When you’ve had chronic pain for many years whining becomes an art form, a sacred ritual while also becoming a bit repetitive. That’s why you have to jazz it a bit by coming up with new ways to whine. Sure, it sounds easy. If you’re new to all this you might think all you have to do is be the victim, I mean patient; then spot another victim, also known as the listener and you’re all set to go. It’s much more complex than that. Let me see if I can sum it up for you. I love a list so let’s try that, shall we?
- Never whine when you’re with someone sicker than you are. They don’t give a rat’s ass and you will find it very unfulfilling.
- Whining is not a contest but if it were, you’d have to find someone without any problems of their own. Good luck with that. You might as well call in the Raiders of the Lost Ark to go on a sacred quest in order to find another human without problems.
- Whining is best with a captured audience.
- That’s why it works best with pets, infants, semi-comatose individuals, the deaf or those who are asleep.
- Don’t try this with someone who is only partially asleep because, I know from experience, they will only roll over and say, “Huh? Did you say something?” That’s very unfulfilling and could cause you to perform an act of violence.
- It’s not considered good etiquette to carry a weapon when you’re whining, especially if you’re planning on a long session of droning, which might include fit-throwing and physical upheaval. You might get “carried away.” Then you would certainly be carried away.
- If you’re going to whine effectively, you can’t include too much stomping around because it may prove to be counter-productive. It makes you look too healthy; which will defeat the purpose.
- Whining is salesmanship at its most emotional level.
- Remember your goal is to gain sympathy, not put the “audience” to sleep or alienate them.
- You’ll know you’ve gone too far when friends and relatives begin to run and hide when they see you coming.
- Don’t forget the props if you’re planning a long session of complaining. These would include a large handkerchief or an extra large box of Kleenex; no crying towels because they’re too obvious an affectation and give away the “ending.”
- Visual effects such as canes, walkers and wheelchairs also give it away too soon, but if you must have them, you must. Crawling on the ground is considered bad form and you also have to worry about getting up again. That can be a bit tricky, especially if you’re left alone. It’s often dirty down there on the floor, at least at my house.
- I have found the best audience for whining is your own pet. Dogs are best because they have fur you can use to dry your eyes and will usually lick your face afterwards. Cats, unfortunately fit into that “don’t give a rat’s ass” category. I love cats but it’s usually all about “Me, Me, Me” with them.
- There is a way you can whine to a cat but you have to use your happy voice and stroke them constantly while doing it. That gets tiresome when you’re already in a bad mood. If you become emotional and stroke a cat too vigorously, they will get even with you. This may involve claws out, your blood being spilled and even more for you to whine about. There could also be a great deal of noise from both you and the cat. Screaming by either of you is considered non-productive.
- You are allowed to whine at the doctor’s office but only if you keep it concise and to the point; otherwise his/her eyes will begin to glaze over and that will affect the doctor’s notes, profoundly.
- While you’re in a rant at the doctor’s office, they will stop looking at you; pull their computer close and type in what an emotionally unstable patient you are. The words “nut job” will then forever live on your medical records.
- They will undoubtedly get out their prescription pad and write you a prescription for Zanax or one of the social anxiety drugs.
- Doctors seldom recommend alcohol as a remedy for the patient who drones on about his or her problems. They may need it themselves when they go home just to get all the buzz of droning in their ears to fade away.
- Never complain to your veterinarian about yourself. Why do you think they chose a medical profession where the patients don’t talk? They may also try to take your temperature rectally, while you are being held down by two vet assistants. You might get a pedicure or should I say “peticure” out of it but, is it really worth it?
- Finally, if you must drone on, whine, complain incessantly, do it to music. I prefer NOBODY KNOWS THE TROUBLE I’V SEEN, sung loudly, while I am alone. Find a song that fits you. You might prefer, I’VE GOTTA BE ME or RAINDROPS KEEP FALLING ON MY HEAD. You could also make up your own tune and lyrics.
You see? This whining business can get out of hand, doesn’t accomplish much but seems to squirt out of us anyway. I guess it is part of the human condition. Go with it if you must but make it short, do it less often and always leave ‘em laughing.
Weekly Dose of Sue 
Sue
That was excellent..I really laughed out loud and read it to DH…yea we are both awake!
It’s nearly 1am here..but we are high with talking about setting up the shed
And DH is coughing ..oh dear and…..whining..never let it be said!
A good laugh and sooo clever
Chris
Chris, glad you got a laugh or two. I’m also pleased to hear you and DH are getting excited about the plans for the shed. We each do so well with something to look forward to that is good and pleasant. Hope DH gets well soon. How’s your cough doing? Love you, Sue
Good one Sue !! I must share this one with a few people. Don’t we all know one or two ?? Glad to see your sense of humor is still right there.
It has gone cold here again :(. If they don’t deliver my gas tomorrow I am gonna be in trouble. I called them today, but came home to nothing new.
I had to shoot one of my chickens today. THe monster got in there again last night, didn’t kill her, I came outside and scared it off. But he ripped her neck up so bad. This am it wasn;t so awful, just a few tears. I put some cream on them, but this afternoon where she had dragged herself around the skin was torn all up and you could see her neck. SHe was suffering so I had to end it. Hurt me so bad. I found where the evil thing has been getting in at and sealed it up. I pray no more losses occur.
Had to start my prep tonight. One big bottle of citrate down the hatch. So now I am all bloated up. SPeaking of WHINING 🙂
Love you all, have a good night
Tonie
Tonie, I am sorry to hear about the poor chicken. I’ll be that was difficult for both of you. Life hinges on such a fine clasp at times for each of us. Honey, you are going through the trotskies with this prep so you are allowed to WHINE big time. Whine away. Thinking of you and your soon to be sore tushie. Love ya, Sue
TONIE…..I HOPE YOUR GAS CAME IN TIME FOR THE COLD SPELL…..OH MY, THAT POOR CHUCK, WHAT A SIGHT TO HAVE TO GET UP TO IN THE MORNING.WAS IT A FOX OR SOME OTHER CRITTER?
OH MY GOODNESS I DO NOT ENVY YOU HAVING TO TAKE “THE GUNK”….SOON BE OVER AND YOU CAN GET BACK TO NORMAL…..LOVE YOU….JENNIE XX
Sue, wonderful blog today! It had me laughing. I needed that. I am so glad you got to go out yesterday and get some fresh air and hear and smell the sounds of outside. Those baby steps will turn into bigger steps before you know it.. I know it is hard, but you can do it! You are a strong woman and such an inspiration to us all.
LOVE and Hugs to you, Donna
Donna, glad you laughed. Some folks might not get it but those of us who have been there for years…we know. Yes, it was good to get out and today was a down day. Good day, bad day…the pattern of chronic illness. Love, Sue
Good one Sue! Great laughs. I got an unexpected “down day” today in the form of an ice storm. Off tomorrow too as nothing thawed out but will be working my little computer job 9-5 from the couch in my jammies. I am scheduled for back surgery March 17th so it’s crazy time trying to get stuff ready at work for me to be out for a month. They threw in our TB testing rounds early this year (last yr it was May). They wanted it all done during FEB but since they didn’t tell my manager that until FEB 1st, we got the deadline pushed back to Mar15. I divided it up over 3weeks time to minimize the driving. Lots of PT between now and surgery so I go in with the best chance of a good recovery. Beginning to consider that I may have to change what type of nursing I do in the next year or so as well. Hate to even think of giving up my little people and the school- they are so dear.
Well I should call it a nite but wanted to pop in and say hi. Love to all, and I’ll limit my whining to one word: “OUCH!!!”
Princess Crabby Pants
ANNIE…..WHAT ARE THEY GOING TO DO WITH YOUR BACK? I KNOW YOU HAVE ALWAYS HAD PROBLEMS IN THAT AREA…..I AM OUT OF TOUCH, IS IT DISKS, OR SOMETHING ELSE?
YOU COULD DO WITHOUT ALL THAT EXTRA WORK TOO…..ITS ALWAYS THE SAME THOUGH ISN’T IT? BUT YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT. HOW WILL THIS AFFECT YOUR JOB? WILL YOU HAVE TO CUT YOUR HOURS OR CHANGE YOUR JOB….WHAT??? I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU TO COME SAFELY THROUGH IT….LOVE YOU…JENNIE XX
Jennie – I had a car wreck in October that herniated 2 discs in my back (the ones that were so nicely repaired by my back surgery two years ago!) so this is basically a repeat of that procedure.
I’ll be off work for one month and can go back to my regular job (pediatric school nursing for birth to pre-K age) but all the lifting will prob continue to be hard on me so may need to change jobs as I already work reduced schedule 32 hrs/wk and can’t afford to cut my hours any further. You’re not out of touch- I truly haven’t been on here much. Xoxo
Hey Princess, sorry to hear you’ll be needing surgery but also glad for the hope it gives you. Yeah. Nursing is hard on the old body. It’s extra difficult when the folks that make the decisions about your job have to pull stupid stuff.
Glad you’re getting PT because we also want a good recovery for you. All those accessories around the bones need to be their strongest, right? Hugs for you as you face this. Much love, Sue
Thanks Sue:) figure I’ll have plenty of time while I’m recovering to think about possible career moves. Can’t even process it right now. Brains on overload.
ANSWERED EVERYONE ON THE OLD BLOG….WILL CATCH UP ON HERE AS SOON AS I CAN…..GOD BLESS TO EACH….LOVE JENNIE XXXX
Great one Sue. Love, Janet
Janet, hope this blog gave you a chuckle. I realized the other day how much my blogs reflect me and when I’ve been going through so much they have become a bit too grim and wanted to lighten things up a bit. We can all feel better with a good laugh. Love ya girl, Sue
GREAT BLOG SUE……THINK MY SONG WILL BE QUEEN “I WANT TO BREAK FREE”……I HAD A GOOD LAUGH WHICH WAS JUST WHAT I NEEDED. I HAD TO GO TO GET MY PAPERS SIGNED TODAY, BEING A FOREIGNER, YOU HAVE TO PROVE WHO YOU ARE EVERY COUPLE OF YEARS……TOOK TWO BLOODY HOURS TO GET ONE SIGNATURE ON ONE PAPER…..YIKES !!
THE GEL MY EYE DOC GAVE ME TO CLEANSE MY EYES WITH , SEEMS TO BE HELPING A LOT, PLUS MY DH HASN’T BEEN LIGHTING THE FIRE, SO WE ARE SMOKE FREE, HELPS THE EYES BUT FLIPPING FREEZING……HOPE YOU KEEP MANAGING TO GET OUT TO THE GREAT BLUE YONDER……LOVE YOU…JEN X
Jennie, So pleased the eye gel is giving you some help. Sounds like the ash and smoke from the fire may have been part of the problem. Looks like the next place you live will need to have central heating, huh?
It’s hard for me to think of you being a “foreigner” anywhere. Glad this gave you a chuckle break. Know how grim it’s been for you lately and pray your Mom is getting by okay. Did she get her important life stuff from the downed apartment? Sure hope each day she is recovering, poor lady. My love to you…Sue
YES SUE SHE DID….I WONDER IF SHE AND ALL THE OTHERS WILL GET COMPENSATED, ALTHOUGH SHE IS WITH FAMILY, SHE WILL WANT TO PAY HER WAY, AND MEANWHILE STILL HAS TO PAY THE BILLS ON HER APARTMENT….I AM A FOREIGNER THOUGH, DON’T FEEL I REALLY BELONG ANYWHERE NOW, HEY ANOTHER SONG COMES TO MIND, DON’T KNOW IF YOU HEARD OF IT IN THE USA.”WHEREVER I HANG MY HAT, THAT’S MY HOME” KIND OF FITS HUH??……LOVE YOU MY FRIEND…JEN X
Nope no colon thing Jen..got a chest scan with contrast tomorrow
Not coughing so much sue…but it’s sore to breath all the time. Nowt touches it really.steam,steroid spray nothing improves it
Back later Chris
Chris, I’m so sorry. Hope the chest X-ray helps you. Love, Sue
SORRY CHRIS….IN A MUDDLE RIGHT NOW, I JUST GOT THE PHOTOS FROM MY MUMS NEPHEW HE TOOK OF HER POOR FACE,,,,ITS AWFUL, I DON’T KNOW HOW SHE GETS THROUGH ALL THIS STUFF AND COMES OUT SMILING……TALK SOON. MUCH LOVE …JEN X
Jennie, how awful for you to see the pics of your Mom’s injuries. I pray she is doing as well as possible and recovered from the shock of this as she heals. She is made of stern stuff; but you already knew that, didn’t you.
I caught some pathos in your voice about being a foreigner and know there must be times that feels strange and perhaps too free but so many of us who are worried about this country can identify with that feeling right now. It’s a troubled old world right now but we’ve been in trouble before and made it through. Prayers for each of us to find joy within ourselves is the only answer I know that is certain. Whatever life throws at us, and it can pitch some doozies, we have to seek inner peace. That sounds so much easier than it is. Peace can be illusive and often all seems so dark. I have been there myself so often of late and pray for peace each day. Inner conflict is so painful and for those of us who can’t seem to catch a break, physically, it can be illusive. We have each other, our dear Lord and our families. There is strength in all of that love. Thinking of you and so pleased the eyes are better…Sue
Hi Tonie, I sure hope your gas has been delivered. I would hate for you to run out. I don’t know how it is there but here if it runs out they tack on an emergency fee. We don’t have to call. They come out and keep it filled. It would be bad here since we cook, heat and have gas water heater. I wish we could get natural gas but no lines out here in the country. So propane gas it is. So sorry about the hen. Did the rascal get any last night? I hope he couldn’t get in where you fixed it. We had a surprise last night. Woke up this morning and it was snowing. Only about an inch and a half but it was enough to close school. We will get a break for a while tomorrow then more snow Wednesday night and Thursday. They said we could get 4 to 6 inches of snow. Maybe up to 8 inches. More days of school being out. My DH drives a school bus and that means no pay for those days. He used 3 of his sick days for last week. He has some days built up and would have lost them if he had not used them so it worked out. I am not ” whining ” as he will get paid. He just received a $200 bonus last month for not missing a day of work since school started last August. He is a hard worker. He worked every day he has been sick. They brought my van back a short while ago. It looks so nice. In case you don’t remember, back at the end of Spring I was involved in a crash . The insurance company was going to total it and I said no. So between me and my daughter we have been saving the money to get it fixed. I have been driving it the way it was. It needed to be inspected so I could get my tag for it but I knew it wouldn’t pass because of the headlights. So now it is all fixed and he fixed it for $600 less than the quote he had given me. Praise God!! He fixed everything plus brought it to me and I didn’t have to get out in the snow. It will be sitting until the roads are good and clear again. I am not going to take a chance on sliding and wreck it again. LOVE YOU Tonie.
Jennie, I hope your mom was able to get her things she needed. I know this has to be hard on her. Take care. Glad your eyes are better but now you are dealing with the cold. So sorry. LOVE YOU sweetie.
To all the rest of you, take care and stay warm. I love you all and sending hugs to everyone! Donna
Donna, so pleased at your joy on getting your van back. What a lot for you to go through. As far as the appraisal being higher than actual? When does that ever happen? I can certainly understand why you would want to wait for spring to drive it.
Your husband sounds like a gem. Finding responsible men now is a find. My Jim is the same way…ever vigilant. Hope you’re doing as well as can be. Whatever happened with your lab work you had mentioned? Any new results? Thinking of you, Love, Sue
Hey Sue, my labs have not been done yet. It is getting close. It was to be done again 6 weeks from my visit with my oncologist which was around 28 of January. So the first or second week in March I will go again. I will let you know as soon as I get the report back. My back and hip are quite painful. At first I thought it might be my kidney since I have problems with that left kidney but if I lie down the back pain goes away. It doesn’t hurt too much while I am standing either. I don’t have any symptoms of a UTI or infection so I am pretty sure it is my back. The pain pills help some but not as much as I would like. We are already getting the snow that is on its way to Tonie. It started about 7:00 PM. The ground is covered. When this snow clears out I will go to the doctor about my back. It will probably be next week before I can go. We are getting a lot of snow this go round. At least it is snow and not ice and the temperature is not as cold as last week. Continue to pray for the power to stay on please. They came and filled our gas tank and my oxygen tanks were delivered today and an hour ago delivered my medications I was almost out of so I am all set. LOVE YOU dear lady. Donna
Dear Sue, this was an absolutely brilliant blog. Had me laughing out loud and dear sweet Sandi just watched me as if I am crazy or something. Trying to think of my song, for now it will be Achy Breaky Heart even though it’s my back and sitter that make me whine (yes, I’d like some cheese with my whine). I was so touched by your description of your surroundings when you got out to go to Safeway the other day. To hear the gratefulness in your words of what so many take for granted, brought a mixture of happy and sad tears to my eyes. I’m so glad you were able to get out for awhile. Take care sweet girl. Hugs for all! Karen
Karen dear, now I am the one to be touched. Thanks for laughing at the blog and I know you reassured Sandi you were not slipping a cog or two. I thought it was time for a good laugh for all of us. Spring will be here, I’m certain because we have bright, cheery little yellow daffodils all over our yard.
Yes, I did feel every aspect of my brief trip to Safeway with DH. In fact, I couldn’t get over how loudly all the animals were rejoicing in life. I know, for me, it was a short step but it was still a giant step in my mind. Hope you’re okay dear friend. Love, Sue
KAREN….THAT’S A GOOD ONE XX
Hey all:
Donna and Jennie, they delievered the gas today, so all is well on that end. Speaking of ends …..I hope they get what they want this time cause I will have to think long and hard before I put myself thru two days of this prep again !! I am finally winding down but feel like crap (no pun intended) I know many of you have been thru this also, so….here’s to no more colonoscopies !
Well, Henny Penny’s time finally wore out. The creature got her last night, ripped off her head and neck and hollowed her out. It really hurt me. I spent the morning stapling up netting around the eaves of the building. I hope that helps til my nephew comes and sets a trap. I am down to 3 hens and a rooster now. And the rooster is acting like he is not feeling well. Not a good winter for Tonie’s Chicks to be sure. I hear Baby out there now, pawing her water trough trying to break the ice, I hope she gets enough with the snow, cause I can’t go out there right now 🙂 I had a couple of popsicles but just remembered I wasn’t supposed to have colors, hope the one cherry and grape one will not mess it up.
ANYWAY…enough whining. I am gonna relax and watch a movie.
Love to you all
Tonie
Tonie, I’ve thought of you all day today knowing what you are going through. I’m all for the no more colonoscopies. I was thinking today of your long trip to and from tomorrow and wanted to remind you to take some cream for your tushie for the trip home. An extra pain pill wouldn’t hurt either. May it be over soon dear girl. Prayers of condolence for all you’re going through with your chicks. I’m so sorry. You have had a bad time.
Rest well now and we will hold you in our thoughts. This test will at least rule out a few things. Won’t make it feel any better as you sit, however for at least a day. Love, Sue
Dear Tonie, I hope all goes well with your procedure. I’m so sorry to hear what’s happening to your chickens. Just recently, I embarked on my urban farming adventure and have 4 little peeps in a brooder. It amazes me how quickly one can become attached to chickens. It’s very sad to hear what’s happened to yours. I’ll take extra precautions to try to seal up all openings when mine are big enough to go into a coop. Enjoy your milkshake, dear Tonie. Hugs, Karen
Tonie
Not long to go now..blackcurrunt was the only flavour I was told not to have
Take spare underware with you when you go.
Take care on the trip
I got my scan today with contrast..DH his appt with Dr for bp meds..he’s tried them all don’t know what now
See All later Chris
Chris, how soon will you get results? Your Poor DH has been through so much trial and error. Be interesting to see what they recommend. Rest well now. Love, Sue
Hello Sue, your blog on whining was just perfect! I have always loved “Lucy” and was so glad to see her there front & center. I smiled a lot reading your list–I think you covered what most of us are feeling very accurately. How did you know that I’ve been wishing for an audience all day? I am flying up, 2 1/2hours flight , to see my sister in Oregon. Just can’t wait to lay on her bed & commiserate. She recently broke her toe & here I come with my chronic pain issues–I think we’ll make quite the pair! We decided we needed to get together more after losing our Mom 5 years ago. Luckily I’ve scheduled a “recovery day” the first day I’m there. She’ll go to work & I’ll rest up after my trip. My Therapist said I really need to concentrate on “pacing,” as I tend to push myself to complete my errands while I’m out rather than going home when the hurting starts. Then, when I do get home, I’m in lots of pain. I feel a little funny typing all this when I read what a terrible fall & winter you’ve been through. Oh Sue, I just cringed when I read that. I, too, am glad you got out to feel the wind & sunshine. Cannon Beach and Astoria are two of my most favorite places in the entire world! I went to nursing school in Portland & my parents honeymooned in Cannon Beach at the end of WWII. Love and prayers to you, Elaine
Well sue the specialist said she would send me a letter with the results…so who knows! Two weeks?
But I shall keep in touch with my own Dr.the scan results might go to her as well
I shall ask when I go this morning
Chris
Chris, thinking of you today. Let us know how it goes. I was thinking about DH’s B/P. Have you ever met with a naturopath or an herbalist to check out natural meds? It’s a thought. How’s it going over at your Dad’s? Hope it’s still going okay with the troublesome neighbor…still keeping her out? Hope you get to the shed soon. Love, Sue
TONIE….GOD BLESS, THINKING OF YOU…LET US KNOW HOW IT WENT….NOT THE GRAPHICS THOUGH….LOVE YOU…JENNIE XX
Morning all:
Slept well last night, must have been worn out from all the “running” to the bathroom 🙂 It is still cold here and calling for more snow tonight. Have to get going and get a shower to ready for the procedure. I always carry pain pills with me Sue, so I shall have one afterwards. And my sister is taking me to a place that has really thick milk shakes afterwards. I am looking forward to that. Ice cream heals all wounds 🙂
Have a wonderful day all
Chris prayers on your procedure as well. All will be well.
Love
Tonie
Tonie, I’ll be so relieved for you when today is over. So you’re an ice cream gal? Might want to save a little sit on for the trip home. Love to Judy. Love, Sue
SUe:
I survived….and Judy was right those shakes were so thick you had to eat them 🙂 I am worn out, but Dr says my insides are “textbook”, he will see me again in 10 years 🙂 So good ending. I am tired and already in jammies and on my heating pad. All is well as we wait on the snowstorm tonight 😦
Love
Tonie
I cry in the shower. Nobody hears me and the tears dry as you dry yourself. Then I feel relief and. Am also clean!
Kathy, I also like crying in the shower. You can do as loudly as you like without worrying anyone. Clean, huh? Bless you dear lady. Sue
Dear Kathy, I’ve used the shower as my own personal crying place on numerous occasions and you are correct on all points; it’s private, the tears wash away and dry as you towel off and you’re clean, to boot. Take care, my dear, and may your trials lessen. Hugs, Karen
Kathy:
WElcome my the way….I forgot to put that on the last post. Crying is always good. SInce I live alone I can cry anywhere I want to. The dogs get a bit upset and they love on me which is good as well. God bless and take care
Tonie
KATHY….I CAN’T DO SHOWERS, CAN’T STAND THAT LONG….BUT I OFTEN HAVE A GOOD BLUB IN THE BATH, WATER TO WATER HUH?? XX
Hi all
Well end of day here…scan done upset the tum a bit and burning bladder with the dye
It always does that. But drinking loads to flush it out
Dr says for DH to stay of any bp pills for two Mths…mmmmm,.!
Sue all the natural things for his bp seem to alter the warfarin
Hope tonie ok
Chris
Chris, I understand. Keep drinking girl…pee away and get rid of that stuff. I’m sure we’ll hear from Tonie soon. Love, Sue
Sue et all, so much going on with everyone!
Sue, thanks for another great blog and you were right, I think we all need some laughs right now and it has been a long winter! So glad you enjoyed your first shopping experience in ever so long! We have had a VERY cold and icy winter and I have been our very little since November and I think I am showing signs of cabin fever, lol!. My American friends came and enjoyed themselves but thought it was very cold and were amazed at the size of Canadian snow ploughs! We never got the lock on the Love Lock Bridge as they decided it was too icy and cold to attempt to walk up the bridge, so they are returning when the weather is warmer and then the key can be thrown into the water. I was sad not to be able to participate in their fun but it is what it is! I am waiting for a date of my back MRI and the neurosurgeon still hasn’t called with an appointment date. Tuesday night I had trouble sleeping with pain in a crooked toe (what next!) and took the bandage off to find it very red and messy so I am now on an antibiotic …being immunosuppressed is such fun, but I did meet a charming young doctor who is new at my GP’s health center and he told me where I could go for foot care so I guess it is time! It is sometimes good to see someone new, who seeing you for the first time might have some different ideas. I saw my GP last week who said my MRI wasn’t showing any nerve impingement so it wasn’t that bad BUT …she gave me a copy which said at C6-7 I had severe narrowing of the left neural foramen and loss of disc height space and a broad disc osteophyte as well as multi level narrowing, but she did say it was a static test which doesn’t show what happens when I move … but enough about me!
Jennie, so sorry for what your Mum went through and at her age, it must have been very difficult for her and hope she is starting to feel better.
Tonie, your poor chicken and you were so brave to do what was best for her. I know the prep for your test is not nice and I have been thinking of you today my friend! I like ice cream too but my fav right now is frozen chocolate cappuccino yogurt ….makes me feel so much better and Teddi loves to lick the bowl!!!
Chris, have you got your test results back? How is you DH’s BP behaving and how is your Dad these days? My DH is still having PT as the result of the car accident he was in before Christmas driving little GS to his special school.
Annie, so sorry you need further back surgery. Nursing I a tough profession to find sedentary work in and it takes a toll on our body over the years!
I neck is telling me it is time to say goodbye for now, but prayers and love and hugs to EVERYONE ….
PM Brenda
Pommum Brenda, so wonderful to hear from you. I hope your fracture is mending and feel a bit disappointed for you that you didn’t get more definitive answers from the MRI. Life can be very complicated, and that’s an under statement. At least you have the spring visit from your friends to look forward to. Your harsh winters are a shock to some of us down here. You are so used to it and may forget some of us are wooses. Sorry to hear DH still needs PT and pray it is helping him.
I pray your foot heals quickly and I agree with you. It is good to get a new opinion from time to time. New eyes and all that. Sweet lady, I pray the family is doing well and life is happy for all the grands. Love you, Sue
Brenda:
I LOVE that frozen yogurt also. DOes yours have shavings of dark chocolate in it ? It has been a very nasty February here…more snow tonight UGH ! But I know it is nothing like you have. I am more than ready for spring !
Love
Tonie
BRENDA……MUM GETTING BETTER AND WILL BE OK, HOW ABOUT YOU, YOU POOR LOVE, OH I DO HOPE THAT BLOOMING MRI DATE COMES SOON AND THEY CAN SEE WHAT IS GOING ON….AND MAYBE SOME SOLUTIONS, OR RELIEF AT THE LEAST. THAT TOE SOUND NASTY, HOPE THE ANTIBIOTICS DO THEIR STUFF…..THINKING OF YOU LOVE……JENNIE XX
Tonie, PHEW! so pleased it’s over and you can now rest. Glad you enjoyed the shake but more pleased you have a textbook interior. We’re all relieved for you. Enjoy your rest now. Hope the demon critter outdoors left your chicks alone. Love you, Sue
Sue:
Slept like a log last night, then took a nap this evening as well. This snowy weather is making me want to hibernate ! So glad spring is around the corner. Hope you are feeling better, you haven’t said. Although you have been on here quite a bit which is always a good sign. Prayers always for your strength and recovery.
Love
Tonie
Tonie, Glad you’re getting some rest. I think it’s really hard on the body to have all that prep work for the colonoscopy. It strips our bodies of so many nutrients and electrolytes. Got to make up for all that. Sorry about the bad weather back there.
Sometimes when I’m on here more it’s because I am resting more. Trying to get to the point I can stand up straight. Still stooped..looking more so with only one boob. Striving to build up stamina, using stretchy bands and light weights but they sure can feel heavy with the affected arm. Haven’t driven the car yet. We’ve had wet weather with cold. Thanks for those prayers. It’s been like slogging up a slippery hill, this whole recovery business. Thinking of you, Love, Sue
Tonie
So good to hear your normal…!…sleep well,
Brenda
DH bp is still high in the morning its 155/105…..but at gp today it was 145/75… So he said to stay off meds for 2 mths and go,back.so I don’t know about it all really.he says it’s an average that matters..but it’s mostly up.but the Dr knows he doesn’t feel well on meds….he takes a lot anyway
What a thing to happen to your toe!
Take care with your back ,cabin fever is still better than a fall!
Kathy
I’m not sure have you posted before ..if not welcome to our circle
Mite go to the shed again Friday after DH pacemaker check..see how all is
How’s lyn?
Ok folks another day tomorrow
Chris
Donna, sorry your entry is not coming through. It only shows as an error. Sue
Sue ,I was just answering your question about the lab work. I don’t have it done again until the second week in March. I will let you know the results as soon as I get them. We got about 4 inches of snow so I am glad we didn’t get what they were originally saying. Then about 3AM This morning it sleeted and rained on top of the snow melting a lot of it. The temperature is right above freezing so anything else that melts will freeze tonight. I hope you have a Blessed day. Love and hugs, Donna
Donna, thanks for getting back to me. Glad your storm wasn’t as severe and as deep as feared. Power still on? Good. Later, Sue
Sue, love it!
Hello, all, “old” and “new”! I just have a few minutes and tried a quick read through to catch up; not an easy task. It’s been a while since I’ve been on here. For some reason I seem to have been extra busy lately, though I can’t put a finger on exactly why. Trying to keep my whining to a minimum. After a while no one really listens or cares as much anyway. 😉 Time to try to get a quick walk in with the pup before a shower and off for a much needed haircut. Will catch up later. Best to all!
Lyn, I’ve missed you. Sounds like you need to slow down a bit. Hope all is well with the extreme weather you’ve been having. How are the kids and DH? How did your hair turn out? Love it short. Sue
TONIE….GREAT NEWS FOR YOU, HOW ARE THE CHUCKS….NO MORE DAMAGE I HOPE…..YOU NEVER SAID WHAT THE CRITTER WAS…..I HOPE THINGS SETTLE DOWN FOR YOU NOW,,,GOT SPRING ON THE WAY….WHOOPEEE, WHAT ARE YOU PLANTING THIS YEAR??…….LOVE JENNIE XX
Jennie:
Still not sure if it is a possum, weasel or what. Just praying it stays away until my nephew sets a trap for it. The chucks are doing okay right now. Rufus is still feeling bad, but hanging in. His wattle is swollen and I am wondering if the critter got ahold of it. can’t touch him to find out.
I am planting everything ! The seeds my son gave me have everything from tomatoes to eggplant, so we will see.
Take care
Only a few more weeks til spring !
Love
Tonie
CHRIS…NICE TO TALK TO YOU…HOPE THE HONEY HELPS….TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND TRY AND GET SOME TIME OFF….LOVE JEN XX
Well all
Only one thing to say Tonite.as have had a busy day
Ok..went to my dads to do some filing of post….on way home I rang a care agency that my dad had mentioned that was cheaper. I spoke to them and they said £14 an hour…rang my dad he said that’s not right it says £7 here…so I asked him what it said, he couldn’t speak or read it to me
So I rang the number again when home..she said no the £14 isn’t right it’s £7 and your dads just rung me!
Not knowing my dad had rung just then I said well I don’t understand all this..as I was told £14.anyway it appeared that that £7 was to pay the person if you wanted the job as a carer! My dad had just applied and she was sending him an application to be a carer….!.well….I told her my dad was 91 with parkinsons…..she said well he speaks so well….ugh!..he doesn’t for me!!
Well I rang my dad back..as he does like to always prove someone wrong.i think that’s why he rang them after I found they were£14 an hr….and he said he thought he had asked for a carer to come to him
Didn’t know whether to laugh or cry!
Anyway more sorting out with GS phone ,but sorted now
DH pace check tomorrow
So hopefully gonna sleep
Still trying for that time off Jen
Chris
Chris, sorry for the run around when your life is always so full. Is your Dad playing games with you or is he genuinely in and out of it that much. I feel for you in piecing all this together. Is that the rate per hour for a part time helper? Hope DH pacemaker is good tomorrow. Thinking of you..Love, Sue
Yep that’s per hr
He does seem to have no understanding.amd also no speech.then I think he can force himself for a bit then it all goes. He seems to keep all stuff for his mail as all serious even stuff like circulars…he gave £100 to one that was for some donation thru the post.before I could sort it out
Most times he will look straight beyond you and then be okHe will take ages to take something In.
The times of being okish have almost disappeared …I just don’t know
His neighbour who helps him has had words with him as he falls and she can’t pick him up and he won’t call an ambulance to help,him.or his thing around his neck he wears and she has to end up doing it.
She told me yesterday he fell three times in the last few days and he is so heavy. I also think she is fed up of doing so much…she does everything ,he has a carer in only for 30mims in the morning.he won’t have them for more…I asked him to but he says his neighbour will do it all?.she tells me she can’t and she keeps om doing everything. I think she feels she has to…we have asked her not to do so much .but I know she feels compelled to now….she is 85. My dad won’t move to a home ..
I can’t go in his flat becos of the methol stuff and Dh can’t bend down etc with his Menieres and balance and can’t understand him at all as. being deaf…I’m just lost with it. So I kind of just put it on a shelf
and get on with the day…but it’s so worrying . I have talked to him about going in a home but it’s not getting thru,,and I can see he is frightened as you hear some horror stories..DH is getting frustrated with it all ..doesn’t do his bp any good.i don’t feel im doing what I should be
So here I am at 3am typing this with the steamer on full.camt quote make out this typing and a hat on to stop my hair going frizzy !..its quite a sight
Chris
Chris, loved the leave them laughing ending to your story. Yes, the mental pic I have of you is one of a tiny lady looking through a veil of fog, wearing a hat with hair hanging out, wearing a warm flannel nightie.
As far as your Dad, it is a sad situation and you seem to be doing all you can. One of those falls may end up being serious but what can you do? Not much. Hope the neighbor speaks up because she will get hurt. I understand how DH could have frustration. Heck, I feel frustrated and I’m thousands of miles away from the situation. Just remember you can do what he will let you and then that’s all. Be good to yourself dear friend. Love, Sue
Just read your last post sue
Life don’t half get tedious don’t it?
But you do so pull thru
Love chrisx
Chris, I’m trying. That’s the best of it. Sue
Chris:
Like Sue, I feel such frustration for you. It sounds like the time is coming soon when you will have to take over all his decisions for him. Hard part of having an aging parent, when they get to the state of a child. With all else you have going on it is extra rough. But am so proud of you for all you have taken in. Letting him live at home as long as you can. That is so extra special, especially to your Dad. Take care sweetie
Love
Tonie
Read your posts sue
Glad I got it off my chest
Gonna make a slice of toast and tea and read a book I think
I don’t think there is an answer to the problem
You know perhaps we expect answers and there is just the problem ..it’s just we are used to looking for the answer
My dad could solve it by moving..but he likes his home….menthol and all!!
Chris
Chris, perhaps it would help to think of what you can control. One step at a time. You can control how you react and you already are. You can control by getting away, and you are sometimes. The neighbor is responsible for herself. Your Dad will do what he will do and you can’t change it. I know you’ll have to pick up the pieces because you are a loving daughter. It will all play out, just be sure you and DH aren’t sucked into it to the point of being hurt. I care what happens to you two the most. Love, Sue
I wish there was a “like” button here like on Facebook. I’d like Sue’s reply. 🙂 I have nothing to add, Chris. Ditto.
Thankyou sue.chris
WOW….NEARLY DROPPED A BIG CLANGER TODAY….WENT OUT TO LOOK FOR A MOTHERS DAY GIFT FOR MY MOM OBVIOUSLY, THOUGHT I WOULD TRY A BOUTIQUE MY FRENCH FRIEND RUNS…..THEY MAKE FABULOUS CHOCCIES, THEY ARE DISPLAYED IN WOODEN BOXES WITH A LITTLE HAMMER TO BREAK IT UP WITH……NOT THINKING, I PICKED ON UP WITH ALL LITTLE FIGURES ON THE CHOC, IN DARK MILK AND WHITE….PERFECT THOUGHT I……MY FRIEND CECILE CAME DASHING UP TO ME, GRABBED IT FROM ME AND SAID ” NO NO! YOU CANNOT SEND THIS TO YOUR MAMAN” ON CLOSER INSPECTION…THE FIGURES ON THE CHOC WERE IN VARIOUS POSITIONS OF THE KARMA SUTRA…..THINK MY MOM HAS HAD ENOUGH SHOCKS FOR AWHILE…….
CHRIS….GET THEE OFF TO THAT SHED AND LET EVERYONE COPE FOR THEMSELVES FOR A COUPLE OF DAYS…AND TRN YOUR MOBILE OFF…..GET SOME PEACE AND QUIET LOVE, OR YOU WILL BE NO GOOD TO MAN NOR BEAST….XXXX
TONIE….KEEP THE JOKES COMING, THAT WAY I KNOW YOU ARE DOING OK…HOPE THE CHUCKS ARE TOO XX
SUE…..HOW ARE THINGS FOR YOU?….HAVE YOU MANAGED TO GET OUT SINCE THE LAST TIME…HOPE SO. XX
JANET -DONNA-SUZANNE-LYN-BRENDA-KAREN AND LAURA…..BEST WISHES TO YOU ALL….AND HAVE A GOOD WEEKEND .
LOVE AND PRAYERS….JENNIE XXXXXXXXX
Jennie, thanks for the laugh! Oh my.
LYN…GLAD THAT LITTLE STORY BROUGHT A SMILE…..I HOPE YOUR EVENING WENT/GOES WELL, AND YOU DON’T END UP WITH A COLD……..YOUR HAIR LOOKED LOVELY OF F/B…LOVE JENNIE X
Jennie, That chocolate story is hilarious. I think it could have gone one of two ways; either your Mom wouldn’t have known what they were OR it would have brought back some pleasant memories. One never knows about one’s parents, huh?
Hope your spring is springing as is ours. Lovely day today here on the river, a great day to get out for awhile. I must drive my car. Once I get over that hurdle it will help but we, up until now, have had a very wet, cold week. Beth and the kids are still fighting this miserable virus that’s around so I didn’t get to see them this week. She’s afraid I’ll catch it. Jim’s cleaning up our front stairs which is a sure sign of spring and I think I’ll venture out to deadhead a few more plants on the porch in between resting spells.
Please say a prayer for me. I have some decisions to make. Talked to my rheumy by phone yesterday and she gave me a few choices of ways to go with this thing with the back. Got the name of a good spine clinic at the university in PORTLAND; the name of another pain clinic in PORTLAND, or I could look into get narcotic patches to wear for the pain since my gut is so sensitive to oral meds. I thought it all over and will delay on all for now and take the first step which I can do here in town and am now getting out a wee bit and signed up for physical therapy. It has always helped my SI’s in the past so need to try it. I’ve been doing many exercises I learned in the past from PT but they may have some new ideas for strengthening the back. Must try before I go through that four hour round trip to chase other ideas. I pray that the local PT will help. I don’t like the idea of narcotics. Have some, don’t use them. Gut too irritable, as you know. I also have to have a mammogram this month. Can you believe it’s been a whole year already since I was diagnosed with breast cancer? What a long miserable year lies behind me. Looking forward the view hopefully is better.
Hope you are as well as can be and that your dear Mom is healing. Love you, Sue
HI SUE……I THINK THE CHOCS WOULD BE HAPPY MEMORIES….HE HE!! I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR YOU HAVE BEEN ABLE TO DRIVE AGAIN….HOW THAT WOULD OPEN UP YOUR WORLD AGAIN…I HOPE BETH AND THE KIDS SOON PICK UP, AND YOU WILL SOON BE ABLE TO SEE THEM AGAIN….ALL FIGHTING FIT AND HEALTHY.
OF COURSE I WILL SAY A PRAYER FOR YOU, I DO EVERY DAY, BUT AN EXTRA ONE FOR YOU TO GET THE PATCHES THAT WILL HOPEFULLY HELP YOU WITH YOUR PAIN…ITS GREAT THAT YOU ARE DOING YOUR BACK EXERCISES AGAIN TOO, A GOOD SIGN THAT THINGS ARE TURNING ROUND FOR YOU….LET US KNOW WHAT DATE THE MAMMOGRAM IS, CAN’T BELIEVE ITS BEEN A WHOLE YEAR EITHER.
I AM NOT TOO BAD, A BIT DEPRESSED, ALL THIS STUFF WITH MY MOM HASN’T HELPED, I HAVE SINCE LEARNED THAT TWO OF HER FRIENDS FROM THE FIRE HAVE DIED….VERY UPSETTING.
GOD BLESS AND KEEP MAKING GOOD PROGRESS…..LOVE YOU…..JENNIE
Dear Jennie, This stuff about your Mom is so upsetting. I hardly know what to say. She, you and your whole family are continuously in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care of yourself and keep us informed. Gentle hugs and lots of love, Janet
Sue, hair turned out just fine. Now I have to fancy myself up tonight for a Red Carpet type affair. Sounded like fun until I found out we would be in a tent between buildings and my gown is sleeveless… I sure hope they have industrial strength heaters in there! But then I also don’t as I have to sing for 10 mins or so! Sunshine today, with temps in 20s. Tonight? Oh, about 15 or 16 degrees out about the time I’m doing my thing. Ugh. I do have a couple of pashminas… Guess I’ll be taking the warmest one that works with the dress!
Lyn, oh dear, that does sound mighty cold for a glamorous, sleeveless dress. How about wearing long undies under it? Guess long sleeves are out unless you want the rugged look. Sounds like that pashmina will be your best friend tonight. Hope you enjoy it more than freeze dear friend. Those had better be some heaters, with big fans. Thinking of you. Love your short hair. Sue
Yes sue..what a long loathsome year for you you have had….its so unfair and anger making.i think your decision to make small steps first the best and I would do that too. If you then have to make Portland you would be stronger then anyway for such a long trip.but you may not have to make it.and all will be well.
I hope you got to enjoy out doing the flowers and the weather was good to you
Big step to driving the car but I know you’ll get there….yes prayers certainly for your safekeeping and making the right descision for you
Lyn I hope you kept warm and the evening went well
Thankyou all for your thoughts on my situation it sure does help with my mindset
Well DD coming over today so I’ve got some things ready for a meal GS might pop over as well .they can see my dad on their own I’ll have a break I think
Chris
Chris, Good to hear that you understood my strategy. So many choices can often be confusing, you know? No, the cold wind kicked up yesterday and drove me off the porch. I feel like my progress has been at a snails pace and still more medical issues to deal with but nothing major.
Did you both get some time at the shed? Think of you daily and all you deal with. You’re a fine example for all of us. Love, Sue
Jennie, I am so sorry to hear your Mom lost two friends in that terrible accident. Hope each day brings her more healing.
I guess I didn’t explain my position on the narcotic patches. I don’t want to go that route. I don’t need to be in that condition day in and day out. My Mom wore them and she got confused and unsteady on her feet and fell and broke her wrist many years ago. That would be a last resort for me, I’m afraid. It was just one of the things the rheumy mentioned. I live in a three story house and have stairs, etc. and as a writer I need a clear mind. That’s why I like exercises and PT. It’s more of a solution than a patch on the problem. Pray the right things will come together for me, please.
Hope your DH is doing well and that spring is bringing life to your region. Love you, Sue
Sue, I agree with you about the patches. Who wants to be drugged up all the time. That is why I changed pharmacies and had a talk with my doctor. I was tired of being sleepy all the time. I am a whole lot better now. I have taken more of the pain pills in the last two weeks than I normally take. I only take them when the pain is up there an 8 on the 1-10 pain scale. I have a high pain tolerance most of the time.
I hope you will be able to get out and drive some soon. I am going to try and take the van out to be inspected tomorrow. I hope I will be able to tolerate my back and hip pain driving. I was wondering if you would mind sharing your recipe for the potato soup you shared several months ago. I think it was for just one or two servings. I meant to write it down and forgot to. I know it was very simple. My DH just came home from a Bible study group he goes to once a month and they always share a meal. He said they had potato soup today and that is what made me remember yours. It has been rainy and cold here today. Perfect soup day. It is suppose to be 60′ here tomorrow and 70′ on Wednesday. Not getting my hopes up. I am sure we will have more days of cold weather before spring gets here. I hope you have a good night. LOVE and Hugs, Donna
Donna, good to hear from you but sorry you’re having pain. It never seems to go away, I understand. I’m sorry I didn’t feel up to answering you last night. I’ve caught the bug from my kids and grands. Aches all over and chills and you know, basically yukky. It will pass but all joints blazing. Bad immunity almost assures it, you know; catching everything within a five mile radius.
As far as the potato soup I posted that I was using baked potatoes because it cooked them without peeling, well, at least the hard peeling. After one is baked and cools for a few mins. It easily peels then I mash it, add a bit of milk, onion powder, a touch of basil, dash of salt and that’s it. It’s good and easy but it’s noto as good as one with a roux, cheese added and thickening but it is quicker when you feel rotten. I hate peeling potatoes and usually pass the chore over to Jim who peels like he was in the army again and doesn’t stop until they’re all gone. Gotta watch him.
Take care dear lady as we trek this world, some of us, in daily pain as we look for purpose and joy. Love, Sue
Sue, thank you for the recipe. I knew it was simple. My DH peels the potatoes then wraps them in plastic and bakes them in the microwave. Stores them. In the fridge so I can have one whenever I need one. So that will be easy for me. I am sorry you are sick. I hope it doesn’t last too long. As always I will be praying for you. It is really nice here today. Has not stopped me from hurting. Feel better soon. Sending you love and hugs, Donna
Hey Jennie, so sorry to hear about your mom’s 2 friends. That has to be so horrible for her. It’s bad enough to lose one but two at the same time is worse. I will keep her in my prayers and you too my friend. Was she able to get all the things she needed from her apartment? I sure hope so. I pray everyone else will heal and be ok. Take care of yourself sweet lady. Sending you hugs and love. Always lifting you up in prayer. Donna
DONNA…..YES SHE GOT ALL SHE NEEDED, HER FACE IS IMPROVING TOO, NOTHING WILL BE THE SAME NOW, BUT NOTHING WE CAN DO EXCEPT KEEP CALLING TO TRY AND CHEER HER UP, BUT SHE IS A VERY STRONG LADY DESPITE HER GREAT AGE, AND SHE WILL GET THROUGH THIS….I HAVE TOLD HER OF ALL THE PRAYERS SAID FOR HER, AND SHE WAS SO MOVED BY THEM…SO THANK YOU, AND I PRAY FOR HEALING FOR YOU TOO MY FRIEND ….LOVE AND HUGS…JENNIE XX
Donna, Hope you feel better and have less pain. DO you think it is related to the weather. Great idea about wrapping the potatoes but I don’t think my Jim is capable of ever peeling just one potato.
Hope it’s warming up back there and you are seeing some signs of spring. Love, Sue
Hey Chris, I hope things are going better for you. Did your DD and GS get by to see you? I hope so. That always makes me feel better. Hopefully they also went by to see your dad. You don’t have to go with them. They are grown they can go by themselves. I agree with most everyone else that you need to take one day at the time. Do what you can and the other stuff will work its way out. I hope you got to read your book. That is a way of getting your mind on something else besides what all is going on in your life. Go to the shed every chance you get and enjoy it. One day in the future when your dad can no longer take care of himself and can’t live by himself, then you will put him in a home to be taken care of. Until then we will continue to pray that he will be alright and won’t harm himself in any way. Even if the sweet neighbor can no longer do all she has done for him anymore, she is around and I am sure she will let you know if something goes wrong. Try and relax and get some rest. Praying always, love and hugs, Donna
Lyn, I hope you had a great evening last night. I thought of you in the sleeveless dress. Made me cold thinking about it. I do hope you were able to stay warm. Did they have heaters. I hope You found a warm pashmina to put around your arms to help keep you warm. There is a company that comes to our hospital twice a year, at Easter and Christmas. They have the most beautiful pashminas and infinity scarves. They have so much other stuff including all kinds of jewelry and. Just about anything you would want. This will blow your mind, everything, yes everything is only $5.00 each. I usually buy most of my Christmas gifts there but I didn’t this year as I gave everyone a gift card. I didn’t feel like shopping this past Christmas. They like the gift cards better anyway.
Ok, I pray you don’t get sick being out in the cold. Take care of yourself. Praying always. Love and Hugs, Donna
Hey all:
Yesterday was just a bad day for me, so I wasn’t up to posting. I think my inflammation is up, all is hurting and aching and stiff joints…you know the drill. Today, I drove to South Carolina for my grandson’s bday party. He is 10. There were so many kids and adults in that small home…well you get the picture. BUT.. I enjoyed the drive and the time with my grandkids. Surprised them, cause they forgot I was coming down. Now I am tired and ready for sleep.
Hope you all had a good weekend.
Love
Tonie
Tonie, pleased you got to go and the ice stayed away. I am sorry to hear it took it’s toll on you…the day, that is. Always a price to pay, huh? Hope you get some rest today. I’ve got the bug from the kids but feel it will pass quickly. Just ache all over and have sweats and chills. Almost impossible to avoid. Oh the quiet life…I’m so bored. Love you, Sue
Hi Donna
Thankyou for your kind words
Those stalls at the hospital sound magic
Well my DD came around and had some lunch..GS is coming tonight with a little pressy for me he says!
DD went to see my dad first but he had had messed his trousers and had thrown them away in a sack in the large bins outside..but had left his wallet in it…he was in a state when DD got there and she had to go thru everything to find it…….thankgoodness she was there but it was not a pleasant task I would want for her……this is the second time he has done this….he must feel dreadful
Well got the shed being recomissioned this Friday so can put CH on and use toilets.will make the beds and put bread and milk in freezer etc.we hope to stay for the w.end….if I can’t use my iPad there it’s becos I had trouble reconnecting to the satellite there as have had a new code this year.but all should go ok
But slightly apprehensive with my dad as things are…but I’m only 50 mins away……just not the 10 mins
Still waiting my scan results..they’ve gotta be read and then she will write me
Sue
What a shame with the weather..you’ll get to do those flowers ,the weather will get good soon.such a lovely welcoming porch you have got.it will be great sitting there with that view
Tonie
What a long trip and busy day with it..hope you got some rest and have less pain..you have done such a lot just lately and in this cold too
Jen
hope things ease for your mum,such a terrible thing to happen.but I think day by day she will get stronger in herself and want to be independent again. How are the bruises on her face now? She must be devastated with the loss of friends and that will be the thing that will be the worst about this for her
Well gotta get up DH doing some photos today of classic cars…gotta be his sidekick
Chris
Chris:
You have been extra busy as well, hope you had a good visit with DD and GS. Those little times are so sweet aren’t they. What was the Pressie ?? I feel so for you with your Dad and all he is going thru and you with him. Glad your DD could retrieve his wallet. Hey my sister has thrown away her partial before 🙂 I know you will be happy to get to the shed. It must be niceto be that close to the ocean. I am thinking of taking a couple of days and go to the beach while it is not crazy there. My Miss Alice won’t be back until May, so I have a while I can get away during the week. I haven’t been in years. Take care my dear and be good to you.
Love
Tonie
Chris, I’m sorry your DD got caught in a ticklish situation with your Dad. I know when my Dad was quite ill and often out of his head, one of sisters who was an RN but lived far away and would occasionally visit, and I could handle the clean up but my other sister was very squeamish and had to leave the room. It’s painful for her and embarrassing for him, I know. Life is so unfair to the aging. I’m getting there fast and this year has given me a very inside look at what it could mean. It isn’t pretty as you know. I know he fears losing his independence but it looks like it must be. His safety, cleanliness, health all have to factor in. I just wish he could come around to acceptance.
I’m so glad you get the joy of seeing your GS. That can be so wonderful, gift or no gift.
So glad you’re getting things finalized at the shed and will have the spring and summer over there to look forward to. There really is something so life giving about the sea. I should try to get over to see the Pacific more often. It isn’t far. Our beaches are still so natural, deserted and primitive. They are lovely.
Stay as well as you can. Hope DH is doing okay without the meds. Much love, Sue
Good reminders! TY!
Brenda, Hope all is well with you or as well as it can be. Thanks for checking in. Sue
SORRY JUST QUICKLY CHECKING IN…..PULLED SOMETHING IN MY BACK AND ITS AGONY SITTING HERE….SO WILL TRY TO CATCH UP TOMORROW….SUE SORRY I MADE A MISTAKE ABOUT THE PATCHES…..LOVE AND GOD BLESS TO EVERYONE….JENNIE XX
Jennie dear, no big deal about the patches. I am sorry to hear your back is so painful. Heating pad, heating pad. Take care dear friend. Love you much, Sue
SUE….I AM A LOT BETTER TODAY…IT WAS A SHORT BUT VICIOUS ATTACK….DID ALL THE RIGHT THNGS…HEAT PAD, MEDS, MUSCLE RELAXANT, AND IT WAS A GREAT RELIEF TO TURN OVER IN BED THIS MORNING AND NOT FEEL LIKE I HAD BEEN KNIFED.
LOVE YOU BIG…..JENNIE XX
Tonie
It was a small pointer to type with for my phone.i have a lot of trouble…big fingers and small type..so I got it and it’s great..the one for my iPad was too big..I hope you get to the ocean real soon with feeling good tagged with it too!
Yep it was good to see them both..life gets lighter
Well sue DH bp isn’t too bad..and it’s odd no tablets!
We sre going to a town tomorrow to see two photo exhibitions and also some history stuff…some of king John’s stuff from 1200s…you know me!
It’s all in close places so it should be good..weather not too bad….and maybe if all well on to the shed.
Although we are going for the w.end on Friday.so we will see
Jen I hope the back is easier Tonite. Good the eyes are coming better
Made 3batches of veg soup today. Keep two in fridge and one in freezer. Have sme when we come back tomorrow with some bread I will buy
Today went ok classic cars done…..oh so boring for me!
Chris
Chris, I had to chuckle at your comment about the classic cars because Jim is such a classic car buff I get ringed into those TV shows sometimes and to me, one car is pretty much like another. I get it. He’s been collecting small model cars since he was a boy and bought them with money he got mowing lawns.
Your photo exhibitions you’re going to sound wonderful. Yes, dear, your love of history and your knowledge is wonderful for you. We are fortunate when we can have beauty in our lives. Such as your sweet, thoughtful gift from GS. How good of him. Your vegie soup sounds heavenly. Do you use a meat of some sort or is it strictly vegetarian? Enjoy. What kind of special bread will you buy? I love special, unusual breads. I use to make them but haven’t in quite awhile, although I must admit homemade cinnamon rolls sound awfully tempting but Jim is watching his weight and I have to help him. Awe, virtue can be painful sometimes.
Hope you have a wonderful outing and please enjoy. I’m pleased to hear DH’s B/P is staying down. Good deal. Getting him away from stress is so good. Love, Sue
DONNA
What a good idea to wrap in plastic and in the micro..I’m gonna try that.it must then be like a steamed one and then mash it if you want or have it plain
Sue
The bread…well it’ll probably be something with olives or nuts and seeds in it.i can’t have it it’ll be a crusty white roll for me.then I’ll freeze some of DH bread for later
The soup all veg..onions,leeks,parsnip,potatoes,carrots.celery,peppers and some button mushrooms and some red lentils..sautéed with a mild curry powder and paprika.then Tom. paste and stock…water and stock powder
Aw one small boy earning his money for his hobby..good innit! I think it does good for the soul
Yea looking forward to tomorrow..take it as it comes
GS doesn’t usually do presents so it’s a surprise when he does .he had b.beans on toast with grated cheese and then loads of toast to follow.its amazing he is so slim,thin even…..it ain’t fair
Ok then gonna read then……mmmmm. Sleep
Chris
Chris, what a lovely bunch of vegies. You made me so hungry. Do you use chicken or beef stock powder? I love the variety. I hope today went as you desired. So much to enjoy and you deserve and need it. Let us know. Love, Sue
Jennie, Your mother is amazing in her courage and strength. I hope she is healing both physically and emotionally. How much has happened to her and to her many other friends who survived. Another incidence of the innocent being struck. This old world is so unfair at times.
I am so relieved to hear you are feeling better with your back today. That’s so good. Yes, all those modalities are the best. Surely today will be a better day for you. Love, Sue
SUE…..MY MOM LOST ANOTHER FRIEND TODAY……IT JUST GOES ON….SHE WAS INTERVIEWED ON DUTCH TV TONIGHT, TRIED TO GET IT ON DUTCH YOUTUBE, BUT I COULDN’T……NEVER MIND…..XXXXX
Oh Jennie, How awful. Those wounds are still so fresh. Was this death today from the explosion also? I’m sure your Mom did well on the interview. Hope you, at least, get to see it and her. One measure that comes from living such a long life is usually strength and she seems to have it in great numbers. Now I see clearly where you get all of your courage…yes, you. Love, Sue
Jen
Your poor mum….she was so lucky to have come out even as she did. It must be terrible for her.i wonder how she felt speaking about it on tv
Well today went well…went to first exhib and the photos were great..but the next one where king John’s stuff was supposed to be didn’t get there it was somewhere in some council offices.they couldn’t let it out because of the insurance (1300c) so bit disappointing.but a copy of the magna carta was there and other bits so it was ok….so after that we went to coast and shed.then had a coffee and turned back home
On way back GS rang and said he had to come over to see a friend and he would pop in.i said ok have a meal here .he said can he bring a friend so we came back and did a meal for us all.nice chat they stayed for about 2 hrs before they had to go to see this mate
So the day turned out different that expected but nice..the weather was sunny
Infact this w.end when we go to shed its supposed to be 16c so hope it is
Sue
I put some veg stock powder in it after the lentils had softened
Oh and I meant to say I also went to a market craft stall in this ancient sea merchants house and there were such great paintings there some just like you showed me of your house you had done sue.i love them done like that
Anyway I hope you are feeling better with the aches from this virus it’ll take its course as they do
Oh yes GS also brought me a packet of posh biscuits. To see me off my diet! Don’t know what all these pressies are for! But I like it!
Chris
Chris:
I have come to really love lentils. I never had them growing up, tried them really just a few years ago. I make a chicken and lentil soup with onions and garlic . Really good.. Glad you got your pressies from GS> Glad you liked them as well. I understand with the small keys, my I Phone is like that, hard for me to key in a text.
Take care
Love
Tonie
Chris, Sorry you missed the artifacts from King John, but imagine…a copy of the Magna Carta and even a bit of a piece of it. The ancient mariners home and goods sound so interesting. Yes, our old house is colorful. I suspect the original owner would flop in his grave if he saw it. Back then they were all white. I think the colors highlight all the architecture so beautifully. It’s also much fun to see all of them scattered over the hills over looking the river.
It’s fun that you’ve seen so much of your GS lately. Maybe he brings you gifts because he loves you, grandma. Funny how they can rejuvenate us, huh? I got to watch a movie with my youngest GS yesterday after school. It was good just to see and chat with him. He’s eleven and so sweet. We rented the Disney film on pay per view that won the Oscar for best animation. It was good. It’s called Big Hero 6. A Japanese/American animated concoction that was full of action.
So pleased the shed is about ready for you to enjoy and know that you both will. Much love, Sue
Hello, everyone, I just got caught up again on here. I really shouldn’t let a couple or so days go by. So much is happening and so much to catch up on! Jennie, I’m so sorry for all your mum is going through! But it sounds as if Sue is quite right. She’s made of tough stuff.
Chris, my goodness, all these visits and treats for you! Terrific! Sorry to hear about your dad, though.
Tonie, good visit! Hopefully much needed rest now gotten. If your weather is like ours lately, I’ve no doubt that is playing into your aches and pains. It’s been a nasty roller coaster up here!
Well, folks, that gala went well, and the tent was actually warm enough by the time we were in there. I was even able to shed the pashmina for the performance so I didn’t need to worry about is misbehaving while I was trying to do my thing. 😉 Now the weather’s got us hopping. Snow flurries mixed with sleet, quickly going to all sleet, then mixing with freezing rain and I imagine rain. The guys went out a whole ago to shovel and there was and inch or two of sleet accumulation to remove. Thankfully, DD returned safely from work. The rest of us have been indoors since this afternoon. Rain showers tomorrow, then tomorrow night it is supposed to change to snow and continue through the day Thursday. No one is agreeing on the expected amount. We’re so ready for this winter to be over!
Best to everyone!
Lyn, thinking of you and your sleet and ice. Isn’t snow almost welcome after all that dangerous slipping around? I think about you each time I see the national news and pray you’re doing well. The trouble with rain out here followed by snow usually means ice beneath…hope not for you. Pleased the performance went well. I guess we now know how the nomads who lived in tents kept warm with their fires and tents. Thank the Lord for modern heaters and fans. You looked so lovely on FB. Great outfit. Good color for you. Take care of those joints and cook away in your kitchen. Love, Sue
Hidee ho all:
Well…been a busy afternoon. And to top it off, the tooth I got the root canal on…well, it broke off tonight 😦 Now I must find a dentist to do something with it.. It is a bottom front tooth. Not sure if they can cap it or what. Find out more tomorrow.
Switched my phone service this week to a more cost efficient one, but kept the internet. So today the man came to reinstall my internet and he has a horse he wants to give me. I went by to look at him today. He is in his 20’s and is patrially blind but very sweet. I am not sure if I should take him, but will see. He would be a good horse for my granddaughter. He is smaller.
Jennie so sorry for all your Mum’s loss of friends. Must be very hard on her right now. Prayers for your back as well.
Lyn, just you don’t send that stuff down here okay ? 🙂 Actually we are supposed to get it on Thursday. Must be a slow moving front. We are getting a bit of rain right now. So much mud where the snow has melted .
Take care all
Sue how are you doing ? Hope all is well with you
Love
Tonie
Oh Tonie, I am sorry to hear about your broken tooth, especially after having a root canal on that tooth. Yuk. Hope you get into someone else very soon. So? I saw the pic of your possible new addition to the family. He would be company for Baby. Would he add a lot of expense to the budget? Poor thing. I know you and your soft heart and feel the decision has already been made. Right?
Please take care of yourself and I am sorry you have yet another challenge with the dentist. Life never seems to calm down, does it. Thinking of you, Love, Sue
Sue:
Appt Tuesday to see what can be done with the tooth. We will see. Yes, “Red” would be good company for Baby… not much more expense. He is a sweet little thing. His Daddy had tears in his eyes at the thought of letting him go, (he has raised him from a colt) but knows he couldn’t deal with his demise. I just think he needs some good love and attention to bring him out of the winter duldrums. We will see how it turns out. At least I have a place to buy hay for next year. Already put in my order for the spring cutting. Now I have to build a place to put it. SO much work to be done around here come warm weather, but I will LOVE every bit of it.
We are getting rain now, that is supposed to turn into sleet and snow later (2-3 inches) I pray not. My 2 weeks of bad winter weather is quite enough, ready for Spring. I have a bag of seeds I need to get into pots and ready to plant in the warm soil. Heirloom seeds so I am looking for a good garden this year.
Take care all and have a wonderful day
Love
Tonie
Tonie
I can see you having the other horse now!
Hope the tooth gets fixed..I’ve got a filling to be done tomorrow..ugh
Lyn
Glad all went well and you kept warm
Sue
How are you ?
Well it gives good weather for the w.end be nice if it is at the shed….got to sort it out make beds fridge and freezer etc..but looking forward to it
Altho my dads not too good..very gurgely and can hardly speak and coughing so food can come up
But he can suddenly be ok again so we’ll see
Chris
Chris dear, Sounds like your Dad’s greatest danger right now is aspiration pneumonia or falling. If all that fluid is from a failing heart, then there is nothing you can do if he’s under a doctor’s care. I pray for his safety and see how helpless a position you are in at this time. He’s such a fighter and that’s good but some things with old age and a failing system just will have to play out. Have you and your Dad talked about an end of life plan? Do you want him to be resuscitated if needed? How much does he want to go through? How much do you trust his doctors? It’s usually best to have it all in writing, at least over here in the USA. Not sure how it is in England.
All of your plans for the shed sound great. Moving in and getting ready for the new spring and summer season. I’m happy for you. You both need and deserve some down time to relax a bit or a lot. Love and hugs, Sue
Sue
Last time my dad was in hosp. The Dr talked to him about it with me there ,but he didn’t remember it at all when I bought it up later if he remembered
And he spoke to the nurses what was on his documents then and wanted to be ressused
He is supposed to be using thickening liquid but I don’t think he does..everything gets stuck..he is going out less .can hardly speak..I don’t like to talk to him about it as I don’t want to upset him and I suppose I can’t face it.he was in hosp with asperstion pneumonia last time
But the Dr said after he had septacemia that he would get weaker over the year..but that was nearly 3 years ago…but he is anyway now..his dribbling is so bad all his front is messy and stained all the time
He can hardly walk and catch up with his walker as he leans on it
I don’t think dad could face putting anything down like that and if I talked about it he would be defeated
Oh I don’t know really
I worry about going to the Coast….but as DH said we are only 50 mins away……but we are away
And to think my dad is struggling while I’m over there and so vulnerable..
I’m torn really
Chris
Oh Chris dear friend, Please forgive me if I upset you. I think nurses, particularly those who have dealt with this sort of situation in a supervisory position are used to it. I hope I didn’t speak out of turn.Sweet lady, only you know what he wants and will do that, I’m certain. I know it’s upsetting. Why wouldn’t it be? Seeing him as he is now is also, I know.
You need to go and get your mind off of it and your DH is absolutely right. You can go back if need be. What could you do by staying home but worry. Of course, you’re torn but you have to ask yourself what you could change if you were at home. Probably nothing. Getting to the hospital and hour or two sooner is no reason to stay home and deprive yourself of what you need right now.
I know when I lost my Dad I worked just up the hall from his room and could hear him struggling to breathe with pneumonia from my office and could do nothing. All I could do was fight with the doctor to get an easy, peaceful passing for my dear Dad as he wanted. No machines,etc. These passages of life can hurt so much one often wonders if it’s endurable, but it is. Go and resume what is best for you. He will do what he wants, he’s made that clear and I will pray for his peace and comfort. Love you much, Sue