowel has me cramping and going and we’re having a wild windstorm. The house is shaking at a mere 50mph and it sure makes me awake. Shake, rattle and roll is for the daytime if I have to boogy. Jim is doing as well as possible and I’m handling everything but that must be right now.Take care and keep looking up. Fondly, Sue

  24. Suzanne, a very happy birthday week to you! I know you enjoyed seeing and talking to your kids.
    My son went to the store tonight, bless him. He wanted to get us ready for the snow storm of the season. I can’t believe we’re to get more than Toni, and her up in the mountains. They’re saying we’re to get 12-14 inches. That is a terrible lot of snow for us. I’m so thankful I don’t have to do the bobsled thing; nurses don’t get snow days, at least not hospital nurses. Locals with 4 wheel drive offer to pick us up and take us home. One year, my ride didn’t show up. My road had been plowed but at that time I had a gravel driveway. I burned the tread off of 2 tires, tore up my driveway, and got stuck over the hump the snow plows left at the end of my drive. A man stopped and literately pushed my small car off the hump, and I made it to work, although late. I didn’t like to get rides from folks. The last time I did, I was actually afraid of the man. I tried to get the other woman in the car to get out at my house and stay until we could get her home. I kept calling her until I knew she made it home safely. I’m not often afraid of people, but I was of this guy. I was more afraid for her than for me. He kept saying things like “I heard nurses really like sex, especially you black ladies”. We both told him he was being inappropriate and we didn’t like it, but that didn’t seem to phase him. I called HR the next day and reported him, and it seems we weren’t the only ones with a problem with him, others had already reported him. I never rode with any of the volunteers again, I got back and forth the best way I could, even spent the night at the hospital once. It’s already turned very cold, but the snow isn’t to start until mid-morning tomorrow. I’m so thankful to be retired and not have to get out in this.
    I think tomorrow will be a good day to make a big beef stew. I can’t eat beef, I don’t digest it, but I love the potatoes and carrots cooked on the beef, and I love the broth. So, I eat a bowl of the veggies, like soup and am very happy. Ed won’t eat the carrots, and I think you all know by now that Keith will eat any and everything.
    Hope every one is keeping warm and feeling better.
    Love and warm gentle hugs to all,
    Linda

    • Linda:
      I have no idea how much snow we will end up with. I pray not much. But am ready and settled in for it. It is certainly looking the part out there. The sun is well hidden behind the clouds. So take care. Your stew sounds good. I may do some cooking myself. I have an overabundance of eggs and have been thinking of a pound cake. We’ll see. Not feeling too good this am so will have to wait.
      Love
      Tonie

    • Thank you Linda for the birthday wishes. Oh dear that guy certainly sounded creapy to me too. So happy nothing happened to either of you. Good for you for reporting it. I would have done the same thing and not gone with any volunteers again. One can never be too safe. Well did you make your beef stew. It sounds wonderful on a snowy day. I’m still thinking about what to make for supper tonight???
      The snow seems to be coming our way but will only arrive on Monday.
      Stay safe and keep warm everybody.
      Gentle hugs for all here. Lots of us are in great pain with all these weather changes.
      XXX

  25. CAN I ASK FOR PRAYER FOR ALL THE PEOPLE OF THE UK WHO ARE GOING THROUGH SUCH HARD TIMES WITH THE FLOODS, THERE IS EVEN WORSE TO COME WITH HALF OF ENGLAND UNDER WATER, RIVERS ARE BURSTING THEIR BANKS ALL OVER THE COUNTRY, ALSO SEA BARRIERS ARE COLLAPSING, ROADS ARE COLLAPSING, AND RAILWAYS ARE UNDER WATER, IF WE STOPPED SENDING MILLIONS OF POUNDS TO THIRD WORLD COUNTRIES, JUST FOR A LITTLE WHILE, AND CONCENTRATED HELPING THE POOR FOLKS BACK HOME, IT WOULD MAKE THE SITUATION BETTER…………SORRY TO BE SAYING ALL THIS, BUT I HAVE MANY FRIENDS AND RELATIVES IN A LOT OF THESE AREAS, AND AM WORIED SICK FOR THEIR SAFETY…………..HOPE YOU ARE ALL SAFE FROM SEVERE WEATHER CONDITIONS, AND TAKING GOOD CARE OF YOURSELVES………….LOVE TO YOU ALL, KEEP SAFE…..JENNIE XXXXX

    • Jennie, I think most of us here feel the same way. When I hear of children going hungry right here in my small town, it makes me sick. When my sister was teaching in “regular” school –she’s with the Galileo program now,– she was constantly after us (her family) to buy clothes for her kids, everything from underwear to coats. It was a shame what some of these kids did without. I always thought she was so wonderful to look out for her kids like that. She always gave her kids her phone number. It’s a sin what little parenting a lot of them get. A lot of young girls called her to tell her they had started their period, and she often had to go buy sanitary napkins for them. And teach them how to use them, and how to care for themselves through their menses. I think Rosa was the only one of us to miss “the talk” from Mom, and that was because Rosa’s menses started on her 9th birthday! Big shock! Poor sweet girl, she thought everybody’s began on their 9th birthday, so the eve of mine, she sat me down and gave me “the talk”. She told me not to be scared, for it just meant I’d be a woman now! I think that’s one of the memories I’ll take to my grave.
      Jennie, I’m guilty of not keeping up with the news right now (I’ll blame it on staying sick), but I wasn’t aware of all the problems going on in the UK. You’re all in my prayers now, that’s for sure. It’s bad when you need boats rather than autos. I have prayed so hard for little Harry, and I even have him in my God Box. That’s a little box that I write down all my prayer request and problems and give them to God (the box is labeled “things for God to do”. Now I’m praying he doesn’t suffer. He is such an inspiration, so brave and fought such a courageous fight. I can’t even begin to imagine what his parents are going through, and you, and all the folks who know and love him. You’re all in my prayers.
      This winter has been so odd, weather wise. Nothing is happening here now except the cold, chill factor is around 10. Of course, that nasty barometer is dropping. That seems to hurt me the most, so I am covered in ace bandages and wraps. The extra pressure on my joints brings a lot of relief.
      I pray you’re all warm and dry, and INSIDE Laura! I love you, but sometimes I want to come visit you and tie you to a chair before you break your neck! You’re just too good and too sweet to be laid up in a hospital somewhere that we can’t get to you. I know you have some wonderful friends, but you know us, we’d worry because WE aren’t taking care of you! Please be careful. And, please get dressed for winter when you go outside! Remember what you’d say to a patient who was doing the things you do! Don’t mean to be fussy at you, but I worry when you do these things. I’m sure we all do.
      Love you all.
      Linda
      ps, Toni, they’re saying we’re to get 12-16 inches now. I’ll believe that when I see it, but hope and pray I won’t see it! This little podunk town just isn’t set up to handle that much snow. I live in the county, the poorest one in VA, and they sure don’t have the resources to take care of even the main roads, much less all the side roads. Fortunately, I live on a main road, and farmers will get out with their snow plows. Gotta love the farmers.

      • Well Linda, it is pouring down hard and fast. We have a couple of inches in the last hour. FIne powdery stuff. I just went up and tucked in the chicks. I fed and watered them inside. They don’t like the snow much either. I have baked Ziti in the oven and am warm and snug with the boys on the bed. I believe a nap is about in order 🙂 Stay warm !
        Tonie

      • Linda I’ve been given the same advice almost to the word by so many it cracked me up. I think those of us who are nurses tend to be just a tiny bit stubborn lol. Ok we are a LOT stubborn. I think some of my issues this week were due to systemic inflammation causing trouble. The increased pain did add distraction and I made poor choices trying to do things quickly so I could rest. I also had balance issues from joint instability and the effects on my inner ear. Today was my infusion and I always have significant side effects so I stay home and quite doing the bare minimum except for critter care (never skimp on those). I have 2 friends keeping in touch by phone and if I don’t answer they come over with their keys to the house to make sure I’m ok. (Downside of living alone) Nessie only relaxes if I’m asleep or very settled in my chair. If I move she’s instantly at my side. She has to be forced to go out to take care of business for at least 24 hours post infusion. (She does medical alerting and this short time span is the only time I take prednisone if she alerts). I have no idea if I will ever have a dog this perceptive. Possible knowing the sire of the litter planned. Take care of yourselves everyone. I’m behaving I promise.

      • Linda dear, I agree, God bless the farmers. It sounds like your county may be poor but is caring, neighbor to neighbor. I think we would all give Laura our be careful speech but she’s a good nurse and a big girl but stubborn..just as she said, like the rest of us old nurses. We each know how difficult it is when life and illness is nibbling at our heels. As for you dear lady, I imagine the wrapping your joints also brings some warmth and stabilization. Do be careful, okay? Much love, Sue

    • Consider it done, prayers for all in the UK. I understand what you are saying. I think more and more of us are thinking the same thing. Let’s stop for a little while and take care of our own. Good idea I believe.
      Stay safe Jennie, love you big.
      XXX

  26. FORGOT TO SAY, LITTLE HARRY IS FADING FAST NOW, HE IS IN A WHEELCHAIR, BUT IS STILL MANAGING SCHOOL A COUPLE OF HOURS A DAY FOR THREE DAYS, HE IS BEING VERY BRAVE………….THANK YOU……JENNIE X

      • JENNIE, PRAYERS FOR LITTLE HARRY AND FOR ALL THE POOR PEOPLE IN THE UK. I HOPE ALL YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY ARE SAFE AND NOT HAVING TO ENDURE ANY FLOODING TO THEIR HOMES. SUCH BIZARRE WEATHER ALL OVER THE PLACE. TALK TO YOU SOON….XXXX

    • Jen:
      Prayers for all the peoples and for their struggles. I do understand what you say about the money being sent out. I feel the same here. And for little Harry. God bless him and his parents. Thank you for keeping us up to date with him
      Love you
      Tonie

    • Jennie, If seeing little Harry’s ordeal as he faces death doesn’t make us all pause…what possibly could? It seems at times children are so close to God they are unencumbered by so much of what we carry around and just take life one day at a time and are open for the future. My heart and prayers go out to him. Love, Sue

  27. Suzanne, in case you miss it above, Happy Belated Birthday!

    I see those of us on the east coast are preparing for Pax. I believe that’s what they’ve named this storm. We have a variety of forecasts at this point. Most popular seems to be the European model with 12-15″ or 10-15″ of snow possible for us. One local station is saying 8-12″, now that’s covering their backsides! Plowable snow for sure. I’m planning on making vegetable beef soup and watching the snow fall. 🙂 Unfortunately, SB and DD both are scheduled to work, I think. I think we’ll have the boy go to the hotel Wed. night and stay over so he doesn’t have to drive in the heavy snow. Told him to be prepared to stay an extra night just in case. Poor kid. He’s wondering what he can do for food. They only have continental breakfast there apparently. I’ll have to try to think of something and pick items up at the store today. DD being in healthcare will likely have to report as well. Luckily her drive is a little better than his. He’s already asked to take my car – the only one we have with all wheel drive anymore. We used to have 3! I think they are all missing those other 2 now. I don’t plan on going out, so the boy can take mine if he wishes. DH shouldn’t have to go out. They very likely won’t have school. Time for a second cup of coffee to start my day. Blessings, one and all ~

    • Oh my friends to the east. Our weather although brisk (-4F) at 9:00 am is rather quiet on the precipitation while you will be slammed with snow and ice the worst combination I think. I’ll keep you and yours in my prayers.

      It’s infusion day and perfectly sunny. I think I will try to behave and not stress out my friends like I have the past week or so. I’ve been very lucky not to have done damage physically in my misadventures but some are questioning my mental status at why I’ve fallen or left the house without winter clothing (just doing what I would do a few years ago but at bigger risk now). Oh well I had a good nights rest and all is well with me.

    • Thank you Lyn for the birthday wishes. Wow that is a whole lot of snow at one time. MMMMM, veggie soup how wonderful. Enjoy your cookiing while the snow is flying. So happy you don’t have to go out in that. Prayers for your children to keep them safe.
      Second cup of coffee sound good to me.
      Take care, stay safe.
      XXX

    • Lyn dear friend, knowing you, you have packed a full picnic sized hamper for your son to take with him to a hotel if that’s what he must do to brave the storm. I pray you are all safe and warm. PAX seems like a strange name for a storm; doesn’t it mean peace? I’m glad you have at least one car with the 4W drive. I know it makes me feel safer and we don’t get half the weather you do except water falling from the skies most commonly.
      It was a long day for us and Jim is having so much pain but it looks like it will be that way for at least another 2 months. PT after one month. The jail commander and the LVN who works with Jim came by with some balloons for him and a couple of funnies. So many kind people and they kept telling me if I needed help to be sure to call them. They said the young deputy I talked to the other day about bringing his gun to get Jim to go to the ER is still laughing about that.
      Our son is coming out next month with one of our TX grandsons to look at college grad programs. Would be nice to have one of the older kids close enough to get to know better. Well, want to say hi to others before my eyes go. That looks like it’s going to be an ongoing battle. Stay safe my dear. Love ya, Sue

  28. Morning all:
    Well, as with most us on the East side, I am anticipating the storm. Schools here are letting out at 1 in preparation. It looks very dark and overcast right now. The Carolinas got hit yesterday. So it is making the way up the mtns to us. I started painting the kitchen cabinets the other day and need to finish them. up. They were dark wood and I painted them a buttery yellow. What a difference, such a brightness it brings in. They need a second coat and the trim touched up. Hard to do with them being up over my head with my shoulders hurting. But it is almost done. Had my tooth filled yesterday and my mouth is so sore today. All that stress is probably why I don’t feel good today. I have two more small cavities in the front to be done in April , then they can start on my partial which I badly need. I have lost so many of my upper teeth due to the RA and FMS really wreaking havoc in my mouth. Will be blad to have the teeth again and not feel self conscious of my smile. Please take care all in the snow path and be careful.
    Love to all
    PS Sue prayers for you and Jim today.
    Tonie

  29. Oh Tonie those kitchen cupboards sound really nice. Love the colour you chose, it must be bright and make you happy.
    You be careful with all that painting and your shoulder. Happy for you that your teeth are almost done fixing. What is FMS?
    You stay safe too sweetpea and take it easy.
    love you big.
    XXX

  30. Gosh, when I posted earlier, there was nothing. By the time I actually sent the post up, the sides of the road were covered. Now, everything is covered.
    I just watched the most amazing movie. If you haven’t seen it, you really must. It’s called “Unfinished Song”, it stars Vanessa Redgrave–and since the first time I saw her as a young girl, I thought she was the best thing to ever happen to a movie script. And Terrance Stamp plays her husband, and he still has those mesmerizing blue eyes. It’s billed as a comedy, but I laughed and cried throughout the entire movie. She is dying of cancer, and her great joy is singing with a senior citizen’s choir. Although she’s dying, she’s so full of life and love, her hubby, on the other hand, is introverted and a grump. But they love each other dearly. They audition for a competition and she sings a solo to her husband. She sings “True Colors” and it is so beautiful I wept through the entire song. Now, she wouldn’t win X-Factor or The Voice, but it came from her heart, and said to him that the world may see him as a grumpy old man, but she knows what he is really like. They get into the competition, but she dies beforehand. The instructor of the group is a young woman who teaches music at school by day and volunteers with the seniors at night. She had them singing hip-hop, rock, and rap, and doing the robot dance. She discovers the widower can sing and gets him to join the group. When they do the sound check at the competition, they are uninvited and told they would be laughed off the stage; most of the groups are doing what groups in competitions do, very formal songs. But, on the bus, the widower says he’s not giving up, and he leads the group off the bus and storms back into the competition and goes right onto the stage. The group is so much fun, they bring the house down. Then the widower sings a song, to his wife “Good Night My Angel, It’s Time To Sleep”. His singing is actually pretty good, and even the judges are crying by the end of the song. Needless to say, this group wins. It was such a touching movie and I was captivated by the whole thing.
    I know I’ve talked too much today, but I just got so wrapped up in this movie, I had to share it with you folks. And, those 30 or so seniors made it look fun to be a senior citizen, and some were on walkers and in not such great shape. One guy knelt down to do an air guitar riff and it took several of them to get him back up! But he did it! I think it filled me with hope. Some of it I found very sad, and related to in a unique way. The day of the funeral, the father tells the son he doesn’t want to see him any more. I think that got to me so much because the day we buried my last sister, the one remaining quit talking to me. So, I felt this guy’s pain. But, it worked out in the end, so that gave me hope for my situation, too. If you do watch it, I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
    Love to you all,

    Linda

  31. Dearest friends, well, we’re home from the running around today. Jim and I went to his appt. and the doctor decided he couldn’t cast it by doing films from all angles. It is not more displaced than originally, when he fell on it Friday night. He is terribly discolored in the upper arms and armpit, it is fracture at the head of the humerus and it hurts. We’re going to keep him in a sling and the doc said it would probably take 2-3 months to heal. So there you have it. More suffering for my dear man. Pain pills hurting his gut but what do you do.? He will probably, most surely need physical therapy in a month or so because the shoulder will freeze.

    Poor guy is such a lefty he’s kind of bummed as far as work is concerned. I think his orthopod is concerned for his safety because he’s worried about him defending himself at the jail..funny the ideas folks get. There are plenty of deputies but Jim’s accuracy would be difficult for charting, passing medications, etc. I don’t think he ever feel in danger in the jail. Most of the inmates like him and those who don’t are usually nuts.

    I went to my eye appt. and my eyes are better. I’m going to slowly cut down on the prednisone drops because they have their own evil side effects. I am also going to order light blocking curtains for up here, in our bedroom because the glare is damaging. I do all of my writing lying down and with the blinds drawn but light still gets through white wooden blinds. Behind my head the entire wall is old windows, the upper ones leaded. The doc did suggest I could always wear a visor over my eyes but I have some great dark glasses that fit over my regular glasses…so now you’re up to date on us. I’ll chat with each of you. Much love, Sue

  32. A quick hello before I head off to the shower. It is snowing here like crazy! I was amused to see the station that was predicting 8-12 inches of snow increase to 12-16 inches. Another weather site was watching closely and talking about increasing to 18-24, but I think that may be a bit much. SB went to the hotel last night and may be stuck there tonight also. He’s working now. DD took my AWD car and was very grateful. She is safely at work as well. DH and I are enjoying a little coffee after a breakfast of pancakes. He shoveled a path out the driveway for DD around 8:15 and said there was already over 6 inches down. Much more by now, I know. It has been snowing heavily since before I got up. I have been enjoying watching it come down – from the comfort of my easy chair.
    Poor Jim. But you’ve gotta love his co-workers! I did get a smile from his Ortho being concerned for his safety. I always had the feeling Jim wasn’t concerned about it and his work buddies do seem to take care of their own. 🙂 Glad your eyes are improving -whew! May they continue to do so!

    Have a lovely day, everyone!

    • Lyn, Relieved you are so knowledgeable about all that is required for safety and survival during so much downfall. Stay safe and well-fed. Bless the kids for having their Mom’s common sense. It does sound beautiful, however. Stay well..or as well as you can. Love,, Sue

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