The Road To Compromise

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THE ROAD TO COMPROMISE

What do you think? Can we get there from here?

There is a road I travel every day and I know many of you travel it, too. When your life is upended by pain or disease, the smallest deflection from normal can feel like a painful pebble beneath one’s foot. It’s hard, uncomfortable and totally unplanned. You find yourself pausing abruptly, reaching down toward the problem and trying to undo what you feel. Like a piece of gravel beneath the shoe or worse yet, one inside a pair of sandals, the journey is paused while the tiny culprit is caught and tossed aside. We’re expecting a smooth walk or ride and sharp edges and sudden pain are not part of the expectation for a gentle stroll, wherever it may be. That’s just the start of a life-long journey of living with chronic pain or disease.

Every way we had known previously is halted or changed. When chronic pain crashes in the door of your life nothing remains the same. So many decisions face us they are far too numerous to count. All of life’s choices are rearranged in priority and importance. Every tiny part of one’s day is suddenly upended as our sleep is disturbed, often eating patterns are changed and all activity has to be examined. My dear husband has a tale he introduced to me early in our relationship when I questioned how he could know so soon that he loved me. That was forty years ago but I still remember it and would like to share it with all of you. I know I’m not being absolutely true to the original version but give me a break…forty years?

It seems there were two old cowboys walking along in a western town many years ago. Their names were Zeke and Pete. They were colorful old guys who smelled like tobacco and horse sweat and greatly enjoyed each other’s company. They came to a blacksmith shop and the blacksmith was hard at work and they all said, “Howdy,” to each other. Zeke bent down to see what was laying in the pile of loose dirt and sand and picked up a horseshoe that lay there. He dropped it immediately, jumped back from it and shook his hand. Pete said, “What is it Zeke, was that horseshoe hot?”

Zeke looked at Pete and said, very slowly, “No, it just doesn’t take me long to look at a horseshoe.” There we are folks, living our lives when all of a sudden, we are confronted with an undeniable fact. We’ve picked up a hot horseshoe and find it impossible to put it down fast enough. Most of us take months to adjust or even years but we do know that horseshoe was hot. We learn. Maybe we don’t learn as fast as Zeke did but we learn.

I’ve just hit you with a plethora of analogies about pain and life’s directions using pebbles and horseshoes and I apologize for the multidirectional aspects of that but I know you get my point. Life is no longer the same. Not only are we hit with choices each and every moment of each day, but we are also struck with a need to compromise at every turn.

We find ourselves compromised in all ways. The pain is either sudden, as in an accident or injury or it is gradual as a disease process that proceeds into our lives, right over our denials and consternation. We ask ourselves what we’re going to do and find that stagnation and lethargy face us at every turn of the clock. Do we give in to that desire to always sleep in? How do we care for our families or just ourselves? Can we go to work? Should we work fulltime, if possible or do we have to compromise and work part time? What do we have to give up if part time is all our body will handle? Eating, shelter and family dynamics as well as medical care are all compromised as we make change after change in our lives. And such unwanted change is so deeply resented by all of us. Who embraces this kind of change willingly while also having to carry the burden of pain?

When we’re small children we learn about compromise. When we are young, compromise and sharing look and often feel like the same thing. I loved the twin cherry Popsicles when I was a child. When I had to break one in half and share it, well, on a hot California day, that was compromise. When a child wants to go out and play but the parent says it is time for bed, that’s also compromise. We are taught about compromise very early in life but we seldom learn to like it.

As adults who are struck with chronic illness and pain, we are faced with a whole new set of compromising situations, each day and often each hour. We were usually taught that settling for less was not a good idea, therefore when we find ourselves doing it, we often feel guilty. Have we failed? If we have, what can we do about it? Oh my, the frustrations we face, as if life is not already difficult enough.

Eventually, most of us come to the conclusion life is different because we are different. We have to face that most dreaded of all things…change. Change naturally recruits compromise and we become quite good at it. If we don’t compromise, we have painful lessons to learn. “If I lift this pot, will my back hurt all night?” That’s when we learn to use plastic pots, fill them in place and ask someone else to move them if that must be done. Compromise.

We ask ourselves, is the pain I have turning me into a recluse? If the answer is yes, then we have to come up with solutions we can live with such as placing a cushion in our car, using a cane or choosing an activity that is very important to us as compared to one that is not. That is one of the reasons the handicapped parking permits can be wonderful. If it is a day when you are out of everything and the refrigerator is empty, of course it is often on a day you feel lousy. That closer parking can be wonderful. We don’t have to use it if we’re having a better day and want to use that walk into the market for a bit of exercise. If we go to a program our children or grandchildren are in, it has to be important to them and to us. Every activity along the way such as lifting laundry or going out to dinner has to scrutinized and faced honestly. In my own life, for instance, I don’t go to restaurants with hard chairs unless it is imperative. Even then, I know what the compromises will be for me, personally, later that night and into the next day.

At first, I believe, most of us try to please others as much or more than ourselves. After many sleepless nights tossing and speaking rudely to ourselves, that soon becomes prioritized as we realize we don’t have enough “oomph” to please everyone. It becomes immaterial if the other individual or individuals understand our health situation as we realize we are the ones who will pay the price. Others may never realize what we are experiencing in our own lives or bodies. It’s great if they at least try but often, we are expecting them to feel what we feel and that is simply not possible. The best we can hope for is empathy.

In a rude yet secretly pleasurable way, compromising due to our health can be a life saver. No, not the pool side one or the delicious candy but it does offer us a polite way to get out of things most humans hate to do. We do, however, have to go to the doctor more often than most and that’s not always wonderful.

Yes, we can get there from here but it involves a great deal of compromise as we come to embrace it as a must in our lives and see it as the pressure valve it is in our very compromised lives. Let me share with all of you a cute story from my husband, Jim’s family, that is a humorous example of compromise.

It seems that Jim’s Mom wanted their family car washed because it was a muddy mess. She had asked Jim’s Pop to wash it but to no avail. Finally, one day after being reminded once again about the dirty car, he went out front of the house and spent all day washing it. He washed and dried it. He waxed it to a shine and took great care and seemed very proud of his efforts. He called Jim’s Mom out to see what he had done. She was enormously pleased as she looked at the car parked in front and slowly walked around it to find he had washed “her” side of the car but not his. Half of the car remained the same dirty car.

Now that is compromise. You see, it can be funny at times. Keep looking for the laughter my friends. Don’t give in to the struggle unless you must.

105 thoughts on “The Road To Compromise”

  1. Sue
    So wonderful. Per usual, but that is beside the point. Everyday in some way or other we compromise. Our lives are in constant change, swirling around us as we grab for that brass ring before it passes by. I love your Jim stories. I see where he gets some of his dry wit from ! Take credit my friend and enjoy your weekend
    Love
    Tonie

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    • Tonie, thanks for your kind remarks. Hope this spoke to your heart. Oh yes, Jim’s family was a happy family with lots of good stories to share. They delighted in each others company. Hope you’re resting up today after your swim. Love ya, Sue

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  2. What a great read sue.so true and you are right it’s all one big compromise.. You can go with it or fight it,it’s not going to go away,so you gotta deal with it..find a way to live with it
    I’m doing that all the time and with DH deafness.and his bp…do you mix with others or be on your own..well the compromise is sometimes you do and sometimes you don’t. Also that has to fit in with how I am . To others we mite seen contrary..we probably are..we are different
    All things have their payoff good or bad..some too hot to handle like the cowboy….but do we admit it.well again not always…. I suppose our lives are ups and downs especially mine has Been recently. I find you can do too much thinking….either do it or don’t ..difficult tho
    Jims family must be special you must have lots of tales sue ..they make life easier to live with
    Chris

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    • Chris, I agree. Sometimes we can over think a situation. There is so much that comes along every day of our lives. I know it must be so difficult for you to have a partner who doesn’t hear well. Jim is a bit that way or maybe just doesn’t tune into and I find much a bit irritating, especially if I don’t feel well.I find as we get old we are more anti-social. Life is just too complicated and we get tired of all that has to be considered. I also hate to admit it but I just have become more picky about who I want to give my time and energy. Both have become precious to me because they are in short supply. Some parts of life are so private it is impossible or unnecessary to explain about it to others.
      I hope you enjoy your company this weekend. We are busy in our town, well, not us but many with Regatta weekend. Lots of boats in the Columbia River because salmon season just opened. Apparently it is to be a short season this year.
      As far as Jim’s family is concerned, I didn’t know Jim’s Dad as cancer claimed him before I met Jim, but his Mom was a jewel as was his sister. Both are gone now. They were all very close and always fun. Do enjoy your weekend, thinking of you, Love, Sue

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    • Hello Audrey, welcome to the blog. You have probably posted before and I missed it, but welcome anyway. Come back and get to know us.
      Tonie

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    • Audrey, my good FB friend, so good to see you on here. I knew you have always been a regular reader. I pray life is going as well as it can for you. Pleased you related to the blog. Fondly, Sue

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    • Janet, so how is life in south Texas? I hope you are able to get around and enjoy bits of life. Have you had a lot of rain? think of you often and wonder how you are doing. We went over to WA this AM for fresh vegies and fruit. I love to find fresh eggplant, okra and love their tiny golden potatoes. So much of the fruit and vegies we get in OR are from CA and old. Lovely day here, cool and a bit overcast but changing every ten mins. Love, Sue

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  5. Sue…a wonderful blog that spoke to my heart as usual. Compromise..I’ve had to learn to embrace it . Life is one big compromise it seems. I resisted it until I couldn’t no more. I love everything the car analogy also.
    I haven’t been on too much lately..my mom just had another stroke this past week and once again , I am off to Chicago on Tuesday. It won’t be easy on my body or mind, especially with so much contention with siblings going on. She’s in the hospital and not sure how much more damage was caused this time. I just pray I can get through it all, one step at a time and accomplish what I must.
    It makes my heart happy to see you getting out more and enjoying things. So important for our psyche. Hope you’re still having some benefit from the Lyrica. I do remember it made me feel like doing more. Take care and have a enjoyable weekend…Love, Jo

    Wishing a peaceful and safe weekend with less pain for all!!!!
    Jo xxxxxxxxxxx

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    • Jo, oh dear. I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. I know how that lays heavy on your heart and your siblings. I know you have to go and will pray for a safe and as comfortable as possible trip for you. Just remember to take it one day and sometimes one hour at a time. When you look too far ahead it can be overwhelming…I understand completely. I would feel as you do about all the sitting and flying but when we must…I think there is a special dispensation for us in those times when we must and when we are doing it for someone else. I hope her condition isn’t severe but don’t you think your brother would have told you if that were the case? Do you know if she is awake and aware and in relative comfort? Prayers for her future and for her to have courage. Awe, this whole getting old thing is treacherous.
      Yes, it is lovely to be getting out a bit more. It is Regatta weekend here in town and it is the oldest Regatta west of the Rockies. There was a parade which we skipped but was attended by hundreds or more. We just sneaked out the back way to go to Washington state to buy produce. Lovely drive today with hundreds of small boats in the Columbia. You’re right about it helping our attitude and psyche…looking at all that beauty always helps. Love and please know I’ll be thinking about you on Tuesday. Much love, Sue

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      • Hi Sue, I also believe there is a special dispensation for us . To get through the traveling, I do take it an hour at a time. I always get the aisle seat so I can get up every hour to walk to the restroom. I always pray for a smooth flight with seat belt sign off so I can get up. I’m all packed already and my dog was just sitting in my suitcase ready to come🐶
        The Regatta sounds lovely on the Columbia. I saw some pics you posted on FB. Can you see it from your porch or Windows? I bet you can buy some nice fresh salmon where you live. I love salmon and eat it twice a week. So good for you. Thanks for the prayers, Sue. I feel like I’m leaving to go into battle. Hope you have a good day today. Love, Jo

      • Thanks Chris…one step at a time..the only way. Sounds like you’re all settled into your new home and can respond the benefits of all your hard work. Enjoy it.
        Jo

  6. Good morning
    Beautiful here, still hearing those geese go over. Some say it is to be a bad winter. Hope not. Every winter is bad as far as I am concerned. I lost my little Easter chicken yesterday. Saw she was sick, but no reason why. But…the blonde chicken is on her nest again so……
    The other day I was a bit down and thought, ” I have no friends “. I meant here in the area because I have no one to do things with. The immediate thought in ,y mind was ” yes you do ” and the old song “What anFriend We Have in Jesus” came to my heart. What a wonderful reminder that I a, never alone as long as I have Him. So today at church this will be my song.
    I went to get bread out of the freezer yesterday and it had come unplugged ! All the fruits and veggies and what little meat I keep were gone. Plus I had to haul it all off and clean the bottom out ! What a mess, and standing on my head after I mopped it our to finish cleaning. But at least I found it sooner rather than later. Had to order the stabilizers for the washer, that was an ouch, but at least I can rep,ace them myself and will save that money. New battery for Roomba and also for the laptop. Seems like some months are all expenses aren’t they ? I also have to replace the gas heater that is only a few years old. But it has to be done before cold weather.i found them reasonably at a local store. Next month I must buy hay also. Getting ready for the cold months ahead, all the mouths to feed.
    Sue, can you see the regatta from your deck ? That would be nice. Love those fresh veggies. I still have enough zuchinni to replace what I lost in the freezer. And I have potatoes, onions, tomatoes, corn and one lone cabbage !
    Jo, so sorry about your mom, thoughts and prayers are with you
    Love to all
    Tonie

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      • Jo, There wasn’t a reply spot on your reply to me so I’ve popped in here. Prayers for a safe journey and please God, as comfortable a journey as possible. I can certainly understand how you feel you are going into battle. In a way, you are. How is your Mom doing? Do you have any updates on her current condition? I hope it isn’t too hot and humid for you there because I’m assuming the heat in AZ is dry. It will all be okay just look after yourself so you can be up to the tasks.
        Sorry to be on late today. We had the grands all morning. They just left and were pooped kids after the weekend showing their uncle’s house. You know the Victorian I’ve posted on FB that my SIL’s brother is totally bringing back to life after it has been empty for forty years.? They had a tour yesterday for the historic society and had 750 people buy tickets to go through it. One couple even came from Wisconsin for the tour. It’s amazing the amount of interest in the house.
        Thoughts will be with you as assuredly as your pillow…love ya, Sue

      • Hi Sue, thanks for your prayers.
        My mom had a stroke on the same side as in April..her left side. My brother said her left side of her face and shoulder are more droopy than before. Her speech today when I called her was back to being slurred. She had improved since April with speech therapy and p.t. She was moved to the rehab floor today where she’ll be for a week. I’ll be there until the 27th. And I am taking my trusty pillow for the plane and also I had just bought “My Pillow” and taking that too.
        That’s amazing about that house. I have seen some of your posts on it. I’ll have to go back and look for them.
        I’m afraid I won’t be getting too much of a break in the weather in chicago . The humidity bothers me more than the heat here in AZ. I hated summers there growing up. And now the crime rate is so high there, I’m a little anxious about landing at Midway Airport at night. It’s in a really bad neighborhood. Mike is making me pack my pepper spray🙄
        I hope you are resting now after having the grands over…..love ya, Jo

  7. Tonie, well, that all sounds pretty much like a cluster of disasters. Sorry it all hit you so hard. Hope you got a deal on the Roomba battery. I know I bought one at Amazon and it was much cheaper than I Robot. Sorry about the heater but good for you to be able to fix the washer. You’re so multi-talented. It’s awful you lost so much food but thank the Lord you have a good garden this year. Zucchini it is. I see many vegie lasagnas and chocolate cakes in your future. Now that I said that I think I’ll make a chocolate cake today because I have some buttermilk that is still in date but a bit too lumpy for me to drink. Some people don’t know how to make buttermilk.
    Sweet friend, you are such a brilliant friend to all, a friend will come along. I feel sure of that. There is some gal out there who is looking for someone to do things with, just like you. No, we didn’t see the official part of Regatta but can see many fishing boats and a few sailboats out in the Columbia. Gorgeous weekend here. Last night they had fireworks on the river just like they do at the Fourth of July. It was strange to realize it was in the 90’s in Portland last night at dinner time and only 65 out here. Thankful for the fog and low clouds that rolled in.
    Hope the coming week is a better one for you dear girl. Hugs. Sue

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  8. Yes tonie now you said those words I bet someone will shine up now . You are so capable as sue says .
    Yep some months you pay out a whole lot..it doesn’t seem fare ..but hopefully that’ll be the end of it now
    You would be such fun to be with the person who will is very lucky
    Sue
    The place where you live sounds marvellous . Just where I would want
    Weather not bad no wind only 23c . Did bits today and read a book.so quiet to where we used to live
    I had a glass of rose..I’ve just started having one at nite while I read.i can’t take red or white wine. But my tummy is a bit sour ,so maybe not
    Sat outside and had meal tonite..just bits with a roll and salad
    Chris

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    • Chris, Sounds like life has grown more peaceful…wonderful. Yes, it is lovely here. Like all places it has its drawbacks but still love it. You have to like rain to be here and from what I know of England that is also true. Folks who complain about the rain forget that’s what makes it so pretty and green. Sometimes I take all the lushness for granted and should not. You know, your eyes get used to seeing it. I promised myself when we moved here to try to always be thankful we are here. Very busy weekend for the community. Since you’re one of my friends not on FB I can’t remember whether or not I told you about the old house my SIL’s brother is restoring. Today they are having a huge open house to raise money for the historic society in town. Hundreds have already bought tickets to tour the house. It has been a curiosity for forty years as it has sat empty. It was once a lovely Victorian and will be again when he finishes with it but so much work, top to bottom. Last night they had a buffet for those willing to pay and could only have 100 and that event sold out within a day. Beth, SIL and the grands have all been helping him clean and prepare for the events. It’s also SUnday market downtown and Regatta weekend so parking will be a problem. Enjoy your relaxation. That’s what I am doing in between laundry and watering plants, etc. George and I are taking a rest right now. Love, Sue

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  9. Hey guys
    Been a lazy , mostly, say. Very hot, muggy outside, nice and cool inside. We had a big thunderstorm this afternoon and I had a little nap. Made a bacon and tomato sandwich for supper and am back on the couch again. I really have to do some things tomorrow no way around it, so making use of the rest today.
    Chris, so happy you are enjoying your new home. I love the solarium, I really want one. They are so nice in the winter when you want some sunshine.
    Sue, you and George enjoy your rest

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    • Tonie, we do what we must and I hate that so often it is a dictate of the body and not the mind. Oh the places my mind goes and the things it bakes, grows and cleans. Wish it worked that way. I think I am going to go down stairs now and attempt to make a chocolate sheet cake from scratch. Also, must water some plants. The wind dries them out so much. Later dear friend, Sue

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  10. Jo, Godspeed on your trip and prayers for courage and strength for your Mom with this mountain she has to face. Sue

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  11. Morning all
    Nice here this morning. Someone posted on FB that the katydids are singing so 6 more weeks until a frost. ( a southern legend) but the almanac is calling for winter in Novemeber this year ! Ugh ! Trying my best to get ready for it regardless. Canned 5 Qts of tomatoes yesterday and have more to do this evening. Nice to see the efforts pay off. My cherry tomatoes are hanging full picking them everyday now.
    Have to go in early this morning, Fran has her Dr appt to schedule surgery for her multiple ulcers. So me and Ms Alice alone this morning. Feeling better today, I caught up on some rest this weekend. Every time I sat still I went to sleep !
    Jo prayers for you today. Chris, you have a cyst on your finger joint right ? Did they tell you if it can be removed ? I have one and it really hurts if I hit it . My rheumy was unconcerned and said it was osteo, ….who cares she takes care of all arthritis . I still need to find a new RA dr. Sorely miss Dr Bennet my first one and a prince !
    Well, off and running. Have a blessed day all
    Tonie

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    • Tonie, I hope you’re able to find a better rheumy, also. I know some rheumy’s only get excited if it’s a more unusual disease process and then, on occasion, they don’t even know what it is..Just ask me. I say if it hurts, try to get something done for it.
      The canning sounds great. In a disaster we all know where to come for food. Busy day here with cleaning and trip to the store for Jim and I. Boy, we’ve got it down to a science now. We each take one of those small carts and split the list. I have help, it’s not so much for him and I have a cart to lean on. Col and windy here today but supposed to be up to 90 or near there by THursday. Hope they’re wrong. Do take care. Sorry to hear about your friend’s surgery. Poor gal has a lot of stress in her life. Later, take care of you, Love, Sue

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  12. I just wrote a long post to tonie and its gone somewhere ..if it doesn’t appear when this one posts I’ll writ later
    Chris

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  13. Ok I’ll try again tonie
    The cyst is growing from the finger joint .as it has grown it has distorted the nail..my rheumy wasn’t too interested but the Dermy I saw said they are more common if you have arthritis .yes you can have them taken off. They may grow again…but she said to me to only do it if it grows again and causes trouble
    Mine has been the same for two years now.so I’m leaving it..she said that the joint could get infected so you weigh up one against the other..but she did tell me to wear gloves doing work as if it gets bumped and opened germs may get in to the joint ..so I wear those medical ones
    So hope this gets on
    Chris

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  15. You always brighten my brain, haha, with your writings. I most times feel a sense kinship although my battles pale in comparison to what so many others experience. But you make me think, you get my own creative juices going. I look for joy everyday because you told me too and what a difference that small notion made for me. I’d heard it before from therapists as they tried to fix my broken spirit. But because you, and your friends, are like me it makes perfect sense. Don’t misunderstand, I valued the therapists suggestions but because they didn’t understand the vast bastardization, I may have resented them. Example : I’m very limited in some range of motions I can no longer 4wheel, camp, drive along mountain roads with a bottle of wine, etc… The therapist says drive down to Corn Lake, about 3 blocks from my home, have your husband cast for you. Stay as long as you can (usually I can do an hour here and there). I want to scream “I want to drive mountain roads!”. “I want to read a book, not an audible! “. Bitterness because they don’t feel the staggering compromise. However, if someone who also walks a similar path recommends something I’m more inclined. Haha, I’ll have to be aware of that and be gracious. 🙂

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    • Lori M., Hey there, good to see you on here, although the root cause is not. Are you by chance the Lori M. from CO who is on FB with me? Wherever you are your frustration is palpable. I know. Life sucks so much sometimes it is impossible to explain to others who haven’t a clue. I must tell you your comments made me cry. Sometimes I hear from another person who feels so much of what I feel and it is too much for the soul. There are so many things I miss and just can’t do and do not fit into the compromise category. I have to just put them out of my mind or my grief is too much and that make it too hard to find the joy. I have been known to say to myself…yes, I talk to myself…well just be glad you got to do it for x amount of time.
      I think one of the main problems with therapist is their driving desire to fix us when much cannot be fixedl and in their enthusiasm, their clueless attitude becomes obvious. You have to put it into the category of those who say, “Oh yes, I know just how you feel,” or “Oh, try to just cheer up and have a more positive attitude.” UGH!!!
      Just remember sweet lady that each hour of our lives is lived…then gone forever. Thanks again for sharing with us and hope to see you here again. Fondly, Sue

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      • Hi Sue, it is Lori, yes, from Colorado! A couple years back I absolutely couldn’t post on here. But I can now. I try not to think about what I was able to do. I do appreciate the years I was able, but I’m not ready to stop. I don’t want to stop. My poor husband rarely goes 4 wheeling, fishing, etc… Because he recognizes how badly I want to. I absolutely tell him, go.have fun! Guess I’m not a good actress because he always says “no I’ll just stay home with you”. Oh well,
        I went with my daughter to Corn Lake this morning, we wanted to rehome a huge toad that was digging in her garden. It’s 3 blocks from my home. We park and she’s suddenly opening the container holding the frog. What are you doing? Just getting him out first. You know they jump? As I spoke the word jump out flew this huge toad, over us into the back floor and disappeared. She has a 3 row auburban that is main transport for 4 kids to school and sports so it’s full.. It took us 45 minutes to catch that damn toad but I laughed till I cried and it was worth every hot, miserable minute looking for it. My joy for the day!!

  16. Hello, everyone new and not so new. 😛 Sue, another gem. So much of life is really about compromise if we sit back and really consider, but particularly for those who are compromised in any way. Like pretty much everyone here, I’m doing my share of it lately, too. I am so pleased that you are able to get out and about more now, and with Jim. My niece and her family are now officially out near you. She posted some pictures on FB recently from a trip to your beautiful town! She says they are an hour and a half away. We were jealous of your temperatures. She said it was 67* that day, I think. We were in the 90’s, I believe. Lately we’ve had heat indexes of 100 and above. I’ll bet Tonie has, too.
    Tonie, so sorry for all your misfortune and expenses of late. Hate when that happens.
    Jo, prayers for safe travel and for you and your mother. Will be thinking of you.
    Time for me to use the small amount of energy I gained from dinner to get a few things accomplished before I fade for the evening. Not the best time lately with so much going on. Compromises and choices… Best to all!

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    • Lyn, pleased to hear your niece is moved and hopefully getting settled.Yes, we have had a very mild, cool summer except for one day when it got up to 80 degrees. Supposed to have a couple hot ones this week but no sign of it so far. I always hesitate for people to think our town is beautiful because it is, but it is also very old. It’s the oldest development west of the Rocky Mountains. We have much that has not been kept up but also much that has. The nature here is amazing and so green. I am sorry you’ve had such horrendous heat. I hate heat. I feel like I can’t breathe. Is it humid for you? Hope not because that makes it so much worse. I also think extreme heat and cold are both bad for our joints…I know they are for me. Hope family is all well. Love you much, Sue

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  17. Morning all
    Lori, so glad to see you here with us. Hang in there and do what you can as you can for as long as you can. My mantra ! I am still able to do many things, but not others. I can relate to your back roads 4 wheeling. My old Jeep and I still go out for a short run , but not so far because the bumps and jumps don’t feel so good. I have one place that I go for blackberries, and it is just a short road, but deep in the woods. I go even in the fall just to see. Usually see wild turkeys. Come on back and talk with us some more
    Well, I have picked up another house to babysit this winter. The guy who lives next door to Ms Alice in the sister house to this one. He grew up with my sister and brother. They go to Hawaii for the winter. He called me over to give me tomatoes and cucumbers, and some Kona coffee beans ( awesome coffee). Asked me if I would be interested. Yep I sure would. Giving me ideas for a side business.
    Chris, thanks for the advice. I have to go to the derma next, so I will keep it in mind. Sue, it is so nice to have help , ain’t it ? I told FM how spoiled he made me and now how tired I am from doing all again ! I have more tomatoes in the process of being canned, and still yet more to go. I am thankful for them. I love to use them is soups and stews in the winter. A bit of summer sun !
    Lyn, yes we have been having the same heat and humidity ! I am wet from sweat just being outside a little while. I had to weed eat last evening, and still was so hot. I wanted to go swim after work today, but left my gym bag. Oh well, next week.
    Do take care all and have a lovely day
    Tonie

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    • Tonie, hate to hear about the heat and humidity. Is the AC doing its job for you? Hey, the house sitting idea sounds like a great idea. You never know where the answers are coming from but they come anyway. I love it when life sends us a good surprise. Thank you Lord.
      We’re apparently getting very hot weather for us in the next two days. We’re not used to it or set up for it. We have a small room sized AC off our bedroom and ceiling fans everywhere so they will all be going. Thankfully we always have cool nights this close to the sea. How’s it going with your FM now that he is home? Need an update. Love ya, Sue

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      • Sue
        FM is recuperating still. Very bad on him all the stress of flying, waiting, fear, etc. And he is missing me, of course haha !! He starts back to school, or work, in two weeks so next week he is going hiking for three days in the Volgas mtns there. in October, we will hear the results of the lawsuit from the teachers about their retirement. in Dec, he turns 65 and will put in for his retirement. Long months ahead, and all we can do is survive. He will do better once he starts back to work and has more things on his mind.
        I have 2 small ac units and ceiling fans. And regular fans. Tonight I just shut up the bedroom and left the ac on to cool it down. I spent a good deal of time tonight on the porch. Canned some more tomatoes. Lots of soups and chilis coming up this winter !
        Stay cool and when all else fails, sit on an ice pak !! I have done that this summer as well !
        Love
        Tonie

  18. WHAT A GREAT BLOG SUE. IT REALLY TOUCHED MY HEART. GOING THR.OUGH LOTS WITH AUNTY THESE DAYS. SHE WANTS TO MOVE BACK HOME. WE HAVE A MEETING WITH THE GERIATRIC TEAM ON SEPT 1st. NOW AUNTY THINKS SHE WILL MOVE ON SEPT 2nd……. AND IT GOES ON AND ON AND ON. LOVE TO ALL ON THE BLOG. XXX. GOD BLESS

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    • Suzanne, so sorry you ‘re still struggling with auntie. Hope it works out as it must. Poor old dear that she is. Thanks for sharing with so many of us the pics of your garden. Beautiful. So glad you finally got to have summer in Canada.
      Sue

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  19. Lori M., Thanks for sharing your joy for the day. Bet that toad could really hop…much better than either of us. Glad you got to the lake. We had a ski boat when I first became ill and I couldn’t handle the ride but Jim and the kids still enjoyed water skiing for a couple of years. Sold it when we moved here. It had lots of dry rot but still miss it… One chapter of our life filled with memories we can share. Jim and I almost moved to your area of CO many years ago to run a clinic for Exxon but it fell through due to oil reserve market. One move we regretted but obviously wasn’t on the plan for our lives. Hang in there today because your joy quota is filled. Sue

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  20. Tonie, wrote you a nice long reply last night and lost it. I was too tired to write it over again. Now…I am sorry your dear friend is still recovering from that long, miserable trip but not terribly surprised. I’m sure once he got there he was once again reminded of all the changes in his beloved country. I know none of us can quite relate to what you two are going through, but I hate to see it from afar. I’m so pleased you have your faith to trust in that all will be right for the two of you. Just look at how the two of you found each other in this great big troubled world. Life can be complicated but wonderful. You have been so busy but at least we all know where to look for food this winter. I remember all the relatives in the midwest having cellars full of canned goods when I was growing up. I never realized, of course, how much work it was.
    Hope the house sitting works out for you. It’s a brilliant idea for you. Hot here today but at least it is supposed to only last through Sat. Hope you are cooling off. It’s that humidity that really makes it hard to breathe. Pretty quiet here with the grands coming tomorrow. School doesn’t start here until after Labor Day. Hope you’re getting that swimming in, maybe today? Later, Love you, Sue

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  21. Hi all
    Another week gone.its five weeks we’ve been here now
    Settling down a bit more ..sorted out all the kitchen cupboards again to how I think I want them .only have 8 boxes in garage to unpack .but they are jst attic stuff so only have to split the boxes to make them lighter to go into attic
    Did a general clean up….so it’s falling into place
    Breakfast out tomorrow
    Tonie
    Yes I do think house sitting is a really good idea .different houses.different people ..you are good with animals .whats not to like …
    You can choose what you do…I like the idea
    Much cooler here today and rainy.gives gales tomorrow
    Sue
    Hope you had a good day with the grands…..
    Writing this in conservatory and going to bed shortly
    Chris
    I’ve just put my email and name below and it’s turned another colour so I bet this gets lost

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    • Chris, sorry you thought you were having trouble…obviously the colors were not signs of trouble. They all showed up on here Love that you are settling in and feeling more at home in your lovely house. How are you feeling?
      Yes, we had a fairly good day with the grands but it was too hot to do more than take them out for breakfast. It broke records here today and was 95 degrees F, which is I believe about 36 degrees C. People just don’t have AC here because we thankfully only have a very rare day of heat. My eyes are so dry and painful and I feel out of breath. This is why I left CA. Supposed to pass by tomorrow after two days of this. I sure do miss our pool from CA. We do have a community pool but it is so full of chlorine gas I can’t handle it. Okay, enough complaining. The grands are always a joy and we watched movies after we got back from breakfast and played games. George walked around with a wet washcloth on his back whenever possible and it helped. He’s not used to this stuff.
      How is DH feeling these days. SO happy for both of you that so much has calmed down for you both. Much love, Sue

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  23. Ok it’s gone on but tired and off to bed now I’ll write again tomorrow .i see my post has turned green but on details below its pink
    Chris

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  25. Hello…….Just sold the house…..dreading te move in November, don’t feel up to it, silly I know, but having panic attacks already, and not sleeping. Got to have diagnostics and asbestos testing on Monday……there is no freaking asbestos in my house, had it checked before we moved here, what do the think, that we have installed some? Tonie, you have no idea of the red tape that goes on here, your FM will bear me out on that one, its not just people, its everything.

    Sue…glad to see you are getting out with the Grands, they will be back in school soon enough. Has Jim been joining you on these outings?
    Tonie, Lyn and everyone, sorry not to comment on the goings on, but not slept for a long time, I will try to get back at some stage, but in the meantime have a happy and peaceful weekend….much love Jennie

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    • Jen, so happy for you. All will work out but I can see why you are in a bit of a state with so much to do. Moving is an overwhelming task but somehow we always manage. You’ll be sharing much of what CHris just went through and Tonie not that long ago. One step at a time now. Love, Sue

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    • Jen
      So happy you sold the house ! Now stop worrying ! Everything will sort itself out and you know it. Yes FM says it is a mess to do anything there. It has not come this far to stop now. Keep the faith and rest !
      Love
      Tonie

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    • Jen, not to worry! I’ve not been sleeping well of late, either. Feeling stressed as well, so I completely get it! But congratulations on selling your house! I knew it would sell eventually. It’s so lovely. 🙂 Try to rest, friend, and take one day at a time. I know how overwhelming and stressful it all can be.

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  26. Sue
    So glad you can do more with the grands now. Sorry it is so hot there. We had that last week. Now it is cooling down at night. Still hot in the day. I have the AC going today. Got the parts for my washer. Had to get my brother to come help me. We needed four hands to accomplish it, but it is washing now and spinning good. Thank the Lord. I am trying to eat more protein everyday, see if it will help me loose more weight. I lost 2.5 lbs this week. So must be helping. Eating more eggs and fish. I just don’t care for meat that much…although, if it is not raining tomorrow I think I will grill me a hamburger. Go to the store and get a pack of potato buns, fresh tomatoes, onions, Jack cheese ! Yum !
    Chris, hope you are having a good weekend, glad you are settling in more. I still have things to sort out. Packed it all in the spare room and there it still is lol ! Lyn, hope you are okay. BSL, prayers for you on Nessie’s passing.
    Take care all
    Tonie

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    • Tonie, Good girl. Changing one’s eating habits has always helped me, too. I always laugh when we take the grands out for breakfast because GS orders his eggs hard boiled and only eats the white and I eat they yolk. He’s always like the whites best and for some reason can’t stand the yolks. I eat lots of eggs and love them but do grow tired of them at times. I also have to agree with you about beef. As I recall it upsets your gut as it does mine. I can handle pork, white meat chicken and more exotic things like bratwurst or sausage. We are near a lot of fish but need a closer to town fish market. I envy you all the access you have to your wonderful garden. I know they’re a lot of work but seem to be worth it. You work so hard around your place you put me to shame but you also get the advantage of all that home grown physical therapy.. We have one little hamburger stand in town that makes an honest and delicious old fashioned burger and I do have one of those occasionally. I’m married to a meat and potato man.
      Jim can’t get enough red meat.
      Glad your weather has cooled a bit. We just aren’t used to or set up for that much heat. I don’t even own a short sleeve shirt. Lovely today, hanging in the 70’s.
      Hope you’re doing okay and the various “parts” are behaving, especially your back. Love ya, Sue

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  27. BSL….I’m so sorry that Nessie has passed away…it’s such a loss.im sorry
    Tonie
    What on earth are potatoe buns…..but it all sounds nice..we have hot weather for next Tuesday and Wednesday so I got some veggie sausages…have on BBQ with onions .they are called Cumberland ones and they are a herby type.good job to have washer fixed. Clever ol you
    Yep been doing again today..gardening and moving the conservatory about..chairs so we can see garden and lamps and stuff
    Just had a brilliant rainbow a complete one over us
    Good losing that weight that’s a lot in a week
    Jen
    All will be well….stages now to go thru..each one brings its own problems ….roll on November .just keep thinking of Christmas back here. Main one was the sale that was the biggy
    Good to have the survey done so quickly they must be keen and want to use it by Christmas themselves
    I know you have to sort out a house in uk tho .its gonna be all go ,so deep baths and deep breaths. And relax ….easy said innit
    Sue
    Sounds like your enjoying your life and town and coast ..I like that
    Well sitting here and it’s windy and rainy and nice in here….gotta move sometime tho
    Hope this goes on
    Chris

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    • Chris, Lovely to see you enjoying your new home. So much of it is so conducive to just enjoying life. Lovely indeed. So much fun and such a satisfying feeling to get settled into a new home. Makes me feel all the more sorry for all those folks here in our country who have lost their homes to fire and flood this past week. Sorry you didn’t know about Laura’s dear Nessie. We all know it from FB and she passed this week. Such a loss for Laura as she was far more than a pet.
      Fun to compare foods with all of us. I’ll let Tonie explain potato buns. Speaking of food it’s about dinner time here and I’m making eggplant parmesan for me. Haven’t had it in a long time. Jim wouldn’t go near it of course so steak for him. I have to peel the eggplant and sweat it for awhile to keep it from being too soggy.
      Isn’t it wonderful about Jen selling her house? So happy for her. Lots of work as you can recently testify. Always so good to hear about you and your life. Love ya, Sue

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  28. Sue
    I’ve missed out on the news…haven’t watched tv much or radio .in the conservatory I just read.so it’s good for DH bp no news ..so no idea what’s going on..I’m usually a news addict…it sounds dreadful
    It is good fun to see what you call other things for eggplant we got aubergine
    I like it and use it in a moussaka
    Yea I’m waiting on potato buns!!
    I think Nessie was a sheltie..they are lovely dogs we used to have one,a sable and white.
    Yes so pleased for Jen …Jen can start getting on with things now.instead of just waiting and hoping
    A lot to do tho,but it’s moving to the right goal
    Just done a bit of gardening..have had to start on some anti inflams…tried not to but I rather do stuff
    Quite pleasant here bit of a breeze and sunny between clouds
    Hope all having an good weekend
    Chris

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    • Chris, sounds like a calm, lovely existence right now for both of you after all the work of the move. Our weather brought rain today. Supposed to get hot again by the end of this coming week. Hopefully it won’t get as hot as last week. Yuk.
      Laura’s Nessie was a Golden retriever and such a lovely helper for her. Big loss in Laura’s life.
      I am pleased to hear you are taking something for the joints. Life must go on. Good to stay away from the news and often the TV in general. Since I’m having trouble reading due to eye trouble I have been watching more TV and trying to find more interesting channels. So much sad news here.
      Yes, the eggplant parm was delicious but have to beware the seeds. Usually use the Japanese eggplants but the old fashioned kind were fresher at the market. Pork roast ready to be seasoned, tiny new potatoes to be boiled and squash for dinner.
      Potato bread or buns are made from the starch from boiling potatoes and sometimes mashed potatoes to get the vitamins. They make a very moist bread. Hope the joints improve dear girl. Love, Sue

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  29. Hello, everyone, just a quick pop on and catch up. Jennie, I did reply to you above.
    Like Sue, I wrote a comment the other day which disappeared and I didn’t have the energy to rewrite. Chris, I believe Nessie was a golden retriever. BSL did have a Shellie that passed not too long ago as well. Nessie was a special companion for sure.
    I forget what I may have shared earlier and what was lost in my post that ended in the ether. I had that 2nd basal cell cancer spot removed Friday and am still in the flare caused by the inflammatory response. Unfortunately, I have a concert to sing tonight with the group I sing in. Trying to rest as much as possible in preparation. Will take my stand and stool. The timing stinks. Glad to have another cancer out of my body, however. Yesterday was our 28th Wedding Anniversary and DH pampered me pretty well. I did manage to get out to dinner at our favorite local restaurant and it was completely worth the effort! We had delicious meals and a nice, relaxing time. I’m a little concerned though that that short outing tired me out so. Concerns me for this evening. Lying low today.
    SB has moved out to an apartment with 2 buddies to attend college a bit further away – same institution, different location, which will allow him to take all the classes he wants on one campus. Had he remained here, he would have had to go to 2 different campuses to get all the courses he wants. I think it will be good for him (I hope, anyway, as long as they can all focus on school!) and a good reprieve for us. When I have the time and energy I plan on attacking his room here to deep clean it. Boys. DD is doing well and been doing her share of pet/house sitting. She is away again for a few days doing that. Tonie, I think that sounds like a perfect side job for you! I have a lot of things going right now and a higher level of stress than I should. Adding to the stress, one of our cats has been vomiting a lot off and on now and we’ve been working with our vet on the cause. Blood tests and xray are all fine. We started her on a special diet thinking it is likely IBS, but now this weekend she’s been vomiting again on the new food (which she was adjusting fine to) and antacid and antibiotic. The next step, I think is an ultrasound. It is all adding up to lots of $$ and lots of stress for me. Between the cat throwing up and not being able to sleep due to the incision and stitches (4 inside, 5 outside) on my back, rough weekend.
    Sue, my goodness, 95*! That is very hot for you out there. I hope it passes quickly.
    Chris, I am also happy to see you settling in. Time to enjoy your new home!
    Wishing the best to everyone who follows here! Time to rest some more. The fatigue is taking over.

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    • Lyn, The back is indeed a very uncomfortable place to have stitches…not much flexibility and then having to lie on it. Hope the discomfort passes soon. Oh yes, the old immune system does like to complain. WIshing you strength for today as you sing. You’ll find it and probably crash a bit after. The temps here reached 97 by the end of the day and in here it was well over 100+. We have a small one room free standing AC unit that worked its little heart out but didn’t really do any good until about 9 PM. We’re to have a bit more later in the week. Poor Georgie…walked around with his wet cloth over him which helped a bit.
      I am so sorry to hear one of the cats is having GI trouble. Which one is it? Hope you get an answer soon and I sure do understand how it can add up but there we all are with our wallets open for our babies. Speaking of babies, so SB is in an apartment with the guys. I can’t believe how quickly he has changed and grown since I have known you these ten years. Oh but life is often speeding when we would prefer a slower pace, huh? I would imagine he will like it, maybe too much at times but such is life. He will also undoubtedly add to his sense of responsibility. Sounds like a sound move for the college courses. My eldest GD went off to college this week in TX, also.
      I’ll be thinking about you today as you perform and pray all goes well. SIng prettily as you always do. Love, Sue

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  30. Good morning all
    Sue, thanks for explaining the potat buns. Chris, once I had them for hamburgers and hotdogs, it is all I want them on. So soft and moist, even if you toast them. Supposed to be clear today, so I plant to pick some up and grill a burger for supper.
    Lyn, hope your singing went well and that your back is doing better. That is a lot of stitches. My babies have fleas and I must pick something up while I a, out to swim today. The collars work well until August, then they don’t.
    I found this awesome bread, for those of you in the states. It is Daves Killer Organic bread. Made in Oregon. Full of nuts and seeds, I get the power seed type. 1 g of sugar, 5 G protein , 5g fiber, 440mg omeag3,20g whole grains. It is awesome to toast. I have two slices every morning with fruit. It is non gmo and organic certified, so there is all you need to know. FM found it at Walmart
    I have to swim this am, then back and can one more batch of tomatoes . The dogs love them too. They stand and wait when I am cutting one to get their snack, and cucumbers as well. And I must mow today if the sun stays out and dries the grass. We had so much rain yesterday. I wanted to walk, but… Took a nap instead. It is definitely becoming fall. Soon it will time to pick the apples and make apple utter for my FM ! He loves that stuff.
    Well, one more cup of coffee then off to the water !
    Love to all
    Tonie
    Ps stupid blonde chicken, I have had to put her back on her own nest twice now. She gets off to drink and sits on the fresh eggs instead !

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  31. I’ve seen what they call Irish farles here they are potato bread thingies..I’m gonna get some next shop.also I recall potato bread ..never took much notice before..hate shopping as DH always feels Ill in big shops with his Menieres ..so I spend little time in them.need him to help me
    That bread sounds like one I get for DH
    I have to have boring white!..however will now try potato one
    Lyn
    Hope your cat is getting better by now.you are certainly busy again I’m sure the event went well.and hope you got the rest you needed
    We got some good news DH psa was high last time..he is under surveillance.but it was down to normal with the result in today .we had been concerned since May .so that’s off our plates
    Had the motor fixed in the roller door in garage.it only worked sometimes….so that’s another out of the way .got the gas boiler being checked over tomorrow .
    Went to physio for hip this morning..he is sending me for an ultra sound of the soft tissue
    Going to be 29c tomorrow…..going to do those veg sausages on BBQ .
    Back later
    Chris

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  32. Just caught up reading. Tonie, et al, we enjoy potato bread rolls, too, and indulge in them from time to time. Tonie, that bread sounds yummy! I love grainy breads and finally just started to buy them for myself. Others in the family aren’t fans. I will look for that one.
    Sue, the kitty is Lily. Will have to give the new food a month or month and a half to see full result, they say. I feel so bad for her.
    Concert went well last night, but it was a battle for me. I did use stool and stand, which helped. I really wasn’t in shape to be spending that much energy and am paying the price. In the worst flare I can remember. Chatting with BSL for a few tips. I think she has been in my shoes as far as the singing and flares. Time for some meds and rest.

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    • Lyn, hope you are recovering by now from the concert. Pushing through may sound noble but it can be a killer. I know. Hope Lily’s new food helps her. It is a worry for you I know when she isn’t well. Hope your heat is calming down back there and you have been able to have a bit of down time with your lap filled with a kitty and a good book in your hand.
      Quiet morning here as Jim is now out to lunch with the doctors he used to work with at the jail and George and I are resting. Had a very full last two days with the grands; too much yesterday. DIdn’t wake up this morning until 10AM. We went to a lovely little, popular beach town not far from here and shopped and ate lunch. We strung out the day so much we didn’t get to the beach which was about 100 yards from where we were. Wind kept things cool, in fact a bit of fog rolled in. We spent quite a bit of time in an antiquities shop owned a deep sea diver. The shop was filled with treasure currently for sale from many of his quests. Many were well known dives and the guys especially were very interested. GS has read a lot about a couple of the treasures and it was fascinating. GD was extremely bored I’m afraid. Great fun.
      Hope life is quiet for awhile for you and hope SB is enjoying being out on his own with his buddies. Life moves on, huh? Love, Sue

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  33. Hello……sorry I am trailing behind with everyone, not had time to myself, got to do it all at the business end, DH useless at this sort of thing, and I am not 100% sure of what I am doing either, bit out of sync with it all.
    Got us registered with a few agencies, but they all agree, its a bit early and to contact them at the end of September, for a move in November. Trying to slowly clear stuff out, put some stuff up for sale yada yada……
    Chris……you know exactly what I mean….hoping my Son Tim, will be able to find storage space for us within his company when the time comes, that will be one problem less.
    Sue……I loved the photo’s you put up of your house and garden, so peaceful like mine…..can’t tell you how much I will miss our garden.

    Tonie just sent you a PM….

    Lyn….thank you for your kind hearted comments…….I Lily will be alright, and relieved for you that you got the cancer spot fixed. Happy belated Wedding Anniversary, glad you got spoilt.

    Janet……thank you for thinking of me, hope you are okay.

    Laura…….So sorry that you have lost your beloved Nessie, heart breaking for you, so much happiness for you to look back on, and hopefully you will start to heal soon….

    Keep safe each, and I will try harder to keep up to date……..much love…Jennie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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    • May have missed a few words out, and the spelling leaves a lot to be desired….so hot here, and my fingers are sweaty….well that’s my excuse and I am sticking to it….quite literally…..lol

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  34. Good morning all
    Well, Tuesday another round with Ms Alice, so I will be very tired this afternoon. Heard from the FM this morning, he is off to the mtns for his hike before school. Said today is the first day he has felt good since his return. Hopefully he won’t have to do it anymore.
    Got the last of the tomatoes done last night. Just put garlic and hot pepper in to make salsa when I want it. I still have tons of green ones in the garden, but mostly grape tomatoes. I took a bunch of the, to church Sunday , to the pleasure of my sisters there ! Got the yard mowed, tomatoes picked and flower bed cleaned out ( that was the hardest) where crabgrass had taken it over. Finally got supper around 8 last night.
    Lyn, glad it all went well for you. Hoping Lily will be well. I thought Brutie was better and this morning he is coughing again with mucus.
    This Friday I travel to Lexington, Va to see the Mustangs. I am excited ! Meet lots of horse people like myself. One of the trips I promised I would make. So lots of pictures. It is about 2.5 hours from me, so not so bad. I will stay overnight and come back Sat evening. Leave the pups in the pen, which they won’t like but…..
    Well gotta run. Have a great day all !
    Love
    Tonie

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    • Tonie, so pleased to hear about your trip to see the Mustangs. I know you’ll be sharing lots of pics with your FM. Sounds like a good experience for you. I am sorry to hear Brutie is coughing again. How old is he?
      Quiet morning here after sleeping in. I’m so beat from yesterday. Over an hour at a little restaurant on the coast in Cannon Beach, OR was a bit too much for my sitter. GS will be 13 next week and he is growing like a weed. We had to order a second lunch of hamburger and fries for him after he scarfed down the first. Did me in but so much fun. I love talking to the kids and hearing their chatter. We walked around a bit afterwards because the little town, just yards from the sea has a lot of interesting shops. We took the kids to the candy shop and they went crazy. I told them to only get what their Mom would approve of but also added that indulging them was our job and taking them to the dentist was their Mom’s job. They promised to brush extra hard last night.
      The town we visited is about half hour from our home and it was tourist season so it was all crowded. Lots of dogs so I was glad we didn’t take George. He’s not all that friendly. I think he’s often frightened and very possessive of both Jim and I. It was fun to see folks from all over the world enjoying the beauty of the OR coast. The vegetation along the coast is something to see. I often feel badly that we are so green and moist when so much of CA is on fire.
      I’m having trouble getting onto the internet so don’t know what to do. I’m fine on here, FB and Amazon because I had them pinned on but nothing else will open up. My computer person moved out of the area so have to find a new person. Irritating as heck. Wish I had your knowledge of computers. We old folks are out of our league I”m afraid. Have a wonderful time on Friday and be safe. Love you, Sue

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      • Sue
        When your computer does that just shut it down and reboot it. Usually that is all it takes. So happy that you are getting out and about again. And this time, not alone but with Jim and I know this is something you have wanted for some time. God is good amen ?
        Trying to get all taken care of before my trip. I have to leave the boys in their pen and they will not be happy, but …. I got fresh shavings to go down and my brother will feed the chickens. So all is well. Oh, I must charge my camera. Although my phone takes great pictures I like my camera.
        Brutie is almost 10. Ceasar is not friendly either, he is very possessive of me, and of his territory here.
        Love
        Tonie

      • Dear Sue, When we lived in Washington,we would go camping in the Oregon state parks every summer.. So beautiful.

        Seeing a new Orthopedic surgeon for my back. Setting up for an MRI, then will see what he says. Surgery seems to be out
        due to my age and multiple problems. Wish me luck and prayers wouldn’t hurt. Love, Janet

  35. We’ll have to get a new pump for boiler…..it’s just out of warranty …they must have known about it
    So got the makers of it coming tomorrow ..the service men was honest and said its gonna be expensive so best this way incase another fault appears.also he he looked in loft for the flue to it..he used the light there and it tripped the meter…so back on but have to get electrician to look at it.
    It’s hot here 29c so I’m a bit upset…..still better DH psa ok than anything else
    Oh yes the new expensive patio table I noticed today too it’s legs are corroding ..so had to get on to them as they are guaranteed and none in stock now but they are emailing me to say a new one in the spring and I can use it till then …if I don’t like any then I’ll have money back…..could have the money now but we use it..the firm are very good and established so I trust them.JOHN LEWIS..Jen
    just could have done without the three things all this morning
    Boiler man coming tomorrow now..hope it’s an easy job…I bet it’ll mean draining down…ugh
    So thought bugger it..had that BBQ
    I managed to only get the Irish potato things like flatbread..but with sausages mushrooms and onions it was all nice”………and im going out for an icecream tonight folks!
    That’s it gonna rest now hip very sore got frozen peas on it
    Chris

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    • Chris, so much going on with you and now terrible heat today. I hate that when it happens here and know how hard it is for both of you. You’re probably right, the former owner knew about the boiler. I’m assuming that is what we would call a hot water heater. We had to buy a new one the week we moved into this house, also. Irritating and expensive. I’m sorry about your lovely new patio table. Hope it is a good company and they are true to their word. DIsappointing when that crap happens to us but it sounds like a decent situation for replacement. Good news about DH’s PSA. Ice cream sounds like the answer for most of these ills in your life, right? One problem at a time sweet friend.
      Yes, we had a lovely day with the kids yesterday down in a pretty little beach town right on the ocean called Cannon Bch, however it was much harder on me than I thought it would be. My walking isn’t good, especially after sitting for an hour and a half on a hard chair. Right hip and both knees are bad right now. I do have more energy from the Lyrica but the joints are still mostly bad. Moving around more is better. The little village was packed with tourists, sidewalks crowded but all in a pleasant mood. Always so much fun to have Jim and I talk with the children. THey are our two youngest grands and growing so rapidly. Our GS who was with us yesterday is entering his teen years next week and asked me to make his favorite cake for his birthday. That would be the lemon jello yellow cake. He can never get enough of it. Beth said she asked him what kind he wanted, i.e. ice cream cake, chocolate from the bakery, etc. and he wanted this one. I just keep thinking how precious time is for us older grandparents and the way our grands open up with us is wonderful. Spent today down. Slept late.
      Keep enjoying your lovely house, while you’re fixing its flaws. I am sorry you’ve had to put peas on your hip. Do you have one of those refreezable bags? THey are nice and soft. Any help you can get sounds good. That hip has been hurting for quite awhile now. Take care, much love, Sue

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  36. HI ALL, SO MUCH GOING ON. PLEASE FORGIVE ME FOR NOW. WE ARE ON OUR SECOND DAY OF BABYSITTING AND HEADING OUT AND DOWN THE COAST RIGHT NOW. I’LL BE BACK LATER…LOVE EACH OF YOU, SUE

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  37. Sue
    It all sounds so good for you….I’m sure you’ll need to rest after but enjoy it .good to know that’s what your enjoying
    Chris

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  38. Hi…….just had bad news, Tim’s Claire has been rushed to hospital with pneumonia, she has been on oxygen all night and IV antibiotics, waiting to hear if its strepp or legionella……bacterial or viral……what a time to have this, not that there is ever a good time. Poor Tim dashing between hospitals, job and building a house….told him she comes first, and he will have to put all else on hold.
    gosh its so hot here, waiting for hairdresser to come and give my sweaty hair the chop.
    Wishing you all a good day.
    Sue enjoy the Grands,
    Chris……get your three things sorted, then take a break….yes good old JOHN LEWIS xx

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      • Janet, answering you here because there was a reply slot. Indeed, both WA and OR are so beautiful and green. I had never seen a water lily until I moved here…only in books.
        I’m glad you’re having an MRI although it may be a bit uncomfortable, at least you’ll get some answers. There are other things to help besides surgery so wait and see. I’m sorry it seems to be worse. Prayers and hugs. Sue

  40. Chris
    We have a saying “when it rains, it pours”. Hoping it is not too expensive for you. But better to ge it all done before winter.
    Jen, prayers for Claire. That all turns out well. Yes, I see where it is 88 in France today, and that is up North in Colmar. FM is in the mountains watching the goats, so he is probably cooler. Here it is fall like. Tomorrow it is to be 90′. Crazy weather.
    Sue, hope you are having fun with the kids. I am so happy that you can get out and go again now.
    Well, sitting with Ms Alice while she naps. After work I am going to swim. Friday going to Lexington, so no swim.
    Take care all
    Tonie

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    • Hi Tonie and Chris…….Claire’s oxygen levels are more stable, but her b/p is very low….she is comfortable and we will know more when the Doctors come round in the morning…..she says she is wiped out right now.
      Tonie, its been 100f here today, the hottest I have ever known it here.
      Chris…..bet its great by the coast today, lucky thing, hope to make it there before September is out and the kids are back in school.
      Here’s hoping tonight is cooler, can’t sleep in this.
      Love to all
      Jen x

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  41. Sue
    Your day with grands sounds so good .you must feel it good too that your GS opted for your cake ..id like that
    Well I blamed the previous owner and I was wrong..it was the bloke who serviced it..I used to have him for years do our old boiler..well this bloke came from the makers and there was nothing wrong he got it going….so it cost us twice!.
    But I then had it insured for six mths too..so another expense!
    Then when he looked for the flue in roof that tripped the meter using the light up there,then that morning my glasses broke in my hand..so going for an eye test today ..have to use an old pair till I get them
    Forget have I said this before ……so electrician out again and also the gate we had has dropped a bit on one side so he’s to come out too!
    So with all that we thought a trip to coast yesterday evening was good along with the icecream
    The boiler is what we call a combi one it does the hot water and also the central heating for the house
    Tonie
    We have that saying too and it’s a monsoon here!
    Enjoy your day out I know you will

    Jen
    Hope the news is good and Claire is much better. She is a strong girl and will pick up quick .
    Chris

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    • Chris, I’m late getting on here today. We saw something for the GS who is turning 13 and decided to get it for him so went back down to Cannon Beach to buy it and a T shirt that says “EAT MORE CANDY” that he saw on Tuesday and liked. SO, that is a long way to say why I’ve been absent this AM.
      Oh my, oh dear and my gosh!!! You have been sucked into a vortex of problems. I am so sorry for all your trouble but grateful you are finding responsible people to fix it all, eventually. Hope you got that trip to the coast and ice cream. You sure did earn both.
      Thanks for explaining about the boiler. That’s what Jim said when I asked him about it. Yes, we do share a common language…yet we don’t. I think, hearing you have a bleed near the eye or at the back of the eye, makes me grateful you broke your glasses. Good to find that when you did.
      I don’t know what to say except I’m pleased you are surviving all of this and hopefully have the means to pay for it all. Don’t let any of this mess take the joy out of the house for you, okay? Sending you love and concern, let me know what you find out about the eye, okay? Love, Sue

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  44. HELLO….BAD NEWS I’M AFRAID, CLAIRE TOOK A TURN FOR THE WORST LAST NIGHT AND IS BACK ON OXYGEN, AND IS BEING BLASTED WITH ANTIBIOTICS…….THEY ARE TALKING SUPERBUGS HERE, AND HER PARENTS HAVE BEEN SENT FOR. PLEASE PRAY LIKE MAD FOR HER, IF TIM LOSES HER IT WILL UNDO HIM……SHE IS A FIGHTER AND FORMERLY VERY FIT, WE ARE HOPING THIS WILL WORK IN HER FAVOUR.
    TOO CHOKED UP TO SAY ANYMORE, JUST WAITING NOW, AND ITS HELL….XX

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    • Jen, since I’ve already answered you on a PM all that’s left to say is to assure you we are each praying for Claire, TIm and of course, you my dear. This is frightening, I know but remember God has this and also, medicine has come a long way about these damnable superbugs. Hugs and encouragement. Sue

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  45. Jennie
    Saying a prayer for Claire as I type. Lord be with her and heal her we pray. So much going on everywhere with all. Chris, I figured that saying came from ya’all over there. So much of our expressions are passed down from our heritage. Jennie and I used to play a game. She would write things in slang and I would try to translate them. So much I knew. Here in Va and the Carolinas, so many settlers from Europe, it is all a mishmash of customs, and language.
    Janet, wish you were here to go with me to see the Mustangs. I know we would have fun ! I am having trouble with my hip. Not the bursa, but deep in, affecting my leg. I need to get an apt today to see the orthopod. Called yesterday and the gal got my insurance backwards, thought it was an HMO which he doesn’t take. I have to call back , it is a PPO, so I am good. My mouth is very sore where my partial goes, but it has been moving from place to place of late so thinking it is the RA. Getting sores like blisters. Anyone do that ? I went to swim after work last night and I think I will start doing that on Wednesdays. It was so nice , came home tired and hungry .
    That way I will get a swim in every other day like in the winter. My French lessons are coming along good. I can pronounce a little better and read some things. FM left me some horse books in French to practice and says he is going to focus on his English more. He hates having an accent and people asking where he is from all the time.
    Well must get ready for work. Chris, hang in there. Lyn, hope you try the bread.
    Have a great day all
    Love
    Tonie

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    • Tonie, I didn’t know you were studying French but OF COURSE you are. You certainly have the motivation to learn and it sounds like you are doing very well.You will be at such an advantage when you go to France because you’ll know what folks are saying about you. It will also be so good for your guy.
      Sorry to hear about your mouth and yes, the configuration of the mouth changes with the jaw inflammation. Happens to me frequently. SOunds like that hip joint may be full of osteo or RA. Glad you’re getting it checked out, hopefully soon. Swimming sounds fantastic just don’t over work that hip. Swimming is the best exercise around for the joints and the overall system,, heart, lungs, etc. We are all so complicated and there is always something that hurts, goes away, comes back or needs fixin’. Have a wonderful time with the horse folk and the mustangs.
      As far as the dogs, they are all so different. This fierce little beast is friendly but when someone comes too close to one of us he’s a tyrant or chases their heels. He seems to have a thing for big feet, especially if they are in tennis shoes. Jim and my son both wear a size 13 but of course he rarely chases Jim but our son, always when he visits.
      As far as the computer I have unplugged and rebooted the modem, unplugged, rebooted and sworn at the computer and nothing seems to work. I’m trying to ignore it for now. Too much going on. Later, love ya, Sue

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  46. Jen
    This is all so Sudden and out of the blue.its awful
    Il email you
    Tonie
    You are clever to be getting on with the French it’s difficult

    Well I had my eye test have had a small bleed at back of eye have to go to be seen at hospital ..she said it could be start of glaucoma as my mum and grandad had it..but all my pressures are good so it could be just sudden pressure once …so have to wait on that one
    So it all rolls on
    Chris

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    • Chris, as far as the eye is concerned…could it be trauma from extreme dryness? Also, may I ask if you ever have episodes of high blood pressure? I sure do hope life calms for you and you can have a long period of time without some “challenge” coming along. Love, Sue

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  47. Morning all
    Well one more cup of Joe and I am hitting the road. The dogs will not be happy when they go in the pen. Already I have been tracked because I have the suitcase out.
    Sue the French course is an app you download, duo lingo . You can learn several different ones. FM said he thought it was too advanced too quickly, but I a, struggling through. When my brain starts hurting I stop. But it has little lessons you do as many as you want, sends you reminders . So I am at least using my head for somethings besides a hat rack !
    Yes, I have an apt for the 9th of next month to see about my hip. Boy does it hurt. I don’t think it was the swimming though, I was doing open and close the gate exercises and pop !
    Well gotta get going. It is ridiculous what I take for an overnight trip ! And I pack snacks, water, etc for the road. A suitcase, pillow, heating pad, backpack with meds, cosmetics, shower stuff. Argh ! Used to throw stuff in a backpack for a week ! Now I am high maintenance .
    Well, look for my pics on FB !
    Love to all
    Tonie
    Jen, how is Claire ?

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    • Tonie, hope you are having good weather for your trek. So, you’re a high maintenance chick…the best are. You are so right. The more diagnoses we get the more baggage. Time also seems to add to our comfort needs. The dogs should be fine and love you all the more when you get home. Have fun and hope the hip calms down a bit. Good to know you have an appt. Love, Sue

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  48. I don’t think I have high bp..usually it’s normal to low
    The optician said it was probably from coughing or sneezing..but I have been constipated so maybe that..but she was sending me to hospital ,via my dr,as there is glaucoma in the family..but my pressures have always been the same and the field test always ok….so we shall see.she said it wasn’t an emergency at all..just a check up to make sure all ok as glaucoma can look like that
    Yea I feel just like that Tonie
    You enjoy it all ..quite an experience
    Hope Claire is picking up ands he gets results back soon..I know the cultures take time
    Warm here. Been putting hooks in garage to put the usual stuff on..putting stuff in plastic boxes to go into roof..it gives heavy rain all day tomorrow.
    It’s a long holiday w.end here
    Sue
    We used to do that, see what GS liked then go and get it…I know a long trip to do it….it’s the way we are!
    Chris

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    • Chris, glad you’re getting the eye checked for answers and peace of mind. Pleased you are getting rain after the heat you’ve had. I always love that here and it smells so good after a hot spell.
      What is the holiday you are celebrating in England this weekend? We are having an event in OR that makes it crazy out here for the weekend. It’s called the Hood to Coast rally. It means that people will run from Mt. Hood in Central OR, all night, and end up out here on the coast. ALways brings in a mess of tourists and congestion. It’s such a long run only the very dedicated attempt it. Hot here again today.
      It is fun to shop for the grands. After his birthday I’ll share what we bought. It’s interesting. Well, duty calls. Later, Sue

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  49. H ELLO,
    STILL WAITING FOR THE CULTURES TO COME BACK, HAVE TO BE SENT TO A SPECIAL LAB FOR ANALYSIS. EVERYTIME HER OXYGEN LEVEL REACH 100% THEY TAKE HER OFF TO SEE HOW SHE WILL COPE AND SHE DOESN’T SO BACK ON IT SHE GOES…SHE IS ON TWO DIFFERENT ANTIBIOTICS ORALLY, AND ONE THROUGH IV. NOW SHE IS BORED (GOOD SIGN)
    TIM IS DOING A BRILLIANT JUGGLING ACT, JUST HOPE HIS ENERGY DOESN’T FALL APART.

    CHRIS……ANOTHER EYE PROBLEM, OH HECK! I HOPE ITS NOT GLAUCOMA LOVE. LET ME KNOW WHAT THE OPT SAYS.

    TONIE…..WHERE ARE YOU GOING, CAN’T SEEM TO FIND IT IN YOUR POSTS, GOOD LUCK WITH THE FRENCH, I HAVE BEEN AT IT FOR 9YRS, AND STILL TRYING, SEEMS FUNNY YOU COMING OVER HERE, AND I AM LEAVNG. YES I REMEBER THE GAMES WE USED TO PLAY, IT WAS FUN….HOW ABOUT THIS ONE “TEK A LEWK” AND “ALLUS” AND “KNAWN” THAT’S ENOUGH FOR NOW….GOOD LUCK…LOL.HIGH MAINTENANCE, YUP ME TOO…..GOT TO GET A WHOLE LOAD OF ENGLISH PLUGS FOR WHEN WE EMMIGRATE ….LOL, MINE ARE ALL EUROPEAN, SO WHAT DO I DO ON AN 8HOUR TRIP ACROSS THE OCEAN WHEN THE HOTBRUSH IS NEEDED……OH MY THE THINGS I HAVE TO THINK ABOUT. AND THATS BEFORE I EVEN GET TO THE PILLS AND POTIONS…..

    ON A MORE SERIOUS NOTE…..PLEASE KEEP PRAYING FOR CLAIRE, SHE IS A LONG WAY OFF BEING WELL.
    MANY THANKS, NOT FORGETTING ANY OF YOU IN MY PRAYER EITHER
    JENNIE XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

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    • Prayers are continuing, Jennie. Thanks for the update!
      Now, back to resting with Lily, who is, by the way, doing better now on special (and expensive!) cat food.

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    • Jen, even though we’ve been communicating on FB, thought about what you said about Claire’s oxygen levels. That should gradually increase but it will be good when they actually know what they are treating. WIth three antibiotics they are sure sweeping it with a broad brush right now. That’s okay. Hope Tim is holding up okay. Prayers continue as you know. Love, Sue

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      • Hi Sue……..Claire still on oxygen and IV……its a holiday in the UK, so no labs open, longer to wait.
        Tim ok, his Dad has come to help him with the little house, Tim is off work for the week, so a relief not having to do two jobs for a week.
        Claire has managed to fins a cleaner for the big house, so not laying there fretting that their home is going to rack and ruin….do you have that saying in the USA??
        Another hot day here, makes you feel so tired all the time.
        Hope you had a good day out the other day. xx

        Lyn….glad Lily is doing good on the new diet……..thank you for your prayers. xx

        Chris……sent a pm…xx

        Bonne weekend to each……love Jennie xx

    • Jennie
      I went to the Extreme Mustang Makeover competition in Lexinton Va. Back , but exhausted. I met a nice lady and her daughter who were vendors there. The mother was from Southern England. She laughed when I told her about your word games ! Okay, these are different ones maybe. Take a lewk…..take a leak ? Allus……always or all of us, knawn…known ? Or noon ? You got me on them I think. Glad Claire is improving. Yes, on cultures, ya gotta wait on them little buggers to grow…or not. Then they will have to culture to see what will get rid of it as well, so it will be a few days. Ugh…I can smell that oven and the auger they grow the cultures on.
      Love
      Tonie

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  50. Hello all. Had a wonderful adventure, talked to a lot of nice people, took a lot of pictures (some are on FB and most are still on my camera waiting to be up,padded and edited). It was so hot yesterday 95′ and I think 100% humidity. I was soaking wet when I went back to the hotel last night. This morning was back there at 8 to meet the people who were in charge and trainers. I stayed until around noon and had to leave. I was exhausted. And it was already very hot again. The arena was not air conditioned. Saw some wonderful horses. If you give to charities for animals, the Mustang Heritage is a wonderful one. It is amazing what these people do with these horses in 100 days. 2 were from near me. I spoke with them, one younger, and one 51 year old both females. Wish I was 20 years younger and I would try one !
    Anyway. Here with the AC on, on the bed. Unpacked ( my least fav thing about a trip) have to pick tomatoes when it cools down some.
    Now to rest
    Love to all
    Tonie

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