Most of the time, those of us who live with chronic pain befriend and are related to individuals who try to understand why we feel what we do, but not always. There seems to be an unwritten rule that we run into insensitive nitwits when we do not feel like dealing with them. Do we become magnetic when we’re having a down day or a rough time? “Come one, come all, jump into my business and feel free to ask me hyper personal questions about my health, my body and my private life.” Quite often, unfortunately, relationships suffer from this degree of insensitivity exhibited by others, and we reach a point of exhaustion, frustration and yes, anger. Isn’t life difficult enough? I would like you to put tongue-in-cheek and join me as we explore the possibilities of smart-ass answers to dull, insensitive questions. If you find the term nitwits offensive or politically incorrect, we could call these individuals empathy deficient. Is that better? Let’s look at a few of the phrases they say to us.
WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS GOING TO THE DOCTOR?
You should see my doctor…what a hunk. He looks just like Tom Selleck and Matt Damon rolled into one luscious man. That’s why I go as often as possible. And girl, don’t even ask me about those days the stirrups are pulled out on the exam table!
I love the soft, comfortable couches in the waiting room and the unequivocal exposure you can get to every current virus. It’s kind of a Russian roulette for the chronically ill.
If you whine and carryon a bit, you can get a cherry sucker and if you throw a hissy-fit, you can even get a balloon…on a string. I’m waiting for Medicare to pay for helium balloons.
Oh, I don’t know. I’ve come to think of it as my home away from home where they always weigh you and ask you your age; does it get any better than that?
Only a trip to the laboratory can make it better, all those needles and those tiny little cups, oh my, the thrill of it all.
WHY ARE YOU LIMPING?
Oh, you should try it. If you walk slowly enough and carry a cup, people will throw change into it.
I’ve got rhythm.
I’m keeping my knees dry.
I have a steroid suppository “in”; you should try it.
I get more wear out of my shoes.
My underwear is too large and/or tight and I’m too cheap to buy new ones.
I have this nervous habit of chewing on my toenails.
WHY DON’T YOU WORK ANYMORE?
Oh, as an RN, I got written up for lying down next to my patients.
It was against the health code for me to crawl up the hall while making rounds.
Once too often, while on duty in the Emergency Room, I found myself saying, “So? You think you’re sick!”
I figured out I was taking more of my own medications than I was giving to most of my patients.
I couldn’t get out of the car when I got home after an eight hour shift.
BUT YOU DON’T LOOK SICK!
I know, it’s all inside trying to get out, better stand back a bit. This could get ugly.
I don’t think it’s contagious but we could find out; how about a hug?
Oh, I know, it’s the result of fifteen plastic surgeries and an hour in make-up every morning; what a blessing.
I’m bionic, but keep it to yourself; the truth is I’m from another planet. Shhh…
Maybe if you could give me a description of what sick looks like to you, I could give it a try.
MAYBE YOU THINK ABOUT IT TOO MUCH. JUST DON’T THINK ABOUT IT.
I tried not thinking about it until the accident. It involved a very sharp ax therefore my lawyer says I can’t talk about it.
I do believe in positive thinking but the first premise is staying away from negative people; as a result, I’m going miss you.
I tried going to a Swami, then a hypnotist and Dr. Phil; but had to give up when it came to the witch doctor. All those feathers, you know I’m allergic.
Okay dear fellow chronic pain sufferers, go forth and know you are fully armed with answers for most questions directed to you by nitwits, numbskulls and morons. Some of them are relatives unfortunately, some “used to be” friends and some are medical personnel. I hope you avoid all three. These probably could fit onto a couple of 3X5 cards for your pocket or purse. You could also consider having them tattooed on some part of your body but that just means more needles and who knows, you may have a few of your own comeback remarks to add to this list. Good luck and go for it.
Hello everyone. I am quite terrible at keeping up with the blog these days, but wanted to pop on for a quick hi, and ask you to pray for two things:
One: I’m going back to work Thurs on a reduced schedule (6hr shift instead of 8) with no lifting over 20 lbs. Still experiencing a lot of pain in the sacrum after surgery, esp with sitting so even 6 hours sounds really long.
Two: my new boss Tasha (who used to be supervisor and took over manager position when Linda left) is having major neurological complications with her lupus and will likely go on medical leave as soon as I’m back. in very scared for her health. She is married with two young children and the prognosis is not very good right now.
Love to all, Princess Crabby Pants 👑
Hi Annie, I know it is scary to go back to work after a back operation but I believe God will give you the strength you need to get through the day. I will be praying for the two requests you have posted. I try and pray for everyone on this blog even if you haven’t been on here. I see you on Facebook. Your boss, Tasha, is a tough situation. Lupus is a really bad disease. Having two young kids to take care of has to be hard. I will be praying for Tasha and believe God will work out all the issues that are going on in her body. Maybe some time off will give her some time to rest. I hope and pray she has someone to help her.
God Bless you Annie. Sending love ,prayers and hugs, Donna
I pray you are ready to return to work. I know it is a lot when you have been thru this surgery. Take it easy and remember to not lift or bend too much. As Sue says, we are always here for you !
Annie, do you feel ready to return to work? How’s the pain responding to PT or are you having any PT. You might think about it my dear. I have always found so much relief from it. I pray it goes well for you as you return and expect it will be a bit of an adjustment for your body to get used to it. Just take it slow and easy. I am sorry about the .situation is such that you will be thrust with more responsibility. Yes, indeed, lupus is frightening when it gets out of hand. I’ve seen so many suffer from it. I hope she has the best rheumy in Dallas to care for her.
Do know we are always here for you and always understand and empathize with your situations. Now…when are you going to get a new cat???? Love you, Sue
Good morning all:
Chris, home again home again ! We have been having rain all week here as well. Everyday ! I am ready for some sunshine.
Donna glad your blood work came out good. I know you are happy. One less thing to worry about . I have been on the down side this week as well. This weather is killing me. Cool and rainy, making me ache.
Put the little chicks in with the big chicks yesterday. Now the status war begins. “pecking order” But they are big enough to be with the others, they will sort it all out.
Hope you all have a wonderful day no matter what you are doing.
Tonie, oh dear. Pecking order sounds so ugly somehow, but I guess we all live with that to a certain degree. Hope all goes well in the land of chickens. Sorry you’re dealing with more cold and wet because of the aching and the delay of spring for the mountain. Everyone must be feeling it.
Good news about your brother…mostly. Let’s hope the residual effects leave soon. Prayers for his complete recovery, of course.
Fighting ants here. Woke up yesterday to find an empty carton beside the bed filled with them…Hate those little suckers. How did they find my empty yogurt container up here on the second floor, so far from the ground? Must get an ant trap, surely don’t want to deal with the smell or side effects to the nose and throat of poison.
George seems to be enjoying his new look, strutting around here whereas poor old Jake can hardly find his way around. Life in the animal kingdom…Do take care of my dear friend and be good to you. Love, Sue
Hi Tonie, so sorry you are feeling bad. We have had rain here all week as well. That’s probably why everyone is hurting and aching. I had to go out in it today and before I got home my wrist was hurting so badly from using the steering wheel. My low back has been aching. I know it is the weather. I mean having 80 degree days then 40 & 50 degree days, what a shock to the body. Hope the chicks will do well together. Did all your original hens die from the varmit that attacked or did you have some to live and still give you eggs? Since you didn’t say anything I am assuming you still didn’t hear anything about mobile home. All in God’s timing. Try and get some rest because I know you will be outside working as soon as the weather clears up. LOVE, hugs and prayers to you, Donna
I still have 3 hens and the rooster from before. 9 new little hens in training. They will eventually all bond together, but it takes a bit. I have been resting most of the day. Got antsy this afternoon and started crocheting, and still working on my cross stitch. Took a nap this afternoon with all the rain going on. Should be rested up by the time it stops :). Hope you get to feeling better.
Hello, everyone, well that took longer to catch up than I had thought! I must try to get on here more often, I guess. So much going on with everyone. Tonie, been praying for your brother. I see everyone else is having the usual ups and downs. Such is our lives, isn’t that so?
A few of you have mentioned or asked about my throat/reflux/performances… I did have a performance Good Friday, squeaked through that one 😉 Now I’m in the middle of a real gauntlet. We are rehearsing and performing the Brahms Requiem this week. 6 rehearsals/performances in 7 days. From now through Sunday will be every day and it is very demanding, but beautiful. I do get to use stool and stand (where the stand will fit – one venue it will not), but will have to monitor the singing. I’m still not healed from the initial flare/irritation. I’ve experimented a bit but think I will settle on Prilosec OTC for now. It works better than the other OTC antacid I was taking. I tried one of DH’s Nexium on day but it was not a good fit. It really dried me out. Not a good thing for this week! I took the Prilosec yesterday and it worked the best so far. I’m also trying to avoid acid in food and beverage. I’ve not elevated the head of the bed yet. We have a wedge pillow that we got years ago for DH. He didn’t like it, I tried it I think when I was sick once and if memory serves, I think I kind of slid down overnight. Since DH has reflux we could elevate the bed… Most I’ve talked with find it most effective to elevate the bed itself rather than use pillows. I imagine that would be odd if you have a headboard attached to the bed itself… then it would no longer be vertical… Sadie is, indeed, a joy. Blessedly, she has not posted for a walk yet this morning, affording me some work (I am in charge of our group’s Facebook page) and relaxation time. I will need to get off of here soon and take her for a walk. I like to do it in the morning and morning is soon coming to a close! I could wait until afternoon if I need to, though. See how the old body feels when I get up from here – haha! Now that you have heard more than you want to from me 😉 I’ll try to grab a bite to eat and see about that walk.
Have a wacky Wednesday!
Oops! My bad. It’s Thursday. Must have been that Hoops and Yoyo meme I saw on FB this morning!
Lyn, Sounds like you are surviving and enjoying your very full week. I’m sorry for the one logistical problem with the stool. I know you’re giving it your very best. Glad the Prilosec made life a bit better. Interesting how we each find our own way with our peculiar differences. Perhaps, Sadie senses when you need to rest. I sometimes worry that George has such a boring life but I think I mind more than he does. They just want to love and be loved, you know?
Thinking of you this week…sing sweetly sweet skylark. Love, Sue
Sue, last night’s dress rehearsal knocked me on my backside. DH gave me a good massage when I got home and I took a muscle relaxant and went to bed. Today – I could feel better. I took another Soma, which should wear off before concert time, which may be a good thing as it is making me a bit hazy. No way I can give Sadie a walk today, but thankfully Sadie has not begged for one even once today. She’s actually been napping pretty much the whole time. Unusual, but helpful. I did do a little yoga. I felt I needed to do something for some energy. Oh, the stool situation at the one venue is solved! But no room for a stand – that in part helped set me off last night. Holding my folder seized my back up. I spent a great deal of time trying to find the best position to relieve as much of the issue as possible. My throat is still healing, of course, and was not great at the end of rehearsal. I really need a day of rest today, but not gonna happen. Concerts tonight, tomorrow and Sunday. Prayers greatly appreciated. I’m a very smart singer, but these challenges are rough even for me. Between the energy for the singing itself and the mental energy spent dealing with monitoring and body issues, I’m exhausted. I think the family knows there will be little to nothing done around here the next few days. Enough of my complaining. Thanks for listening. 🙂 Snuggle George and Jake close for me. That reminded me, I woke this morning to a bed with 3 cats on it, Sadie in her crate (in our bedroom). Nothing like waking to find your beloved furries all around you. 🙂 Happy day to you.
DONNA …..WELL DONE, PROUD OF YOU XXXXXXXXXX JEN X
Have you seen those music “stands” that attach over your shoulders and hang in front of you ? Might wanna try to find you one of those ! I do understand the stress it puts on you. It takes a lot of concentration, and as you said the positioning of the body. Hope you feel better this afternoon.
Good morning all :
Well, at least it is not raining this am !! Hoping for a bit of sunshine today at least. It has been pretty warm still. It will dry up some just in time for the next batch of April showers next week :). Here is wishing you all a great day. I am off to water aerobics this morning. Gotta keep the body moving. Move it or loose it as they say.
I say that all the time, Tonie. 🙂 I’m a firm believer. Even today when I feel like poo. No walk for Sadie – just can’t. But I did do a little yoga and feel a bit better about myself, not so much like a slug. Now to rest a bit before concert tonight. I sure wish I could have joined you at the pool. I miss it so.
I had so little energy today. I did my aerobics and it exhausted me. I put a little bit of mulch out around some plants today. Took my MTX shot and I have had it ! THe sun is shining and I have so much to do outside, yet I haven’t the energy to do them. They will be there tomorrow.
Break a leg tonight !
Back home.got a lot of the garden done….yea aching now!
But good to get it done
House over next few days
My dad organised a TV to get delivered it came Thursday but they had to take it back becos of the aerial(so my dad said)..so been trying to find out why and it’s coming again this Thursday..so don’t know what happened .his old TV is ok
Visit to our cafe for b.fast tomorrow and DH photos are being exhibited in aid of a village museum ,so off to there
Taken the bricks down from the bed…no blimmin good….and can’t reach the floor!
So I’ll use pillows but nowt seems to make any difference to the asthma induced by the reflux
So gonna get ready for bed now..hopefully my back won’t be so sore
Be back tomorrow Chris
Chris, is it good to be home or not? Sounds like an interesting story behind your Dad’s return of his new TV. I understand about the bricks. I have to use a footstool to get into our four poster bed now, I hate to think of it being any higher or even slanted. I just don’t have the slipping down problem. Maybe ti’s the flannel sheets we sleep on all year long or the wonderful all Down pillows.
How wonderful for your husband to have his work on exhibit. He is undoubtedly proud. Not sure about the asthma caused by reflux, are you? Maybe another doctor would have another opinion. It’s always some form of torture, huh? I’m still in the throes of a bad case of IBS. Graduated from my hyosyamine to my herbs; slippery elm, peppermint caps and aloe vera gelcaps. Hope for relief. Beautiful day here today but wind still chilly.
Hope you have a calm time at home without complications and try not to do too much work, okay? Love, Sue
Yea I think it’s my slippery sheets.ive put a wheat bag under my bum one side and that seems to help me slipping
The acid apparently I’m aspirating ! And inflamed the airways…so they maintain??
Yea it’s good to be back…but I don’t know which one I belong to really.
I’ve got to ring the warden next week about the aerial to see what the next step for checking it is.they may have to do it themselves,have to see if I can get it sorted by Thursday
Another bout of ibs
It’s never ending for you….do you think it may be the reflux meds.the proton pump ones gives me a bad time.
Well still awake I would love a hot choc..but read it’s all bad for reflux so off that.off so blimmin much .like yourself so many restrictions
Hope you have a better next few days sue
Lyn, Been thinking of you all day. It’s 3:30 here and imagine you are in the midst of your performance and pray you’re doing well…or at least tolerably. I know it’s going to be okay but I’m sorry you feel so lousy. I also know you want it to be more than okay.
I woke up with cramps and more diarrhea with IBS. Had to keep an eye doctor’s appt. Couldn’t put it off another time, already rescheduled twice. Prayer and meds helped me get through it. Came home and fell into bed and went back to sleep. Those torture chairs they use for eye exams are murder on my SI joints. Pretty much lost my life to my body for this one day.
You know, I think Sadie understands how you feel. Glad the kitties are keeping you warm and loved. Do take care. How about following up with a good ENT doctor for the sake of your voice? Much love, Sue
Tonie, sorry you’re having such a rotten day. At least you got the methotrexate on board and that is good. I know your life is heavy with responsibilities that can’t be shunned and hope you feel up to at least the critter. You’re right. The yard will wait as spring springs forward. Be good to yourself, okay? Love you, Sue
Good evening everyone, today has not been a great day for me either. I also had an eye appointment today. I had to reschedule this from my February appointment when we had the snow. I usually don’t mind my eye appointment except when I have to have the side vision test. You have one eye covered and every time you see the light you click the little button while keeping your eyes fixed on the Orange light. I knew it would be rough as my back was already hurting. The tech was super nice with working with me to help me get comfortable as I could. Then she dialated my eyes so the doctor could check the optic nerve for any changes because of the glaucoma. My pressures were good for me. Anyone else they would be considered high. He said everything looked great. He said my implants looked great. I am still seeing 20/20 vision since the surgery almost 5 years ago. The only time I have to use glasses is for reading. I left there and went to the mall to get a bite to eat and decided to check out JC Penny . Since the weight loss I don’t have any summer clothes that fit. Nice problem to have . I found 2 cute shirts and a pair of earrings I liked and it was all on sale and the clerk gave me an extra 15 percent off of the sale price. I am having a hard time wrapping it around my head that I have gone from a 2X shirt to an XL. Blows my mind. Well now that I am writing, it seems I have had more blessings than woes. On my way home my van started running hot and it did not want to go up any incline. I had people blowing horns at me. I called my machanic who worked on it and told him it was full of antifreeze why was it running hot. He thinks my thermostat is stuck. He told me to turn the heater on full blast. I had to stop twice for it to cool down. The last stop was at the Exxon station at the beginning of our RD. One mile from my house. Then it wouldn’t start. Fortunately my step daughter pulled in to get some ginger ale and took me and my packages home. Now my van is sitting at the store and my husband won’t do anything about it until tomorrow. It has sit a long time now so I think we should go see if it will start and drive it one mile home. This store closes at 9:00PM and I don’t like having to leave my car up there all night with no one around. It is on a busy street and I am terrified someone might do something to it after all the money I have spent getting it fixed. My husband can frustrate me so badly sometimes. I will have to pray over it and believe it will be ok. I need to stop my bitching now. Sorry.
Lyn, I know you will do great tonight. We have all been praying for you dear sweet lady. I pray that you won’t be in too much pain. I think Sadie knows when you don’t feel like walking her.I really believe they know what is going on. Be Blessed girlfriend! Come home after the concert and rest. Maybe your DH will give you another massage.
Tonie, so sorry you haven’t been feeling well today either. Just try and chill tonight. I know you want to be outside doing stuff but maybe God is telling you you need to take it slow. One day at a time. You can’t do it all in one day. LOVE YOU. Sending you a great big hug. I am sure not hearing anything about the Mobile Home has got you tensed up. If it were me I would call since you were told it would be Tuesday before you would here anything and it is now Friday night. Talk to you soon. Try not to work too hard tomorrow. Have a good weekend. Donna
Chris, well you are back home for a while. I know you have things to do there as well. I am so glad your DH is getting to show his work. I know you must be proud of him. Some time back if I remember correctly, did you not tell us your dad ordered a TV and sent it back? So He has done it again? Can you talk to the store and tell them not to send him another one. I am sure it would probably make him mad but that is one of those things you are going to have to ask him not to do without talking to you first. I am so scared someone is going to take advantage of him and try and get more money from him than He needs to give. Just a thought. Sending you a big hug! Before you know it, you will be headed back to the beach house. I hope you have a good weekend.
Sue, I am so sorry your IBS is flared up. I pray it settles down soon. I know what you mean about the chairs at the eye doctor. Today was rough. Thank God it is over for 6 months then I will have to do it again. I really hope you will feel better tomorrow. Take care of yourself, have a good weekend. Will chat more later. Hugs and love to you my sweet friend, Donna
Donna, sounds like we both got a rare treat at the eye doctor..not.. Mine is new and I really like her. I have to go back for a visual acuity, with all the little twinkling lights because we couldn’t get to it yesterday. Oh my but those chairs. Life still keeps drumming along in spite of a bad gut and I do the best I can and hope I can make it home in time, if you know what I mean. Picked out some new glasses because it occurred to me I didn’t have an accurate back up pair in case I sat on them, etc. Do take care dear lady. Later, Sue
Sue, that is the same test I took. The chairs for everything there were horrible. I love my doctor. He did my cataract surgery several years ago. He is so awesome. I didn’t feel a thing. I couldn’t believe it. That is why I am seeing 20/20 in both eyes. I have implants in my eyes. I had worn glasses since I was 12 years old for nearsightedness. I was so excited. It took me a long time to get used to not wearing glasses. It seems like you said you had a cataract forming. If so, get it fixed as soon as the doctor will do it. It was the easiest surgery I have ever had. No needles,, no pain and only took about 12 minutes. That time included taking the cataract out and putting the implant in. That was for one eye. He did them 2 weeks apart.
I hope you are feeling better today. I hope you have a nice day tomorrow. We finally had a day with no rain., but I think it is suppose to rain again tomorrow. At least it is keeping the pollen down. I got my car back home today. It was not damaged thank God! It worked fine but that was because it wasn’t hot. I will get it fixed. Take care and sending you love and hugs. Donna
Chris, I think my IBS is usually related to something I ate. As far as slipping around in bed with pillows to prevent reflux, I had another thought. Do you sleep in nylon or something slippery? I sleep in cotton nightgowns…no sweat. It’s just a thought. Oh my, the things we talk about on here, huh?
Just remember your retreat when going gets rough now that you’re home. Is your daughter back from Europe yet? Must get some sleep. Sue
Well, feeling a bit better today, but still not much energy. Awful part of this junk we live with. Well we had chicken roundup here last night 🙂 The little ones didn’t want to go and sleep in the big house with the others, and roosted down by the dog pen. I had to get them a few at a time and take them up there to the pen. It was funny ! Had to make sure they were going to sleep. One of them hid in a feed bag !! It takes a bit for them to get used to it.
Beautiful day. I will go out later and do a few things. Donna, that is the trick if your thermostat is stuck, and don’t run your ac, makes it worse. Just turn on the heater and it will sometimes unstick it. Great on the weight loss. I have lots of “new clothes” where I saved some things that were too tight. I did hear from the trailer people, but they want more down payment than I want to pay, so we are negotiating.
Sue, pray you are feeling better today. It seems always the roughest days you have to go out. At least you are driving again !
Lyn, hope you are resting today. Would loved to have heard your concert. I love that symphony. Did you record it ? Sadie is so much different than a cat huh ? The dogs know your moods and if you are sick, they stick right by you. Cats could care less 🙂
Chris, do try the down pillows, such a difference and such comfort. If I travel, at least one of mine goes with . In the car, they all go. Makes such a difference for me.
Hope all is well with the rest of you reading this. Prayers and hopes for a better day.
Strange, no regular Reply/comment box for comments appeared at the bottom, so I had to reply to an existing comment.
So, Tonie, in response to Sadie vs cats, I have had cats that intuitively knew when something was up with me, whether physical or emotional, and they stayed close by. I suppose it depends upon the cat. Two that come to mind first off were both Siamese. 🙂
Thank you to all who have been thinking about and praying for me. Please keep it up! We all know how schedules like this affect us, and those music aficionados who are familiar with the piece also know how challenging it is on its own, let alone with added issues one of which effecting the larynx! I do thank God and my wonderful teachers for my technique and pedagogical training which have been real life savers through this! Last night went very well, and I weathered it better than I thought I might. I’m employing the same tactics for today in hopes it will hold out. I’ll have to modify for tomorrow. Our concert is in the afternoon rather than evening. Afternoon has been my resting time.
Donna, I do hope you get your van sorted out. It must be frustrating after all the money invested and FINALLY being able to drive it again. Congrats on the weight loss!
Chris, oh dear. I do hope you get the TV situation straightened out and find a workable solution for your bed. Some welcome back, huh?
Sue, that darned IBS! I sure wish life would give you at least a mini break. At least you got that appointment in. One tic in the positive box, at least.
Oh, Tonie, I’m not sure if the concert was recorded, but I think not. We do record our own concerts for archival purposes at least, but these are part of the Symphony’s series and they don’t. If they do, we don’t get access to them. When we did Elijah, the local public radio station recorded, I think, and they did air that performance twice. Naturally, I had to miss it each time! Yes, I’m resting, but must plan out my getting ready process so I start it in time. 🙂 I did get out and walk Sadie a bit this morning – it was beautiful! So, I should shower to remove any pollen I may have brought in with myself.
Wishing all a beautiful and restful weekend!
Just a quickie folks
Got the idea to put two big squab cushions from the outside chairs one on top of each other at bottom of bed on mattress.then my feet don’t go to end of bed and my knees are bentish…..see how it goes.it may stop me sliding
Answer all later got to go back to exib. DH did photos for a book for them voluntary,and it is selling well
And they want to thank us with a bowl of homemade soup and cakes….Ahhhh!
But my diet. Grh…
I know you took pics of the pics. Email me some so I can see them !
So now “Leave a Reply” is showing… I posted under Tonie’s last comment. 🙂
And good luck for tomorrow
Be back busy
Howdy hey all:
Well, extremely busy day, as it was beautiful out. I had to mow, got that out of the way but didn’t weed eat. Hooked the jeep up to all the felled trees and pulled them out to be burnt. Have a wait a while for them to dry out some. Cut a couple more down and cleaned off the spot where the barn shed will be. SO tired, as you can expect. But rested all evening.
Pray for my brother, Rocky. THey took him back to ER tonight. His bp was 210/110. Even after BP meds. So not sure what is going on yet. I did visit him today, he is not the same. Very quiet and still, which he never was.
Well, night night all:
Tonie, I will be praying for him. Blood pressure problems can be so hard sometimes to get down. What works good for one does not always work good for someone else. My step daughter, Beverly, needs prayer for the same thing. She had a mild stroke a couple of weeks ago.They have tried her on two different kinds and she told me yesterday that it is still running in the range of your brothers. I told her not to mess around. She better go back to her doctor or the ER. So please keep her in your prayers. I will be praying for Rocky as well. You be careful and don’t try and do too much at once. Sure don’t want to see you end up in the hospital. Hope all the chicks and the boys and Red and Baby are all doing well. LOVE YOU MUCH, Donna
TONIE….SENT A MESSAGE, BUT NEVERTHELESS, JUST TO LET YOU KNOW I AM PRAYING FOR ROCKY, ITS SO SAD HE HAS HAD TO GO BACK TO THE HOSPITAL, IS THERE ANY NEWS, ARE THEY KEEPING HIM IN?? HOPE YOU MANAGED TO GET SOME SLEEP LOVE……….JENNIE XXX
Jennie, just wondering if you are ok? Haven’t seen you on here for a few days. Hope all is well. Have a good rest of the weekend. Take care love. Sending you a lot of hugs. LOVE YOU, Donna
HI DONNA………..SORRY LOVE, BEEN SO BUSY…NOT NORMALLY, BUT GET CAUGHT UP DOING FOR OTHERS, THAT I HAVEN’T HAD MUCH TIME TO MYSELF…..BUT IT WAS SWEET OF YOU TO NOTICE, TRYING TO GET MY HEAD AROUND WHAT I HAVE SIGNED UP FOR WITH “THE TRIP” KEEP ON ABOUT IT BUT CAN’T BELIEVE I AGREED TO DO IT…..AND YOU PETAL, , YOU HAVE MY PRAYERS FOR YOUR BEVERLY, AND THEY WILL STAY THERE TILL SHE IS BETTER…..LOVE YOU, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF….JENNIE XXXXX
Jennie Poo, so glad you are ok love. It is not normal for you to go two days without being on here. I worry about you. I know you are under a lot of stress about the trip but just think in a month you will see your mom. I believe you said May 18th is when you are leaving. Try and think about seeing your mom and having her with you for a while instead of dwelling on the trip itself so much. It will be here before you know it and then you will have the trip over and be back home. I will be praying for you love. Thanks for praying for my step daughter. LOVE YOU, Donna
My goodness so many folks ill with bp.its so difficult.prayers for all
Will send some photos within 24hrs ish….DH gotta sort out from his camera.he fiddles with em till they are finished. I’ll send some from the book of the village
Shorty again..will answer all properly soon
Am sinking a bit with a lot to be done.
My dad keeps coming up with things that are different .sorted out his phone..nothing wrong with them…and he wants the phones now changed into different rooms…same phones tho.but I can’t go in.DH can’t bend down he’ll get giddy..so have to organise GS to come over.also he wants another aerial for TV in bedroom….have to organise DH partner to put it in.itll have to go under carpet a long way .he hasn’t said when he’s coming. New TV coming for him next week.
He’s lost his keys had to have a new lock..he’s refusing to pay it…refusing to pay for some of his care..gotta sort it out.with the people.also gotta get caretaker to check aerial in wall.embarrassing when he wont pay his bills
I’ve gone on a bit…..didn’t mean too gotta go back to answer posts when can
Perhaps it is time to take over your Dad’s money and bills. It seems it would be less worry for you, and then no lost funds. God bless you sweetie. i know you are trying to let him live his life, but sounds like he needs some help. Instead of driving you mad, get some method out of the madness, as we say here. I can’t wait to see the pics. !
Meant dD partner!!
WELL ITS CERTAINLY SPRING LIKE HERE NOW, SO MUCH BLOSSOM THIS YEAR, THEN THE WEATHER CHANGES AND BLOWS IT ALL OFF THE TREES……..SO BLOOMING TIRED, GO CAUGHT UP HELPING OTHER FOLKS IN THEIR GARDENS, MY DH IS TOO TENDER HEARTED TO SAY NO, THEY FORGET HOW OLD HE IS, AND HE IS GETTING WEARY, NEEDS TO REST, A BIT LIKE YOUR JIM SUE….THEY DON’T HEED THE ADVICE OF US WOMEN DO THEY?? I HOPE EVERYONE IS AS WELL AS CAN BE THIS WEEKEND….THINKING OF YOU ALL…..GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU ALL SAFE…..JENNIE XXXX
Hello, everyone 🙂 I made it through the gauntlet! Thank you for your thoughts and prayers. I am quite sure they had a lot to do with it. I think I actually ended in better shape than I started out. Go figure. Had to be more at play than just my efforts. 😉 Now time to rest. Speaking of which, I hope all here are doing just that! You all need and deserve it. Blessings!
Lyn, I’m thankful for you and all of us who love you. I’m sure many were blessed.
Lyn………Hoping you are taking some “me time” now, look after that body……love Jennie xx
Lyn, glad you got through the concerts.I am sure many were blessed. Now it is time for you to rest some. I do hope you have a few days you will be able to do that. God Bless you! We all love you sweetie. Sending hugs to you. Donna
Good morning all:
Well, the rains have finally stopped (for today) although chances of thunder storms this afternoon. When I opened the door this morning I could hear the water of the branch at the road rushing by. NEVER happens unless it is severe rains. Not sure when it will dry up enough to put the garden out. I must drive up to check on the house today and make sure there is no storm damage there. Although I am still so tired….I have to “make hay while the sun shines” right ??
Hope you are all doing okay this morning. Sue you were quiet over the weekend, either you were busy or down for the count. I pray you are managing sweet lady.
Love to all
Tonie, don’t overdo! 🙂 We had rain overnight and this morning, too. It is supposed to clear and then I think more rain is coming? I honesty didn’t catch the weather forecast this morning. DH and I went out for breakfast. 🙂
Oh, and I am resting, everyone. With kitty cat Lily curled up on my lap. Both of us are enjoying her first lap time in quite some time.
Yes, Lyn we had terrible thunderstorms last night with rain and hail. (Although I love storms) It is clear and cool today.
Hi all, we had a lot of rain yesterday and some last night too. We are under a tornado watch until 8:00PM. Suppose to have storms this afternoon. In fact I can hear it thundering off in the distance. We also had flash floods yesterday. There is one spot on the main road to town about 2 miles from my house that looks like a lake when we have a lot of rain. I think it is suppose to be sunny the rest of the week. It will probably take til Friday to get our yard dried out.
I wasn’t finished but my Kindle thought I was. I didn’t even go near the post word. Oh well. I was going to say Tonie, don’t overdo. With it wet and muddy it might be hard to do too much. I keep seeing you comment that you have to go check on the house and I don’t know what you are referring to. I must have missed something a long time ago or everyone knows what you are talking about before I became a part of this blog. Would you mind explaining? Hope Baby and Red are doing ok with all the rain. How are the chicks doing? Take care of yourself girl. Chat later.
Lyn, glad you are resting. I know you have got to be tired. Rest up as much as you can. How is your SB doing? Good I hope. Well it looks like this storm is blown over. It looked pretty strong. However it seems to be getting darker again. Who knows what it will do. Sending you both hugs.
Sue, hope you are doing ok. Maybe you are trying to put up a new blog. It really doesn’t matter to me. If you don’t feel like it Don’t do it. We can keep writing on this blog. Sending you hugs. LOVE, Donna
DONNA AND TONIE……I HOPE YOU ARE BOTH OK AND ALL THE ANIMALS WITH THE HEAVY RAIN….PLEASE LOOK AFTER YOURSELVES………..LOVE JENNIE XX
I am house sitting for the people that I sit with their mother. They are gone to their condo in California until next month. So I look after their place for them. The zoo is all fine today. THe grass is out in the pasture so the horses don’t hang at the fence much these days. I still give them treats and pet em. May be riding this afternoon. My friends are coming over for a while. I am doing little these days. Just a hit and miss with all the rain
DEAR FRIENDS, SOUNDS LIKE EVERYONE IS HAVING SOME ACTION IN WEATHER AND IN HEALTH. AT LEAST WE ALL HAVE SOME SIGNS OF SPRING BOUNDING FORTH. I WASN’T FEELING THAT WELL OVER THE WEEKEND. IT WAS AND IS NICE TO HAVE MY DAUGHTER AND HER FAMILY BACK AFTER 10 DAY TRIP TO HAWAII. THEY HAD SUCH A GOOD TIME WITH PICTURES, ADVENTURES OF ALL KINDS. WE HAD A QUIET WEEKEND HERE IN ASTORIA WITH BALMY WEATHER AND ME RESTING, MOSTLY.
I’M A BIT CONCERNED ABOUT A TURN I SEE THE BLOG TAKING AND JUST HAVE A MINOR COMMENT TO MAKE. IF YOU WANT TO WRITE IN HERE EACH DAY, THAT IS YOUR BUSINESS AND YOU ARE WELCOME TO DO SO. THE WHOLE PURPOSE OF MY BLOG IS TO HAVE A PLACE FOR THOSE OF US WHO SUFFER CHRONIC PAIN TO HAVE A PLACE TO MEET AND SHARE. IT IS NOT MEANT TO BE A DIARY AND THERE IS CERTAINLY NO REASON OR JUDGMENT INVOLVED FOR THOSE WHO ONLY WRITE IN OCCASIONALLY. DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO AND I SHALL DO THE SAME. LET’S NOT PUSH EACH OTHER TO COMMUNICATE IF WE JUST DON’T FEEL LIKE IT, OKAY?
I HAVE 648 FRIENDS ON FACEBOOK AND MOST OF THEM ALSO HAVE HEALTH PROBLEMS AND NEED ATTENTION AND INFORMATION. I ALSO DEAL WITH PROBLEMS OF MY OWN ON A GRAND SCALE LATELY, IT SEEMS. I AM VERY FOND OF EACH OF YOU AND FEEL WE CAN BE HONEST WITH EACH OTHER. SINCERELY, SUE
Sue, I appreciate you and all you do for everyone. Personally I don’t know how you do it with everything you have going on in your life. If I in anyway made you feel like you need to be on here everyday, I truly apologize. Same for Jennie. I guess because it is rare for the two of you not to make some comments almost everyday, I just worry that you are not okay. I understand exactly what you are saying. I know there are times when I don’t write everyday so I really shouldn’t push anyone else to do it to make me feel better. Everything is ok. You do what you need to do. You have a lot of people who depend on you. Love you sweet lady, Donna
Donna, thank you for understanding. Love, Sue
I SECOND THAT…..WE CAN’T ALWAYS FEEL SPARKY ENOUGH TO WRITE EACH DAY, I KNOW I HAVE HAD LONG PERIODS AWAY, AS MY ENERGY WAS AT ZERO…….ITS RIGHT THOUGH AS DONNA SAYS, WE WORRY ABOUT THOSE WHO DON’T WRITE IN, SILLY REALLY I SUPPOSE, WE ALL GET IN TOUCH WHEN WE NEED OUR FRIENDS….SO IN THE WORDS OF THE BEATLES “LET I BE”……..OVER AND OUT…..LOVE TO ALL …..JENNIE XXX
OOPS ….MEANT LET IT BE. X
GOOD MORNING, WE STILL HAVE SNOW AROUND HERE BUT IT IS RAINING TODAY. THAT SHOULD HELP THE SNOW TO MELT. OUR SEEDLINGS ARE GROWING LIKE CRAZY, MIGHT HAVE TO TRANSPLANT THEM INTO BIGGER POTS. BUT IT’S SO MUCH FUN PLAYING IN THE DIRT. DH PLANTED MOST OF OUR VEGGIES.
STILL NO NEWS ON MY MAMMO, BUT THEY DID TELL ME I WOULD GET A LETTER IN TWO WEEKS. EVERYTHING AROUND HERE TAKES SO LONG.
STILL LOTS OF PAIN IN MY BACK, DOC SAID IT WAS A TORN MUSCLE FROM WHEN I SLIPPED IN FEB.
STARTED GOING THROUGH ALL MY SCHOOL STUFF AND GETTING RID OF IT. HARD TO DO! HAVING A HARD TIME THESE DAYS WITH THE THOUGHT I WILL BE LIKE THIS FOR THE REST OF MY DAYS. I SEEM TO BE HAVING UPS AND DOWNS. I THINK IT’S THE PAIN THAT IS MAKING ME FEEL THIS WAY. IT’S JUST ALWAYS THERE.
WELL TO EVERYONE HERE, HAVE A GREAT DAY WITH LOW PAIN. LOVE TO ALL.
SUE YOU ARE RIGHT WE DON’T ALWAYS FEEL LIKE WRITING OR HAVE THE ENERGY EITHER. I HAVE BEEN READING THE COMMENTS THOUGH. LOVE YOU BIG MY FRIEND.
SUZANNE…I FEEL YOU PAIN, ITS SO BLOOMING HARD TO NOT KEEP LOOKING BACK AND REMEMBERING ALL THE THINGS WE USED TO BE ABLE TO DO…….JUST GOT TO GO WITH THE FLOW, AND DO WHAT WE CAN NOW…..I AM DEEPLY SORRY YOU ARE IN ALL THIS PAIN LOVE, KEEPING YOU IN MY THOUGHTS AS ALWAYS.
Been busy today getting pots to put solar lighting in.got a few t shirts and tops.didnt bring right stuff over and It’s quite warm.got a friend coming over tomorrow so that’ll be nice.we shall go out for lunch somewhere
hope the weather is ok with you now,we have thunder predicted for the w.end
How did the appt with the Dr go.have you been yet?hopefully some pain will get easier as the weather gets warmer
Well gotta go and sort out for tomorrow like it to look it’s best around here
Oh yes tonie
My dad wont let me take over his money..he lets me advise him but that’s it
Jennie and Chris, I am doing ok today. Yesterday evening we had a pretty bad Thunderstorm. It hailed hard before It started to rain. It was hitting the Windows and I was praying none broke. Praise God none broke. Our power went out for about 2 hours. It was still daylight so that helped. At one point I was afraid a tornado was forming in the sky across the field. It sure looked like one, the clouds were wicked. Right after that it hailed. That usually happens first. If it was one, it never touched down. It broke up as fast as it formed. That is the thing I fear most in the spring here. Tornados and electrical storms. It can get pretty bad.
Suzanne, I am so sorry you are in so much pain. I will be lifting you up in prayer. My DH has his plants started in the house as well. The climbing spinach takes forever to germinate. It was so beautiful last year. It was the first time he had tried to grow it. I wonder why it takes so long to get your mammogram results. We get ours quick. Glad the rain is helping to melt the snow. Feel better. Sending hugs and prayers, Donna