STEPPING IN SELF-PITY

self pity

 

 

Self-pity is a lot like dog poop. They both happen, are inevitable under certain circumstances and they both certainly stink. They are a mess when you step in them. They both serve little purpose in life and don’t even make good fertilizer. They don’t promote growth; have no redeeming qualities except to generate waste. It’s hard to get rid of all the evidence as it becomes ingrained in the bottoms of your feet or shoes, continues to stink and leaves odiferous evidence in its wake. Self-pity is messy, slippery, and stinky and causes others to flee from us in herds. There are some things in life you just want to avoid, like hemorrhoids, infection of any kind and root canals. You can add to that list any condition ending in “itis.” They still occur, but we do try to step around them when possible. I think we should add self-pity to that list.

Self-pity sets others at a distance due to the “stench” and the mess it creates. It’s difficult to deal with and has to be disposed of carefully and yet, it’s always there, lurking, ready to emerge. Self-pity, like doggie do-do, when tripped upon must be handled with discretion and taste…well perhaps, there’s a better word than taste, and therefore I’ll stick with discretion. The only purpose they both seem to serve, self-pity and doggie do, is to offer release to the giver yet distress to the receiver.

Yesterday I took George, our little Yorkie in to have his nails clipped and to have the vet insert a microchip for identification in case we should ever lose him or him us. He was great about it all, amazingly so when I saw the size of the needle used to insert the microchip. He didn’t utter a groan or a growl. As soon as we placed him on the floor, he immediately told us his opinion by leaving a gigantic poop on the floor. George spoke.

There are millions of us out here, living with chronic pain. You can see we’re not by any measure alone but it certainly does feel that way. I’ve given the subject a great deal of thought over the years, both as a nurse and as a patient. I’ve seen screamers, moaners, whiners and stoics. I’ve been a couple of those myself given the right circumstances but didn’t particularly care for either one. I’ll let you guess which ones I tried and found unsatisfying. When you’re stuck with the daily reality of chronic pain, whether it’s joint pain, headaches or muscle spasms, it is all you feel. There are many types of pain but your pain is the only one with which you can be on intimate terms. It’s yours and yours alone. Feeling lucky?

How do you feel when other sufferers who are filled with self-pity approach you? If you’re a good soul, you can try to empathize with another who is in pain but can you really feel what they feel? You can compare miseries, but it’s a sort of unsatisfying, weird contest without any winners. You can sympathize but it’s such a shallow gesture and is not one of my favorite emotions. Sympathy is really just a ten cent greeting card to say you did something. I know, I know, there are no ten cent greeting cards any longer but it’s the metaphor I was searching to find. Now empathy is an improvement over sympathy, especially if you have now or have ever had chronic pain. As good as the effort appears to be, sympathy and empathy do not heal self-pity. That has to heal from within.

Most folks don’t realize how different chronic pain is from temporary pain or discomfort. It’s exhausting and exasperating. For isolated, temporary or transitional pain you are encouraged to take pain pills. For chronic pain, you are usually discouraged. Everyone is afraid you’ll become addicted. For temporary pain you get attention, expensive get well cards and sympathy but that’s because it’s short-lived. It hurts just as much but it carries a measure of hope because it will heal, end or go away. Chronic pain just sticks around like a bad dinner, indigestion and those pesky relatives that arrive for extended visits. They are two entirely different experiences and need to be handled differently. The long term scope of a life with chronic pain requires more understanding if you are to keep it from taking over your entire life. It has a tendency to do that.

First of all there aren’t enough words to describe what this way of life is truly like. Many of us who have suffered it for many years still recall the first shock when we are told and truly realize we will always have a certain amount of pain. To say it is a shock is an understatement. For me it came on gradually after 13 doctors couldn’t tell me what was wrong and three years passed when I couldn’t shake the pain. It began to occur to me, “Well, this doesn’t look like it’s going anywhere.”

You can see I’m not a terribly quick study and kept hoping, praying and seeking. Sometimes the answer is no, sometimes it is wait and occasionally it is in the form of help. I didn’t get a definitive diagnosis for another 13 years and even now, there are doctors who are of differing opinions as to what my problems are. They are real. You can see and feel them and it has changed my life forever. One begins to slowly realize it’s here to stay so we had better make friends with it. Talking about it all the time, the usual form self-pity takes, doesn’t change a thing. Like a wolf caught in a lair, we’re tempted to metaphorically chew off our foot but then…we’d be short one foot.

Strangely, acceptance is the lock to that trap or lair. You have to move on but can’t if you’re caught in the lair of self-pity. Life beckons and still offers so much in return. Just start counting the good things in your life like your spouse, your kids or grandchildren, your pets, your yard or view, your friends, and the list goes on. There has to something you always wanted to do and can do. You may have an ability or talent you have not developed. Fool around with it. See if you like it and if you do, buy a book on the subject or take a brief class or lesson. Get up, get out and go. If you can only go onto the porch, then do it. Sit in a chair or on the steps and look around you. Life is moving on, whether you are or not. If you can drive to the store, look at all the flowers or new books. Buy your favorite dessert. Buy a small gift for someone else. If you can afford it, buy a case of soup or vegetables and take it to the local food bank. Do something outside yourself. Notice the folks at the store. Do they all look trouble free?

For most of us who live this way of life, we come to a crossroad of sorts. We become sick and disgusted by our own state and probably begin to notice others are turning a deaf ear to our complaining. However, even when others listen to us, the pain is the same unending song. That’s usually when we have to grab life by the shorts and listen to the sounds of the clock on the wall; tick, tock, tick, tock. We realize these are our years, months and weeks which comprise our lives. This is it. This may be as good as it’s going to get. We need to reconcile and decide to enjoy life on these terms, enjoy and love others and learn to shut up. If enjoy is too big a leap, try tolerance and endurance as you continue to look around at life happening all around you. And whatever you do; watch where you’re stepping.

144 thoughts on “STEPPING IN SELF-PITY

  1. This is a hard one for me. I have always had a positive attitude towards my life and still try to maintain that, but I have a problem. My friends persist in asking how I am doing. I try to make short work of it by just brushing it off. What to do, lie and say i’m fine, make a joke, or tell the truth (not good ). I’m curious what others on the blog do or say when someone asks How are you? The ones that really get me are the nurses in the doctors office. I know a lot of you are or were nurses, what answer do they expect? Is it just a greeting that has no meaning? Am I making a big deal out of nothing? Trouble is when they ask it brings the pain into prominence, when I am trying so hard to ignore it. Anybody else have a problem with this? That’s enough of a rant. Positive thoughts and prayers for everyone. Janet

    • Janet, no you’re not making a big deal. It is my fault that I didn’t, obviously, make myself clear. I’ve been writing about all of this for so long, sometimes I think you all read between the lines which I neglect to write. My dear friend, answering a friend about how you feel, truthfully is not self-pity; answering an inquiring nurse regarding your condition is not self-pity either. Those are just the facts ma’am, like on the old Dragnet show and movie, just the facts. I think this one is a bit confusing for you because you don’t do it. You’re not a self-pity kind of person. The self-pity person is the one who is always groaning, “woe is me” and “nobody else has as much as trouble as I do.”
      When someone asks me how I am, I tell them the truth if I have a moment, like, “I’ve been better,” or “I’m having a crappy day, how about you?” The self-pity type goes on and on, endlessly seeking sympathy and embellishes to gain that reward. I suspect you do not do this. Is that a fair explanation? Love, Sue

      • Janet:
        I am with Sue, if I am in a mind to say so, I do. I mean at the Dr’s office you are there cause you are NOT fine, so I tell em :Not so good” or something like that. Others on the street, depending on who it is is mostly “I;m okay”. Just let em have it if they really get to you ! That ‘ll teach em to ask !! 🙂

      • Dear Sue, Your post was very clear. It’s just that I have had this problem for years. I remember when I was very small, about 5, my Mom took me to the doctor for a bad sore throat. The doctor asked me how I was doing and as I had been taught I said fine. Wrong answer, I was informed that when a doctor asked you told him what was wrong, anybody else got the fine. That it was just a greeting like hello. I just would like to know how others handle it and you answered my question. Tell the truth, but keep it pithy. Thank you!
        So many here seem to be having such a bad time right now, it breaks my heart. Your having dental problems on top of everything else just seems overwhelming. If the fact there is someone out in cyberspace who really cares and is sending positive energy and prayers helps you in any way I am here for you. Love, Janet

    • JANET……………COULDN’T HAVE PUT IT BETTER MYSELF……PEOPLE SAY, “HOW ARE YOU?” AND YOU KNOW BLOODY WELL THEY DON’T REALLY WANT TO KNOW, OR THEY MOVE ON TO THE NEXT CONVERSATION, WITHOUT GIVING YOU THE CHANCE TO REPLY….I DON’T BOTHER NOW, I JUST SMILE AND GET ON WITH IT, AND HOPE THEY NEVER HAVE TO SUFFER CHRONIC PAIN THEMSELVES….BUT THEN MAYBE THEY DO, AND HAVE GOT EQUALLY CLEVER AT COVERING UP AND SMILING THROUGH……LOVE YOU….JEN XX

      • JANET SWEETHEART, I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL. PEOPLE ALWAYS ASK ME ALSO, FOR A WHILE I WAS TELLING THEM, BUT NOW LIKE JENNIE SAID MOST DON’T REALLY WANT TO KNOW. IT’S JUST SOMETHING PEOPLE ALL SAY WHEN THEY SEE SOMEONE.. IF IT’S MY FAMILY, LIKE MY SISTER-IN-LAW I WILL TELL HER THE TRUTH. IF I’M AT THE DOCTOR’S OFFICE I TELL THEM THE TRUTH ALSO. MOST OF THE TIME IT’S ” FINE”, CAUSE THEY SHOULD KNOW THAT I’M NOT FINE, SINCE I’M NOT WORKING (DISABILITY) AND I JUST WANT TO SCREAM.
        LIFE WITH CHRONIC ILLNESS IS DIFFICULT. IT’S ONLY BEEN 3 YEARS FOR ME, BUT FOR MANY MORE ON THIS BLOG IT BEEN AGES. BUT SELF PITY IS NOT ME. I DO HAVE MY MELTDOWN PERIODS WHEN I’M ALONE BUT THAT IS ABOUT IT. MAYBE OTHERS HERE HAVE A WHOLE LOT MORE KNOWLEDGE THAN I DO AND WILL ANSWER DIFFERENTLY. I’M LEARNING HOW TO DEAL WITH ALL OF THIS PAIN BECAUSE OF ALL THE KIND PEOPLE ON THIS BLOG. I FEEL I HAVE A BUNCH OF FRIENDS NOW WHO REALLY UNDERSTAND.
        GOD BLESS YOU JANET. SENDING PRAYERS AND ANGELS YOUR WAY MY DEAR.
        LOVE YOU XXX

    • Janet, I’ve had trouble with that one, too. I tend to be pretty honest and upfront – unless it would be hurtful, so when I started having chronic pain and that question was asked I found myself questioning whether the inquirer was merely extending a greeting or was truly wanting to know how I was doing. I find it easier anymore to give a quick response – ‘fine’ for the greeter, some short answer for the person I think may be truly interested. I don’t like to dwell. I’ve discovered sometimes you end up in a long conversation that can sometimes be uncomfortable because most people don’t really know what it is like to live with chronic pain. And Sue’s right. It is very different from short term acute pain as we all know. 🙂 I feel like you and I are peas in a pod with regard to this question. For me, it depends who is asking. 😉 Sometimes I give them the truth, sometimes the generic ‘fine’. Boy, that was the long way around that one. I apologize. Feeling a bit tired at the moment. Imagine that.

  2. Sue you’ve hit the nail on the head yet again. I had been having a little pity party last week after breaking a rib (doing something stupid I admit) and wondering if the puppy Remi would ever get her gut evened out ending up in a lovely meltdown. The difference between the acute rib pain and my chronic pain is startling. The acute injury doesn’t always hurt more than the chronic pain but seems easier to live with knowing it will eventually go away. After it was all over I realized how much I enjoy the new routine of spending long periods of time outside letting Nessie and Remi play like 2 puppies. (the shelties would never let Nessie play with them) It does help that the summer here has been cooler than it usually is. Flirt has been trying to mother Remi even though that little puppy (not quite 12 weeks old) is taller than Flirt is already. I also know there are so many people that have it so much worse than I do. I’m so lucky to have good friends, an income, health insurance and health care. I also had the pure joy of meeting my new god-daughter Addie who arrived in the USA from China 4 weeks ago. She is a darling high functioning Downs syndrome. She already has learned some sigh language (family has a deaf son they adopted from Columbia) as well as English. She gained 6 pounds in a month and has gained a great deal of muscle tone and already walking with minimal support (wasn’t in China) What a joy.

    • Laura, you sound much better than you did last week, granted. Sounds like Nessie and Remi are becoming fast friends and I do mean fast. How wonderful for Nessie and the pup. Hope that rib is feeling better now. I did read about it on FB and know it was a rough spell for you.
      You new god daughter sounds wonderful. What a joy is right. You will enrich her life and it sounds like she is already enriching yours. Good to hear from you. Glad the summer has been milder weather wise. Take care of that rib…you know they take their sweet time to heal, right? Love you, Sue

  3. I think I’m the I’m alright to everyone. I can never be bothered to say otherwise as I always
    think it’s just a greeting and they wouldn’t want to know anyway
    I suppose it’s who’s asking….as to some I would cover it up and say ok I think it’s only here that I say how it is
    But with Janet’s post that could be my thoughts about it all
    I am prone to thinking and thinking….my DD says I think too much!
    Well another day here and it’s pleasant sunshine not too hot..but gives rain laterWe had the remnants of Bertha over here last two days…..I think you got some too Jen ..yea how you and your wings?hope the whatever you had done is working
    Well gonna get some toast and tea
    Chris

    • HI CHRIS….YES YOU ARE NOT WRONG….WE GOT A BIG BIT OF BERTHA, THINGS ARE MORE SETTLED NOW THOUGH, GOT THE MASSAGE TODAY, SO GOING EQUIPPED WITH TOWEL HAIR COMBS AND A PILLOW, SO WIT ANY LOOK I WON’T LOOK LIKE AN OIL SLICK THIS TIME….DON’T KNOW WHY THEY HAVE TO USE SO MUCH BLOODY OIL, I’M NOT THAT BIG……..STILL DOING THE EXERCISES WITH DH, SEEM TO FREE THINGS UP A BIT….KEEP ENJOYING THE SUNSHINE MY FRIEND….LOVE JEN X

      • Oh my I would LOVE a massage with all the oil they want to use, a shower afterwards puts that to right ! 🙂

      • OH HOW NICE FOR YOU JENNIE. I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE A MASSAGE, JUST NOT SURE IT WOULD BE THAT COMFORTABLE WITH ALL THE PAIN IN MY BACK……../ GOOD FOR YOU, DOING EXERCISES WITH DH. IT ALWAYS HELPLS WHEN WE HAVE SOMEONE WITH US TO DO THOSE EXERCISES. I JUST BOUGHT A BOOK ON ARTHRITIS FROM JOHNS HOPKINS AND THEY SHOW YOU HOW TO DO A WHOLE EXERCISE PLAN. I’VE STARTED SLOWLY AND HOPEFULLY WILL WORK MY WAY TO BEING ABLE TO DO ALL OF THEM.
        ENJOY THE MASSAGE JENNIE POO.
        LOVE YOU
        XXX

  4. Sue:
    Dog poop and all !! We who have animals have done that too much huh ? There is always some form of POOP whether it be real or imagined we can slip on. What is that saying that” acceptance is the first step to understanding” ? I had to accept that my pain was never going away. And your blog helped me to understand and accept that fact, And then to go on and realize that talking about it all the time just annoys the heck out of people. I have never been one to suffer silently, but after a few years you learn to do this as well. There are people with whom you can discuss your ailments and they really care and want to know how you are, and them that don’t. When you start getting the ” WELL, I have that SAME hurt only mine is worse” you know they ain’t that person !! 🙂 Good one, I will be sure to print it out for Ms Millie. I have to send last weeks to her as well,
    God bless you all this day
    Love
    Tonie

    • OH TONIE SO RIGHT ABOUT PEOPLE WHO SAY THEY HAVE THE SAME HURT ONLY MINE IS WORSE, HAD THAT WITH A PERSON I WORKED WITH. SHE WOULD CALL ME UP ALL THE TIME TO FIND OUT HOW THINGS WHERE GOING BUT THEN WOULD TURN AROUND AND TELL ME SHE HAD THE SAME THING BUT WORSE AND SHE WAS ABLE TO KEEP WORKING…….HMMMMM STRANGE HOW SOME PEOPLE DON’T EVEN REALIZE THE HURT THEY PUT IN YOUR HEART AND HEAD. WHEN SHE NOW CALLS I USUALLY DON’T TALK ABOUT ME BUT ABOUT HER AND THAT IS FINE IT SEEMS FOR HER. I USUALLY SAY I’M BUSY AND CUT IT OFF PRETTY DARN FAST. SHE CALLED WHEN SCHOOL ENDED TO SAY SHE WOULD COME TO VISIT. WELL THAT DIDN’T HAPPEN YET AND SCHOOL IS ABOUT TO START.
      OH SORRY ALL FOR GOING OFF ON A RANT.
      REALLY JUST WANTED TO SAY I TOTALLY AGREE WITH TONIE AND TO THANK SUE AND ALL ON THIS BLOG FOR KEEPING ME GOING WHEN THE GOING GOT TOUGH. LOVE YOU ALL A BUNCH.
      GOD BLESS
      XXX

      • Suzanne, don’t we have enough to put up with besides inconsiderate, selfish so called friends? I know it’s often sad when we realize the true worth of someone and it happens all the time when our lives are struck with chronic pain…others, friends, family members. We are forced to be kind to ourselves out of the need for pure survival. Every once in awhile I run into it on here or on FB with others who get offended that I didn’t answer them soon enough or at all, with all I’ve been going through. I simply don’t have room in my life for those types I’m afraid. There are others who always go after the jugular vein and also always look at the dark side and like to think we “look just fine.” It gets so old, so often. We have to be responsible for our own joy on our own or with the help of positive friends like those on here. I’m very fortunate to have attracted such a great group of individuals on here and FB. So many lives change with pain, as you have discovered. Always good to get your input dear girl. Love, Sue

    • Tonie, I’m pleased to hear Ms. Millie is still interested in the writings here on the blog. As far as the blog, I am always interested in the directions that some of these blogs take. Everyone naturally, personalizes them which is good; not always the way I intended but it is out of my hands when it’s published. I hope you’re getting some sun for you and for your garden during this last fling of summer. Indeed, we each have those in our lives who are so self-centered we can’t truly communicate with them any longer. Not all relationships last forever, huh? Love to you, Sue

      • Not just in our people lives but in our families as well Sue ! Unfortunately ! Yes, Indeed Millie loves your blogs, I need to send off the last two to her this week. Just a bit of sun this am, and then rain rain rain again. Raining again as we speak, but supposed to head on out of here tonight and then the sun will be back for good !
        It is strange ain’t it, how people we think are so close to us will veer off suddenly and permanently ? I always thought that they weren’t really friends at all then.
        Love
        Tonie

  5. HI SUE….GREAT BLOG, POOP, WELL THAT’S A NEW ONE, STEPPED IN A BIT OF THAT IN MY TIME, BUT THE MESSAGE WAS A GOOD ONE….I HOPE THE DENTAL TREATMENT WILL SOON BE OVER, ITS ENOUGH TO DEPRESS THE CRAP OUT OF ANYONE……GOOD OLD GEORGE, HE DID WELL, I THINK THE SIZE OF THE NEEDLE IS MORE SCARY TO US THAN TO THE DOG, THEY DON’T SEE IT, BUT WE SURE AS HELL DO…….AND WHAT BETTER WAY OF REGISTERING HIS COMPLAINT THAN AN ALMIGHTY “DUMP” HE HE!! GOT ME CHUCKLING THAT ONE….RIGHT OFF TO THE TORTURE CHAMBER NOW, FULLY ARMED WITH ALL THAT IS NECESSARY TO WARD OFF THE OILSLICK……..LOVE YOU…..JEN X

    • Jennie, indeed George made his opinion known. Amazing timing for the little fella. I thought of you this afternoon when I was resting and watching a TV film called RETURN TO THE SECRET GARDEN. It was filmed in Yorkshire…so very beautiful.I do hope your DH didn’t wear himself out cleaning up his flower boxes that fell due to the wind. They are such a grand idea and so colorful. I hope you’re not feeling like an oil slick after your treatment today and resting peacefully sweet girl. We each want you to feel better and get some mode of help for your back, wings and sitter. Love you, Sue

  6. Tonie, Of course, you’re right. Life changes and so often people also do. Guess it’s life telling us to live day to day and appreciate what we have? Glad you’re getting some sun on the way. Can you say soggy? Gees. I never saw chickens do the backstroke. Love, Sue

  7. Dear Friends, I guess it’s been awhile since I updated you on my particular status. You have, each of you, been so wonderful with your concerns and prayers over these last five months. What a ride it has been. I am still sore from the mastectomy and doing stretching exercises for the shoulder and lymph nodes. The burns from radiation are much better as I wait for a new layer of skin to grow over the wound, underarm and that half of my chest and ribs. My esophagus burn is much better; can swallow more than one pill at a time now. Now I am suffering with a rotten sacroiliac joint from sitting every few days at the dentists office. 10 visits in all and I’m halfway through. I hate going to the dentist, don’t you? Especially when they pinch your cheek until it’s black and blue with six shots, and those lousy shots in the roof of the mouth? Not a fun thing. I must get all of this hideous mouth of mine taken care of to go on a new injection, twice a year called Zometa. It’s for osteoporosis and helps to prevent breast cancer recurrence. One of it’s possible side effects is necrosis of the jaw and it occurs more often if your mouth is not pristine…so…here I am. Only a year since I’d been to the dentist but apparently my teeth are going the way of my bones. Okay dears, now you have the facts, just the facts. I thought you needed to know after your many wonderful messages and prayers. Love each of you who write and also those who have been reading this blog for years but remain more quiet. We’re in this together folks. Life is still full of wonderful possibilities, right? Sue

    • YEAH SUE….GO GIRL, HALF WAY THERE ALREADY, ITS A RIGHT BUGGER I KNOW, HAVING TO HOLD YOUR MOUTH OPEN FOR AGES HURTS LIKE HELL, I HAVE EAR/JAW PAIN ALL THE BLOOMING TIME NOW, ITS STRIKES THE MINUTE I OPEN MY EYES….BUT HEY THAT’S LIFE, AND ITS SO IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO GET THE TREATMENT DONE, SO YOU CAN START WIT THE SHOTS…..YES YOU HAVE HAD FIVE MONTHS OF AWFULNESS (IS THAT A WORD?) BUT YOU HAVE COME THROUGH IT LIKE THE TROOPER YOU ARE…KEEP GOING LOVE, AND KNOW WE ARE ALL IN IT TOGETHER AS YOU SAY, SHARING AND CARING.
      PS….AVOIDED THE OIL SLICK TOOK A PACKET OF BABY WIPES, BUT FORGOT TO PUT MY COMBS IN, ALSO LEFT THE WIPES ON THE TREATMENT COUCH, THE THERAPIST CAME RUNNING OUT OF THE CLINIC AFTER ME WAVING THEM IN THE AIR…..HA! THEY ALREADY THINK WE ENGLISH ARE POTTY ANYWAY…SO WHAT??!!! LOVE YOU XX

      • Jennie, you paint an interesting picture of your multicultural life. I’ll bet it’s more than interesting at times. Hope your current methods are helping. I hate to think of you being in so much pain although each of us know what that’s like. I wouldn’t say that’s life as you did, but it is the case for many. Do take care, Sue

  8. Morning all :
    Sue, I so hate those shots in the roof of the mouth ! I have a low gag reflex as well and like you, holding my face and pinching it makes it so sore. I have probs with the jaw, inherited where it will pop out of place, and sometimes when I have to hold it open too long they have to massage it back in, boy that smarts ! Seems like the dentist is just all around fun for us huh ? I so feel for you having to sit like that for I know how it hurts. I had a dentist who had such a comfy chair, it was like a recliner. Wasn’t so bad with him.

    Well, I am in for a busy time running to the Dr. I need a prayer cause this is gonna take me some $$ to make all these trips. But I need to get them done prior to this appt with the disability hearing. Tomorrow I hit the surgeons , then I go back for a bone density and then once more at the end of the month for my RA dr’s apt. That way I can bring all new updates with me to the hearing. I must say I was surprised when I got the apt sent to me for the bone density test. But I know I need it, haven’t had one in 3 years now. Not worried though it is usually good. I just need to see why I am so tired all the time and see if I can get some injections to stop some of this back pain. Well, gotta run, slept in this am LOL ! DIdn’t wake up til 7:30 and I must be getting ready for work.
    Love to you all
    Tonie

    • Tonie, so much going on. I understand. With the price of gasoline nowdays just going to the doctor’s in other towns can be a hardship. Hope you can babysit with Ms. Alice a few extra hours. You’re so right. It looks like none of us like the poor dentist. Mine is very nice but I wouldn’t want to be him.
      I hope your bone density gets done and is still good. I know you’re waiting to hear on the right shoulder and pray that happens quickly to get it behind you…not the shoulder, the event. Hope the RA will give you all the documents you need to qualify for your disability. You’ve been waiting far too long as it is. Thinking of you. Sue

      • Hey there!
        Well, Dr trip was tiring. One apt at 10:30 the other at 1 ! My knee is going to get a workup on Sept 1 , Xrays, etc. I am walking with a cane due to the pain from it and my lower back and rt hip, so he is going the check that out. He is also refering me to a spine specialist for my problems with the neck. I have stenoisis and fear it is worse, cause I am getting numbness at night in my last 3 fingers of each hand. So have to check THAT Out. Now I am waiting to get a call from the surgeon to get the shoulder done, His PA is going to try to get it in before the hearing thinking how much better if I go in with a sling 🙂 I need a new skeleton ya’all ! (don’t most of us huh ?) So very tired and a painful back. I am gonna try for some extra time with her Sue, cause all this running is gonna take it. My son was here on his new Harley and took me for a short ride, so much fun, and it is a Softtail so lower to the ground and easier for me to get on. Last one he had, I had to get on first the then him 🙂 It was good to see him. Now I wanna see my babies !!!
        Love
        Tonie

  9. OH DEAR I BELIEVE WE ALL FEEL THE SAME ABOUT GOING TO THE DENTIST. I SHOULD GO ALSO CAUSE I BROKE A TOOTH AND NOT EVEN SURE HOW. I DO NOT HAVE INSURANCE FOR THAT SO I ALSO TONIE MUST WAIT UNTIL I HAVE THE $$.
    HAPPY TO HEAR YOUR DISABILITY HEARING IS COMING UP. I’M SURE WITH ALL THAT HAS HAPPENED TO YOU, YOU SHOULD GET IT.
    SUE SO HAPPY TO HEAR THE DENTAL WORK IS HALF DONE. TOTALLY UNDERSTAND HOW YOU ARE FEELING, BUT YOU GO GIRL IT WILL SOON BE OVER. YOU CERTAINLY HAVE HAD 5 MONTHS FROM HELL.
    I GO SEE MY DOC AGAIN TOMORROW.
    GOD BLESS! HAPPY WEDNESDAY TO ALL.
    LOVE YOU ALL BUNCHES.
    XXX

    • Suzanne, looks like it’s unanimous; we all hate dental work. How’s the Lyrica working out for you? Is it helping the pain? That’s tough not having insurance for the dentist, too. We are going well beyond our insurance limit for me this summer so I so understand. How’s the new idea of getting out more often working out for you dear girl? Hope you’re better. You’ve been a bit quiet of late so I’ve been concerned. Love, Sue

      • SUE I MUST SAY THE LYRICA IS HELPING WITH THE PAIN, IT TAKES THE EDGE OFF. THEY TOLD ME I WOULD ALWAYS FEEL PAIN SO I GUESS I CAN’T COMPLAIN ABOUT IT. I AM ABLE TO DO MORE THAN I COULD BUT STILL NEED TO REST BETWEEN EVERYTHING I DO. GUESS THAT IS MY LIFE NOW. THAT IS WHAT THE INTERNIST TOLD ME. I HAVE GONE OUT TO LUNCH 3 TIMES SO FARAND HAD SO MUCH FUN AND LAUGHED MY HEAD OFF, OF COURSE I PAY THE PRICE EVERY TIME BUT WELL WORTH IT. I HAD A CHAT WITH MYSELF AND GOD AND DECIDED I DIDN’T WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE DOING NOTHING AND BECOMING BITTER. SO I’M READY TO FACE THE WORLD NOW. I HAVE BEEN QUITE BECAUSE I’VE BEEN TAKING CARE OF AUNTY. GETTING THE MEALS ON WHEELS SET UP AND THEN THE CLEANING SERVICES. ALSO HAD MEETINGS WITH THE PEOPLE (SOCIAL WORKERS….) THAT ARE TAKING CARE OF HER CASE. ALL THESE MEETINGS HAPPEN AT AUNTY’S PLACE SO I ALWAYS NEED SOMEONE TO DRIVE ME AS IT IS TO FAR FOR ME TO DRIVE BECAUSE OF MY BACK AND SITTER, MY DD AND I HAVE ALSO GONE TO HER APPT NUMEROUS TIMES TO CLEAN THINGS UP AND ORGANIZE HER CLOSET SO SHE CAN SEE EXACTLY WHAT SHE HAS IN THERE. (IT’S A WALK IN BY THE WAY) SINCE SHE IS BLIND IN ONE EYE AND THE OTHER ONE IS GOING ALSO, SHE REALLY CAN’T SEE MUCH. WE WILL BE GOING AGAIN NEXT WEEK ON AUG 18TH TO CLEAN THE KITCHEN. OF COURSE WITH ALL THIS GOING ON I’M POOPED AND THEN THE PAIN BEGINS…… SO I HAVE TO LEARN TO PACE MYSELF. WHEN I KNOW WE ARE GOING TO AUNTY’S PLACE I TRY TO DO AS LITTLE AS POSSIBLE THAT DAY. I’M STARTING TO GET THE HANG OF IT. DIDN’T REALIZE ALL THAT WAS INVOLVED IN SETTING THESE THINGS UP, OF COURSE I WOULD HAVE DONE IT ANYWAYS.
        I’M IN A BETTER PLACE NOW THAN I WAS IN A FEW MONTHS AGO. THANKS TO YOU AND ALL ON THE BLOG WHO HELPED ME GET TO THIS POINT. OF COURSE I STILL HAVE MY MOMENTS WHEN THINGS LOOK DARK BUT ON THE WHOLE IT’S ALL GOOD. I’VE BEEN ENJOYING THE BIRDS, MY FLOWER AND VEGGIE GARDENS AND ESPECIALLY MY WALKS WITH MOLLY. NOW I TELL MYSELF MY HOME DOES NOT NEED TO BE IMMACULATE AND I’M LEARNING TO LIVE WITH OUR MESS. THE DUST WON’T GO AWAY, IT WILL WAIT FOR ME. LOL
        HOPE YOU ARE GETTING BETTER WITH EACH PASSING DAY. OF COURSE WE UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER WHEN WE SAY BETTER….
        LOVE YOU BUNCHES. NOW OFF TO TAKE MY PILLS AND GOING TO BED.
        GOD BLESS
        XXX

  10. Hey Sue and everyone. As usual your blog was right on. I too have often wondered what to say to people that ask how you are. Do they really want to know. To friends and others I usually say I’m hanging in there. To medical people I tell them exactly how I feel. To my family I usually tell them what I think they want to know and how much I think they want to know. Most people I come in contact with know about my illnesses. So they might ask about a certain problem I have. It really isn’t as bad as it use to be. Thank goodnes.
    I remember when I was waiting for my disability hearing, my attorney told me that every time I went to the doctor and they ask how are you feeling never say I’m fine as most of us tend to do. He told me to tell them about any pain or anything else that was causing me discomfort. The doctors will right down what you say in your file and the hearing judge is going to think you are doing fine if you are telling that to the doctor all the time. If you tell the doctor the truth about how you feel or just how much you are hurting that will be in your file for the hearing judge. Sorry didn’t mean to go on and on.
    Now about the dentist, I too hated to go to the dentist. I say hated because of all the chemo and steroids and other meds I have taken, I no longer have any teeth. They all went bad and none were able to be saved. I do not have the money to get dentures and I have a few that still need to come out that are broken at the gum line. We do not have dental insurance. Fortunately I never smiled with my teeth showing so most people are not aware that I don’t have any teeth. I get by with most things I eat. However there are a few things I would so enjoy. A juicy steak, a big bowl of salad ,yum. My husband does all the cooking so He is good to fix me things (healthy)that I can eat. I am not on a pity party about this and have never been. I am grateful to be alive for these past 13 years after the breast cancer. I didn’t get upset about losing my hair. I knew it would grow back. I am so grateful to have all of you to talk to. I love all of you. Until next time, Donna

    • Donna, I know…no pity parties. You are brave and always so honest and that is exactly what we need to hear. Thank you for your courage and candor in sharing. We’ve all lost so much and it helps to see and feel that our friends on here have also lost parts of themselves and their lives. Good to have you back on here more often. We missed you dear lady. Continue to be good to yourself, okay? Lucky girl to have a DH who cooks. Love, Sue

  11. Suzanne, I’m glad to hear you’re getting some relief from the Lyrica. That’s good. I certainly understand and can see how busy you’ve been with helping your dear Aunt. So much involved and she must be a fine lady to have you love her so much.
    You have enjoyed so much growth this year after having such a hard time. I’m so proud of you and you should be, also. This is such a hard way of life and adjusting takes time but also, it’s never completed as long as our bodies give us such a bad time. Good to hear you’re getting out and grabbing life. You go girl. We understand dear lady, Love you, Sue

    • HI, WENT TO SEE MY DOC TODAY AND SHE UPPED THE LYRICA TO 75 MG INSTEAD OF 50 MG. SO I TAKE ONE IN THE MORNING , ONE AT SUPPERTIME AND THEN 2 AT NIGHT. I HOPE THE DIZZINESS DOES NOT RETURN CAUSE I HAD THAT AND SORES IN MY MOUTH AT THE BEGINNING AND THEN MY BODY SEEMED TO GET USE TO IT AND EVERYTHING STOPPED. WILL JUST HAVE TO WAIT AND SEE. OF COURSE I’M STILL ON MY PAIN KILLERS. THANK YOU SUE,
      I AM PROUD OF MYSELF CAUSE I WAS IN SUCH A DARK PLACE FOR A LONG WHILE IT FEELS GOOD TO BE PART OF THE WORLD ONCE MORE. I STILL HAVE TO W ORK HARD EVERY DAY TO MAINTAIN PUTTING MY SELF FIRST. NEVER DID THAT BEFORE. FIGURING OUT HOW TO DO THINGS DIFFERENTLY IS ALSO TRYING BUT ONCE I GET IT, IT MAKES MY LIFE SO MUCH EASIER. THAT’S WHERE ALL OF YOU CAME INTO MY LIFE AND HELPED ME SO MUCH. IT REALLY IS ALL THE LITTLE THINGS, ISN’T IT?
      HOPE EVERYONE HAD AS GOOD A DAY AS YOU ALL COULD. PRAYING FOR EVERYONE OF YOU.
      LOVE YA BUNCHES. GOD BLESS
      XXX

      • Suzanne, hang in there. It is logical to think if you adjusted to a lower dose in time you will adjust to a higher dose. Sounds better right now. You’re right. Life is change and you’ve had a super dose of it. Love, Sue

  12. Hi folks
    Taking my prep for this colonoscopy ct imaging scanTook one last nite
    Does burn tum and mouth another dose tonite and off tomorrow for it.be glad when I can take some Gaviscon to coat it
    It’s an iodine prep and another injection there and wind pumped up me and some spasm relaxant
    So hope it goes ok as I say my tum is on fire and red all round my lips
    Don’t mind not eating
    Suzanne
    Glad the pain is improving .take it easy with all you are doing right now
    Donna
    Hey good to see you ,what a story you have to tell.but as Sue says a hubby who cooks. ..well……
    Hey how you doin Jen
    Be back after all done tomorrow
    Chris

    • Chris, Oh dear. Let’s hope by now this procedure is over and you are resting, Gaviscon in hand. It’s morning here in OR and hopefully, you are completed. Hope the results are fruitful and you have some time to get some extra recovery type rest…nothing on the agenda. Of all the tests and inventions for torture for the human body, those darn scopes are right up there. You have my empathy, love and thoughts..REST. Sue

  13. HI EVERYONE….MY GOODNESS, YOU WOULDN’T BELIEVE THE AMOUNT OF RAIN THAT IS POURING DOWN RIGHT NOW, WHERE THE HECK DID SUMMER GO? ITS SO DISAPPOINTING AND I’VE GOT THE KIDS COMING NEXT WEEKEND WITH THE HOPE OF A DAY AT THE COAST…….
    SUZANNE….GREAT TO HEAR FROM YOU, BUT I AM SO CONCERNED THAT YOU WILL BURN YOURSELF OUT LOVE, I AM GLAD YOU ARE DOING OK WITH THE PAIN RELIEF AT LEAST THAT’S SOMETHING AND WILL HELP YOU COPE WITH ALL THIS EXTRA WORK…YOU ARE A GEM, YOU REALLY ARE…..TAKE CARE MY FRIEND….LOVE YOU…JENNIE POO XX
    SUE…..WON’T BE LONG NOW AND YOU WILL BE DENTIST FREE….I FEEL A CELEBRATION COMING ON….HOPE THE BURNS ARE HEALING NICELY, YOU ARE ALWAYS IN MY THOUGHTS.
    WELL ITS TIME TO GET READY ONCE MORE TO MEET THE OIL MAN……CAN’T WAIT TO SEE AN OSTEOPATH, PAIN NEARLY DRIVEN ME NUTS TODAY, BUT I CAN REST TOMORROW AS ITS A HOLIDAY HERE AND I GOT MY SHOPPING ALL DONE IN ADVANCE…..MY LOVE AND HUGS TO EVERYONE……I LOVE YOU……JENNIE XX

  14. Sue. Nope I’m still here
    Got another dose to take its 6pm ish here and it’s tomorrow morning I go
    It a colonography, a type of ct scan with iodine and contrast and gas
    I don’t get the results they have to be read
    Jen
    Is the pain not easing at all?
    Chris

    • Chris, I wish we could better understand the whole timeline on here. Hope you get some sleep. Thinking of you. Sue

    • Chris, how’re you doing? Thinking about you and your goal of getting your Gaviscon very soon after procedure. Prayers for strength. Love you, Sue

  15. Jennie, I love that…the oil man. Well, he does deserve that exalted titled. Hope the treatment helps you today. Such heavy rain, oh my. I can just imagine your beautiful garden as each flower is struggling to stay afloat. Hope it stops soon and allows you to be out in it and DH to resume his work out there. Let’s also wish, pray, hope the kids gets to come for their visit and it’s dry. We’ve had a light rain the last couple of days but no downpours.
    I’m sorry to hear the pain is still so severe, you brave girl. Hope your doctor returns very soon. What holiday is it in France? I return your love and hugs, you know..Sue

    • HI SUE……THE OIL MAN STRUCK AGAIN….HE IS LIKE A HAMSTER ON SPEED, AND CALLS HIMSELF THE FRENCH “MR BEAN” NOT SO FAR FROM THE TRUTH…….WHEN HE HAS FINISHED WITH THE OIL, HE COVERS YOU WITH A HEATED PAD AFTER APPLYING A TENS MACHINE, HE FORGOT TO BRING IN A BLOODY TOWEL, AND USED MY BEST SWEATER INSTEAD…TO SAY I WAS MORTIFIED IS AN UNDERSTATEMENT….HELL FIRE I THOUGHT, I ONLY JUST BOUGHT IT, BUT HE IS SO SWEET, DANCING UP AND DOWN, I DIDN’T HAVE THE HEART TO CHASTISE HIM.
      ANYWAY, I AN SORE TODAY, AS LAYING SO LONG WITHOUT FREE MOVEMENT OF MY NECK, MEANS IT TAKES AN AGE TO GET OVER IT.
      GOT TWO MORE NEXT WEEK, THEN AT THE END OF THAT WEEK THE KIDS WILL BE HERE, OH YES I FORGOT, I JUST ORDERED ME A TENS MACHINE FROM AMAZON, MY DH CAN HAVE MY OLD ONE FOR HIS BAD KNEE.
      WELL SUE THE RAIN CONTINUED TO POUR LAST NIGHT, AND TODAY IS CHILLY, SO CAN’T SIT OUT…..BLAST!!
      I HOPE YOU ARE CONTINUING TO DO WELL WITH ALL YOUR PROBLEMS, YOU HAVE A LOT OF LOVING SUPPORT FROM ALL OF US, BUT THEN YOU KNOW THAT…….LOVE AND HUGS….JENNIE XX

      • Oh Jennie, What a moronic thing to do, using your good sweater. Next time you’ll have to go in with six of your own towels!! I pray his work and help for you is better than his judgment. Good news about your new TENS machine. More rain, oh my. You must be very soggy about now. Hope all those lovely flowers are still holding up their wee heads.
        I am fortunate to have so much loving support and appreciate it. It’s been a long road this trip around. A day with the grands should wear me out but be grand. Glad Tim and Claire are coming. Love you, Sue

  16. Hi, All, just on to catch up. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with each of you. We are having more gorgeous weather here, although my body parts aren’t convinced… Been way busier this week than I’d like, but among the tasks of the week I did wisely resign from one of my responsibilities. It is just too much and I need a break. I stuck with it far longer than necessary out of a sense of duty or responsibility, but there is little more I can do and don’t wish to beat my head against a wall any longer. Time to get back at my to do list. It seems never-ending sometimes. Then rest my sore paws and enjoy patio time with the animals. (I’m actually out there now.) I’m home alone with them a bit longer yet. 🙂 Then DH will be home and he can tell me about his day. He spent most of it interviewing candidates for a position in his department at school, then headed off to teach some lessons. Hugs to everyone!

    • Lyn dear, sounds like you made a wise decision this week. Glad you have lovely weather to enjoy your lovely new patio paving. That also means you’re having good convertible weather, lucky girl.
      It’s so good to share a fairly normal day with your man. I’m afraid Jim often doesn’t want to talk about some of his day at the jail, i.e. they have a woman in there now who is accused of killing her two year old so her husband couldn’t have him. That place often reminds us of all the evil in this world. Terrible thing.
      Do take care and enjoy while you can dear lady. Love you, Sue

  17. Tonie, I’m glad two of the trips are over and I agree with Jennie, you do have so much to put up with. Oh dear. The numbness is new isn’t it, in the fingers. I am sorry to hear about that. I knew about the knee and hip and back…oh yes, and that darn shoulder needs to be fixed. Girl, you are a work in progress. I know you must be ragged tired tonight so hope you get some rest. Is the rain still there and did you have to travel in it? At least it would have been cooler for you to travel. Glad you got to see your son and know how much that warms your heart. Rest sweet girl and take all this one step at a time, okay? Love you, Sue

    • Well, I am thinking of you SUe, I hurt all over today. WOuld love to go and soak in the pool but just don’t think I can do it today. I really need to mow later on. That part is not hard just sitting on the mower, back yard will have to wait. I have to push mow it. I have no more or less than all of you guys do. We are all falling apart aren’t we :??
      No rain just a spit here and there, but it did rain here last night , I heard it. As tired as I was I couldn’t get to sleep til after 1 !! But the boys let me sleep in (7:30) !!
      Here’s to all of us having a good day today !
      Love to all
      Tonie

      • Tonie, Hey I’ll vote for that. I could use a good, pleasant day with up spirits. I’m sure you do hurt all over after your marathon of doctors visits and all the driving. Just let that grass get taller girl. Borrow a goat maybe. I have the grands coming over for a few hours today. Haven’t been up to it so it will be a treat. Dragging myself out of bed in a few mins. so need to start my day. Thinking of you. Have a lazy day if that’s what you need, okay? Love, Sue

  18. Well am back home and all done.just wait for results now
    Just had toast and tea ..it was great!
    Ful of the co2 they pumped in and the injection of buscopan am dry from.but expected this so I was heavy on the eye drops and water
    Well gona try to get some sleep,up all nite with the runs
    Chris

    • Chris, I’m so glad to hear it’s finished. You’ll be playing the flute all day I think but at least you know it’s the last of it. Funny how good toast and tea can taste after hunger and a miserable night. Be good to yourself today and take care of those eyes and sore sitter. Love you and feel relieved also. Sue

      • CHRIS SO HAPPY IT IS ALL OVER. SENDING ANGELS TO HELP YOU WAIT FOR THE NEWS. LOVE YOU DEAR HEART.
        GOD BLESS. XXX

  19. TONIE….I AM SO SORRY YOU ARE IN SUCH A LOT OF PAIN, BUT AS SUE SAID, SO VERY GLAD YOU GO TO SEE YOUR BOY…CAN’T WAIT TO SEE MINE NEXT WEEK TOO…….LOVE YOU MATE…WISH YOU BETTER….JENNIE POO XX

  20. Hi
    Well I did perk up and thought we’d go to the shed
    But no as I came back from my dad I had some pains and I had none before…so I thought better at home
    So I took some spasmonal and it did ease but for left side .
    So I thought maybe the injection of buscopan had worn off and that was why it came on about 5 pm
    So we are all packed ready to go and I’m in bed !.but if it’s just the same I will go tomorrow .i was a bit worried as they said if pains come on go to a & e(yea ok emergency room)!
    So I don’t wanna do that..so I’m leaving it and dealing with it and waiting.its not bad
    Jen
    Well what a story you couldn’t make It up! Sounds like a comedy film
    Tonie
    I do hope you are feeling easier
    Sue
    I bet you enjoyed the grands
    Lyn
    Wise to give it up if it’s too much you have been doing a lot lately
    Over and out for now .don’t know where I’ll be next post
    Chris

    • Chris, I sure do hope you feel better today, enough to go to the coast. Probably a lot of air left in the bowels after the test, don’t you think? Hope it didn’t get worse last night. Glad test is over.
      Yes, it was good to see the grands for awhile. Haven’t seen that much of them this summer for obvious reasons..me.
      Let us know how you’re doing, okay? Love, Sue

  21. Morning all :
    It is a cool and foggy morning on the mountain ! Feels like fall is coming early 😦 !! Feeling a bit better today after a forced rest yesterday. I have misplaced the key to the shed where my sister parks her lawn mower and my electric push mow was unusable due to the outside outlet tripping the breaker (all the rain). So I sat inside on my heating pad which is what I wanted to do anyway ! 🙂
    But got a nice surprise when I came home from craft night at the church, my sweet brother had mowed my yard for me. 🙂 I just have ot push mow the back where all my plants are.
    Got me a couple of biscuits baking in the oven and then fixing me a couple of eggs to go with ! YUM !! Said brother came down to buy some eggs this am and got me in the mood for it. I think the chill in the air is helping my loss of appetite.
    Chris, hope you are feeling better. And Jennie, I do believe that imbicile would be buying me a new sweater !!
    I am glad you guys brought up the TENS machines… I need to put mine to use, it will help me neck out ! 🙂
    Love to all
    Tonie

    • Hey Tonie, glad your brother mowed for you. Hope your weekend is better for you. I’ve always found the TENS very helpful on the neck along with heat or ice. Glad you’re selling eggs. Haven’t heard any chicken tales or tails recently. Hope the pups are doing well and the flea situation is better now. You’ve got enough to deal with Lord know. Do take care as best you can, Love, Sue

      • SOUNDS LIKE I NEED TO BY A TENS MACHINE. I’VE BEEN LOOKING AT THEM AND WONDERING IF THEY REALLY WORK BUT SEEM TO HAVE FOUND THE ANSWER HERE. I WILL CONTINUE TO CHECK THEM OUT. MIGHT HELP ME ALSO. THANK YOU EVERYONE.
        HAPPY TUESDAY.
        MOLLY IS AT THE VET, BROUGHT HER IN LAST NIGHT. SHE WILL BE OPERATED TODAY, STERILIZED. THAT WILL BE A GOOD THING DONE. BUT I MISS HER SO MUCH, SHE IS MY BUDDY. THEY WILL BE CALLING TO LET ME KNOW HOW SHE IS DOING TODAY AND THEN WE WILL PICK HER UP TOMORROW MORNING AT 9 IF EVERYTHING IS GOING WELL. I’M STILL TALKING TO HER AS IF SHE IS HERE, THINK I MIGHT BE LOOSING MY MIND….LOL
        I’LL KEEP YOU ALL POSTED.
        XXX

  22. HELLO FOLKS…….

    TONIE….NOT REALLY BOTHERED ABOUT THE SWEATER, IT WAS WORTH IT JUST FOR THE LAUGH…..BUT HE IS PRICELESS, A BIGGER NUTTER THAN ME, AND THAT’S SAYING SOMETHING. I HOPE THE HEATING PAD BROUGHT RELIEF SWEET FRIEND, YOU WILL BE CAREFUL WITH TENS MACHINE ON YOUR NECK WON’T YOU? WHAT A TROOPER YOUR BROTHER WAS TO DO SOME MOWING FOR YOU…BLESS HIM…….LOOK AFTER YOURSELF LOVE WON’T YOU?? LOVE JENNIE POO XX

    CHRIS….HANG ON IN THERE LOVE, I HOPE YOU MANAGE TO GET AWAY THIS WEEKEND, DON’T FORGET TO TAKE A HOTTIE WITH YOU TO CUDDLE UP TO……..LOVE JEN XX

    LYN……HOPE ALL WENT GOOD WITH THE INTERVIEWS FOR YOUR DH, AND YOU ARE OK……LOVE JENNIE XX

    SUZANNE….HOW ARE THINGS WITH YOU SWEETHEART, PAIN RELIEF STILL WORKING, AND ARE YOU STILL AS BUSY……PUT YOUR FEET UP WHEN YOU CAN LOVE WON’T YOU??? LOVE JENNIE POO XX

    SUE……WELL I AM HAPPY TO SAY DESPITE THE ROTTEN WEATHER, THE PLANTS AND FLOWERS SURVIVED, AND GUESS WHAT???YES THAT YELLOW THINGY ACTUALLY SURFACED LONG ENOUGH FOR ME TO SIT OUT IN THE GARDEN TODAY……OH IT WAS GLORIOUS, CHEERED ME UP NO END…….MY DH SAY’S HIS TIME WITH MY OLD TENS SEEMS TO BE HELPING HIM, MINE WILL BE HERE BY THURSDAY, SO I CAN GET STARTED….MEANWHILE I AM KEEPING UP WITH STRETCHING OUT MY BACK AS RECOMMENDED BY MY FRIEND WHO IS AN OSTEOPATH IN THE UK…….LIKE LYN, I WAS HORRIFIED TO HEAR ABOUT THAT PATIENT OF JIM’S……WHAT A DREADFUL THING TO DO FOR THE SAKE OF REVENGE. MAY GOD FORGIVE HER, I DON’T THINK I COULD.
    HAVE A GOOD WEEKEND MY DEAR FRIEND….LOVE AND HUGS….JEN XX

    MUCH LOVE AND HAPPY WEEKEND TO ALL.

    • Jennie, Hope you enjoy your new TENS unit. They can be a wonder sometimes for certain conditions. Glad DH is getting some relief from one. Stretching is always good, isn’t it? Isn’t it odd how our bodies want to tighten up in a ball if we let them? I think we all become sort of fetal when we’re in pain and it doesn’t help.
      Yes, Jim sees some sad events and people. Those who are in jail aren’t always colorful and interesting. Sometimes they’re just rotten through and through. He’s had several murderers in there over the years and they’re hard to tolerate. Lots of sick folks because junkies and alcoholics tend to be in bad health, too. It’s a side of life not often witnessed by some of us. I know I couldn’t do that kind of nursing. Proud of him for doing it.
      Glad you got to get some rays and they made you feel better. Be good to you. Love, Sue

      • HI SUE……OH MY I THOUGHT I HAD SEEN SOME SIGHTS WHEN I WAS IN PHARMACY, THEN WITH ONE-TO-ONE WITH THE SAMARITANS, BUT JIM’S JOB IS HORRENDOUS, IT TAKES A SPECIAL KIND OF PERSON TO BE ABLE TO HANDLE THAT, SO I’M WITH LYN ON THAT ONE.
        WENT OUT TODAY FOR A RIDE, WISH I HADN’T IT WAS COLD AND RAINED, BY THE TIME WE HAD CALLED A MACDONALD’S FOR A LATTE, I FELT DESPERATE TO BE HOME, THE BACK OF MY RIBS FELT LIKE THEY WERE BEING RIPPED APART, I AM LIKE LYN TOO, A GREY DAY MEANS PAIN……AH WELL ITS A GOOD EXCUSE NOT TO DO THE LAUNDRY.
        OK OFF FOR A REST, LOVE TO EVERYONE THIS SUNDAY……..CATCH YOU ALL LATER….LOVE JENNIE XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

  23. Hi, everyone, I’m having difficulty keeping up on here of late. I have no idea why I’m so busy! It’s getting a bit old, though. Long day today and too much time on my feet. But, it was for the good. DD and I went to a Gem Show that happens this weekend every summer. I used to take the kids when they were young. They enjoyed looking at all the gems and minerals and learning about them. I’d buy them a little trinket. DD was remembering today. Fond memories. More made today. 🙂 Once back home, I took Sadie for a walk then off to her last class. She is now a graduate! Of Beginner class, anyway. She proved herself with her skills while in the pet store. Oh, the distractions! By the time we finished class and picking out kitty food and a celebratory dog toy, I was ready to be HOME! A couple of loads of laundry in, and some much needed time on the back porch with pup, kitties, DH, and DD. More doings tomorrow. Church, I should make a cake for SB’s birthday, concert in the evening. I hope I didn’t overdo it today and can stand unassisted tomorrow night. We’ll see. Time to ready for bed and read a little. Thinking of you all!

    • Lyn, WHOOSH! girl. I’m exhausted just reading about everything you did but what the heck..you did it all and you had a good time. Now there is that bit about standing tomorrow for the concert. Is your stool handy?
      The gem show sounds like fun. When Beth and I were in Finland several years ago we went to a Russian precious treasures of the orthodox church exhibit. Very impressive all the things that were hidden during the communist years. Just reminded me of that…no similar except the word gem. Hope SB has a great birthday. What kind of cake is his favorite? Thinking of you..congrats to graduate Sadie. So grownup now. Love you, Sue

      • Poor SB has to work on his b-day. 😦 BUT he and his buds are getting together for dinner. One of the guys is making Chicken Parmesan. I’m so happy he has good friends. 🙂 We will go out to one of his favorite restaurants for dinner on Tuesday.
        Yes, I do have the stool and can take it along, but we also sit in chairs at the intermission time – right on stage. So… I’d like not to have to use the stool if I can. The concert should be a tad shorter since it is our spring repertoire and we will not be joined by the Irish group that joined us for the spring concerts. That should help. Also, we have to park and walk a short distance to the concert site. I’d rather not lug it if I don’t have to. But I will take it in the car just in case. 😉 Many of my joints are unhappy this morning. It is also a bit rainy here, so that may have something to do with it. The rain is supposed to move out of here this afternoon. I suppose I should finish getting ready for church. I’d love to stay home this morning, but it is not an option. 😦
        I just looked over and Sadie is napping on her side, legs going in a dream of some sort. So cute.

  24. Jennie, It’s hard, I know, one step forward, two steps back. Hope you’re able to rest now and have something, perhaps heat, to make your ribs feel better. It gets so tiring!!! So many of us must agree dear lady and soooooo understand. Hope you can get comfortable.
    Yes, Jim’s job does take a special person. Some couldn’t do it, including me and my son who is a nurse and feels that same way. Jim worked part time in one of the big state prison’s when we lived in CA so he was somewhat used to it.
    I’ll let you go but do know you’re being thought of, okay? Love you, Sue

    • THANKS SUE….I KNOW THAT, ITS WHAT KEEPS ME GOING…..A BIT BETTER TODAY, GOT THE LAUNDRY DONE AND THE SUN CAME OUT, SO GOT SOME TIME IN THE GARDEN WITH A CUP OF TEA AND MY DH.
      BUSY DAY TOMORROW, GOT TO GO TO THRIFT SHOP WITH SOME STUFF, GOT TO SHOP FOR A RAINCOAT, THEN GOT TO GO AND SEE “OIL SLICK SAM, THE MASSAGE MAN” GOING IN OLD CLOTHES THIS TIME. WHAT IS IT WHEN YOU CAN ACTUALLY FEEL YOU MUSCLES IN CERTAIN AREAS BURN, ONLY HAD THAT IN THE LAST FEW WEEKS? ANY IDEA’S? I HOPE YOU HAD A NICE WEEKEND SUE, DID YO SEE THE GRANDS? …LOVE YOU…JEN X

      • Jennie, I think you would technically call that kind of pain myocitis. Whatever it’s called you must be miserable. I’m so sorry to hear this. I do love the way your sense of humor is still alive and well in naming oil slick Sam. Hope you find a raincoat you like. You’re right, it is getting to be that time of year. We’ve been having some lovely weather. Good on you for getting some tea time out in your garden dear lady. We’re a bit warm today, In fact, they’re out there right now painting the line on the street corner. Better not get any spray pain on my new car or Jim would have a stroke.
        Yes, we got to see the grands and their new family hot tub last night but the real news over there is Daisy their new chocolate lab puppy. She’s all tail, floppiness and sharp teeth…so adorable. She is already up to 24 lbs. and slightly overwhelms little George. Hope they get to be friends, eventually. I had a bad bout of IBS this weekend so we weren’t there long but good to see all. Good luck with the slick man today. Love you, Sue

  25. Lyn, I’m sure you’ll do what is best. Lugging a stool from the parking lot does sound a bit problematic. Hope the concert is more brief than last time and that you are able to handle what comes your way. Oh yes, the effects of weather. We awoke to fog this morning. You never know here on the coast what to expect.
    Hope SB has a good birthday with you and with his friends. Spreading it out is always more fun anyway. Love, Sue

    • LYN HOPE EVERYTHING WENT WELL FOR YOU AT CHURCH. THE GEM SHOW SOUNDED WONDERFUL.
      TRY AND REST WHEN YOU CAN SWEETHEART. XXX

      JENNIE POO, IT’S ALWAYS NICE TO BE ABLE TO SIT IN THE GARDEN. SOMETHING I HAVEN’T DONE AS MUCH AS I WANTED THIS SUMMER. IT WAS EITHER RAINING OR WAY TO HOT. I DID SIT ON OUR SCREENED IN PORCH AND THAT WAS LOVELY ALSO. HAVE MY BEGONIAS THERE. HOPE YOU GOT THAT RAINCOAT YOU NEEDED.
      GOD BLESS
      XXX

  26. Well, no mowing again today 🙂 It has been raining since about 7 am. The dogs got me up around 6ish, and I had to go water my chickens (had I known it was gonna rain, they could have watered themselves ) THere is a great water can I need to get for them, holds 5 gallons and is metal, so no walking in it and knocking it over. Course, then I would have to get a heater to keep it from freezing in the winter, so ….back to square one 🙂
    I need to take the car over to a local mechanic and see if he can find the oil leak and fix it. I haven’t been to work out in a week, I have just been too exhausted ! Get there when I get there.
    Lyn happy bday to SB, and take care you.
    Chris, Jennie, glad to see ya’all are still kicking it around ./ Jennie, I loved the pics on FB.
    I heard from Theresa the other day. She says to tell you all hello. DH has been ill again so she is taking care of him and neglecting herself. We all know that story huh ?
    Anyhow, I guess I will get dressed and go out into the rain and get something done 🙂
    Love to you all
    Tonie

    • TONIE MY FRIEND…..THANKS FOR PASSING ON THE MESSAGE FROM THERESA, WHAT A SHAME ABOUT HER DH, I HOPE SHE IS COPING OK.
      WHAT ABOUT YOU? DON’T YOU HATE IT WHEN YOU WEAR YOURSELF OUT WATERING EVERYTHING THAT MOVES, THE THE HEAVENS OPEN AND DO IT ANYWAYS? WHOOPS, I JUST NOTICED YOU MEANT THE CHUCKS, AH WELL ITS ALL RELEVANT HUH? I HOPE YOU CAN GET THE CAR FIXED UP, I KNOW HOW MUCH YOU DEPEND ON IT, OURS GOES FOR ITS M.O.T (NOT SURE WHAT YOU CALL IT) IN OCTOBER, KEEPING EVERYTHING CROSSED THEY DON’T FIND ANYTHING TOO WORRYING……..I HOPE YOU ARE FEELING A BIT MORE RESTED NOW TONIE, IF NOT REST SOME MORE, DON’T EXHAUST YOURSELF, ITS NOT WORTH IT….LOVE YOU JENNIE POO XX

      • Sounds like our state inspection, Jennie. Each state sets its own parameters as to requirements needed to pass inspection for safety and emissions. My state is yearly, and yes, we do often keep all crossed that nothing big will be found. But, it does keep us traveling more safely, so it’s worth it.

        I second the thanks for passing Theresa’s news on, Tonie. I do hope she can attend to herself soon. Did she say how the pups are doing?

      • It is supposed to rain ALL week long Jennie ! But in the 80’s so it is looking like we are going to warm up a bit. We have a yearly inspection here in Va. Mine is in Oct as well. The car needs a rear engine seal and a seal on the oil pan, both leaking ! So around $300 or more. But it will putter on until this money is approved. I took a couple hour nap today, was just zonked out. Walked down to my sis’s to take her mail and SHE was knocked out 🙂 Take care you and prayers to get you well

      • TONIE, TRY AND GET SOME REST. SEEMS LIKE YOU ARE EXHAUSTED EVERY DAY NOW LOVE. OF COURSE YOU ALSO HAVE SO MUCH ON YOUR PLATE RIGHT NOW. I UNDERSTAND.
        DO TAKE GOOD CARE. LOVE YOU BIG.
        XXX

    • Tonie, Now that is certainly a wet picture you’ve painted. I know you’re not missing the mowing that much but do wish you’d get some dry out time. Hope you can use this time to get some needed rest for all of those troubled joints. I know you’re sick of this whole business…DOn’t blame you and truly understand. Love, Sue

  27. Hi all
    Been in a lot of pAin after that procedure…the instructions said to go to a&e( you know now)if they continued past 24 hrs…but I wasn’t gonna do that so I went away to shed instead..and lay there with a ht bottle
    Came back from shed to see my dr…she listened and tapped my tum and said I have a dose of IBS from the stuff I drank for test and swollen with trapped gas from the co2 they pumped in..Take up to a week to disperse… Or be absorbed o dear!
    Results should be at hers by end of week
    DH bp no good and not too good on the bp meds so he sees dr on wed..
    So gonna get some sleep..well try. Back sore to tonite
    Hi to all too tired to do more
    All best Chris

    • Chris dear girl, that is exactly what I feared. It might bring you some relief to drink some seltzer water or Perrier water. Brings up some of the air. I’m sorry you had a weekend with the heating pad but certainly do commiserate. Hang in there and know we’re thinking of you. Love you, Sue

      • Sue you have me hooked on the Seltzer water. I have it everynight all night !! Helps a lot with the hydration

  28. Sue
    Well I’m awake early hrs with it
    Yep I will get some fizzy water,I usually drink it still.the dr said some of it mite come up as well
    I see you have had IBS again at the moment too ,hope it’s responding to treatment
    Well my tum is gurgling so that’s good news it’s moving!
    Chris

    • Chris, sometimes I have to chuckle at all the things we talk about. Hope the seltzer helps you..movement..good, good. I hate something to irritate my gut. I think it was radishes or we had beef too many days last week. It doesn’t always agree with me. Take care and please know you’re thought of. Love, Sue.

      • SUE…THE SUBJECT MATTER AMUSES ME TOO AT TIMES…..JUST OFF TO GET READY TO SEE “SLICK MICK” ALIAS “MR BEAN” WISH HE COULD HELP WITH MY CIRCULATION, I AM SO COLD……I THINK LIKE YO SAY, WE WHO HAVE IBS AND SIMILAR THINGS, HAVE TO BE SO CAREFUL WITH FOOD AND DRINK, OWING TO THE GLUT OF FRUIT AND VEG THIS YEAR FROM OUR GARDEN, I HAVE BEEN EATING MORE THAN I SHOULD…..ITS DIFFICULT WHEN MY DH HAS GONE TO THE TROUBLE OF GROWING IT, FOR ME THEN NOT TO EAT AND APPRECIATE. HOW ARE YOU DOING SUE? WRITE LATER IF I HAVEN’T SLID OFF THE TREATMENT TABLE AND LANDED IN A&E….HA HA!!!……..LOVE AND HUGS…JEN X

    • CHRIS…..BARRY USED TO GET DOWN ON HIS KNEES, SUCK IN HIS TUMMY THEN SLOWLY RELEASE IT, THEN TELL YOU DH TO GET THE HELL OUT OF THE ROOM FOR AWHILE….SEEM TO WORK THOUGH, HIS GP TOLD HIM TO DO THAT AFTER HIS OP. HOPE YOU SOON FEEL BETTER CHUCK, BLOOMING FREEZING HERE, CAN’T FEEL MY FEET, IS IT THE SAME BY YOU???………LOVE JEN X

  29. Hey all:
    Well my next surgery has been scheduled for the 10th of Sept. They called me today, nurse calls next and then we are all set. Trying to get the bone density reset for a closer location, less driving and less gas used !! Then two more Dr appts. I have to see my lawyer tomorrow and set up our defense 🙂 So will probably be offline tomorrow. Long day. Take care all, love

    • Tonie, be thinking of you when you’re with the lawyer tomorrow. So? Surgery on right shoulder scheduled. Know you’ll be glad to get it over with and behind you..not your shoulder, but the event. Yep. Gotta have natural seltzer water. Took me a long time to figure out nothing with chemicals like 7 up would do. Love, Sue

      • OH TONIE, SO MUCH TO DO. PACE, PACE, PACE. I WILL BE PRAYING THAT ALL GOES WELL WITH THE LAWYER. THAT MUST BE NERVE RACKING. ALSO SENDING A CHOIR OF ANGELS FOR YOU.
        HAPPY YOUR SURGERY IS NOW SCHEDULED. I WILL REMEMBER THE DATE BECAUSE IT IS THE DAY AFTER MY DH’S BIRTHDAY.
        LOVE YOU SWEETPEA.
        GOD BLESS.
        XXX

  30. HI ALL, WENT TO SEE AUNTY AND HER GOUT IS BACK (DON’T THINK IT EVER LEFT HER) BUT IT IS RAGING. HER FOOT IS TWICE THE SIZE AND REALLY RED. WE WERE THERE TO CLEAN THE KITCHEN. THREW OUT LOTS OF FOOD THAT WAS PASSED DATE AND THEN ON TO THE FRIDGE, AS WE WERE ABOUT TO START AUNTY TOLD US SHE DOESN’T EAT ANYTHING IN THERE CAUSE SHE CAN’T SEE AND DOESN’T KNOW WHAT IS GOOD. WELL DEAR ME, WE THREW OUT ALMOST EVERYTHING IN THAT FRIDGE. I’M SO WORRIED ABOUT HER. TAKING HER PILLS, EATING RIGHT. SHE WILL NOT GO SEE A DOC. SHE IS VERY STUBBORN THAT WAY. NOT SURE WHAT TO DO FOR HER NOW. JUST MAKES ME SO SAD. AND THE WHOLE TIME SHE TELLS US THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HER AND SHE NEVER TOOK PILLS IN HER LIFE. I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO? WHAT WOULD YOU DO? ANYONE? HELP?
    GOD BLESS. SO TIRED NOW NEED TO GO TO BED.
    XXX

    • Oh Suzanne, I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this with your dear Aunty. I’m guessing that she can’t walk because gout is miserably painful. Diet of special food could help her. Can you reason with her? Not eating any food out of the fridge is just so bad for her. Can you tell her how very worried she is making you and how you can’t be there all the time but you love her so much you feel like you should be? Appeal, maybe weep, plead and explain she’s playing with fire at her age. Does she want to live? Why does life have to be so hard? Wish I knew. She is in for some shocks with her health and you feel that, don’t you? I know. So sorry and will pray she sees reason. Much love and concern, Sue

    • SUZANNE LOVE…..IN THE UK, WE HAVE A SERVICE CALLED “MEALS-ON-WHEELS” FOR A SMALL SUM, YOU CAN HAVE HOT MEALS BROUGHT TO YOUR DOOR, SO NO WORRIES ABOUT SELL-BY-DATES. JUST AN IDEA, BUT MAYBE MAKE ENQUIRIES ABOUT THAT SORT OF THING?
      ITS ALL I CAN THINK OF AT THE MOMENT, BUT IF I THINK OF ANYTHING ELSE I WILL MAIL YOU……HANG ON IN THERE PET, SOMETHING WILL COME UP….LOVE YOU…JENNIE POO XX

      • OH JENNIE AND SUE. AUNTY HAS MEALS ON WHEELS BUT DOES NOT LIKE THE FOOD, EVEN THOUGH THE FIRST WEEK SHE CALLED ME EVERY DAY TO TELL ME HOW MUCH SHE LIKED WHAT SHE WAS GETTING. TODAY SHE FLIPPED OUT CAUSE SHE THOUGHT SHE ONLY HAD VEGGIES AND SHE DOESN’T EAT THAT SHE TOLD ME. SHE WILL BE CANCELING IT AT THE END OF THE MONTH. I WENT TO HER APPT. LAST NIGHT WITH MY DD. WE CLEANED OUT THE FRIDGE. SHE HAD CALLED EARLIER IN THE DAY TO TELL ME THE ONLY THING SHE HAD FOR HER LUNCH (MEALS ON WHEELS ) WAS VEGGIES. WHEN WE GOT THERE , THERE WAS CHICKEN POT PIE AND VEGGIES ON THE PLATE. SHE IS REALLY AT A POINT WHERE SHE IS GOING BLIND. I SHOWED HER THE PIE AND SHE HAD TROUBLE SEEING IT AND HAD TO TOUCH IT WITH HER FINGERS.
        WANTED TO BRING HER TO THE HOSPITAL BECAUSE HER FOOT (LEFT) IS REALLY BAD (HOT, SWOLLEN AND VERY RED) AND SHE IS REALLY HAVING TROUBLE WALKING. “NO” WAS THE ANSWER. I WILL BE CALLING HER SOON TO SEE IF SHE TOOK HER PILLS. MOST OF THE TIME SHE DOESN’T CAUSE THEY CONSTIPATE HER AND SHE DOESN’T WANT TO EAT PRUNES OR ANYTHING ELSE TO HELP HERSELF. I REALLY DON’T KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON.
        SHE WAS VERY HAPPY WE CLEANED THE KITCHEN BUT THEN SHE WAS TELLING US WE NEED TO CLEAN HER BEDROOM, BATHROOM AND THE LIVING ROOM, BUT NOT IN A NICE TONE. MY DAUGHTER WAS NOT HAPPY LISTENING TO HER.
        WELL, I WILL KEEP YOU POSTED. THANKS FOR THE EAR. I JUST NEEDED TO GET THIS OUT OF MY SYSTEM.
        LOVE YOU ALL.
        GOD BLESS.
        XXX

  31. Jen
    Oh I see….. Well!
    Had to go to dr for DH…but he also showed her a rash and it looks like shingles so keeping an eye on it as tomorow he will have to go back.he hasnt been feeling good
    Going to rest now tried to do stuff in garden
    Chris

      • DARLING CHRIS, DOES IT EVER S TOP? HOPE DH IS FEELING A LITTLE BETTER TODAY. HAPPY HE IS GOING TO SEE THE DOC. LIKE JENNIE SAID KEEP US POSTED. TRY AND REST LOVE YOU REALLY NEED TO.
        LOVE YOU BIG.
        XXX

  32. HI SUZANNE………THANKS FOR ASKING AFTER ME LOVE, ITS NOT BEEN A GOOD DAY, BEEN TO THE THERAPIST AND THIS TIME HE MADE ME CRY, I HURT SO BAD, I COULDN’T GET MY HEAD UP, MY NECK AND HEAD HURT SO BAD. I AM DREADING GOING BACK ON THURSDAY, BUT HE SAW ME CRYING AND SUGGESTED SITTING UP FOR THE NEXT PART OF THE TREATMENT, WHICH WAS SUCH A RELIEF…..HE WANTS ME TO SEE AN OSTEOPATH AS WELL AS HIM, THAT WILL TAKE UP A MASSIVE PART OF MY WEEK, SO SITTING IN THE CAR TO GET TO BOTH WILL BE A NIGHTMARE, I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM TRAVELING AS SUE DOES….ANYWAY I MUSTN’T GO ON ABOUT IT. I HOPE YOU ARE HAVING SOME “ME” TIME LOVE, YOU DO SO MUCH FOR OTHERS……LOVE YOU BIG TOO…JENNIE POO XX

    • Jennie, it is your business and I know you’re a big girl, but why go back to him again if it’s hurting so much. You’ve given Mr. Grease a chance so why not stick with the osteo when you can see him. Why put yourself through the transportation and stress? He may be doing more harm than good. Sweet friend, you go on about it as long or as much as you need to. We love you here and feel so strongly and relate to you from the heart. Love, Sue

      • SUE…MAYBE YOU ARE RIGHT…..I CAN MANAGE IF HE LETS ME SWAP AND CHANGE POSITIONS, BUT I CANNOT COPE WITH BEING LAID ON MY FRONT FOR SO LONG ANYMORE, AND I WILL BE TELLING HIM THAT ON THURSDAY, AND IF HE SAYS ITS THE ONLY WAY HE CAN TREAT ME, I AM OFF….NEVER TO BE SEEN AGAIN!!!!!! I WILL LET YOU KNOW WHAT HE SAYS.
        THANK YOU FOR CARING….LOVE YOU…JEN X

      • Jennie:
        I agree with Sue. Your body, you know if it is helping. Not everyone is helped by these things. Sounds like it is harming you. I say STOP !! Find a nice hottub somewhere and soak and feel better 🙂 Love you

  33. Hi all
    Short post
    DH has shingles
    And my results show some polyps that need coming out
    Jen
    Dunno what to say,a lot going on

    Suzanne .i think this must be how it is when folks get older ,they don’t see beyond themselves sometimes and then they change and they are themselves
    It’s a hard job especially for your DD too. Just measure what you do so you don’t do too much for you
    Ok be back tomorrow
    Chris

    • Chris, Well, now you know dear lady. Polyps removal surgery? Didn’t you go through this some time back? It sure does explain the cramping before the testing. How is the air in the gut doing today? Hope you’re feeling improved. Poor DH. Shingles are so miserable. I hope he got the injection within the first couple of days. It helps the case to be more bearable..the anti-viral. Tell him I found relief from cortisone cream with aloe vera in it. Hope and pray it isn’t a severe case.
      My goodness but you guys have had a time of it. Hope Dad is behaving, poor man. Let us know about your gut, okay? SMooth stuff and liquids, huh? for now? Thinking of you with concern, Love, Sue

    • CHRIS….OH DEAR, I AM SO SORRY AT YOUR NEWS, A BIT OF A DOUBLE WHAMMIE ISN’T IT, YOU KNOW THAT I FEEL FOR YOUR DH, AND THE SOONER YOU ARE RID OF THOSE POLYPS THE BETTER…..THINKING OF YOU LOVE……JEN X

    • YES CHRIS, I THINK YOU ARE RIGHT. AT LEAST FOR MY AUNT. ONE DAY SHE IS KIND AND THE NEXT SHE IS OFF AND OF COURSE IT IS ALL ABOUT HER RIGHT NOW.
      HOPE DH DOESN’T HAVE A BAD DOSE OF THOSE SHINGLES. THAT HURTS A WHOLE LOT.
      HAVE A GOOD DAY CHRIS AND TO DH ALSO.
      XXX

  34. Suzanne, it sounds like time to have a “come to Jesus meeting” with Aunty. Consider telling her how obnoxious she is being and tell her you are not a servant. What you do for her you do out of love and she is taking advantage of you. I went through something similar with my Mom and sometimes as people age, dementia, even early dementia can cause them to become ornery and selfish. What she was she may no longer be. I know it hurts you but some folks do change as they age and she definitely needs help. That could explain how she can put up with so much gout pain, which really hurts. I know, all of this hurts you and you are my concern. Tough love time honey, tough love time. She also needs to be protected from herself. Think of the trouble she can get into with fire, etc with the eyesight so bad. I’m so sorry to lay all this on you. Thinking and praying for you and your family. Love, Sue

    • Dear Sue and Suzanne, I’m so glad you wrote this Sue. It’s just what I wanted to say, but just couldn’t figure out how to say it. As one who is facing the problems of health that is going down hill due to the aging process it is hard to give up our independence. Suzanne I think your aunt is in denial and a really frank discussion of her condition is necessary. She very obviously needs help and it will be difficult if she is uncooperative. You have my heartfelt prayers. Take care. Janet

      • Janet, thank you for the support for our dear Canadian friend. I know it’s terribly hard, especially for Suzanne and her daughter. My Mom was more and more self-centered but my dear Dad, he was the one who had the problems with his vessels in the brain, and he was always kind, even when he didn’t know where he was. Strange as we age how we become changed. Some folks think that age allows them to be rude. Others just feel sad. I know. Life hurts so much sometimes and it’s not always possible to give it all because we have to protect ourselves or we will be left in an empty condition.
        How’s the packing coming along? Think of you often. Love, Sue

      • Dear Sue, I get tired easily. My younger son has been fantastic. He has been out every weekend for over a month going over his Dad’s stuff. I’m afraid my husband was a man of many talents and hobbies, it has made it difficult to organize all his stuff and to decide what to do with it.

        The blog has been an eye opener for me. I would never have believed that I would become so fond of people that I have never actually met, but it has happened here with you and with the others on the blog. So many are having such great difficulties right now, it tears at my heart. I want to respond to everyone and tell them how much I care, but with these darn tremors and the neuropathy I just can’t. I just hope you and everyone else know how much you all mean to me. Prayers that things will soon be better for all.. Janet

    • SUZANNE …I ECHO WHAT SUE AND JANET SAY TOO, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH, YOU WILL BE EVEN SICKER IF YOU KEEP TAKING ALL THIS ON YOUR SHOULDERS, PUT YOURSELF FIRST FOR A CHANGE…..KEEPING YOU IN MY THOUGHTS SWEETHEART….LOVE YOU….JENNIE POO XX

      • Janet:
        We know and understand you are not able to write us all. I love to see you write on here when you can. I am so glad your son is helping you. Hang in there ! Love you

        Suzanne, prayers for you. Talk to your aunt, and try to make her see what she is doing to herself and to you. If you are in charge of her, make her see this is the only way she can stay on her own , to LISTEN> Love you too girl

    • YES YOU ARE RIGHT SUE. IT WILL BE A HARD CONVERSATION TO HAVE WITH HER, BUT SHE REALLY DOES NEED TO UNDERSTAND WE ARE THERE TO HELP HER OUT OF LOVE. I DO BELIEVE SHE HAS A BIT OF DEMENTIA BECAUSE THERE ARE MANY THINGS SHE DOESN’T REMEMBER AND THEN SHE MAKES UP STORIES THAT ARE NOT TRUE AT ALL.
      SHE IS IN SO MUCH PAIN CAUSE OF THE GOUT. I DID SPEAK TO HER YESTERDAY AND TOLD HER IF SHE DIDN’T TAKE HER PILLS SHE WOULD END UP IN THE HOSPITAL. SHE DID TELL ME SHE IS TAKING THEM BECAUSE HER FOOT FEELS LIKE IT WILL BUST OPEN BECAUSE IT IS SO SWOLLEN. MY HEART HURTS FOR HER.
      SUE WHEN THE SOCIAL WORKERS CAME TO VIST THEY TOLD ME LATER THAT SHE WOULD NOT BE ELIGIBLE TO GO INTO THE HOME RIGHT NOW. I WAS FLABBERGASTED . THEY TOLD ME EVEN IF SHE GOES BLIND, IT DOESN’T MATTER. OUR HEALTH SYSTEM WANTS PEOPLE TO STAY IN THEIR HOMES AS LONG AS POSSIBLE. I THINK IT IS TIME TO CALL THEM AGAIN.
      TOUGH LOVE INDEED SUE. THAT WILL BE SO HARD FOR ME, BUT GUESS IT’S TIME,
      WILL KEEP YOU POSTED AND THANK YOU SUE.
      LOVE YOU.
      XXX

  35. Tonie, thinking and praying for you today as you head off to the attorney. Do take care, relax and see what comes of it. I think this is the answer and pray it is. Hope you’re holding up okay. Love you, Sue

    • Sue:
      Had long day yesterday, but was not as exhausted as I had expected to be (good huh ?) I just did what I needed to do before I sat down. I have a nice attorney for this case. Not the one I met originally. THis one is a disability expert. He has just came back to the firm. Opened my eyes to a lot of things. These judges are not medical background people, just lawyers. Now that is just nor right is it ?? It is pretty much a personal ideal whether you get it or not. He pretty much told me to look and act as sick as I can. No joking or laughing or chatting (I will have to sew my tongue down). Dress down and no makeup or jewelry. I said like a reverse job interview, I don’t want to get hired. We spent two hours going over all this and he gave me some paperwork to see if my Dr;s will fill them out for me. He stressed that this is not to say I am disabled but to highlight what the illness is doing to my body. I was shocked at the size of my file.
      Strolled thru my garden, and I have pumpkins, watermelons and cantalopes along with cucumbers. Maybe if the weeds stay, the deer will leave it alone.
      Must stop now, my hands are getting stiff adn numb. Love you all
      Chris prayers for you dh and you, God bless you
      Love
      Tonie

  36. Janet, of course I agree with Lyn. We love you right back. It constantly amazes me the quality of the folks I meet here on the blog. I feel I am the one that has been blessed the most by this avocation of writing when I could no longer be a nurse. I think you are going through all this in such a gallant manner. I know it’s hard. Wrapping up and condensing a lifetime of “stuff” is such a big job. I look back and wonder how we did it, Beth and I, at Jim’s Mom when we only had four days to get it all sorted. It was a miracle of hard work. It also gave me a new understanding of what my kids will one day have to face. Jim and I keep wanting to get a large dumpster delivered and my feeling is to empty out half the basement into it, HOWEVER, I am married to a keeper. Oh my.
    We are truly blessed to know you dear, wise friend. Much love, Sue

  37. NOT HAVING A GOOD DAY, MUSCLES FEEL ON FIRE, SOME NERVE STUFF GOING ON WITH MY GUMS, BUSY DAY TOO TO GET THROUGH, GOT AN AGENT COMING TO PHOTO THE HOUSE, THEN FRIENDS DROPPING IN, THEN A LOG DELIVERY, ALREADY POOPED, WITH CLEANING THE HOUSE, HIDING STUFF AWAY, YOU DON’T WANT THE AGENT SEEING, DOG BEEN BANNED FROM HIS PLACE OF THE SOFA….NOT HAPPY.
    TONIGHT I WILL BE SO GRATEFUL TO SEE MY BED…..TROUBLE IS I WANT TO GO THERE NOW!!!!!
    HAVE A GOOD DAY MY FRIENDS, LOVE YOU AND THINKING OF YOU ALL…………………….WITH LOVE…JENNIE XXXXXXXXX

    • Jennie are you still trying to sell you home ? I thought you had decided to stay. Or maybe I misunderstood. Hope you feel better today. Rest up

      • YES TONIE, WE ARE STAYING BUT STILL NEED TO DOWN SIZE, SO WE CAN HAVE SOME CASH IN THE BANK, ALSO LESS WORK FOR BOTH OF US IF WE CAN GET SINGLE STOREY LIVING……..AGENT WAS REALLY NICE, SAID SHE WOULD DO HER BEST FOR US….ALL WE CAN ASK FOR REALLY, HOUSES ARE NOT SELLING TOO WELL IN OUR AREA…..HAE A GOOD DAY, SORRY ABOUT THE MISTAKE I MADE ABOUT YOUR LAWYER, I FORGET THE TIME DIFFERENCE…LOVE YOU….JENNIE POO X

  38. JANET THANK YOU FOR THINKING OF ME AND MY TRIALS. I ALSO THINK OF YOU OFTEN AND WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. YOU HAVE A GOOD MIND SET, KEEP IT UP MY SWEET LADY. I KNOW IT CAN’T BE VERY EASY FOR YOU.
    GOD BLESS.
    LOVE YOU BIG JANET.
    XXX

  39. Hi y’all! Went to Austin TX over the weekend to see my niece Brandy and my oldest brotherJoe/ sister-in- law Shirley. (Aka the Urban Princess and the Rednecks!) Had a blast (literally!). My bro and his business partner purchased some land for deer hunting, and they lease it out during deer season. Off season, it’s his very own shooting range and tactical training ground! After target practice Sat we had lunch and then went to the nail salon. I put pictures of the target and our fancy toes on FB (only in Texas- pistols and pedicures ! I’d post pics of my niece too but she is divorced and has a restraining order against her ex.) Sunday we had “Jammie church” (pj’s & coffee while watching worship service on TV) and then a one hour massage, shopping and dinner out. Found a really nice London blue topaz/white sapphire ring on sale- had been looking for a really nice ring to commemorate my “year of jubilee” birthday this year so I splurged and got it. Ooh, sparkly! I had such a great time- totally the break that I needed.
    Yesterday after my dr appt I came home to a notice on my door that the city is doing apartment inspections beginning Thurs for health, fire and safety code compliance. Notice was dated 8/13 but just now showing up on our doors?!! I have boxes of stuff from my storage shed open and strung out all over since I’ve been sorting stuff for my friends garage sale. (Remember my Clean Sweep project?) So now I have basically today to try to either complete (or undo/ haul back to storage?) a project I allotted 3-4 weeks to finish. Not sure how that’s going to happen… but for these inspections you can’t have anything in front of doors or windows, (must have clear access to all) and a lot of other strange regulations (I’m sure the sheer number of cardboard boxes would be frowned upon from a fire safety standpoint?) Needless to say it seems like an insurmountable task. Thankfully my boss allowed me to take an additional vacation day today to work on it. Trying not to freak out (and undo all that nice relaxing vacation) but feeling a little on the edge of panic. My PT yesterday left me super sore and I’m hurting a lot today (S-I joints on fire!!!) which doesn’t help matters either. Inhale peace, exhale stress….
    Love to all, Princess Crabby Pants

    PS- I’ll post the details you asked for about my vitamins, supplements, etc a bit later. After the “rush” is over.

  40. Suzanne, I know. You’re in a difficult spot. I’m sorry to hear the government doesn’t really see how badly off she is. Perhaps, now they will. It’s just so dangerous for her. It’s probably all about the money; it usually is. I feel for you and your daughter and know you will see the importance of staying strong. My gosh, we pay a high enough price for our own lives and the things we have to drag our bodies to do without bending over backwards for someone who has so many problems. I know you’ll be there for her but you’re not a servant and some facts are standing out. You’re right of course, the memory loss and making up stories…all point to senile dementia. Poor old dear, but the truth is her only hope and you will see, it will open doors for you, too. Do take care dear girl, Love, Sue

  41. Chris dear, I think I answered you on the new blog. Thinking of you as you and DH go through this trying spell. Glad the coast beckons to you. It’s so soothing. Love, Sue

  42. Tonie, I’m so pleased you like the new attorney. That’s good. He sounds very smart in not just law but human nature. It’s a shame those judges don’t know more about medicine, huh? You sound a bit encouraged and I’m so glad.
    Do deer really stay away from weeds? That sounds interesting. Hope some of the garden is left for your use. Hope your rain has stayed away and you’re feeling up to getting into the exercise mode again very soon. So much going on for you. Thinking of you, Love, Sue

    • Sue, not sure if it is the weeds or what, but it seems to work and I am leaving it alone. We had a thunderstorm today, with lots of rain. I am going to exercise on Friday, have to go, I need to get in that water and move. Once I am there, it gets better,. Take care of you
      Love

      • Tonie, glad to hear you’re going to make a run for the pool tomorrow. I know how much it uplifts you and your body. I really do believe in you’re in the last stretch of this disability fight you’ve been in. I know to a certain extent how difficult it’s been for you financially and pray this to end soon. Glad you liked the blog. I always shoot them out there and just wonder how they’ll go over. I’m still so thankful for dear Natalie in Tulsa for posting them for me in the midst of her busy life.
        My dentist office called this morning and wanted to know if I could come in in an hour…they had a cancellation. No way. My gut is not willing to let me sit there today and besides, I have to get mentally ready for that particular form of torture. I must try to make it to the store today. Grands may come over for a quiet few hours tomorrow while Beth works. Weather here has turned very cold at night but nice days. Gets confusing..open a window, close a window? Put George’s jacket on, take it off. He will usually let me know in the middle of the night. Are you working today? Have fun tomorrow at the pool. Yes, it’s good. Love you, Sue.

  43. Annie girl, oh my. You always have so much going on or maybe it’s that we get it all in one dose. Your large family is such an inspiration to you, I know. The inspection sounds like it’s coming at a very bad time. As I recall you had this occur at your last apartment, also. Glad your boss helped you by giving you the time you need to get something done at home. Don’t you overdo now, okay? Love, Sue

    • Sue, I do often have a lot going on but suspect it sounds much worse bc you just get it all in one dose. LoL. I really did have a fabulous vacation and it was just what the doctor ordered! Been feeling much better overall (which is why we were able dial up the intensity of the PT yesterday – SO would not have done that if I’d gotten that notice re: inspection BEFORE my appt.) seems like Murphy’s Law is in full play with the timing. 😜 the inspections would not be nearly so bad if they either gave you sufficient notice, or could allow them to be scheduled at a specific time. Half the anxiety is in the urgency and uncertainty. “The devil is in rhe details” so to speak? Did manage a short nap and some stretching just now so feeling somewhat better it’s not looking quite so overwhelming.

      • Annie dear, one step, one box at a time. Maybe the PT will actually kick in for you after the soreness wears away. Hang in there, Love, Sue

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