When you think about it, all we really have to consider is the foot in front of our face. I know. That does sound anatomically incorrect but I promise, I will explain if you’ll just stick with me. As we all know, a foot is measured as 12 inches. That isn’t very far but it is the tiny bit of life we can moderately control. Everything else, beyond our grasp, is truly not in our control. Rain, earthquakes, and wind are all out of our control. The need for trust has to be displayed by us every day of our lives when we send our children off to school, drive a car or cross a street. Without a certain amount of trust, we would be totally immobile and would never go anywhere or do anything in this life. Even turning on a light switch is an act of faith and trust.
As we pause to think about it just simply put, we’re in the dark and we need to be enlightened. We trust that light switch will lighten our way and when it does, we take it for granted, much like we say a prayer during a difficult time yet never think about it when the prayer is answered. I’m not saying we should go around saying “thank you” to light switches and lamps because you would definitely be locked up for that, but a simple thank you to a loving God would be good. It keeps the line of communication open with someone who truly cares. How much of life we live by faith and don’t even realize we are doing it.
Much closer to “home” we have issues going on in our own bodies that we cannot stop but can merely feel, observe and for which we pursue a solution. The only control we have regarding our health is to check out and educate ourselves as to how our own human body works. We can control our diets, our exercise and our daily activities, all to some extent. We can and do go to the doctors of our choice or who are referred to us. In this current age everything is a specialty. It grows so tiresome and I so often miss the old-fashioned family doctor don’t you? Certainly, I realize as a retired RN how complicated the world of medicine is today and am allowed to grieve for what once was while also appreciating modern advancements. Once again the trust factor enters the picture as we trust our current doctor’s judgment in referring us to some stranger.
It’s very difficult for each of us to know how to gauge a new physician. I think it’s a little easier for those of us who have worked in medicine but even we do not know what and who we are dealing with. The criterion for choosing a new doctor is a bit simpler with the internet as we can read critiques from other patients. One can’t base a lot on those however without knowing the whole story of each patient. But the biggest gauge of all is whether or not any new physician helps and communicates with us. Going to a new doctor takes trust. We each know that feeling of expectation and anxiety with each new visit. I truly hate starting from scratch with a new physician. Are they going to help? Why do I have to fill out fifteen forms? Can anybody help and will I like him? My dear Mom used to choose doctors by whether or not they were sweet to her. He or she could be as stupid as a stick but if they were kind to her, patted her on the hand then she loved them and that was a good doctor in her opinion. Bless her.
I have been at war with my body for thirty years while having to also remain friends with it. Since it’s the only one I have I had to take the friendly position many years ago. I’ve had much to fear in my life, particularly when it comes to my health. Certainly, like many of you I have had hard times financially, family trouble as well as marital problems. We are human beings who are each vulnerable to the rocks in the walk of life. Along the way we stub our toes, step on sharp objects and walk through grit but we still have to get where we are going. Once again, we cannot remain immobile, even when we have health problems.
I know that feeling of being trapped inside one’s own life. I know what it is to be near death and that amazing feeling when you realize you have defeated death. I’ve been through that three times, thus far, in this life and it has a way of making one realize how wonderful life truly is and also acts as a dramatic reminder that heaven isn’t ready for you yet. To me that always acts as a reminder that I still have much to do on this earth and that is the lesson I took from each experience. Those are the experiences that made me who I am but we are also, each of us, shaped by the small daily twists and turns of life which we traverse each day. The interesting fact about each crisis life brings our way is that we usually have been surprised by them. We usually have no control over these times, great or small.
Often, I am confronted by individuals who are ill who have great burdens of worry on their shoulders. Worry and fear are those intangible items which do go bump in the night. Being full of fear is a monster each of us has and do face. Often each of us has been in the position of waiting for a procedure, waiting for a report from the doctor or hospital or some other worry regarding our health. If you have faith in a God of love you should be reassured but that reassurance does not always come easily. Our minds take off in a specific direction and we wonder “what if” and worry about what is coming down the road. Things that go bump in the night can also prowl around during the daylight. Ideally, those of us with faith in God should not worry but it can take some time and much soul searching to create the positive juices it takes to trust during hard times. It seems we can have faith in a lightbulb but not in a loving God. There is always the possibility He will allow us to travel down a painful road and of course, who would want that? In this whole faith department, we are in for a penny, in for a pound. Either we believe in a plan of love and growth for our life or we do not. It is often easier to have faith for someone else but when you are the one with the imagination and cancer is looming in your mind, or some other horrible event such as being an invalid for the rest of your life, then it is more difficult. Remember those of us who embrace Christianity are given a pattern to live by but we aren’t the finished product just yet. I’m not saying you need to be a Christian but I am recommending that you have faith in a higher power outside yourself. Whatever your belief, be consistent in it and embrace its precepts to allow your life and those you love to be enriched.
I think it is only human of us to worry but we don’t have to move in and live there. There are many times I have been caught in a cycle of worry, peddling away with my mind filled with some horrific “what if” when I have had to have a chat with myself. A firm scolding would be more accurate a way to define it. I know each of you understand what I am expressing when you recall tossing and turning, fighting the monster of fear and unable to sleep; things that go bump in the night.
What do I do when I’m overwhelmed by worry and fear? First of all I pray. I give the whole situation over to One I know loves me and tell Him, or rather remind myself, that He is in charge. Then I try to learn as much about the situation as I can. Education and information always bring enlightenment and none of us want to be in the dark. The next step for me is to remember to take the whole situation one step at a time. If I look at the whole picture of a scary situation, it is too overwhelming. Nothing is built that way and a step at a time is a doable project.
This list of what I do to handle worry is longer than I thought as I think back on it. I also try to get myself busy. For one to lie around consumed with fear of the “what if’s” of life leads to nothing that is good. If I can handle movement I do stretching, walk somewhere, even a store or I find something in my home that needs cleaning. Come on, we always have something that needs to be done. Right now I have too much to handle so finding a chore is not a problem. I may talk to a friend, make a call or enjoy a TV show with my husband as company.
For those times when I don’t feel up to much activity, because the body is unwilling, I go online, read a book, or pick up a needlework project. I have a needlepoint pillow I’ve been working on for years. When I first became ill, thirty years ago, I was cranking out counted cross-stitch pieces at an almost alarming rate but now my energy is less and my eyesight is not what it was then. In the early days of being disabled I was a massive mess of frustration and pent up energy. Now I have eased into the role…still don’t like it, but have learned to shake hands with it.
Lastly and perhaps the most important thing I do when I am filled with worry or fear is to look outside myself to someone else. We can each become so consumed with ourselves and our own small world, we quite forget there are millions of others beyond our doorway who also suffer, love, hate and grieve for parts of life lost to them. It also doesn’t hurt to tell someone I love them. That act brings a magic quality to one’s life, don’t you think? Tell someone today that you love them.
Get up, clean up, cheer up, telllsomeone you love them
Weekly Dose of Sue 
Chris
As Sue is saying, do take care ofmyounduring this time. I know we blindly go into work to keep ourselves busy, but don’t run yourself down. Eat, drink and rest. Clearing out all of his things, take care that you keep the ones that catch your eye. You can always thin the herd later. Please please take care of yourself sweetie. My payers for your strength and peace.
Prayers Chris, sorry
Donna
Thankyou.you know I have always loved those words.. peace that passes all understanding .it seems to always settle me .
Tonie
It’s funny that’s how I sorted stuff out I kept it if it caught my eye.
dH is making sure I look after myself.with little things that make you stop
This morning ..it’s nearly 4 am here..we are going out for scones and tea for breakfast .
We have an appt later with our sols to update our will.i looked at it the other day and it was all too wrong for now.
Sue
DH bp seems to be not too bad .the side effects of the meds seem not too bad.his bp at most for short whiles 150/92 then most of day 140/69-75 .he is on the smallest dose
Lyn
Thank You.
I add my prayers for Belgium ..the world is now a frightening place .
Think I’ll put some washing on
All my love Chris
Hi all
Been asleep just woke up so thought I would call in here
All is going well for me..things are falling into place.getting a lot done re dads flat. Hold up re Certs that I need to go ahead with stuff. But all not too bad. I appreciate the hold up it gives me time for each stage
I’m sure getting the church and funeral and get together after will need its own momentum to happen
It’s so evil about the latest news in Brussels ….how could they such inhumanity
It’s frightening to go anywhere freely
Something someone has to stop it all
Thankyou all for all your kind..such kind ..words and thoughts and prayers..all special to me
Love Chris
Chris dear, I know you’re on all of our minds as you face all the duties to honor your dear Dad. Love, Sue
Janet
Thankyou for your words of kindness .ive just seen your post
How are you?
Chris
Good morning all:
Beautiful start to the day here in Va. hope you are all there as well. THe farrier is coming today for Red’s manicure. Got my injections yesterday, my back feels wonderful. But all the steroids kicked in about bedtime and I didn’t sleep much last night. Always something ain’t it ? but… My garden is ready for my touch to it. Need to scatter a bunch of ashes my sister gave me from her stove. It will be good for the ground, then take the roto tiller to it. Then, after tomorrow the time is right to plant root veggies here. I am anxious to get it underway. Praying for a good harvest this year. I also have to build up something to keep out the deer. Lots of work ahead but worth it when I get to eat that fresh stuff !!
FM says his town is overrun with soldiers, and police. Today is when all of France is striking, walking out of jobs, schools, etc to protest the conditions. I pray no violence takes place. I haven’t heard from him today, so not sure if he is in school or not. Well, I must be getting dressed and ready for the manicure. hope you all are having a good day. Chris, glad all is falling into place for you. Since he was a veteran, does anyone from the military attend his funeral ? And do they send something special for his memory. Here you can get the honor guard, and a plaque for the grave. I hope they do something also, as he deserves it
Love to all
Tonie
Tonie, I’m pleased your injection helped but am concerned that in all of that heavy gardening you will undo the effects of it. I’m sorry to hear FM is in the midst of so much turmoil. Hope all will work out well as he plans to come here to the USA for the summer. Love, Sue
Sue
I am being careful, only scattered ashes and removed the big clods of grass today. All in spaces of time. I will till only bits of the garden at a time. Too much for me to do it all at once. FM is off on a 4 day trip with students into Germany. So much going on, so dangerous. But I suppose they know what they are doing,
Love ya
Hi all
Busy day and also I thought the carer was going to get a van to bring up with her boyfriend to collect a lot.and I was going to hand over keys next week. She said she wanted a lot of it ..so I thought that helps..but somethings happened with the boyfriend so I’m not sure what’s going on..also she has a set of keys that I have to give back.the second hand furniture don’t want it and the charity shops can’t pick it up for three weeks .and I will gave to pay rent till then..so it’s all gone a bit odd
Collected the med cert today so I’ve got an appt to get the death cert.tuesday.then I can get on to the funeral…I’ve got all his medals to put on top of a cushion
Went to see my dad today…it isn’t him.but he’s still got photo of my mum in his hand placed
Ok……..wanna hear this…..you’d think I’d got enough to do …suddenly put the house up for sale!
Saw something we liked ,the estate agents came tonight and it’s on …..so why….we need to be on one floor and nice scenery about us..this fits. Hope it works out.i could give up shed for this it’s so nice
Hope all ok. Yea tonie wish they would do that for vets here
Love Chris
Chris, WOW, that’s very exciting and just the pleasure of something to look forward to. The house must be nice for you to be so enthusiastic and to consider giving up the cottage at the beach. WHy not? If you have the urge to get away, you can always stay at a hotel, right?
Sorry about the glitches with the caregiver. It would be a shame if you had to pay more rent on your Dad’s place. See how it plays out I guess. SO much to do. Could you call around a find a charity with a truck?
Well, I’m off the hook for the class I was dreading before the pain clinic appt. next month. A truly wonderful answer; I got a call they were moving it to another day and wouldn’t expect me to come all that way. Wahoo.
All of your Dad’s metals will honor him so much. That’s a fine thing. Love, Sue
Oh that’s so good Sue . No need to worry now
Yea with the house I felt like a new start we both did..our house here feels tired
Chris
Chris
How exciting..especially in a time of such sadness, so,etching to lift you up. I think it is great ! Now we need to pray for your house to sell. Get a good price and get on with it. Is it near where you live now or in a different town ? Your Dads medals, you are keeping them, right ? Here we have these shadow boxes, where we put a folded flag, and then pin all the medals onto it. It is shaped like a triangle in wood. Some even have a big box under the flag to show the medals when there are a lot of them, and pictures. I bet you could find one on Amazon.
Well, got a little garden work done this morning while waiting on the farrier. Then Red got a manicure, and I went to swim. I made it to a mile and a half ! But I am so tired. My son came to an agreement with temporary custody, she can have them every other weekend, but she must be checked out by a psychiatrist and start treatment for bipolar disorder in order to keep all rights. There were other stipulations, and it was all agreed to . Now a mediator has to evaluate all the ignorant charges she is making against him, and the. The judge will rule on the divorce and custody. But he is doing very well, so I believe it will all go his way. He is a good Father. I a, proud of hi. For stepping up and doing what is best for the kids.
Well, sleep is calling
Love to all
Tonie
Yes keeping my dads medals.we want to frame them so I will look on amazon. He has as well miniature dress medals for evening dress
Your son has come far and done well .you must rightly feel very proud of such a responsible young man
The house is still the same city but the other side and further away from it .its more nearer the countryside. So DH can go for nice walks.looking forward to viewing it today
Chris
Tonie, Wow, your son is going through so much for the love he has for his children. It sounds like your soon to be former DIL has really made a mess of herself and her children’s lives. It’s so good they have a strong father. Day by day it sounds like all is falling into place. I pray the judge is someone with a heart as well as good judgment.
Glad you’re still doing so well on the swimming. Good for you and good for your body.
Sounds like the garden is started and that’s good. Do be good to yourself, okay? Love, Sue
Sue
Well, I figured out today that I need to get a fill in for tilling the garden. I did about a quarter of it. And it really made me hurt. But, I got onions, shallots, spinach, lettuce and bok Chou planted. I let the horses in the yard to mow the grass for me. Baby has been nosing into everything around. I expect to open the door and she will be on the deck !
Resting now
Love
To ie
Hello…….well I have come back to the worst news…..Chris, written to you……..there are no words.
Will catch up with all news in time, there are so many posts to read, but if I don’t get round to catching up this weekend, please let Easter be a happy time for all……………….missed everyone like mad…..much love ….Jennie xxxx
Jennie, we missed you and it is now good to have you back. Love, Sue
Hi all short note.
Jen written to you short note
Good to see you back
Went to see house it’s nice DD thinks it’s too much too big etc for me
But a few people seeing it
We got people coming around tomorrow to see house…..9 am!!
Been sorting at my dads
Only short as I said
Chris
Chris, I hope it’s meant to be for you. I think it would give you a boost to live in a cheerful place near the woods. Good for both of you. So what if you only live there a few years. Do you think DD meant it’s too much work, room or money? I like that you had something to give you so much pleasure after all you’ve been through. Maybe she will also miss the beach cottage? You sounded so enthusiastic. Hope it’s going okay going through the work at your Dad’s. Let us know. Love you, Sue
Well DH still wants it and I do again now I’m just a bit unsure.. I think DD meant all those things
But it’s a garden although much bigger it’s easier and is a pottering one to enjoy..the house is one floor no stairs to clean but it’s bigger .and also I suppose it’s more money and we have to add some. We would sell the shed….but I think what we have at the coast we have there..it’s like a better life there than where we live now. It’s very peaceful
I thinkDD was shocked with our descision . But also all the coming and going to the shed is getting a bit much for me and DH
I suppose I’m hesitant and feel unsafe
We all don’t know the future and how it surprises
Chris
Oh, Chris I hope all works out! I’m sorry about the complications at your dad’s place. I know. When my dad passed I had just a couple of weeks before rent was due again and I didn’t want to pay for a full month more, so we got right on it. Thankfully, there was an auctioneer/auction house that would come pick up all furniture and goods, so I grabbed my grandfather’s desk and chair and an old trunk I wanted and sent the rest with them. We packed up clothing and donated what we could. I had a little help, which was nice, but DH and I took care of bringing the car, Jeep, motorcycle and trailer Dad used to transport things like lawn mower and such. The car was a big old Cadillac – red. Much bigger than I was used to driving, so I drove the Jeep up. We sold all from our house. Or, I should say DH did. He was wonderful through it all. I was in shock (he was sick, but we hadn’t expected it that soon) and depressed. Anyway, enough of that. Will pray for all to work out there and with the new house. I understand the desire to be on one level. I think we all can. And the location sounds mice for your DH. Does it seem too much upkeep to you? After all, it is your opinion and your DH’s that really matter here. Will be thinking of and praying for you.
Well Lyn it seems to me an easier place to clean as its bigger to get around if that makes sense.
I feel also I could live there without wanting to get away.more space
I suppose hearing the ..reality check…was the other side of the coin to take Into account .sometimes I think daughters feel in charge! I did ask for her advice and there it was.but there are others looking at it too so it’s a race anyway
But she is looking at others too for us.. I don’t like them!
It seems like we all have the same concerns after our parents . But it looked liked you coped well with it all.i suppose getting it all done in a week was too hopeful .its all cleared just wardrobes,a bed and chairs to go and a tall dresser and some drawers.the charity shop can only come in another week which spills me over into another weeks rent
What will be
Chris
Dear Lyn, Happy Birthday today. Hope you have much joy. Love ya, Sue
Chris…….do what you want, if you feel happy with that beautiful bungalow, you go for it, it is so you…….does your DH like it? Its about you now love, you have been a wonderful daughter, no-one could have done more, so now you need to be happy and without stress…….thinking of you….love Jen xx
I haven’t mentioned but been having concerns with the carer
You know I said she could stay till her boyfriend picked her up
Well she kept staying and I let her,she offered to help with clearing things
Her boyfriend didn’t come,then she needed a van as she was taking a lot of my dads stuff..I did say she cud but i was surprised at how much but couldn’t say as I said she cud
Well she went to London to find out what was going on and he was in a coma and his kids had locked her out . There had been fights and drink involved she had know where to go and I was I
intouch with her and concerned as she slept on the doorway I case they came….but I started then hearing different stories and became suspicious. She had my dads scooter keys too I couldn’t find them and different stories were coming..so we had given her a lift to the bus station but we couldn’t pick her up as yesterday we were busy and it’s not far and coming back she didn’t have so much of my dads stuff.she had previously asked me not to tell the agency she was staying
Anyway she said she was going the next day home…then she was saying about shipping some stuff back to Africa and couldn’t get in touch with shippers over the holiday .and I said I needed the keys to hand back and she said but he paid for a month. Well this is where my DD when I was telling her said there are vulnerable people living there we don’t know whats going on and she rang the agency .this was 11 last nite.
She has been told to go today..I dud manage to ring her before my DD rang to warn her that my DD had concerns
But after the agency spoke to her they rang me and said I had asked her to help and she wasn’t insured and why did she need a van they are not allowed to take stuff at all and only when signed for with her present
But I don’t know. I just feel sorry and wanted to help her but suddenly I wasn’t incharge
So that’s another thing been going on .the agency said she gave mired her money to move out and it a resident complained she would have lost her license to have the agency. She said she wasn’t insured for her being there….oh dear suddenly ifd done the wrong thing all together .
I don’t know what I’ll be going to when I go to the flat.bit I hope she’s ok.i think she wanted a place to stay and I didn’t mind at all. But when my DD said if there’s trouble up from London I’ve let her stay I’m at fouls if anyone gets hurt I was worried
Haven’t checked this post ad gotta get up and going viewing here at 9 am
Chris
Chris, I just read all of your entries today and whoosh girl, you have so much going on. It’s just my own opinion but I’d get the keys to the bike and the apartment and lock out the caregiver. SHe sounds like bad news. She has obviously taken advantage of your big heart by making a mess so you need to be shed of her…I know it sounds unkind but she hasn’t been honest with you and that would be it for me. There are always two sides to these hard luck stories, you know. Sounds like you may end up paying for another week, huh? When it comes to the caregiver you have to protect yourself.
As far as the house, if you like it, grab it. In these our later years we need to take hold of pleasure where we can find it. No regrets. If there aren’t many houses on the market yours will undoubtedly sell, don’t you think? I wonder why the owner of the new one put it on the market if she now has doubts? Folks are strange.
I will be thinking of you with all you have to do and pray all goes smoothly for your final acts of laying your father to rest.
Sorry to get on here later than usual. Jim has a bad cold and cough and we were up most of the night so slept in this AM. You take care and do what works for you and DH. Love you, Sue
Well
Apparently she was overwhelmed with it all
It was a rather strained visit .she didn’t want anyone there really .
And we had a visit at 2 and she put in an offer has sold her house,so she put in a low bid..so it’s too early for us to accept that .and the one we want is off market .saw one today so thinking about it all
Hot to,think of words for my dad now to say
Do hope you both have a better nite and good that Beth is home and safe
Chris
Oh I’ve got all the keys .that carer left last nite late after the phone calls
Chris
Dear you were being helpful to someone who had actually been paid to help your dad. Sometimes people jump right in to take advantage of you at q vulnerable moment. Looks
I,e this is what this woman has done. Don’t feel bad, she broke all the rules that she agreed not to. And I don’t blame your DD for taking. It I. Hand. She was afraid for you . You have to be more careful these days. You can still be helpful and do things for people, but cautiously.
I say if you want the house and can afford the pay,ends, get it ! You are the one living there, enjoy what you want now at this time. Remember , ” take your pleasure ”
Love ya
Tonie
Yea you are right tonie.just I thought she was struggling and needed a hand but she took two!
And the house the lady decided to think about selling! Only put it on the market on the 21 st they will let me know if it is def off
I did think she was a bit strained somehow ..so we shall see
The 9 am appt said garden too small then we had another at 1.30 see how that goes ,she has sold her house so what will be. We looked at another in between those times not as nice as the first one..not many on the market
And I am blimmin well taking my pleasure ..just had two big choc ices…magnums..do you have them?
Oh and the flat was a mess…she had taken some of the stuff I’d put in the bins back in the flat and it was all a mess.tissues dirty stuff everywhere on floor and I can’t get to some rubbish it’s all between the bed and the end wall and the wardrobe blocks it
So that’s to start again but with appts today we just left it gonna have a break and do nowt
You do sound busy again ….
Chris
Chris, here you go,again. Yes, darlin, we have Magnums. They have a new one out. The double Carmel one ? I like the dark chocolate ones. I haven’t had one in a while, but I a, eating a chocolate peanut butter egg. So…. You just hang in there, find what you want , and do what you want to do. Take care
Tonie
I totally agree with Tonie….don’t feel guilty about anything sweetheart, you are a sweet lady with a bit heart…..it will all get sorted, but don’t let anyone take advantage, its not fair, and yes she did break the rules……xxxx
Good morning all
Once again, I am being very lazy in the morning. Worked a lot yesterday and took my mtx last night so…. My horses have made a lot of work for me. They are in the yard to graze for a couple of days. I will love them tomorrow. Meantime, Baby has turned a round bale on its side and tossed hay all over. Torn out all the chicken feed bags from the shed , tossed them all over, Red is doing the same, messing in the shed. I thought she was going to climb up on the deck last night ! Nosy couple of equines.
So I have to tidy up the yard, shovel up,the fertilizer . Then I am baking a coconut bunny cake for tomorrow. I have to make deviled eggs as well, but I am going to fix everything and then assemble them at her house tomorrow. That way I don’t have to transport in plates.
Beautiful day today, I hope and pray you are all having a wonderful one as well.
LoveTonie
Tonie, I am lying here wondering if the lawnmower effect of the horses was worth the mess. Well, at least you got some manure for the garden. Now if you could get them to go in the garden itself. Sounds like you got a lot accomplished and that is good but do hope you’re okay. All sounds delicious except for the poop part. Great to have your own garden to eat from.
I assume you’re going to Nikki’s tomorrow after church? Cake sounds great. We’ll be staying close to home until Jim is feeling better. Beth and family got home early this AM from Vegas and AZ trip. Had a wonderful time but much too hot for that family of Astorians. They were glad to get back to some rain.
Take care of that body okay? Much love, Sue
Lyn
Happy birthday …you doing anything ..going out?
Chris
Chris, sounds like, if I’m understanding that you had an offer on your house already? As far as finding a new one, maybe the one you liked will be back on the market. Sounds like the owner is confused. Be sure you wait for something you love, okay? You were so enthusiastic about that one would love to see you that way again. So much going on right now it might be a bad time to make any decisions of that magnitude. Just trust the right thing will work out for you. Sometimes the answer is YES, sometimes NO, and at other times it’s WAIT. I always found that good advice. Much love, Sue
Sound advice which I rely on,..well had an offer but a bit low to accept in first two days..so we will wait.
Chris
Chris, I know you are probably asleep now but do hope today went okay with the viewing, etc.
If the first owner of the house you liked was in the house, maybe she heard too many people liking the house. Over here the realtors always have the owners leave the house but of course, when you list it yourself you have to be there.
Do trust you are getting some rest. Jim still sick here and the other nurse is apparently out of town and so…he had to go down to the jail for a bit. Poor guy. Later, Sue
Asking for prayers for my mom. She fell today and is not coherent. She’s in the emergency room now. Thinking she may have had a stroke..BP 200/105. I Just booked a flight to Chicago on Tuesday. Oh dear….I just don’t want to miss being there like what happened with my dad. I felt so bad. Thank you everyone. God bless you all this Easter.
Jo
Prayers for you and your Mom. Love, Janet
Thank you , Janet♡
Jo, oh dear. I am so sorry to hear this. Of course, prayers for your Mom as well as you so you tolerate the trip well. Softest yet supportive pillow, meds that help and the knowledge you have many who are supporting you in spirit. I pray she will be okay. I can see your reasons for concern. Bad B/P. Comfort sweet lady. Love, Sue
Thank you, Sue, for your prayers. I bought a supportive small Pillow for the airplane . Extra meds and I’ll be fine. She was admitted to the hospital so at least she will be taken care of round the clock and should be in there till Tuesday when I arrive. Love, Jo
Prayers for you mom and for your family Jo.
And you, I got sidetracked when I was typing. Be safe
Thanks , Tonie.
Prayers for you, your mom and family, of course, Jo.
Thank you, Lyn. And Happy birthday!
Jo so sorry to hear of this it is such a which to get this news
Look after yourself and prayers for all of you and your mum
Chris
Such a shock I meant
Chris
Jo….written to you, and thinking of you…….hang on in there love……………xxxx
Chris, I of course agree with everyone else. Pleasee do what is best for you! I’m so sorry you had the added stress with the carer, but sounds like that is resolved. Prayers still.
Thanks to those who sent birthday wishes. It was a good day. Had a delicious meal with DH and a nice, quiet evening. Looking forward to a family filled Easter time tomorrow. Blessed day. Best wishes for all!
Hi Lyn…..so pleased you had a nice birthday, and are having a great Easter with your family……xx
Happy Easter, peeps!
Hope all had a good day
But Jo I hope there is some good news of your mum..it must be so worrying to have to wait to travel to see your mum.my prayers for you at this time
I’ve been at my dads again throwing the stuff the carer got back from the rubbish tidied and vacuumed
..but I think she has taken the wheel chair belonging to occ. therapist .it was there that day then gone next.i expect she took as much as she could in it with her
Well tomorrow I’ve got to get around my words for my dad at the funeral
Chris
Hi Chris…still waiting for some diagnosis of what happened to my mom. She had an MRI OF THE BRAIN , CT SCAN. IT’S NERVE WRACKING WAITING TO SEE IF I AM NEEDED THERE. GOT MY PLANE TICKET FOR TUESDAY BUT I WILL WAIT TILL TOMORROW NIGHT AND SEE IF ANYTHING CHANGES.
HOW AWFUL OF THE CARER BUT I THINK IT’S KIND OF COMMON. MY MOM HAD SOMEONE LIKE THAT WHO TOOK ADVANTAGE OF KINDNESS. SORRY YOU HAVE HAD TO DEAL WITH THAT ON TOP OF EVERYTHING ELSE.
FINDINGS JUST THE RIGHT WORDS TO SAY AT YOUR DAD’S FUNERAL. ..WELL I KNOW HOW DIFFICULT IT IS.
HOPE YOU HAVE A GOOD EVENING. PRAYERS FOR YOU TOO.
JO
Jo
My mum fell and it was a similar happening. It must be so worrying just waiting and then trying to get through on the phone to get results from the tests.i know the wards here are so busy that the phones just go unanswered and sometimes they can’t give the info
I have a feeling the words will just come when I start..but the way I’m feeling they could be very angry words as why such pain.
Looking for furniture for the new place..well just passing time thinking..how is your preparing for moving going . Did you put your house on the market?
Chris
Good evening all
I hope you each had a good Easter . And that you remembered the reason we celebrate. I had a long day, but enjoyed it. Went to Nikki’s for dinner, it was lovely. She had ham and all the fixings, I brought deviled eggs and cake. When I came home, I had to hide eggs for my babies, over and over. Then Hailey no Decin were playing dress up in my jewelry and glove box. Hailey discovered my corset and is in love with how it makes her have curves. It was fun, like when they were little .
Tomorrow we go swim, I am give put !
Chris, you will find the words.
Love to all
Tonie
Sounds like family fun tonie
Jo hope all is …..well you know what I mean .thinking of you
Sue
Hope Jim got a bit better sue and Easter was ok
Jen
Those winds were bad Jen I think it mite have been worse with you as the Isle of Wight got it bad much worse than here
Looks like it mite be better tomorrow
Busy tomorrow .have to ring my dads rental people see if I can hand over with furniture in then go and handover.photos of house at 12 then appt at reg office for certificate and then ring funeral directors . Woohoo!
Had downtime today tho
Hope all okish
Chris
Chris it’s been determined that my mom had a stroke that affected her left side. Her speech is slurred and they are going to move her to a rehab center tomorrow. It took forever to get through to the nurses station here too Chris to find this out. I feel I should go tomorrow, though my older sister cut short her vacation to go home tomorrow.
My house is on the market now. I am getting weary of the showings and may just take it off for now with all that’s going on. Are you moving forward sure, Chris? It’s do much work. Been decluttering for a year:)
How did it all go today?
Jo
Chris..it should say” are you moving also”….hate texting on my phone.
Jo
Jo
I know the determination that you feel in going. It’s so difficult to know what to do for the best all round.all you can do is what you feel is best.my mum had a stroke when she fell too. Such an awful time for you so far away
I think I might get fed up of all the people coming around .its all such an effort and you can’t relax..but it’s early days for me so I can’t give in yet
Am I moving forward sure…well sometimes I think so and others I’m scared of whatever as there is so much change going on and am I doing the right thing
Today I did my dads speech I am doing at the church and tomorrow is the start of it all again
Take care of yourself and such a time for you
X
Just seen your other comment. As you see yep I’m looking to move but just need the magic person to see it x
Me too chris. All it takes is one person to come through and love your house. Mine has been up for two months by owner. I think we need to list it but not until my mom’s situation is u der control.
Will be thinking get of you tomorrow.
Take care of yourself through all of this.
Jo x
Sorry for my typos…hard to type on my phone.
I think typing is getting more difficult with the iPad and phone.the curser takes ages to appear and it keeps changing the txt .i think it’s all these updates they keep doing !
Chris
I agree, Chris. my fingers are too thick for the small keyboard on my phone. Crazy!! I need one of those stylus,.like a pen to press the keys.
I got one of those and my phone and stylus are never together ..typical !
If it’s in my Handbag its at the bottom where I can’t find it
LOL 🙂
Good morning…….well we are recovering from awful gale force winds here, its a wonder anything in the garden is still there……hardly slept for four nights with the banging of shutters and dog so unsettled…..getting calmer now.
Jo……I didn’t realise your Mom had a stroke, its good that your sister is going to be with her, I am sure you will make the right decision for yourself, praying for you all at this difficult time…………xx
Chris……I understand the UK has had the gales too, awful wasn’t it? That poor child on the bouncy castle. I know it will be difficult for you going to the church, but you can do it love. Good luck with the house…..xx
Hope everyone is ok and had a lovely holiday with family and friends……..it was quiet here, not seen a soul in a long time, good job I have the internet or I swear I would go bonkers…..think I might be halfway there…….xx
Flipping heck….just been told by the Police here, that my bag has been handed in after all this time…..I won’t know if all my documentation is intact, or indeed if there is anything at all in it, until I go and collect it tomorrow. If its all there, all that stress for nothing, its no real comfort as everything has been dealt with now…………..that’s life I guess……………………..Jennie
Oh Jen..after all this time……flipping heck ! Wonder if any money left..
Got funeral director at 11 tomorrow two viewings in the afternoon
Someone coming to do an energy check they need Thursday and another viewing sat morning
Been busy today too three appts and photos of inside house
Gotta go and sort stuff out
Chris
Good luck with everything Chris, such a lot for you to do, but best to keep busy…..hope all goes well on all counts.
Don’t think there will be any money, but maybe some documents that might not be of any use to whoever took it…we will see…………………love Jen xx
HELLO……WELL EVERYTHING WAS IN MY BAG EXCEPT FOR KEYS AND CASH…….SO NOT TOO BAD, GOT A CALL FROM POLICE TO SAY WHEN APPLYING FOR MY DRIVING LICENCE, THERE WAS NOT ENOUGH ID IN THE ENVELOPE I SENT, IT WAS NICE TO BE ABLE TO SAY “ACTUALLY CAN YOU CANCEL THAT AS I HAVE THE OLD ONE BACK”…….SOMETIMES ITS THE LITTLE THINGS HUH?? ……………….HAPPY WEDNESDAY TO ALL …..XX
Hi All, I’ll try to be back later but for now just want to tell you I’ve been ill. Caught Jim’s virus and we’ve both been very sick. It/s been a horrible week with cough and sore throats. Later, Sue
UGH! Feel better soon, Sue!
Oh Sue, I hope you feel better soon. Not fun. Everyone I know has been sick. Rest and stay hydrated….
Sue, Feel better ! Will continue to pray for both of you! I have been sick ever since I returned from my daughters. I have been reading but do not feel like writing. I fell my first night home and I have been in pain since. Nothing broken but back and upper front of my legs hurt so badly! I saw my pain doctor Monday and he did some trigger point injections in some of the muscles. It relieved it some until last night and now I am hurting so badly! Will try and write more tomorrow. It’s supposed to rain the next 2 days and we all know what that means. Tonight is my methotrexate shot! I hope it helps. Love and praying for all of you! Donna
Donna;
I feel your pain dear. Hope your shots have helped. We are in for the rain as well. Along with awful winds. It is blowing us away up here !
Oh no Sue
You were bound to get it I suppose but two of you together !
I hope things turn around now and improve
Sjogrens and colds yuk….can’t use menthol stuff nothing . I hate to get sore throats they are sore anyway with sjogrens ,so hope your ok now Sue or at least getting over it
We’ve sold the shed….one down one more to go !
I’m not sad I’m pleased it’s a weight off me and money we can out to the move
Jen
I wonder how they found your bag and where
Just dumped after the money gone I expect
Still one benefit with your license
Ok got more to do for my dad tomorrow
Gonna get my washing now
Chris
Hi
Wrote a long post and lost it
Sue
Hope things improve quick..sjogrens and a sore throat …!
And two of you together as well!
Jen. Good to get it back and one benefit with it anyway
Jo
How are things ?
Sold the shed I’m not sad I’m pleased it’s a weight off my mind got two weeks to vacate.itll be a push with house and funeral .and dads stuff
Have to make trips in car to do it.and if I don’t want it he said I can leave it.so it’ll be easy to do that
Chris
Chris, wow, you sold your shed really quickly. Two weeks doesn’t give you a lot of time with all you have to deal with right now, But with some help, you can do it and get it behind you. I wish I could sell my home that fast. It’s been two months now and I decided to not pursue the realtor listing until after I return home from Chicago and have my mom’s situation in a better place.. I’m leaving on April 7th now. My older sister is back there now with mom, so no extreme urgency for me to get there. Take care of yourself. You have a lot on your plate right now.
Jo x
Good morning all…….Sue, so sorry you have picked up that nasty virus, please God you get better soon, keep warm and look after yourself, look forward to hearing from you when you are well……I love you xx
Chris…..well done with the shed, you get better soon too…..yes its nice to get back some normality, glued to my bag from now on….xx
Jo……..Hope you manage to get to see your Mom on the 7th, and that all goes as well as it can. Good that at least one of the family is there until you can make it……I know what making that journey to Chicago will be like for you……Love Jen xx
Thanks Jennie. I’m set to go on the 7th. Nothing I can really do to prepare for all that sitting so will just have to grin and bear it and take extra meds. Sent you a message..Love, Jo x
morning all:
Goodness Chris, you have got it all dumped on you for sure. You will be busy for a bit, that is really good. Keep your mind off things until you are ready to deal.
Jo, prayers for your mother. Jennie, so glad you got your purse back. I bet you took it apart and disinfected it didn’t ya ? When my house got broken into, I had to clean everything, even changed my bed and covers, even though it was made. Just felt dirty.
Sue prayers for your healing my friend, and Jim. I have been blessed this year, only a small cold.
Well, I lost 2 widdies overnight. I think they had a virus and spread it around. I have one in the critical care ward. (box beside my bed with a heating pad) not sure if she will make it. but I am hydrating her with an eye dropper. She is hanging on, but not eating. I hope she makes it. I took the others up to the hen house, still in their cage, but let them get used to the other chickens. The wind is blowing so hard here. Gale force, like you guys have been having in Europe. I hate it when it is like that. Makes me achy all over. Well, no swimming today, so I can smoosh around the house. I cleaned out my truck yesterday evening. I need to do that more often lol !
Got good news from my FM, he is coming home the last week of May,….UNLESS the school will let him go earlier. His granddaughter is getting married, so he wants to go to that. Will talk to him this weekend. Know more then.
I hope everyone has a wonderful day.
Love
Tonie
Tonie..thanks for the prayers for mom.
Hi folks
Just back from bringing car full back from shed
AND we sold our house this morning and agreed a sale on a bungalow
So lots of work to do more trips to make…why in h.ll did I start all this😄
Interview with vicar tomorrow and gotta take Id into agents lots of other stuff to
Dads funeral getting there
Hope you getting better Sue
My thoughts are with you jo
Tonie not long now it’ll be fantastic..woohoo
Gotta go got an energy check tomorrow which us necessary for the sale..what the heck it is I don’t know CHECKING LIGHT BULBS probably
So gotta bring A ladder in for upstairs she is going in the attic
Chris
Wow, Chris! Congratulations! Shed and home sold quickly! So much so fast! Be sure you are taking care of yourself through all of this. Take care!
Chris…wow..congrats! Such quick sales. How exciting and a bit overwhelming. It was meant to be for you to get that new home. Take extra care of your health during this busy time.
Jo
Congrats Chris ! You are cooking with gas now ! You are gonna be on busy lady for a good bit now. I presume you will get movers for the house move ? Enjoy, all the newness, fun things to do. You won’t have to worry about calories for a it will you ?
Rest some too
Tonie
good morning all;
Sue , praying for your recovery. I know how much this sickness takes out of you when you are already overdrawn. Rest, drink, eat, and get better. Love you
Beautiful warm spring morning here. Although next weekend for two days they are calling for possible snow !! But today I will take the warmth we have. Swimming day, so I have to get ready and go. I am slowly making my way through the house to spring clean. I have changed out the curtains in the living room, washed the rugs, organized a few things. Must clean blinds, ceiling fans, yadda yadda yadda. Is it just me or do all of you hate housework as much as me ? I absolutely hate it.
Hope you all have a wonderful day. Get up and move some, if you can. Then rest !!
Love to all
Tonie
Dear all
Well thank you for your congrats….its been busy certainly.and I am trying to take it easy but it ain’t happening!
Got to sort out one of the banks in the morning then the do after the funeral to sort then off to the shed again.stay the night then DD arriving and we go back with more stuff!
Just got to cross fingers that the house sale all goes thru ok
Luckily it’s been dry weather and gives it so for the w.end as we have the BBQ and chairs etc to bring back
But we go out for our usual sat.scones in the morning before we go to town..so that’s good
Tonie
I have a love/hate relationship with house work!
You sound as if you need some rest..huh this’s me atalking
Chris
Suzanne
How are you? And your aunt?
Sue
Perhaps you mite start to feel better this w.end I hope so
Jo hope the news is ok
Lyn
How are things going for you and family
Chris
Good morning all
Hope this finds you all well and happy. Here is extremely windy…I thought of Sue last night when my home was shaking and things moving. I just said a prayer for safety. This morning on my deck, chairs were gone, heavy objects just scattered around. Kinda cold, we have a clipper front coming through, meaning cold north wind
I spoke with Sue yesterday, she is still very sick, as well as Jim. So prayers still needed she said she was especially nauseous
Talked with my FM this morning. Ticket I. For the 27 th of May I to Charlotte….UNLESS he gets the okay from the board to come for the wedding of his grandchild, then he will be here several weeks earlier. He is not sure this will happen though. So…still a waiting game. But this is life right ?
Chris, I am holding out for your strength to get through all your things. Jo still praying for your mother.
God bless all
Tonie
Saying prayers for SUE and Jim to finally start turning the corner from this awful flu that’s been making the rounds.
Tonie, thanks for ongoing prayers for mom. Leaving Thursday for CHICAGO. I bet your excited to be having your friend back soon.
Chris..I know you’re super busy now. Try to stop and rest now and then.
HOPE everyone else is doing well and having a good day.
Hello,
Prayers for Sue and Jim.
Chris…glad you are keeping busy and getting on with things, don’t drive yourself too hard, I know you.
Tonie….good to here your guy will be with you soon, that is so exciting, happy for you, hope the chucks survive.
Lyn……how are you?
Suzanne……hope things are ok with you and Auntie….how is she doing?
Not been too good here, had to see the Doc yesterday, got chronic bronchitis, coughing fit last night, thought my number was up, DH couldn’t hear me in the other room, got a bit frightened.
Have a good day each……God bless. xxxxxxxxxxx
Jennie
Hi, Jennie, I’m doing alright. Trying to get my beck and upper back back to “normal”. Trying to get in to see my doc to discuss. Had a really nice visit with family I haven’t seen in quite a while on Friday, taking it easy this weekend. We have had nasty winds and it is now drastically cooler here. 😦 Hope you are better soon! Bronchitis is no fun.
Sue, thinking of you. Was thinking of you as I lay awake listening to howling winds this weekend. 😦 I sure hope you and Jim are at least starting to feel a bit better.
Chris, I hope you are holding up ok.
Tonie, ticket bought – woohoo! Only thing better, early release for the wedding. 🙂
Lyn…sorry about the late reply…..I hope your back and neck are more comfortable love, I know how those areas hurt, how nice for you to see your family and do a catch up, that will have done you the world of good…..our weather is not much better than yours, still waiting for Spring, got the flowers but no sun……take care xx
Hi all
Lyn
Hope your back eases now and gets on the mend.and you managed to get that rest in
Sue
What a virus this must have been and to lay up Jim so much too. It seems one thing after another..
Tonie
Good news you have a date now to look forward to
Jen
Hope things are settling and the coughing eases now. Deaf husbands I know about they are not there to hear any call .ive always thought I could fall and be there for ages . But single people in same position I suppose so it is as it is. I hope you are on the mend now and sleeping better .some rotten bugs about this year .when does your son come over its soon I think so you’ve that to look forward to when your better. So get that rest…..
Well gotta Go busy day again
Chris
Good morning peeps !
Lyn, hoping your back feels better today. I spent two days on the heating pad , for the most part, and can walk better today. BUT… I hate having to do that. I did however, finish my afghan of red, white and blue. The stars were a pain, but it is worth it. I will make another for my son I think. I have to get ready to go swim soon and that actually makes the back and hip even better. I go Thursday to discuss the ablations on my back and to get a hip injection as well. Soon I may be able to walk and bend without so much pain !!
Colder here as well. That wind was awful, and is still gusting out there. At least the sun is shining. We are getting hit with an artic clipper later this week, so two days of REALLY cold. hope it doesn’t kill the blooms
Chris, hope you are getting things done today. Sue prayers for your recovery. I know you are feeling lousy and praying for the strength to kick this thing and your healing. And Jim’s as well. Jennie, I know you are looking forward to your son’s visit. So much going on at this time for so many of you. I try to keep busy, makes the time go better. But night time is the lonely time. I never realized how much time I spend alone. Of course, I have always been that way. I am a social creature but never really much on hanging out and stuff. Rather like being able to do things I like on my own time.
Here’s hoping for a good day for us all.
love to you all
Tonie
Tonie…..Yes I am looking forward to the kids coming on the 1st of May…..got two crates of the red stuff ready for them to take back with them to the Uk……wine is so cheap here, even for the good stuff, just wish the weather would perk up, I have not seen a March/April like this in quite awhile.
Your throw looks so nice, you are a clever lady.
Glad to see you are still doing the swimming….I bet May cannot come quick enough for you can it?….xx
Hi all
Well a good news day
Two bank appts went well then funeral directors then bank to pay funeral stuff then I had a tel call from hospital re that white patch under my tongue..dentist referral….for this afternoon 4pm..so a busy day
All ok with my mouth it’s an inflamed vein that will stay Or go so I am relieved…with all that’s going on I have been concerned but it was on the back burner not to think about .so happy with that. I can allow myself some happy !!
Tomorrow appt with warden to collect dads post and also a sjogrens hospital appt..then another bank Appt
Feeling ok but my mind is frazzled ….garage full of shed stuff….more on Thursday..yikes
Tonie
I enjoy my own company but there are times when you just need that contact from someone.the early hours when awake and the evenings are long
Waiting for May ….well it’s April now you’ll have Those evenings sewn up soon. It’s been a wait over the winter for you.id like to know you think it’s not going to be long now.
Jen
Hope you are improving with that blimmin cough
Sue hope it’s better for you….
Gotta get on with my dads speech
Oh so many people have said such lovely things about my dad….I polished all his medals for the funeral
Chris
Hi Chris……yes there is a slight improvement, knocked me for six all this, so grateful to my DH for looking after me so well, he has done all the cooking and cleaning for the last few days……my turn now.
So glad all went well at the bank for you, and things can go ahead there…..yes allow yourself to be happy about your mouth, nice when its nothing too serious.
I am thinking of you polishing your Dad’s medals, how proud you must feel…….a lot going on for you, rest when you can, I am worried you will overdo……….xx
Hey all
I just spoke with Sue. Jim is in the hospital. That virus, all really bad things ruled out, so checking now why he is coming so much. Sue’s daughter is staying with her tonight and tomorrow she has an appointment with her doctor. Please pray for them both, they need our prayers and need to get well. I will let you know more whe I hear tomorrow.
Long day, especially for you Chris. I did all my errands and planted potatoes and kale today, then had to rest on my heating pad. Now for a good sleep
Love to all
Tonie
Thanks for the update on Sue and Jim. She has never stayed away this long. Started to worry something worse was going on. Of course, my continued prayers for both of their healing. May God bless them and keep them safe.
COUGHING !!! sTUPid ipad !!! coughing ! sue said she got a laugh out of that.
Oh my goodness
Will you be able to keep in touch somehow
I’m so shocked and prayers for them both
Chris
I meant you keep in touch tonie with Sues DD
Chris