But you are still uniquely you.
One of the beautiful elements about our chatting over these many years is how much we have in common. Figuring out what that is has not been difficult. We all live with chronic pain or love someone who does. One of the elements of being an RN that I love is how one can cut through so much small talk and truly get to know their fellow humans when health issues are involved. The vulnerability of someone ill in a doctor’s office or lying in a hospital bed in one of those dreadful print, tie-back gowns, well, what can I say; we’ve each been there. Most social decorum is dissolved along with modesty and it takes a sensitive, caring individual, whatever role they’re in to handle the situation correctly.
There are certain subjects that cut to the heart and health is one of those issues. Often it is a relief for patients to be able to “unload” on someone other than a relative or close friend. As we all know, we often act as if everything is fine with our loved ones because we don’t want to worry them; either that or we talk about our health issues constantly. When I first became ill, I couldn’t shut up. You know me, Mrs. Loquacious. I talked about my health problems constantly in the early years. It was partly because I couldn’t get any answers from the doctors. I believe it was also because I felt guilty because I couldn’t manage to work because of the pain in my sitter.
When I was able to work, the first few years I began having pain, staggering pain would unload on me after working a shift and even when I worked as a House supervisor, I had to walk all the time to keep from sitting and my legs and ankles were becoming a problem. I constantly had this mental image of parts of my body falling off and landing in the hospital corridors, although it is more difficult to imagine when it’s your posterior that’s hurting. I can’t imagine what a spare buttock looks like lying on the ground all by itself…legs and arms, more easily envisioned. I would crawl into my car and cry all the way home after a shift of duty.
Unfortunately, as we’ve learned from all politicians, talk show hosts and gossips; talk is cheap and seldom changes anything. Good communication is quite another matter because it is purposeful. Constant niggling and repetition does little for anyone after the first hundred times it’s said and possibly heard. Good communication doesn’t change things or situations but it does change people and their attitudes. It’s often helpful, just as time can be a balm during troubled, painful periods.
The writer Henry David Thoreau once wrote, “Any man more right than his neighbors, constitutes a majority of one.”
I love that bit of wisdom and think it’s a good one to recall and repeat when I feel isolated from others. As each of you have experienced, this feeling lousy so much of the time can leave us alone much of the time. When we are able to reach out to others, simply touching a hand or touching a mind or spirit, a bond is formed that can be very sustaining. For all those thousands of times over the years when I have felt terribly disillusioned, tomorrow would always arrive and bring along new hope and new opportunity.
Beginning each new day and simply facing it is a start. I had to learn to forget the sadness, particularly at the beginning and ending of a day, and look forward to what was coming. The beginning, the morning is difficult because so many times, my body would come out of the night’s dreams and face the stark reality of the pain which was always waiting. The end of the day is rough because I always overdo and simply make no apology for it because I learned long ago, two very important facts. One was that life went on with or without me and if I wanted my home and life to be even approaching clean, normal and cheerful, I had to keep up. Secondly, I learned that joints, muscles, tendons and ligaments really want to move; they just don’t know it. Without movement I am convinced I would end up in some corner somewhere with a sign around my neck that read, “Sue, the Human Pretzel.”
It is never and I repeat, never too late to develop this approach. Each day is new even if you and I are stuck with the same old bodies. We may not know where we’re going or what we’re going to do but I find it always helps to at least put the proverbial key in my engine and rev it up to prepare for the day.
Daily habits can help in this regard. Once we realize there may not be a magic answer out there, we look forward to whatever comes along. It may be a life of compromise but is it really not compromise if we learn something along the way, either about life or about ourselves? Life can be wasted but it is always lived; otherwise you’re kaput! The sun rises and sets, the old hall clock ticks and chimes away the hours and we each age as life passes. We choose if we are going to be in the fray or sitting on the sidelines, wishing, longing and, oh yes, occasionally moaning. Moaning, groaning and self-pity are deserved and often yours to claim BUT they lead down an empty, rocky dead end street. Just don’t like the idea of that and I guess I never will.
I love the books of Dr. Benjamin Carson and am currently reading one of his books titled, THINK BIG. I would like to quote briefly from one paragraph he wrote. “Remaining a victim of circumstance is a state of being that we choose, a choice that
—allows us to blame other people
—lets us blame circumstances
—permits us to avoid responsibility for our lives
—encourages us to feel sorry for ourselves, and
—guarantees that we will stay victims.
No one has to be a victim!”
Aren’t those wonderfully, uplifting words for those of us who live with chronic pain?. Once we are able to abandon the idea of full relief, we learn to believe in some relief but more importantly, we believe in life all over again. Let us learn from the children in our lives who go from drama to drama in about 90 seconds and see joy in the smallest incidents of life: a crawling ladybug, a fresh bowl of popcorn or an “A” on a math test. They appreciate the gifts life offers but often, we who suffer daily, forget and get caught up in our rapture of pain.
Sometimes folks ask me what I do when I’m discouraged and there are several ideas and acts I perform. I make a point of turning off the news and watching an uplifting film in our large collection of DVD’s. I also grab one of my uplifting books including the Holy Bible, Dr. Ben Carson, and Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, any of his works or the works of C.S. Lewis, J.B. Phillips, Glenn Clark, Dr. Bernie Siegel, and the poetry of many authors. I love to read or watch history unfolding because we can learn so much about what others have endured and obtained victory over. Let us learn from the past as a society and as individuals.
I also like to walk, even if it hurts. Walking down by the banks of the mighty Columbia River can be wonderful and refreshing, even with pain. (It gets easier. Truly it does.) I enjoy some stores but find it awfully hard on the old checkbook, especially when a loved one is having a birthday. I must admit I like shopping but do more than my share online for the convenience. I also save much lifting for some of the daily things like dog food, cases of juice, etc.
I love to play with our dogs, call a friend or just hang out with a work of fiction. Picking off the spent blossoms, watering a potted plant or pulling a weed, anything to move and get out of the house for a change of view. I love hearing about a small child’s day at school, watching our Yorkie chase a ball or even cleaning a dirty window to let the glorious beauty of our blue skies and waters to be make itself visible inside our home. I even get pleasure out of washing a lovely old collectible. Wish I had the energy to do it more often.
Even though I’ve listed many of my strategies for coping and enjoying my life, I saved the best for last. Giving something to someone else is the best treatment of all. To aid a friend, love a child, encourage a neighbor or paint a picture. Taking photos and sharing them, writing an encouraging article or phoning a friend or relative, these are the jewels in life that keep on giving. We each can give of our treasure, however large or small the amount, but to give of oneself…that is the most valuable gift of all because it blesses both in the transaction.
Do not comprise a majority of one. You and I are each our own unique selves but through our heart strings we are tied to all we meet, know and love.
Weekly Dose of Sue 
Love you Sue, God bless and heal you. You are such a great blessing to me. I know you hear that all the time, but it’s my turn to tell you, again. It’s true and I think it’s important to let those who bless you, know about it. Thank you for all that you give and share of yourself. Much love, Terry
Absolutely great sue.
Loved reading this and how so true it is.
Something to hold onto in the mind when the going gets too tough
A way of looking at it all to make you feel included and not isolated.i shall be re-reading this one many times I think
Well gonna try and get back to sleep it’s nearly 4am here.gotta take GS for his theory part of the driving test today.got a choc. cup with well done on it hidden in the boot if he passes.lunch after for congrats ,or commiserations
Back later
Chris
Chris dear, I always worry about you…when do you sleep? I was awake or should I say am awake in the night also. Too bad our nights are several hours apart. Hope you got some more after your entry. How sweet of you to reward your GS for his theoretical driving test. Hope it went well. Thanks for your kind words about this blog. So much going on in my body and head right now, not sure what’s coming out onto the computer sometimes. Love you, Sue
Sue~~
Certainly “related” to this posting in so many ways~~did not realize we have something in common, Painful Buttock! About 18 years ago, I stupidly climbed up a tree to cut a limb down–knowing my husband had begged me to “wait till he got home” but pushed ahead and fell almost 12 feet to the ground, landing HARD on my butt. Never went to a doctor, never told my husband–until three months later when I got up one morning and all my toes were NUMB! Long story short–severe damage to my Sciatic Nerve–almost 9 operations later–devices to “trick” the pain, major staph infection, so on and on. Tons of Scar Tissue wrapped every which way and I have learned just how Wicked the Sciatic Nerve can be when it comes to Pain.
The comment of “a day ending~~PAIN, a day beginning~~PAIN” and having to DIG deep for strength to push ahead–yes I relate to these words all too well and continue learning about this precious Gift we call LIFE!! Living with Pain has changed me—but I still treasure the sheer JOY of being alive, watching the Sun drift away, sitting with my husband of 39 years and truly being GRATEFUL for each day we are given. Most recently as Viral Meningitis took a vicious swipe at me and truly flattened me beyond anything I could imagine~~I saw real FEAR in my husband’s eyes and hope to never see it again! I had fallen down on the JOB of taking care of myself–eating properly, vitamins, rest~~simply taking this precious vessel God has lovingly placed in me and honoring HIS love!! What a true JOY it is to know I am back on the JOB of Loving myself fully—and it is a delight…. PAIN will always walk beside me—my old butt and leg bark constantly and I can PREDICT the weather better than any network person could dream of!
Thank you Sue for this loving reminder of what we have been given–LIFE—it is the most amazing GIFT of all!!!!! I send my prayers your way…. martha
MARTHA….I GOT CHOKED UP WHEN I READ YOUR POST, YOU POOR LADY, HOW YOU HAVE SUFFERED, I THINK YOU ARE WONDERFUL……..LOVE JENNIE XX
Jennie~~ your words touched my heart! What a “loving” way of being able to LIFT one another up–give support–prayers–all via SUE and her heart-touching postings! Special Thanks to you Sue~~~I “rarely” speak of my Pain journey–but when you spoke of the old BUTTOCK–well something stirred DEEP!!! blessings to you Jennie, special BLessings to you, SUE!! Keep Posting!!! love, martha
Martha, what a time of it you’ve had. Think this requires a private message on FB…see you over there. Love you, Sue
Martha, my heart aches for you and what you have been through. And yet you say some of the most inspiring things about it all. I pray for your pain relief and continued joy of life.
Linda
Good morning all !
Sue WONDERFUL blog. So much to take in and think about. I quickly read it this morning, and will do so again tonight. I have to work today. But so much sunk in of what you were saying and I was going thru my mind of what I do and how much I enjoy my life. How I long for MORE in it, more animals to love of course ! I know in time things and circumstances will change and so life goes on ! Must get these blogs out to Ms Millie. SHe got the last batch and as always says “That gal can really write !” She so enjoys them. I wish she could get on here and write with us !
Well gotta run, more later
Much love
Tonie
Tonie, thanks for your kind remarks. I hope things are calming a bit for you, including that post op shoulder pain. Hope the chicks are behaving, but doubt it. Pups? They seem to have adjusted so well to country life.
I’ve been pushing to clean house a bit but not nearly as much as it needs..oh well. Eyes still a problem now that I had to stop the prednisone drops so look forward to getting that appt. with eye specialist. Waiting is difficult but it’s all to do right now with the cancer while the wound heals. I long for a few less problems but soon take myself to task and get over it. Hope your garden is growing well and that your weather has cooperated. Love you..Sue
SUE…..A GREAT BLOG WHICH HAS CERTAINLY STIRRED UP MY THOUGHTS…….OF YOU MOSTLY WITH BITS OF YOU FALLING OFF IN THE WARDS AND CORRIDORS. YOU ARE VERY GIFTED IN LIFTING OUR SPIRITS WHEN WE MOST SEEM TO NEED IT…..THANK YOU. LET US ALL KNOW WHEN YOU START YOUR TREATMENT LOVE WON’T YOU? HOW IS JIM GETTING ON AT WORK? I WAS THINKING ABOUT HIM THE OTHER DAY…………I HOPE YOU HAVE A DECENT WEEKEND MY DEAR FRIEND, AND AS MY DH JUST CAME IN TO PEER OVER MY SHOULDER AND SEE WHAT I WAS WRITING, AND SAW YOUR NAME, HE’S ASKED ME TO PASS ON HIS REGARDS, SO I HAVE……..I LOVE YOU…..JEN X
Jennie, a big howdy to your DH as you prepare for your journey. I do understand that feeling of looking forward to it but dreading to do it knowing the price you will pay for the idea and the follow through. If only our bodies had the strength of our imaginations. Looks like we’re to have a bit of rain this weekend and hope not on Sunday as Mother’s Day here is always the first day of our outdoor market. It’s so much fun and the flowers on Mother’s Day are all over the place. Beth and I are planning to go down if I feel up to it. Will be getting the kids off their school buses this afternoon and have a recital tomorrow. GS will play the guitar and GD the piano. Looking forward to it but have to remember to take a pillow and camera.
You’re so right. The liquids are a pain now to travel. Those little travel bottles or samples come in handy. Later dear girl, Love, Sue
Sue
Yea he passed.and the day went well
He was full of what he’s gonna do with a mate when he fulfills his appren,p…..start l a business …you know all those dreams that can come true when you are young.and he was so happy it was great to be in his company and the day could go on and on. Very rare days! We went out for lunch and it was all good..forgot what youthful optimism was like….
But …his step brother (he doesn’t live with) is only 22 and has been diagnosed with MS…he is always full of life.they have just found out.
It the midst of life…..
Well I did get to sleep for a few hrs…but thems my nights….
Sue. I do wish all would be at least copeable for you ..there us so much to deal with.
Your eyes and their corneas are concerning
Back later
Chris
CHRIS……..TRIED TO CALL YOU, SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT THE STEP BROTHER, 22 IS VERY YOUNG TO BE DIAGNOSED, ITS USUALLY PEOPLE OF LATE THIRTIES TO EARLY FORTIES, AS IN MY SON’S CASE.
SO PLEASED YOU ENJOYED YOUR TIME WITH JAMES AND A NICE LUNCH….BEEN HECTIC HERE, WILL TELL YOU ABOUT IT LATER WHEN I SPEAK TO YOU……….TAKE CARE LOVE, HAVE A NICE WEEKEND….LOVE JEN X
Chris, so pleased GS passed and know he is. How sad for a young man to be diagnosed with MS at 22…don’t mean your GS but his half brother. Sorrow seems to beset all of us at every turn. That’s why events like your day with your GS needs to be celebrated, right? Have a good weekend. Thinking of you and your family, Love, Sue
Hey all:
Chris, glad GS had a good day , and you along with it ! Martha, ya gotta keep up the work on this old body else it tryies to go to seed .
It has been a long week for me. But tomorrow is the King family reunion, so still have another day. And I have to cook some later this evening. Making some chicken, an apple pie and a blackberry cobbler to take along with some sweet tea. I made Doc (The man I work for) a chocolate cake for his bday today. An old recipe I hadn’t used in a while, very good one, I will have to include in the recipe book (HINT HINT) when we all get our recipes in. It is calling for thunder showers all day tomorrow, but I pray not ! At least a window where we can have it and then it can rain. We shall see. it is in His hands after all. Chokie just ran the chicken off who was trying to eat his food on the porch. I think it was Sadie 🙂 I just finished the most marvelous book “The Invention of WIngs” by Sue Monk Kidd. Wonderful historical account (partly fiction) of the Grimke sisters of Charleston, SC. I had never heard of them. Well worth putting on your reading list though.
I have a Styrofoam (or had) piece I had painted and turned into a little flower bed. That is until the chickens found it and it is their great joy and delight to peck it all the pieces out there ! I can hear them at it now !
Later all
Love
Tonie
Jen
Be in and out this w.end.
Exhibitions of history stuff etc
Try and catch me if you can.most likely early evening
Or Mondays looking good..
Bet your getting busy now lots of last minute stuff
Tonie your At your cooking again…can’t keep a good women down !
Well gonna catch up with some tv and I’ve lost a bit of weight …sooooo I mite try some of my clothes on I haven’t worn for a bit
Gives rain for the w.end and wind…..but long range is looking ok Jen
Chris
Yes, I too have learned that if I shift gears from ‘poor me’ to becoming genuinely present with other people, that I have become much happier. And because I am much happier, pain isn’t the dominating factor in my life anymore. I tell myself it is just a sensation … and there are many more sensations I wish to experience! Love your posts!
Morning Peeps !
Cloudy day today, praying the rain holds off til after the reunion ! Gotta get up and get going. I am going to crash and burn tomorrow I think. I have been trying to rest up as much as I can this week (and my house shows it ).
Jennie sent a really interesting recipe for the book yesterday ! Hope you all send more in: toniedalton@gmail.com
Baking is a kind of nerve tonic for me. I truly love it and the house smells so good afterwards. I know we each have that one thing that calms us down and gives satisfaction. A true necessity in our lives.
Sue I hope you had a good night at the concerts and that you are resting and smiling today from the benefits of it ! 🙂 I miss those trips.
Take care all and have a wonderful day.
Love to all
Tonie
Out a lot today Jen.sorry missed you .should be in more tomorrow
Went to this bloke talking about his firm who made those copper petals for the flame for the Olympics .it was quite interesting.and they didn’t know till they saw it happening how they were being used.it was a great secret .some other firm mades the stems .there was also a bygone exib on as well so out all morning and had a bite to eat out too
Have to catch up with some housework tomorrow.,been enjoying myself toooo much!
Cold and windy here
How’s everyone
Yea Tonie I feel better too if I’m cooking,takes the mind off things.and the aroma is nice and cosy after,makes you feel better inside .i had a look at those sisters on google.amazing story
Well got to do a bit of work be back later chris
THANK YOU SUE FOR A FABULOUS POST. I WILL BE RE-READING THIS ONE A WHOLE LOT. YOU SEEMED TO HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD WITH THIS ONE, AT LEAST FOR ME. SEEMS LIKE EVERYONE ELSE FEELS THE SAME WAY THOUGH.
LOVE YOU SUE.
XXX
Toni, we are getting that rain and thunder storms, but so far not the hale they predicted. Hope you got through your family reunion before anything started up your way. This came up from the south, so unless there’s more than one storm system, I think you’re may have been late in the day. I’m glad, for it’s cooled off a bit and our AC is out again…this is 3 years in a row now that it’s gone out at the beginning of summer. My house is almost 20 years old now and I do fear I’ll be needing a new heat pump in the near future. Got to pray for the money to do it!
Sue, I just loved this blog. It fit so well with a great sermon I heard the other morning, saying to thank God in advance for healing your pain, and then just get up and do. Even it it hurt at first, He’ll take care of it. I just found your words so encouraging, and they make me want to get up and do. I had to laugh at the picture of your butt falling off in the hallways of the hospital! What to do with spare butts??? I used to talk to my knee, tell it I WAS going that way, it it ,by God, was going with me! I don’t know if my knee listened, but my brain did, and the knee moved along with the rest of me.
I have decided that I’m not going to take the Humira any more. It works great on my Crohn’s, but since I started taking it, I’m had that staph infection in my naval, staph in both eyes, another uti, this rash under my breast that is spreading down my abdomen, and vaginitis. I’ve had enough. I’ve also got a keratoma on my forehead that used to be a very light brown and smallish, and not it is almost black, doubled in size, and feels even more grainy than it did before. I’m not sure that swapping one misery for dozens of others is worth it. I’m making an appt with my gastro this week; I’m willing to try the one left that I haven’t tried, but I am through with this.
Wishing all a wonderful Mother’s Day…..do you folks in England and Canada celebrate this too? Even if you don’t, hope your Sunday is wonderful. I love you all.
Linda
Linda:
THe storms held off until we were finished (no pics though) We had some small showers but just as we finished eating and was getting ready for pics, the thunder boomer hit with a deluge of rain ! SO that was that. Felt bad for the party that were supposed to get married int he gazebo near us. They had it all decorated , chairs out n all . It did blow over about an hor later. Sorry this stuff is not helping but hurting you, I don’t blame you though. SIde effects are sometimes worse than the disease.
Take care
Tonie
Tonie, Glad the King reunion went well and stayed fairly dry. I’ll bet the food was something to behold and taste. Sounds like a great time for all. Love, Sue
Hi Linda…….I think Canada does, but in the UK its in March……I get two living in France and being English……Happy Mothers day pet…….Jennie x
Linda, sorry, just screwed up an entry to you. Glad you’re going off the Humira and all those staph infections..scary. Did you get my entry on the last blog, toward the end, about the good fungus soap? I hope the new meds work better because I know how serious the Crohn’s can get for you. Life, huh? Love you, Sue
Happy Mother’s Day to all of you ! May you enjoy this day and all your kids and grandkids, wherever they are. I am going to church then afterwards gonna fix me some pancakes and strawberries !
Love to you all
Tonie
Hi Tonie……..Happy Mothers day to you too, will the kids be in touch? hope so. Enjoy church, and say one for me……would love to sample the pancakes but no STRAWBS………love you…Jennie poo xx
LINDA I DO AGREE WITH YOU. YOU HAVE SUFFERED WAY TOO MUCH WITH THIS HUMIRA. AS TONIE SAID THE SIDE EFFECTS ARE SOMETIMES WORSE THAN THE DISEASE. SENDING YOU PRAYERS AND ANGELS MY FRIEND.LET’S PRAY THE LAST ONE WILL WORK OUT FOR YOU.
WE DO CELEBRATE MOTHER’S DAY HERE IN CANADA BUT NOT SURE ABOUT ENGLAND. HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ALL YOU LOVING MOTHER’S OUT THERE. MAY YOU HAVE SUNSHINE AND LOTS OF LOVE TODAY AND EVERY DAY.
CHRIS SO HAPPY YOU GS PASSED HIS DRIVING TEST, WHAT A JOY TO BE ABLE TO CELEBRATE WITH HIM. SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT HIS STEP-BOTHER THOUGH HOW VERY SAD.
MARTHA YOU HAVE TOUCHED MY SOUL READING ALL YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH AND STILL HAVE A VERY BIG LOVE FOR LIVING. YOU ARE TRULY AN AMAZING PERSON. YOU HAVE ALSO INSPIRED ME. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THAT.
AS SUE SAYS I’M THE NEWBIE ON THIS BLOG AND STILL TRYING TO GET MY HEAD AROUND ALL THIS PAIN I’M IN. I THINK ONCE I FINALLY GET A DIAGNOSIS IT WILL HELP ME COPE A LITTLE BETTER AND SUE ALSO TOLD ME THERE ARE NEW DRUGS OUT THERE THAT COULD HELP ME. I AM LIVING IN HOPE EVERYDAY BUT I HAVE TO ADMIT I DO HAVE TO GIVE MYSELF A KICK IN THE PANTS EVERY MORNING TO MAKE MYSELF DO SOMETHING THAT WILL MAKE ME HAPPY AND FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF. THANK GOODNESS THE SNOW I S FINALLY GONE. WILL BE ABLE TO WORK A BIT IN THE GARDEN. 🙂
I THANK GOD EVERY NIGHT FOR SUE AND ALL OF YOU FOR ALL THE INSPIRATION I GET FROM READING ALL YOU HAVE TO SAY. I THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART THAT I HAVE YOU ALL IN MY LIFE.
LOVE YOU ALL SO MUCH.
XXX
Suzanne…the feeling is mutual…..love you too…BIG xx Jennie poo xx
Suzanne, First of all, don’t kick yourself too hard! Indeed, you’re right. A name for your ailment would make a great deal of difference. It helps to remove those doubts we all have. After all these years, I have several diagnosis and find it truly depends on the doctor and his or her opinion. With over 100 rheumatoid diseases to choose from, so much of it depends on the way your body presents itself the day of your exam. Lab work can be very important but not always conclusive. Many of us have changing bodies with perfectly fine lab work. It is frustrating to say the least. Keep bugging them sweetheart. Your life matters. Love, Sue
THANKS SUE, I WILL CONTINUE BUGGING. I SEE MY FAMILY DOC TODAY. HOPEFULLY SHE WILL HAVE THE MRI RESULTS. LAST TIME THERE SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT SENDING ME TO SEE AN INTERNIST. I’M PRAYING SOMETHING WILL BE DONE ESPECIALLY FOR THE PAIN.
LOVE YOU AND THANK YOU FOR KEEPING MY SPIRITS UP.
HOPE YOU ARE HAVING A GOOD WEEK. GOD BLESS.
XXX
OH TONIE, ENJOY THOSE PANCAKES AND STRAWBERRIES. YOU ARE MAKING MY MOUTH WATER AT THE THOUGHT OF THEM. LOVE YA XXX
Hey Suzanne:
Reflecting on Mothers in church today. And the verses that were read: Pro 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
Pro 31:11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
Pro 31:12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Pro 31:13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
Pro 31:14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
Pro 31:15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
Pro 31:16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
Pro 31:17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
Pro 31:18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
Pro 31:19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
Pro 31:20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
Pro 31:21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
Pro 31:22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Pro 31:23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
Pro 31:24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Pro 31:25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
Pro 31:26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Pro 31:27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
This was my mother, who never rested until all the work was done, who never put herself before us or our needs. My strength and determination comes from her and what she taught me and I thank God for all she was and did.
Love ya’all
Tonie
MINE WAS LIKE THAT TOO….AND MY NAN X
Jennie dear, when is take off for England day? Thinking about you and am excited for you. It will be memorable, I know. Timing is so important in life, isn’t it?
I had two lovely bouquets for Mother’s day. Jim bought one for me at Sunday market..surprised me with it from the Washington state growers who come across the river on Sundays and the second was from a local florist, sent by my kids in Texas. Jim also bought me a lovely necklace. So sweet. Beth and the little ones who are not quite so little came by briefly because they were all sniffly, and told me some of their news from Disneyland. It seems a lot of Disneyland has gone Star Wars since Disney bought the lot from George Lucas. Interesting to think of Darth Vader with Mickey ears, huh? Hope you’re well dear girl. A large hello to your dear man and hope the kids in England are well. Love you, Sue
Tonie, it’s a fine thing that you still have so many wonderful memories of your Mom. Know your Mother’s day was probably a bit lonely with all the kids far away. Does sound like the reunion stayed mostly dry and enjoyable. Love ya, Sue
Very interesting Tonie. So you look like your father but got your strength and determination from your mom. I for one can see or hear that, just by your every day comments. You are blessed my friend. love you XXX
Beautiful tribute to your mother, Tonie.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the ladies!
I’m spending my Mother’s Day recuperating from my second weekend of concerts. I’m finally done for a while. Maybe I’ll be able to build some energy back up. I went into last weekend fatigued, made it through that concert, then fought fatigue all last week, concerts Friday and Saturday with my regular group – Irish music! Including Irish Dancers! I’ve been trying to keep on top of the housework, but a few things have slipped by the wayside. Will try to get at them this week. My boy sold his car and is still without one. I’m taking him to look at a possibility on Tuesday. I hope it works out. Guess who’s been taking him to and from work when one of our cars is not available… DD is having a bit of a down time. Hopefully she will snap out of it soon. DH made dinner tonight 🙂 So nice not to have to come up with dinner ideas, prepare and then clean it up.
It’s been a few days since I logged on here. Sue, with all you are facing and all that surely is going ’round and ’round in your mind I continue to be amazed to find a new thoughtful and thought-provoking blog. I suppose I shouldn’t be. Helping others often helps us. 🙂 But recovering from surgery, travel, not to mention eye and vision issues and cancer treatment options and planning certainly adds a whole other level of difficulty. My thoughts and prayers for you continue, as they do for all here – that includes all who read but don’t chat. 😉
Martha, my heart goes out to you. Thank you for sharing your story. Hugs and prayers.
Suzanne, happy to see you here regularly. Keep seeking until you find your answers! Don’t settle. You have found a “home” here. 🙂
Linda, for what it’s worth, I agree. The Humira isn’t worth it in your case. Perhaps there is another option out there. I know you and your doc will figure something out.
Jennie, Chris, excited for your respective trip and GS’s achievement! So sorry to hear of MS diagnosis at such a young age.
Time to rest. Thinking of you all.
Lyn, so it’s that time of year again. It appears the spring and of course, the holidays, have you running, or should I say singing. I am concerned that fatigue is holding on so tenaciously. Hope you get the kids to help with some of those odds and bits you don’t get to.
I’ve had mixed feelings about all the sunshine we’ve had because it reveals so much more dust and dirt that begs attention. My DD keeps telling me to get someone in to clean but I don’t want a stranger in my home, going through our things and disturbing things and most likely not doing something the way I want it done. I’ve learned to live with clutter, because for two people we have too much stuff…pure and simple, but dust is another matter. As you know I put great value in my Roomba and Scooba and realize over the years have much they have helped me. I recommend them highly. I guess I also find it silly when the doctors all recommend exercise and then we hire our work done instead of seeing it as exercise.
I hope DD pulls out of this down time…prayers for certain and also that SB finds a car to not only enjoy but to lighten your load. I hope you had a bit more rest on Mother’s day and can face the week with long periods of rest interspersed. I had a quiet day on Sunday after being out for the grands recital on Sat. Lovely weather here for us.
I didn’t make it down to Sunday market yesterday due to all the sun and also Beth and kids are all with the sniffles. I knew the sun would be a problem for me, especially irritating to the eyes right now. I’m waiting for a referral to the eye specialist..and it seems, I’m waiting for many things. Waiting for the wound to heal enough for radiation, waiting for these seroma’s to stop forming, changing from the daily shots to one twice a year and waiting to see the oncologist who will give that. I don’t wait well. I know..it’s a personality defect.
Hope this week is more restful for you dear friend…Love ya, Sue
SUE…..HI, MY UK DAY IS ON SATURDAY THE 17TH, BEEN STRUGGLING WITH THE LUGGAGE, AS WE CAN ONLY TAKE 10KG EACH, AND THE WEATHER FORECASTS HAVE BEEN CHANGING ALMOST DAILY, SO SWEATERS HAVE BEEN OUT, PUT BACK TO BE REPLACED WITH T-SHIRTS, THEN BACK AGAIN, IN AND OUT LIKE A FIDDLERS ELBOW…..HOWEVER, I HAVE NOW BEEN INFORMED BY CLAIRE, THAT ITS ALL GOOD, SO T-SHIRTS OUT AGAIN. IT WILL BE NICE TO HAVE THREE GENERATIONS UNDER THE SAME ROOF AGAIN…..ITS BEEN AWHILE. I WILL BE THINKING OF YOU THE WHOLE TIME, AND IF I GET ACCESS TO A PC, I WILL F/B YOU…..IF NOT, I WILL BE ON HERE WHEN I GET BACK……I AM HOPING YOU WILL HAVE MORE INFO ABOUT WHATS HAPPENING BY THEN…….I LOVE YOU…….JEN X
Jennie, Go and enjoy your family ! Think of nothing but all your time together and store up those memories for days to come. ! So glad you are going home to be with them all. Nothing more precious than spending time with our loved ones. Just take what you can and let them lend you what ever else you need. Tell em to keep some spares handy 🙂 Have fun and be safe !!
Love you
JENNIE POO, I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND HOW YOU ARE FEELING. ALWAYS WORRIED YOU WILL NOT BRING WHAT WILL BE NEEDED. ( I’M THAT WAY ALSO) JUST PACK WHAT YOU THINK IS RIGHT AND I’M SURE SOMEONE THERE WILL BE ABLE TO LEND YOU A SWEATER OR WHAT EVER, OR YOU COULD GO BUY WHAT IS MISSING.
YOU TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF DON’T FORGET TO TAKE BREAKS NOW AND THEN. ENJOY IT ALL JENNIE.
WHAT GREAT MEMORIES YOU WILL HAVE. LOVE YOU SWEETPEA!
WILL BE THINKING ABOUT YOU AND SENDING PRAYERS AND ANGELS.
GOD BLESS.
XXX
Jennie, I bet you are really getting excited for your trip now that it’s less than a week away! I know you will make the most of it. Memories to be had! Good luck with the packing. 🙂
THANKS HONEY….GETTING THERE AT LAST….LOVE YA XX
Well as usual I overdid it yesterday ! The sun was out and so beautiful and I felt good ! Bad combo for me to do too much but so enjoyed it. Strange how much I love to work outdoors and HATE to do housework 🙂
BUT, got the weed eating done (nice light electric weed eater) and touch up mowing (for the most part) Planted the tomatoes, and pepper plants. Got my flower pots done, and cleaned off the flower bed., Don’t really sound like much but ti takes a long while to get it done between rest periods. And boy was I hungry when I finished !! It was a great day and I love it when those happen.
Please everyone take care today. Sue, praying for your appts to get done, and get this stuff over with. Love you all
Tonie
HEY TONIE. SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAD A DELIGHTFUL DAY. GOOD FOR YOU. WE ARE NOT LANDED THERE YET WITH PLANTING. STILL A CHANCE OF FROST. BUT SOON WE WILL, I CAN’T WAIT. AS YOU SAYS WITH REST PERIODS BETWEEN.
LOVE YOU BIG. YOU TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF. \
XXX
WELL JUST GOT BACK FROM THE DOC’S AND SHE SAID THE SAME THING AS LAST TIME. SHE WILL GET AN APPT WITHIN THE MONTH TO SEE AN INTERNIST. LET’S PRAY THAT, THAT HAPPENS SOON THAN LATER. NO HELP FOR THE PAIN.
LOVE YOU ALL XXX
I’m sorry you didn’t get any definitive answers yet, Suzanne, but it sounds like you are on your way! Praying you will get to see an Internist very soon!
THANKS LYN, NEED ALL THE PRAYERS I CAN GET RIGHT NOW. I ALSO HOPE TO SEE THE INTERNIST SOONER THAN LATER. MAYBE THAT WILL GET THE BALL ROLLING RIGHT?
YOU TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF. SEEMS LIKE YOU NEED TO REST, YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH A WHOLE LOT LATELY, WELL FOR A WHILE NOW. HOPE YOUR DS GET A NEW CAR SOON AND DD FEELS BETTER SOON.
LOVE YOU SENDING YOU PRAYERS AND ANGELS XXX
Suzanne, I know you’re disappointed. Who wouldn’t be? I think she should have given you more than that but it does indicate she does have something in her mind or some idea or she would have come up with a rheumatoid explanation for your misery. More waiting dear girl. Sue
Suzanne:
Honey I know you are disappointed, Prayers for your relief and for answers. Like Sue says, she evidentally has something in mind that can be helped by and internist. Hang in there , answers are coming.
Love you
SUZANNE….HOW COME YOU WERE GIVEN NOTHING FOR THE PAIN? WHAT’S THAT ALL ABOUT, IF YOU TOOK YOUR DOG TO THE VET IN PAIN, HE/SHE WOULD GET PAIN RELIEF, SO WHY NOT YOU, I DON’T GET IT, AND I HATE THAT YOU HAVE NOTHING TO HELP YOU….PRAYING FOR YOU SWEETHEART….LOVE JENNIE POO XX
THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR CARING THOUGHTS. MY SISTER GOT OPERATED TODAY AND SEEMS LIKE ALL WENT WELL. THANK YOU GOD! NOW THE WAIT, TO SEE WHAT KIND OF TREATMENT SHE WILL NEED, RADIATION OR CHEMO. THANKS AGAIN FOR ALL YOUR PRAYERS I KNOW FOR SURE THEY ALL HELPED EVERY ONE CONCERNED.
I COULD NOT GET ON TO POST TODAY SOMETHING WAS GOING NUTS-O WITH MY COMPUTER. FINALLY HAD A LIGHT BLUB MOMENT AND TURNED EVERYTHING OFF…. TA DA… I’M BACK ON.
JENNIE POO, DOC TOLD ME THERE WERE LOTS OF OTHER STRONGER PILLS SHE COULD GIVE ME BUT SEEMED TOO WORRIED TO GIVE THEM TO ME AND TOLD ME TO WAIT TO SEE THE INTERNIST. SO SUE MUST BE RIGHT WHEN SAYING THE DOC HAS SOMETHING IN HER MIND. I SURE DO HOPE SO.
LOVE YOU ALL SO MUCH. THANKS FOR BEING THERE FOR ME.
XXX
So tired today 🙂 WOnder why ? I sat with Ms Alice today, Fran and Doc went to play golf, so I was there longer than normal. Oh well, more bill money huh ? So, we had lunch and I was working on a baby blanket, looked over and she had her head back snoozing, so I closed my eyes. Well we slept for over an hour before the phone woke us up ! It was a nice little catnap and badly needed !
Cereal with blueberries for supper. Not much hungry tonight. Let the girls out for the bug run, got my feet up (ankles swelling today) and waiting til they go back to roost and then off to bed for me as well !
Hope you all had a great day and have a better one tomorrow !
Love ya
Tonie
Tonie dear, legs up indeed. Do take care. Probably on your feet and now with the weather warming..may be your yard work catching up with you. Did you get the recipes I sent. Have a couple more to send. Not sure what is of interest, will send some little items as well. Do rest..thinking of you fondly, Sue
Yes ma’am I got them ! Keep em coming ! All of you who are reading this, send me a couple of recipes to : toniedalton@gmail.com We are putting together a blog cookbook !
TONIE SWEETS…..GLAD YOU WERE ABLE TO TAKE A WELL EARNED NAP WITH MISS ALICE, LORD YOU MUST HAVE BEEN POOPED, BUT THE MONEY WILL HELP KEEP YOU FOATING TILL YOUR DISABILITY COMES THROUGH….ANY WORD ON THAT YET? ITS AWFUL WHEN YOU HAVE TO STRETCH YOUR CASH LIKE ELASTIC……I HAD BLUEBERRIES LAST NIGHT TOO, NO PIPS, SO LEGAL FOR ME, HAD IT WITH NATURAL BIO YOGHURT RAW HONEY AND FRESH CINNAMON…….MMMM LOVELY. I HOPE YOUR ANKLES ARE LOOKING THEIR SHAPELY SELVES TODAY, IF NOT, GET YOUR FEET UP AGAIN AFTER YOUR CHORES ARE DONE…….LOVE YOU MY FRIEND….JENNIE POO XX
Suzanne
I am so upset for you that that was all you got from your dr.
Leaving you in pain for another month or so. Did he have all your results there? Maybe his hands were tied and you have to wait to see someone who knows it more than he does. But it seems so long .
But this seems to be the road we all have to take and understand .
Just know you are getting nearer.
Thinking of you
Tonie hope the swelling has gone down .and you had another good sleep
Sue when do you see the eye dr? Do you still put the drops in?
I do hope that they are getting better
Chrisx
WELL YES CHRIS SHE DID HAVE THE RESULTS OF THE MRI (WHICH WAS ONLY FOR MY ORGANS AND NOT MY BONES???) SHE SAID EVERYTHING WAS CLEAR, NO PROBLEMS ANYWHERE. I REALLY FEEL LIKE I’M LOOSING MY MIND.
ALSO SAW THE EYE DOC LAST WEEK AND I HAVE DRY EYES SPECIAL DROPS TO PUT IN THEM. HE TOLD ME IF ANYTHING SHOULD CHANGE TO CONTACT HIM IMMEDIATELY. MY DOC SHOULD GET THAT REPORT THIS WEEK ALSO. I HAVE TO SEND EVERYTHING INTO THE COMPANY THAT IS PAYING LONG TERM DISABILITY. MY DOC TOLD ME THE REPORT WOULD BE READY NEXT WEEK. I’LL HAVE TO GO AND PICK IT UP AND MAIL IT TO THEM. HOPE THEY DON’T CUT ME OFF. THAT WOULD BE DREADFUL.
HOPE ALL IS GOING WELL FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. LOVE YA BIG. XXX
HELLO……DON’T OFTEN MOAN, BUT TODAY IS AN EXCEPTION, THE TRIP TO THE UK ON SATURDAY HAS ALL GONE PEAR-SHAPED, SO MANY THINGS HAVE GONE WRONG, THE FIRST BEING MY MOM COMING TO THE UK AND STAYING WITH US AT MY SONS, SO ME AND DH HAVE TO BED SHARE, NOT GOOD AS WE BOTH SUFFER WITH OUR JOINTS, SO THAT IS THE FIRST THING, THEN THE STEP FAMILY GOT DIFFICULT, EXPECTING US TO MOTOR FOR MILES TO SEE THEM WHEN THEY ALL HAVE CARS, AND AS WE ARE ONLY ON A 4DAY TRIP, THAT WOULD MEAN ALMOST ALL OF IT SPENT ON THE ROADS AND AIRPORTS. SORTED THAT, THEN BOTH FAMILIES WERE MEETING AT THE VILLAGE PUB TO MAKE IT EASIER AS ITS ONLY A BLOCK FROM MY SONS HOUSE. EACH TIME CLAIRE HAS GONE TO BOOK A TABLE, THEY HAVE TEXTED AND ADDED TO THEIR GROUP, SO ONCE AGAIN SHE HAD TO GO IN AND SORT IT OUT……THE LANDLADY NOT BEST PLEASED AS OUR “PARTY” WILL BE OCCUPYING MOST OF THE RESTAURANT, AND THE LOCALS WILL HAVE TO GO ELSEWHERE.
THEN TO TOP IT ALL, LAST NIGHT I WAS “INFORMED” THAT YET TWO MORE WERE COMING, NOT “WOULD THAT BE POSSIBLE” JUST PRESUMING….SO CLAIRE HAS TO SORT IT OUT AGAIN……YOU CAN SEE WHY MAYBE THIS IS ALL GETTING A BIT STRESSFUL, AND PERHAPS YOU CAN ALSO SEE, THAT HAD I NOT GOT THIS OUT OF MY SYSTEM, I WOULD HAVE GONE NUTS………….SO APOLOGIES, NOT THE USUAL STUFF WE PUT UP HERE, JUST HAD TO LET OFF STEAM….THANKS FOR LISTENING, AND LOVE TO YOU ALL……JENNIE XX
Steam away, Jennie. I’m sorry you are having such a time of it.
Anytime Jennie. Love you. Janet
JUST TO LET YOU KNOW, CHRIS CAN’T GET ON THE BLOG, SHE WILL BE IN TOUCH AS SOON AS SHE CAN…….JENNIE X
JUST HEARD SUZANNE CAN’T GET ON EITHER…….XX
THANKS JENNIE POO FOR LETTING EVERYONE KNOW I COULD NOT GET ON TO POST. SEEMS LIKE FOR NOW IT IS ALL RIGHT FOR MY COMPUTER. CROSSING MY FINGERS AND TOES ON THIS ONE AS I KNOW NOTHING ABOUT COMPUTERS. FIXING I MEAN.
LOVE YOU JENNIE POO. STAY STRONG AND LET THE GOOD TIMES ROLL. YOU CAN NOT CONTROL WHAT IS HAPPENING RIGHT NOW SWEETHEART SO GO WITH THE FLOW AND AT SOME POINT YOU WILL HAVE TO SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF. YOU ARE THE ONE WHO KNOWS HOW MUCH YOU CAN TAKE. PERIOD!
LOVE YOU BIG. GOD BLESS. XXX
Jennie, I am sorry there is already tension regarding your much anticipated trip. It’s the last thing you need…more stress. Can you all meet at another place? I just feel so badly about it all. Try not to let all of this take the pleasure out of it. Maybe you just need to put your foot down (decide what you want and stick to it). I suspect you’re often too accommodating because that’s who you are, always thinking of others but sometimes, you must come first. I pray nothing spoils this. I’ve been in similar situations and everyone you’re visiting is not of equal importance on your scale of priorities and if feelings get hurt…well, tough. Love you much, Sue
Jennie:
ANd probably half of them won’t end up showing up ! 🙂 You hang in there gal. Do what YOU want to do while you are there, be with your family and let them come see you if they want. Don’t deviate from your plans to accomadate others.
Love ya
Tonie
JENNIE, I AGREE WITH SUE SHE IS ONE SMART, CARING LADY.
LOVE YOU BOTH. XXX
Dear blog friends, so dear to me…no blog this week. My sweet editor, Natalie is going to be on vacation. She more than deserves it. It gives me more time to put up with our current heat and clean my house. For some reason I want it clean before treatment. I have a date for my first radiation appt. It will be two weeks from today on May 28th. I’m nervous but glad to get it started so the treatments, frying any cancer cells left, can be over and completed!
Yes, I’ve been trying to be a good girl and get recipes to Tonie. I’m trying to spread them out a bit in categories and think it will be such fun to share with all of you. So very kind of her to do this for all of us to enjoy since most of us like to cook. I know we all like to eat. Love each of you. Sue
Sue:
Glad we have a date to get this over with. I so understand wanting it all to be clean. Place a stick by the door when you leave and tell Jim it is for his head if it doesn’t look like it did when you left 🙂
Once I get enough recipes I will start getting them copied out to fix. Ms Suzanne has offered to help me all she can. We have to see how to go about it. Still in the planning stage. I think if I publish it online , on Amazon, that way everyone has a better access to it no matter where you are. Please take care, and know my prayers are with you.
Love
Tonie
OH SUE, GOOD TO HEAR WHEN YOUR TREATMENTS WILL START. I WOULD BE NERVOUS TOO, YOU ARE HUMAN YOU KNOW. WE WILL BE ALL SENDING YOU AND YOUR TEAM PRAYERS AND I AND OTHERS TOO WILL BE SENDING YOU ANGELS TO GUIDE EVERYONE ON THE RIGHT PATH.
TONIE MUST BE REALLY BUSY WITH THOSE RECIPES. I MUST GET ON THE ONE I TOLD HER I WOULD TRANSLATE INTO ENGLISH. TONIE DEARHEART, I WILL SOON. YOU ARE A SPECIAL ANGEL.
I UNDERSTAND WANTING EVERYTHING CLEAN BEFORE YOU START YOUR TREATMENTS, I WOULD WANT THAT ALSO.
DO TAKE CARE NOT TO OVERDO.
NATALIE SWEETHEART, YOU GO AND ENJOY EVERY MOMENT OF YOU VACATION AND THANK YOU FOR BEING SUCH A KIND AND SWEET EDITOR. GOD BLESS YOU ON YOUR TRAVELS OR JUST RELAXING AT HOME. XXX
LOVE YOU SUE AND EVERYONE ON THIS BLOG THAT KEEPS ME GOING.
XXX
Just testing
Well blow me it’s working,be back later.i tried 10 x yesterday to get on great
See you Chris
Yipeeeeeee
HELLO………THANKS EVERYONE FOR ALLOWING ME TO HAVE A GOOD OLD RANT, IT WAS A BIT INDULGENT OF ME THOUGH.
I FEEL BETTER ABOUT THINGS NOW, LET THEM ALL DO THEIR WORST, SO LONG AS I GET TO SEE MY KIDS, MY MOM, AND MY DH GETS TO SEE HIS, THATS ALL THAT REALLY MATTERS. I WILL JUST LOOK THE OTHER WAY ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE, YOU HAVE ALL GIVEN ME TOP NOTCH ADVICE WHICH I FULLY INTEND TO TAKE.
CHRIS….SORRY YO ARE STILL HAVING PROBLEMS GETTING ON HERE, THOUGHT IT WAS ALL FIXED FOR YOU LAST NIGHT, BUT ITS HAPPENED AGAIN HASN’T IT, I EXPECT IT WILL ALL COME GOOD SOON.
SUZANNE….SEEMS YOUR PROBLEM IS NOW SORTED OUT, LOOK AFTER YOURSELF WHILST I AM AWAY, NO WILD PARTIES RIGHT?? LOVE YOU SWEETHEART.
TONIE……I HOPE THE SHOULDER IS GETTING BETTER, DON’T OVERDO NOW THAT OU ARE GETTING TO THE LAST HURDLE, AND I PROMISE TO SEND A RECIPE AND MAYBE A STORY BEFORE I LEAVE FOR THE UK….LOVE YOU MATE…JENNIE POO.
SUE…….YOU ALREADY KNOW THAT I WILL WORRY ABOUT YOU WHILST I AM AWAY…CAN’T HELP IT, BUT SO PLEASED YOU HAVE YOUR START DATE, I KNOW YOU WILL FILL THE TIME LEADING UP TO IT WITH TIME SPENT WITH YOUR FAMILY, JUST THE BOOST YOU NEED, AND THANKS FOR YOUR CONCERN, I WON’T LET YOU DOWN, MY STRESS LEVELS ARE GOING DOWN AS WE SPEAK……MY FAMILY WILL HELP ME THROUGH, SO WHY WORRY, PLUS I HAVE HAD SUCH ENCOURAGEMENT FROM YOU ALL, WHAT A LUCKY SOD I AM…………….I LOVE YOU…..JEN X
JANET AND LYN……..LOVE YOU GUYS, PLEASE LOOK AFTER YOURSELVES……LOVE JENNIE XX
HI AGAIN….JUST TO LET YOU KNOW CHRIS CAN’T POST AGAIN, SHE CAN READ THE BLOG THOUGH, ANYWAY HOPEFULLY SHE WILL BE BACK ON AS SOON AS THE PROBLEM IS SORTED……….THANKS, FROM CHRIS, VIA….JENNIE X
Sue:
Following message from Chris:
“thinking of you , and remember to take your humidifier with you when you go to get your treatments”
She has been unable to post , she can read but not post.
Love ya
Tonie
HI EVERYONE…….JUST A QUICK POST AS I WILL NOT BE AROUND TILL NEXT WEDNESDAY, SO JUST WANTED TO LET YOU ALL KNOW THAT ALTHOUGH I AM TAKING A BREAK, NOT ONE OF YOU WILL BE OUT OF MY MIND……SO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELVES, YOU ARE ALL PRECIOUS TO ME……..GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU ALL SAFE……LOVE AND HUGS….JENNIE XXXXXXXXXXXXX
Love you Jennie. Have a wonderful trip. Janet
JENNIE POO, GO AND KNOCK THEM OUT. HAVE A BLAST DEAR GIRL. ENJOY EVERY MOMENT. I WILL BE THINKING OF YOU THE WHOLE TIME YOU ARE GONE ALSO. PRAYERS AND ANGELS FOR A HAPPY & SAFE TRIP, WITH LITTLE PAIN.
LOVE YOU BIG SWEETPEA! XXX
GOOD MORNING EVERYONE, JUST TO LET YOU KNOW MY SISTER IS HOME AND DOING WELL. HER DD WHO IS A NURSE TOOK THE WEEK OFF TO TAKE CARE OF CAROL. NOW IT’S WAIT TIME AGAIN – 4 WEEKS – THEY SHOULD BE ABLE TO LET HER KNOW IF IT’S RADIATION OR CHEMO. I SPOKE WITH HER YESTERDAY AND HER SPIRITS ARE UP. OF COURSE WE BOTH CRIED WHILE TALKING TO EACH OTHER, BUT THEY WERE ALL GOOD TEARS.
CAROL STILL NEEDS ALL OF YOUR PRAYERS SO ALL WILL CONTINUE TO GO WELL. SHE ALSO HAS A GREAT TEAM OF DOCTORS TAKING CARE OF HER AND WILL CONTINUE TO DO SO.
WELL THAT’S MY GOOD NEWS FOR TODAY. HAPPY FRIDAY! LOVE TO ALL AND A GREAT BIG THANK YOU! XXX
Suzanne, so pleased to hear Carol has such a good team of doctors in her corner. It makes all the difference in the world. Lucky her having a daughter who is a nurse. I felt confident with Jim at my side so I understand. I wish I had a sister left to talk to and I understand that feeling, also.
I’m sure they’ll make every effort to do what’s best for her and pray they treat her as the individual she is and not a number. Good care always does that. Be sure to check out all the comments I got on my recent status report I posted yesterday morning on FB. Some of those remarks might be helpful for Carol. There were a lot of comments about helpful hints for radiation, etc. Please tell her to feel free to contact me anytime she wants to.
I pray you have that internist appt. coming up quite soon dear girl. Much love, Sue
I WILL CHECK THEM OUT. THANK YOU SUE FOR YOUR KINDNESS.
LOVE YOU XXX
Jennie:
Have a safe and wonderful trip ! Enjoy all your time and wear yourself out completely so you can jsut rest when you get home !!
Suzanne, so happy to hear about your sister. Continued prayers for her recovery. Hope you are feeling better as well.
Wow, it rained so hard yesterday all day off and on. This morning I woke up exhausted ! Was going to go and swim some, but couldn’t push myself into doing it. Still laying here soaking up the sack time at 10:30 !! Just need to rest some more, then I will do my chores
Everyone have a wonderful day and weekend to follow.
Love
Tonie
Tonie, sounds like your chores have knocked you down. Funny how it can just sneak up on us sometimes, isn’t it?
When you can try to push yourself and your body plops down like a stubborn mule..and it is you…better listen. You need some healing time in there and by golly, your body will demand it. I made a huge trip to the store yesterday and after the 6th trip up the front stairs carrying bags, I thought everything was going to go on strike right inside of me. Renewal comes harder each year but I’m determined to gain back my stamina…it’s too bad it’s in the doing. If only..and then in the doing, the muscle work, etc. it’s so difficult to know when we’ve gone too far.
I hope all the rain didn’t hurt your garden and no plants were drowned in the process…again. It’s been a crazy, dazy weather bit you’ve had. I talked to my son in Dallas awhile ago and it’s been zany there as well.
Do take care and be good, as possible with life going on..Much love, Sue P.S. Will send you a couple more recipes this evening when I find the cookbook I stuck them in.
Sue:
Well, I got a few things done yesterday but mostly rested. Today after the dew dried off I got out and mowed the grass, put that blade down on 3 so it is almost of scalp ! Looks like I need to bale the grass 🙂 At least it should stay semi good for a couple of weeks then. We had my cousins funeral today. Up on top of a mtn at this little cemetary where his mom and dad and wife are buried. IT was so COLD !! I am back home and changed into my jammies, fried me a couple of eggs and some sausage, made me some good lemon herbed tea and am trying to get warm. My whole body hurts from being in that cold. It was so good to see all my cousins, but sad to see them this way. I think we all agreed to NOT wait til this way again and get the reunion next year so all can be there. I love all the silly stories that come out at gatherings. We are not getting any younger, so …
Hope you are feeling better. Rest up for your big trip. I am rooting for you ! Millie said to tell you that she has you in her prayers. She is gonna send me some recipes. She said since Bill does all the cooking it will really be his 🙂
Love ya
Tonie
HELLO……YES I KNOW I SAID YESTERDAY WAS MY LAST POST FOR A FEW DAYS…….BUT HAD TO TELL YOU CHRIS STILL CANNOT GAIN ACCESS TO POST, SO I KNOW SHE WILL BE THINKING OF YOU ALL ANYWAY, AND LOVES YOU ALL NEARLY AS MUCH AS I DO….HA HA!!!
WELL PACKING DONE, DOG PACKED TOO, HOUSEWORK DONE……AND STILL FOUR HOURS TO GO, I DON’T HAVE A LOT OF PATIENCE WAITING TO TRAVEL, JUST WANT TO GET IT DONE WITH. HAD TO TAKE A CALMING PILL AS GOT STOMACH CHURNING GOING ON….YEAH I KNOW….SILLY!! FEEL A BIT LIGHT HEADED NOW, IF THIS IS WHAT I AM LIKE ON SUCH A SHORT FLIGHT, WHAT THE FREAKING HECK WOULD I BE LIKE ON A LONG HAUL….NO PERHAPS NOT….A STUN GUN SPRINGS TO MIND.
SUE..CHRIS..TONIE..SUZANNE…JANET…LYN…AND EVERYONE……..LOVE AND HUGS FOR A GOOD WEEKEND…….JENNIE X
Have a good trip Jennie ! No not silly I get anxious like that as well. Once the plane is in the air, I am ok.
Love ya
T
Jennie dear girl, well, let’s see. By now you have hopefully arrived and are now sleeping or sitting up talking to your son and Claire. I pray the trip was not that rough on your back and sitter. I agree with Tonie about getting anxious when flying. I always pack and repack. Don’t know why…guess it’s fear of flying, fear of missing the flight, fear of the discomfort..on and on. I know you will have a glorious time if you can just let go…let others get in a dither and you just keep looking for the joy. Thinking of you each day and always with love, Sue
LOVE YOU JENNIE POO! XXX
Chris, I’m sorry to hear you are having trouble logging on to enter. Be sure you’re using the exact same password as usual. I know it must be frustrating. Glad you can read the entries anyway but do wish you’d change your mind about FB.
I don’t know why you sent a message through Tonie since you have my email address. Are you having trouble sending them, too.? I love/hate computers, don’t you? I definitely plan to take my humidifier with me to Portland and actually have a new, smaller one you plug into an outlet. Need to figure out how it works. My Sjogren’s has been nothing but trouble lately. Got an appointment in late June with the corneal specialist, so relieved. Went to the dentist the other day and have FIVE new cavities. I think a big part of it is the Sjogren’s as well as the osteoporosis. I brush, I use a waterpik yet my teeth are still falling apart, too.
I need to run errands but dread it as we have a cruise ship in and the streets will be a mess. Tomorrow and every Sun. until October will be our big Sunday market. Wish you could see it. How’s Dad and DH’s B/P? Think of you often but life has been crazy and exhausting for me lately. Much love, Sue
HI, HAD A VERY HARD DAY TODAY. COULD BARELY WALK, WHOLE BODY PAINFUL JUST NOT SURE WHY EVERYTHING AT THE SAME TIME. STILL NO APPT WITH AN INTERNIST, WILL BE CALLING MY DOC TOMORROW CAUSE TODAY WAS A HOLIDAY IN CANADA. I JUST CAN’T LIVE LIKE THIS IT’S CRAZY, EVERY TIME I MOVE OR TRY AND GET UP EVERY THING CRACKS, JUST SO MUCH TROUBLE TO MOVE. BAD DAY!
TOMORROW WILL BE BETTER.
LOVE YOU ALL
XXX
Suzanne:
Darling much in prayer for your relief. Keep buggin that Dr, the squeaky wheel gets the grease ! Can you get some alleve ? Take it often and double the does (plug your ears nurses) It does the trick when you have nothing else for a while. I am afraid that where they took you off all the meds, you are feeling extra bad. I went thru this last year when that silly Dr did the same to me. It is awful ! I agree. Hang in there sweetie.
Love you muchly
Tonie
Thanks Tonie. Can’t take Alleve cause I’m on blood pressure pills. I do take 2 500mg Tylenol but still the pain continues.
Just got up so of course I’m in pain hoping today will be better. Still too early to call the doc. But will asap.
love you big.
Hi everyone- it’s been a busy couple weeks for me! Crazy at work with my new baby- and he pulled his NG tube out while I was off Thurs and Fri so poor Julie has had a fun time with him as well. Of course his supreme cuteness makes it hard to feel cross with him…
Went to Oklahoma for my nephew Sayre’s high school graduation- it was a lovely ceremony. One of the girls in his class got surprised by her father in dress blues, just back from Iraq, meeting her with flowers as she walked across the stage. Standing ovation and not a dry eye in the house! Also got to hear Sayre sing and play his guitar at his music school’s showcase in Saturday night. Proud Auntie here!
Took my niece Candi for a pedicure Saturday and “private baby shower” since I was unable to attend the one she had a couple weeks ago. It was such a sweet time with her. She is due any day now- it’s a little girl. I’ll be firing up the sewing machine soon I suspect.
It was good to see family- my oldest brother Joe, his family, and my niece Brandy, were up from San Antonio. For those of you on FB, I posted pics of Sayre’s music showcase, (the ones of his graduation were really fuzzy) and one of my Brother Joe holding my little great niece Bella, and wearing her yellow flower headband on HIS head. Lots of love and laughter! The crazy brother & his wife stayed in Eastern Oklahoma, so no drama!
I am wiped out tired from the drive and sleeping in my little niece’s twin bed, but wouldn’t have traded it for anything.
Mom got to come home from rehab hospital Friday also, so she was on cloud nine, able to attend the graduation, the barbecue on Saturday, and Sayre’s music showcase. She was really getting depressed, having been in there since a couple weeks before Easter, and them wanting to keep her another two weeks and only give her a day pass for graduation. My oldest sister put her foot down, told them she wouldn’t be getting any therapy over the weekend anyway, she has help at home, and with all the family coming in for the weekend, that it would be cruel to keep her any longer. She will finish her PT and OT on an outpatient basis and is so much happier being at home. “Though she be but little (5’2″), she is fierce!” Lol.
Well, off to bed for me. More soon… Love to all, Princess Crabby Pants
Hey princess ! Glad you had a wonderful time with your family ! Hey them little women are crazy ! My mother was one of them also, they will climb you like a fence post !
Sweetie, when you get a minute, email me a couple of recipes, @ toniedalton@gmail.com
And all you others who haven’t or have more to send me, send them on. If there are stories behind them (Sue had a great one) tell them to me as well. I would love to include them in the book !
Well back to work for me today. GOod/bad day yesterday. My son was here overnight with me, and we had a nice visit yesterday morning. He went to get his dad to the VA Dr, and I to work out. On the way there (they are right next to each other) I blew a radiator hose. My son is not mechanically adept, so he gave me $40 to assist. $102 later it was done !!! Had I been able to get ahold of my sis’s friend, it would have been $20 ! However, it was a blessing I was not out on the highway somewhere. My older brother is up. His grandson had emergency appendectomy (is there any other kind) and is having complications in his small intestines (prayers please) So afraid it is similar to what my brother has.
Well after a nights sleep so much better outlook on the world, wonderful how that works. Love you all
Tonie
Tonie, I’m sorry to hear about the car trouble. It seems to always add up so quickly. I’m glad your son was with you for that but still sorry. Hope you had some good time to talk about his family, etc. Hope you got in a bit of rest during the car bit and didn’t do any mowing, weed eating, planting, chicken chasing, etc.
Sorry to hear about your nephew. I also hope it’s not what his Dad has. These darn family jewels and genes. Yep it usually is an emergency although I had mine out during an abd. surgery while they were in there anyway…what the heck?
We go to Portland tomorrow. Jim has to have further excision on a skin cancer and I’ll get mapped or marked for radiation therapy. Everyone keeps telling me how fatigued I’m going to feel with radiation therapy. Glad we’ll be staying at a hotel for the afterwards except for weekends. I’m having a hard time imagining how I can be more fatigued than I am already. Wouldn’t that be totally inert? I’ll be that lady leaning in the corner of the room too pooped to pop. Have to get GD off the bus in a few minutes so in a rush. Thinking of you with love. Sue
Annie, so good to get a nice long newsy entry from you. Wow girl, you have been busy plus!! Your large family is so full of life and activities. WOW. Indeed you will be taking on some girl sewing very soon. It’s wonderful to have family pride and watch the kids grow and develop their own interests and talents, isn’t it?
I’m pleased your Mom got to be part of it all. I’m sure it meant the world to her. I know you’re worried about her but it does sound like she is improving. It comes slowly when we get old..I know. Sounds like your family is standing behind her and glad your drama queen brother didn’t show. Probably for the best. Whoosh girl what a time you all had. Do rest up and love that baby patient..poor little guy. Love ya, Sue
OH PRINCESS, SO NICE TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR SPECIAL WEEKEND. HOW NICE TO SEE YOUR NEPHEW PLAY GUITAR AND THEN TO GO FOR A PEDICURE & A PRIVATE BABY SHOWER WITH YOUR NIECE, SPECIAL BLESSINGS HAPPING IN YOUR LIFE. IT MAKES ME HAPPY TO HEAR YOU SO HAPPY. GOOD FOR YOUR MOM, HAPPY TO HEAR SHE WILL CONTINUE AS AN OUTPATIENT. GREAT THAT THE DRAMA YOU THOUGHT MIGHT HAPPEN DIDN’T CAUSE THE DRAMA DIDN’T COME. YEAH!
REST UP NOW AND ENJOY YOUR LOVING MEMORIES.
LOVE YA
XXX
HI EVERYONE, HAS ANYONE HEARD FROM POMMUM BRENDA? GETTING WORRIED ABOUT HER. WONDER WHAT THE CT SCAN REVEALED AND HOW SHE IS DOING.
BRENDA IF YOU ARE READING THIS AT SOME POINT PLEASE KNOW I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOUR POSTS. HOPE ALL IS WELL WITH YOU. MAYBE YOU ARE MOVING TO THE COTTAGE.
GOD BLESS LOVE,
XXX
Suzanne, I have to agree with Lyn. I’ve seen a few entries on FB from Brenda regarding the pups. It’s very difficult for her to type with one working finger on each hand and so exhausting. I pray she’s okay, as well.
I think you should get on the horn, or phone and call the rheumy and tell her you’ve had enough and need help. Maybe you’re being too polite. Push honey, push. Sometimes they don’t know how bad it is if you don’t squeal. We each understand so well what you are experiencing and feel deeply for your plight. It’s time for some answers. Take the pain med you know is safe for you and brings you a modicum of relief. Hugs during this rough time. Fondly, Sue
Suzanne, I’ve seen some posts on my FB Feed from Pommum, but I don’t think I’ve seen any CT updates.
Princess Annie, what a wonderful weekend you had! And such good news all around. Your new little kiddo sounds like a sweet little handful. 🙂
Annie and Tonie, I fully relate to that 5’2″ firecracker! (One doc’s office has me at 5’2″, another at 5’2 1/2″) I’ve never referred to myself as a little crazy woman… I have used small but mighty instead. 😉 But, yes, we can be fierce – and don’t you forget it! 🙂 Sorry to hear about your radiator hose, Tonie. So far we’ve lucked out with the boy’s Jeep. We think he just ran his battery down by accidentally leaving the dome light on. Since we got it running it’s been running fine. Let’s hope it continues! Meanwhile, my car remains in the shop and should have been done a while ago. Next time I need work done by a dealership I think I may go to the other one near here. This one has taken FAR too long. Cars!
Suzanne, I should have said earlier how sorry I am that you are experiencing so much pain. I do hope you get in to see that internist quickly and can find some relief!
Lyn, I know. Is there anything worse than car trouble? The only thing I can think of is trying to get a new cell phone, which I tried today. They kept asking me for the password on my old phone. I DON’T KNOW. I’VE HAD IT TEN YEARS. I just hate tech talk anyway and when I can’t find a human being to talk to…oh my.
I like to think of small women as small packages and you know what they say about those. I love your new pic on FB…it’s lovely.
Hope you’re right about SB’s car being a drained battery. Bet he’s enjoying a Jeep…Hope he’s feeling well and also hope DD is feeling a bit more perky and life has improved for her. Loved your azalea pic on FB. Around here it’s azaleas and rhodies. Magnificent rhodies the size of trees are blooming all over town. Must run, or limp or saunter to the school bus. Later, love ya, Sue
Lyn, I never had you pictured at 5’2″ I was thinking more like 5’9″ !! Well, since you didn’t need the battery for SB, just send it on down to me 🙂
5’9″? HAhahhaha! Not even in platform shoes! Although, I confess that many have thought I was taller than I am even having seen me in person. Not sure why. My legs are longer, so maybe that’s it. SB is definitely enjoying his Jeep. It is an older one, but looks really good. No rust or anything. We’ll see how that battery holds up.
Sue, I’m sure your azaleas and rhodies are gorgeous! I have some rhodies on the side of the house but I keep them trimmed to a height I can keep shaped easily. They bloom but are not as lovely as yours, I’m sure. My flags are blooming out back, I see. It’s too gloomy to get a good picture today. Besides, they are just starting. My new profile pic is from our spring concert. We all wore green bowties and scarves (pashminas). We ladies all wore our scarves differently and it did look lovely. Tied mine front as a wrap. 🙂
OH LYN WOULD LOVE TO BE FRIENDS ON FB, THEN I COULD SEE YOU LOVELY PICS. XXX
HAPPY WED.EVERYONE. HOPE IT’S A GOOD DAY WITH LITTLE PAIN FOR ALL.
LOVE YOU & GOD BLESS.
XXX
Hi, Suzanne! I wish I could say it has been a good day with little pain. Unfortunately, it started raining here overnight and rained all morning. It’s been damp and gray all day with some additional showers. You know what rain and dampness does to us arthritics… stiff and sore today. And tired. But this, too, shall pass. How are you holding up?
OH LYN SWEETIE SO SORRY TO HEAR THAT AND YES WE ALL KNOW WHAT RAIN AND DAMPNESS DOES TO US. WE ARE SUPPOSE TO HAVE RAIN TOMORROW AND THE WAY I’M FEELING , I THINK THEY WILL BE RIGHT. HOPE YOU HAVE A BETTER DAY TOMORROW LYN. 🙂
GOOD NEWS TO SHARE WITH EVERYONE, DOC CALLED AND I HAVE AN APPT. WITH THE INTERNIST ON JUNE 12TH AT 2:30.
I HAVE TO GO TOMORROW TO PICK UP MY FILE WHICH HE WILL NEED. HOPE THIS WILL GET THE BALL ROLLING. STILL IN SO MUCH PAIN. I’M NOT SURE WHAT TO EXPECT AT ALL. ANYONE KNOW WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE MEET AN INTERNIST?
PRAYERS AND ANGELS TO ALL.
LOVE YOU XXX
Suzanne ! Great news ! Praying that this Dr will answer questions and make changes ! Be sure to make a list of all you need to talk about !
Lyn, we got the storm and rain last night. Woke me up with big booming thunder. I was petting Ceasar who was on the bed with me, and felt a strange spot. Turned on the light and he had a big hole dug in the base of his spine. I have no idea when or how he did it. SOmewhere trying to get where he shouldn’t be. So up I get and dress the wound. I will check it later to see if he needs stitches. GIve him a shot of penicillin and there we go ! I put the girls in the pen with the big chicks last night, glad I did with all the rain. I also got a new Rufus ! My neighbor had one that looked like him ( a young one) and he gave him to me, he isn’t even crowing yet 🙂 I hope he will end up being as nice as Rufus was to the girls. So far he has a long way to go 🙂 Take care all and have a great day !
Love
Tonie
Oh, dear, I hope Caesar is ok! A new Rufus! Yay! You may need to train him a bit in the fine art of caring for the ladies. 😉
Tonie, I’m also pleased you have a new Rufus. I’m wondering how does one train a rooster…aren’t they all about food and sex? Come to think of it, what’s unusual about that? What crazy weather you’ve had with so much rain, wind and surprises. Glad the red headed chicks are okay. Life is never dull for you or seems for us.
I hope you’ve written your congressman again about your disability.
Poor Caesar. I hope you got it closed and also would be concerned about tetanus since there are so many places he might go where it’s possible. Poor little guy. Scary situation. Glad he has a smart Mom, in you. Do
Hi All, oh my, so much going on for us. But first of all I must share that Jennie is home and had a fine trip in spite of some health problems thrown in. I’ll let her tell you about those as well as a somewhat iffy visit with her daughter. Apparently it was great to see her Mom and her son and dear Claire. It sounds like she is glad to be home. She, as well as Chris are having trouble entering comments on this blog…how frustrating is that? I’ve asked Natalie to look into it for them. I pray we get the kinks worked out soon. I know it’s frustrating because Jennie said she made a nice long news filled entry only to have it disappear. Oh my.
Now as for life here. We spent the day in Portland yesterday and my first treatment with radiation will be next Thursday. I got my tattoos on my chest for the placement of the machine for the treatments. I tried to get them to give me an anchor but they insisted on dots. Jim also saw my surgeon who is not only noted for her breast surgeries but for being a melanoma specialist. He has a small melanoma which the dermatologist excised but did not get all the edges therefore my surgeon is going to do surgery on Jim the first week of June to get it all. Since it’s the scariest of all the skin cancers, please pray it has not extended anywhere else. They will be checking his lymph nodes on that side of the chest.
My Sjogren’s syndrome has been very active this year, as you know from my problems with my eyes and it has also caused me to have five new cavities in one year since I saw the dentist. I have some other dental issues and until those are all cleared up I will not be able to start on the second new osteoporosis drug that will be an IV drug twice yearly. It can cause necrosis of the jaw if one is having complex dental work so I have to get all of this taken care of and with the radiation treatment, some of that will have to wait. Hey, I’m only one little old lady with all this coming at me!! Well dears, as you know, we must take life just one day at a time and then those mountains of problems are doable. Needless to say I appreciate your love and concerns. Love each and will answer you today, I promise. Love to each, Sue
My goodness, Sue! About the only thing you don’t have right now is a hangnail. One will probably pop up tomorrow. I am so glad your surgeon is going to take care of Jim as well! That is scary having some of that one left. This doc sounds like a real keeper!! Will continue to keep you and yours in my prayers.
I sure hope Natalie can get to the bottom of our overseas posting issues. Jennie, Chris, a while back I and some others were having difficulty posting on the earlier blog site and many of us started copying before we tried to post so we could paste and save for later if needed. Jennie, glad you are safely back and that most if not all of your trip was wonderful. Chris, I hope you are holding up well and that your dad is getting on all right.