DO WE HAVE AN EXPIRATION DATE?

Is it ever too late? Well, sure, when you stop breathing, when your heart stops or when you are Wiley Coyote and the Road Runner just dropped an anvil on your head. In the meantime, you’re alive. As far I know, I’m still alive; the question is do you and I have an expiration date?

I do have to confess there are days when parts of my body feel like they have passed their expiration date. I don’t feel curdled, like past date milk, but I do look curdled. This whole aging thing can be so depressing. I have a birthday rolling around and it has set me to wondering. I don’t squeak when I walk but I do click and pop a bit at times. I haven’t found any stamps on my body anywhere that state my expiration date is up, unless it’s hidden in a wrinkle somewhere. As a nurse I find it intriguing in a macabre sort of way that newborns enter the world with wrinkles, especially premature one and we leave the world with wrinkles. Newborns are self-focused and needy because they have to be for survival.  As infants we need diapers, and you know the rest if you know any elderly seniors, or actually anyone with that problem.  Life is a full-circle, indeed, but that doesn’t mean, because we live with daily pain that we have to start circling the drain.

I hate having a picture taken, up close, signs of aging and all. I do realize that sounds silly and shallow but there you have it; my confession. My family is used to looking at my decay. I guess I’ve been fooling myself. Now don’t give me that old line about, “You look great.” I don’t. “At least you’ve got your health.” I don’t. “But you have a family who love you.” Most of the time, I should say, that’s true. I remember my Mom used to say she felt young inside as she aged, except when she looked in the mirror. She lived to be 93. Which fairy tale was that with the “mirror, mirror on the wall?” Where are those magic mirrors when you need one? As I recall that involved a wicked witch and that’s the last thing I want to become.

Last week, I saw, up close and personal, the toll this past year has taken on my face, body and my health. I don’t want to be crass or embarrass anyone but the reality of living with one breast is with me constantly. Since I have had so much pain and tightness in my chest since surgery last year I have been “double bagging” it, or wearing two layers of clothing. I am discreet but with the latest physical therapy of the past three months I am almost back to full function except for the missing part. I thought I was at a point when I could actually go back to wearing a bra. I haven’t been able to see a professional fitter because the closest one is two hours away and my back and sitter have not allowed. I also didn’t feel ready yet due to the discomfort. The radiation therapy also caused me to have scoliosis which I am dealing with. A total car wreck would possibly explain it the best. Meanwhile, back to my story; I bought some padded bras and wore one the other day. It felt great but was still not quite right. I asked my daughter when they came over for pizza how she thought it looked, privately, of course. She said, “Well, Mom, the left one is smaller. I thought you bought an insert.”

I replied, “Well, I did but it’s too large. I guess I could buy one for the breast I have remaining but then it could be off balance. Then I have visions of ending up looking like Madonna in concert as I try to balance them out in front of me.”

We had a good laugh over that because I still think life is filled with humor. I must travel into Portland to get properly fitted. I must.

It’s all falling down. It’s one thing when your boobies descend as if reaching for the ground, but it is more heart wrenching when the prednisone induced jowls of your face fall to your shoulders. I lost thirty pounds in the last two years but apparently, fate is cruel and I lost it in all the wrong places. Please excuse me if I offend but I am here to announce, my ass is gone. Now, tell me, how can something that has disappeared still hurt this much? Life, you are so cruel.

When Jim got home from work I was still quite depressed, which was helped along by the usual pain everywhere. I told him, “Why didn’t you tell me I was getting so ugly? I can’t decide if I look more like Charlie McCarthy (the puppet of years gone by) or an apple doll (all wizened and dry). I used to be pretty, now I’m just sort of squidgy around the edges.”

After looking at me, as if for the first time, my dear husband, sitting on a kitchen stool prominently overweight, balding yet cute, stated, “Well, I don’t know,” while rubbing his protruding tummy, “I guess us glamorous people will just have to put up with you.”

I guess I have to officially announce that my expiration date is up. However, since I’m not a carton of milk, a medication or a carton of sour yogurt, I think I’ll just keep plodding along with what I have left. Mirrors will be covered, there will be no more pictures and I will continue to think I’m attractive as soon as I get over this current trauma. I’m also going to continuing going to physical therapy for another month so I can be all that I can be. That’s important to me to be able to live the fullest life possible.

I know the truth. We all age and should be glad if we’re still breathing. I know it’s never too late for second chances, new lives and all that. I also, truly know my heart and mind are still young. It will just take me awhile to get used to my shell falling apart. Remember that old camp song, “Do your ears hang low, can you wag them to and fro? Can you tie them in a knot, can you tie them in a bow?” Well, choose a part of your body, like sagging boobies and sing out, loudly. We’re never too old to laugh at ourselves, right?

I will also continue to flaunt my license plate holder that states, “SCREW THE GOLDEN YEARS.” Don’t look at me. I didn’t say it. The license plate holder did.

196 thoughts on “DO WE HAVE AN EXPIRATION DATE?

  1. You’re certainly leaving me with a smile on my face. For that I’m so thankful, dear Sue. I look forward to the next ten years or so as I also lose those body parts that seemed so important at one time. Please understand they have already started to decline but the trip has just started. You almost make me look forward to it. Big smile!

    • Hi Jan, thanks so much for enjoying the blog. Sometimes I can be a bit irreverent, but do try to keep it in good taste however, life is such a laugh at times. I believe the ability to laugh at ourselves is so healing, don’t you. It sort of tickles as it trickles in us like fizzy water. Indeed, none of us are getting out of here alive. I try very vehemently to find the joy and some days, it’s a total challenge and I don’t succeed. Sounds like you do the same. Fondly, Sue

  2. Great blog Sue:
    Yes, I remember that song. My mother used to sing it to me. Silly thing, funny how that stuff sticks with you. I would sing about my boobies. I hate that so much. Having such a large chest to begin with, well they fall very quickly, and are getting worse the more weight I loose. I never had many wrinkles, but that is because fat fill them out 🙂 Now I see them popping up all over. Oh well, I am still glad I am loosing weight. Like you, I avoid mirrors and cameras. I like to be behind the camera. Not in front of it.
    So sorry you have been sick my friend. I hope you wind up flushing those chemo pills and feeling better.
    Jim is a jewel. Makes me laugh thinking of him doing that . He comes thru when needed that is for sure.
    Well, waiting on daughter to come rolling in sometime this morning. So must sleep a bit. And I have work tomorrow as well.
    Love to you all
    Tonie

    • Tonie, I think that’s why you often hear fat people are jolly because they don’t sag as much as we skinnier ones. I’m glad you’re losing the weight, too for your appearance and overall health. I so know so many dear to me who have trouble losing weight so you’ve done very well. Thank the Lord for the Shaklee products and your knowledge. I was just talking to Jim about Nikki’s trip and we were agreeing that’s quite a trip to make all the time but with little ones, it’s a challenge. I still remember not too fondly how you did it with a truck, two doggies and a broken wrist…glad that’s behind you dear friend.
      Yes, Jim can always be counted on for the wisest crack in the room. This whole aging business does have it’s humorous aspects. Take care and rest up. You’re gonna need it. Love, Sue

  3. Dear Sue,
    I had to smile when I read the part about you losing your ass. At least that’s one body part I can’t lose because I never had one. And yes, something you don’t have can surely be the source of much pain as my sitter has given me for the past 28 years. One cruel woman I used to work with would tell me I should put my slacks on backwards because my stomach sticks out farther than my ass does. Ha ha, some people are just a riot, aren’t they? You also mentioned the well meaning people who tell you to count your blessings which reminded me of when my father died of esophageal cancer. My boss at the time told me to be happy that he was in a better place and no longer suffering. I suppose she meant well but the words stung and offered no comfort. Life really can be cruel at times but you’re correct, we need to keep our sense of humor because, sometimes, it’s all we have. And God bless that husband of yours. I really like his sense of humor. Oh, and on the subject of boobies, I was talking with my lifelong best friend on Friday who just finished radiation therapy for breast cancer and we both laughed how we exercised as young teens, hoping to increase the size of our busts. Now I have large SAGGY breasts and there’s not a support bra on earth that will hold them up. Maybe I’ll just tie them in a knot, or a bow. Much love to you, Sue. Karen

    • Karen, thank you for sharing from your heart and your funny bone. I’m sorry we all have to run into folks who can be so boorish. It seems rudeness is often disguised as humor but it isn’t always funny, like your co worker thought she was so funny. Rude. I know when we suffer, others often try to comfort us but so often they’re just dipping into a shallow pool of ignorant remarks. Some of those expressions have been around a long time and should be put down.
      Hope your friend with breast cancer is doing okay after radiation. It’s a trip. I’m still peeling on my chest and my radiation was over a year ago last month. Powerful stuff.
      It is humorous how each of us have our own complaints, wishes and lost features. Life can be so heartbreaking and so funny and beautiful all at the same time. I’m glad you’re a friend to all of us on here. Sharing enriches our lives, don’t you think. Love, Sue

  4. Sue
    What a peep into how you are…and it portrays so well…and runs along with how I feel too.DH is such a winner to have with you.i would have given him a big kiss! I think it just shows what a close couple you both are and how well you know each other…I also think that comes from many happy years together
    Aren’t DDs the only person you can get talk to and get some truth from..I say some truth as it is always softened .but the truth is always there and appreciated
    AND I’ve gained weight on my face and I’ve lost a few wrinkles there …I’m gonna get em back ,that depresses me that I’ve gotta start again to loose weight ,along with everything else .cant look at it positively
    Your story sue ,I’ve felt…you are a brave lass and one who I could not imagine not having as a friend.where were you before a few years ago and how did I stay level headed then.
    Well I’m gonna read it again,then get up to go back home
    Give DH a big kiss from me too!
    Love Chris

    • Chris dear, hope you are home safely by now. I also hope you found all well there with your surroundings and your Dad. I’m so pleased he’s getting good care and is able to be at home. I know that was weighing so heavily on your heart.
      Why do you have to worry right now about gaining a bit of weight? My dear, you have so much going on right now, just try to enjoy life for awhile. If you keep beating yourself up over your weight, well, you’ll just have another thing to worry about. You’re so correct about our daughters. When that relationship is good, it can be marvelous and they can be your best friend. You and I are both blessed in that area with dear ones. My son called yesterday from “the road” where his work takes him. He was in Tennessee. It was good to get all the updates on the kids going back to school, etc. Always a lot going on in their lives.
      Well dear, think I’ll take this old falling apart body and try to get something accomplished…not much but enough for my conscience. Love, Sue

  5. SUE…..WHAT A GREAT BLOG……LAUGHED SO MUCH, BUT FELT YOUR PAIN TOO……I LOVE WHAT YOUR JIM SAID, A BIT LIKE MY DH……I SAY ” LOOK AT ME, WHAT A BLOOMING MESS I LOOK NOW”, HIS REPLY….”YOU ALWAYS LOOK BEAUTIFUL TO ME”….SHOULD HAVE GONE TO “SPECSAVERS”.
    I ADMIRE YOUR COURAGE MY FRIEND, LIFE IS TOUGH WITH SO MANY HEALTH ISSUES, BUT YOU TACKLE IT ALL WITH A GOOD SPIRIT…………….GEEZ! I HOPE I DON’T END UP WITH THE DIAPERS…..IN THE UK THEY ARE CALLED “NAPPIES”.
    IT WOULD BE GOOD FOR YOUR MORAL TO GET FITTED WITH SOME DECENT BRA’S, GIVE YOU A LIFT….PARDON THE PUN.
    LIFE IS NOT RUNNING TOO SMOOTHLY ON THIS SIDE OF THE POND……HOT AS HELL HERE, BUT LOTS OF PAIN GOING ON, MY OLD ENEMY THE EAR AND JAW PAIN, HAS DECIDED TO REAR ITS UGLY HEAD AGAIN, AND THE INSIDE OF MY RIGHT ELBOW FEELS ON FIRE, NOT TO MENTION MY HANDS……………………OH HECK! I FEEL A WINGE COMING ON, BETTER QUIT NOW…….DON’T BE AFRAID TO LOOK IN THE MIRROR SWEET FRIEND…….NOWT WRONG WITH THEE!!
    LOVE YOU…………….JENNIE XX

    • Dearest Jen, can’t help but think ye sound a bit like a Quaker maid with that last remark of yours. All of this nonsense has to be humorous or it would surely drag us under. I am so sorry to hear that awful pain in the ear and the jaw has returned. May it leave quickly is my prayer for you. Poor girl. Just when life starts to hum along even with a few rocks in the road and wham…one of the old enemies knocks on the door.
      What do you think is going on with your right elbow? Is it inflamed on the skin or the joint? Now hands, yuk. I have some beautiful rings, some from Jim and others from his family and have always worn a 4.5 ring size but now I can’t get most of them on due to changes in the joints on the right hand. Guess most of my problems are on the right because I use it more often. You know sometimes it is the little losses that hurt the most. I know I feel that way when I talk to friends who travel and get so envious.
      I’ll try not to crack any mirrors if you’ll promise to rest and get better. Love you much, Sue

      • HI SUE….ON MY TENS MACHINE AT THE MOMENT, EARLIER HAD MY HEAT LAMP GOING IN AN EFFORT TO EASE THE PAIN DOWN MY NECK AND EAR ETC….GOT A LONG WAY TO DRIVE TODAY 4 HOURS IN ALL, AND TURNING MY HEAD IS A NIGHTMARE, GOT TO PICK UP AN EXERCISE BIKE, AND TODAY IS THE ONLY FREE DAY MY DH HAS.
        THE ELBOW PAIN IS ON THE INSIDE PART OF THE BONE, MAKES ME CRY OUT AT TIMES.
        HAD TO LAUGH ABOUT THE QUAKER BIT…ITS GOOD OLD YORKSHIRE ACTUALLY, BUT YOU WERE NOT TO KNOW.
        GOOD LUCK WITH THE REHAB CENTRE, AND I HOPE THE PT IS STILL HELPING…..GOD BLESS…JEN X

  6. GREAT BLOG SUE. YOU HAD ME LAUGHING BUT ALSO THINKING ABOUT MY OWN BODY THAT IS NOW DOING IT’S OWN THING. I HAVE A PILLOW ON MY BED THAT SAYS “SCREW THE GOLDEN YEARS”. MY AUNT FROM CALIFORNIA GAVE IT TO ME. WHAT A LAUGH I HAD READING ABOUT YOUR LICENSE PLATE. I’M ALSO LOOSING MY BOTTOM BUT THAT’S ABOUT IT FOR NOW. WISH MY BELLY WOULD FOLLOW.
    DO TAKE CARE DEAR SWEET SUE. LOVE YOU!
    XXX

    • Suzanne, so good to hear from you as you’ve been a bit silent of late. Yes, I love that comment on the license plate holder. I have wacko signs all over my house, so guess I’m a bit of a clown. Don’t always feel funny but we must try. Hope you’re getting to enjoy all those wonderful plants you started and were unable to put out due to the snow. How does your garden grow? Productive I hope. Take care of that body and appreciate what you’ve got as long as you’ve got it. Love, Sue

      • DEAR SUE, SOME OF OUR PLANTS ARE DOING WELL. WE HAVE HAD SO MUCH RAIN THOUGH EVERYTHING IS A LITTLE LATE IN ARRIVING AND MY FLOWERS ARE BLOOMING AT THE WRONG TIME. BUT AT LEAST THEY ARE BLOOMING. IT WAS MORE WORK THAN I THOUGHT SO I HAVE HAD TO SLACK OFF A BIT AS MY KNEES HAD SWOLLEN TO TWICE THE SIZE. BABYSAT THE GRANDS LAST WEEK AND THEY WERE BOTH SICK SO NOW I HAVE THAT NASTY COLD WHICH HAS KEPT ME IN BED FOR 3 DAYS SO FAR. DH DOES NOT WANT TO BE NEAR ME IN FEAR THAT HE WILL GET IT. MISS YOU ALL BUT CAN’T SEEM TO BE ABLE TO KEEP UP WITH EVERYTHING THAT IS GOING ON AROUND HERE. DH DID BUILD ME A LITTLE GARDEN HOUSE. WILL HAVE TO TAKE PICS AND SEND THEM TO YOU. SO NICE NOW TO HAVE A PLACE TO PUT EVERYTHING.
        GOD BLESS YOU AND HOPE YOUR ISSUES GET BETTER MY DEAR. PRAYING FOR EVERYONE ALWAYS.
        XXX

  7. DEAR SUE…WHAT A GREAT BLOG, AND COMICAL AT THE SAME TIME FEELING YOUR PAIN. IT MADE ME LAUGH OUT LOUD AS READING IT WHILE I RELATED TO THE BODY PARTS DISAPPEARING, NAMELY, THE “SITTER” MY SITTER PROBLEMS ARE SIMILAR TO YOURS AND MINE IS MISSING IN ACTION, THOUGH THE PAIN CONTINUES THE MUSCLES HAVE ATROPHIED SO MUCH OVER THE YEARS AND ITS HARD TO GET BACK. BUT YOUR SPIRIT AND DETERMINATION ARE SPURRING ME ON TO DO MY P.T. AND TRY TO GET MORE EXERCISE. I THINK TO MYSELF IF YOU CAN DO IT, THEN I MUST TRY TO ALSO. IT WILL HELP WHEN THE TEMPS HERE COOL DOWN SO I CAN GO FOR WALKS OUTSIDE. 105 DEGREES IS NOT GOOD WALKING WEATHER. I SURE HOPE YOUR TUMMY ISSUES GO AWAY SOON FROM THE CHEMO DRUG. GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR P.T. AND KEEP IMPROVING. MY FATHER ALWAYS SAID THE GOLDEN YEARS WERE REALLY WHEN YOU WERE YOUNG. I THINK HE WAS RIGHT. THANKS FOR THE LAUGHS AND SMILES TODAY. JO XXXXX

    • Jo dear, you’re always welcome to a smile or laugh from me. It gives me pleasure to share the lighter side in all t buhe darkness we each bear. I know what you mean about the tush and did you notice, you even have to sometimes buy new pants. My problem is a large waist from the years of prednisone compared to my rear. Oh my.
      I’m glad you’re staying active and know how difficult that can be sometimes. I haven’t been to PT for a week due to the gastritis but am striving to keep up my exercises here at home. I will ready to leave PT very soon and am looking into cardiorehab lab at our hospital. They have a lot of equipment and it’s unlimited visits for $30 a mo. I qualify because I have an arrthymia and a history of heart disease. Think I would like the freedom of going and coming. I’ve missed a few PT appts. due to the unpredictable nature of my illnesses.
      Keep plugging away sweet lady. Life has to be made worthy sometimes, as hard as it may be. Love, Sue

      • Oh Sue, yes. I definitely have had to buy new pants and different kinds than I used to wear. I don’t buy jeans anymore. They’re so uncomfortable and feels heavy on my pelvis.
        I think going to the hospital rehab center is a wonderful idea and the price is right. And you can go at your own pace and on the days you don’t feel too bad. Excellent idea!
        I really haven’t been very active as of late…too hot here to walk outside and been working in the house getting it ready to put for sale. Hard to believe i accumulated so much “stuff” in 17 years, but love finding things i thought were lost!! That makes it sort of fun:) I will have lots of clothes to give to a charity too.
        Time to get dinner going. Have a good night all! XXX

  8. Suzanne, I am sorry to hear your flowers are off their pattern of life and probably the vegies, too. What a talented husband you have. My DH has many virtues, although not as many as he thinks he has, but they are not in construction. Heck, we don’t even let him have a hammer.
    Your knees sound so painful. Does ice help? or do you just have to be good and stay off of them? Maybe a nice little garden bench, the portable type, would help I have one I love that’s light weight and about the same height as a chair. I keep it dry on our porch and use it often for dead heading plants, etc. I don’t pull weeds. Too much bending over. I let the yard guy do that.
    I understand busy but just know you are often missed. Love, Sue

  9. Great to hear from everyone
    Suzanne I hope your virus clears up soon..a garden house sounds like a nice place to escape to!

    Well I’m home and a certain amount of trouble with my dad..winging a bit about having to pay extra for this carer..he needn’t have and could have had a cheaper one And nothing to pay ..but these are so good..and responsible I don’t know what the cheaper ones would be like …I think he just likes worrying me!.spent a lot of time this afternoon going thru the contracts so I got a bit cross with him
    Tired now developed toothache after the filling ..all around it..ugh back to her

    Chris

    • Chris, so sorry about your Dad and the tooth. What a pain both are. Stand your ground sweet lady. Hope you can get in quickly to the dentist before the weekend. Dry warm salt water rinses in the meantime, okay? Much love…Sue

  10. Jen
    I do hope all is well after this trip and you blimmin well feel like riding this bike! Hope you get to go out for a meal or enjoy part of the trip.you could do with some downtime to yourselves

    Well I had to go to Dr. Awake all nite with water trouble and yep I got an infection so on antibiotics. I think it’s been building up for some time I’ve had some problems and it just got worse
    Also showed her my knee and it’s all swollen behind it that would account for the can’t move it tight feeling
    Done something to ligaments and its playing up the muscles and knee.when I got home I couldn’t get up stairs with it to go to the bathroom with the water trouble…..So yep you’ve guessed!
    So also showed her another cyst on my finger joint and it’s another arthritic one.
    Could have done without the water trouble to go to Dr this morning as Dh had to go without a bp tablet last nite to change over to morning time and ofcourse it was up
    All we need is some antics from my dad now!
    Back later
    Chris

    • Chris, forgot to comment on this entry. SOrry about the bladder and hope the antibiotics clear it up quickly. Glad you had the knee checked. Did she have any advice…such as rest, ice, etc? My but your plate is full right now. Hugs. Sue

    • HI CHRIS….NO, NO MEAL, BUT WE DID STOP AT A BOULANGERIE FOR A BUN…….WELL COME ON, YOU CAN’T HAVE EVERYTHING….YES I INTEND(ON GOOD DAYS) YO KNOCK SEVEN BELLS OUT OF THAT BIKE, WHEW WHAT A TRIP, NEVER THOUGHT IT WOULD TAKE SO LONG.
      SORRY YOU ARE HAVING WATER PROBS LOVE, AND ANOTHER CYST…YUK, POOR YOU, THAT MUST BE PAINFUL, HOPE ITS NOT LONG CLEARING UP…..WISH YOU COULD HAVE LESS STRESS WITH YOUR DAD, GOSH IT NEVER ENDS DOES IT….TAKE CARE SWEETS…LOVE YOU …JEN XX

  11. OH CHRIS SENDING ANGELS AND PRAYERS YOUR WAY. SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE HAVE QUITE A TIME RIGHT NOW. HANG ON SWEET PEA, THIS TOO SHALL PASS.
    LOVE YOU BIG. I WILL TAKE PICS OF THE GARDEN HOUSE AND SEND THEM TO YOU. MAYBE TODAY IF IT IS NOT RAINING.
    XXX

  12. HI JENNIE POO, DOES THE TENS MACHINE REALLY HELP YOU. I WAS LOOKING AT THEM AND WONDERING IF IT WAS WORTH BUYING. THOUGHT IT WOULD HELP MY KNEES (AS THEY ARE GETTING WORSE ALL THE TIME) AND ALSO FOR MY BACK. SO SORRY TO HEAR THAT NECK AND EAR PAIN IS BACK. I CAN IMAGINE HOW PAINFUL IT IS CAUSE I GET THAT ALSO. SEEMS TO COME AND GO. SINCE GETTING SICK LAST WEEK EVERY PART OF MY BODY IS IN PAIN. FEEL LIKE I’M YOU TWIN ACROSS THE POND! SAY HI TO DH FOR ME. YOU TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF MY PET.
    LOVE YOU BIG! GOD BLESS YOU.
    XXX

    • HI SUZANNE……YES I THINK ITS WORTH YOUR WHILE TO GET A TENS MACHINE, MINE HAS HELPED MY NECK AND I KNOW I COULDN’T HAVE MADE MY JOURNEY TODAY WITHOUT USING IT. SO SORRY YOU ARE SUFFERING WITH ALL THESE PROBLEMS LOVE, YES YOU COULD WELL BE MY TWIN ACROSS THE POND….I WILL SAY HI TO MY DH, THAT WILL DELIGHT HIM, AS HE LIKES ALL YOUR PHOTOS ON F/B…..I HAD BETTER WATCH MY STEP HUH? HOPE YOU SOON FEEL BETTER SWEETS….LOVE YOU….JENNIE POO XX

  13. Hi
    Guess wat..got the antics from my dad
    He wants to go to the cheaper agency and had rung the health people to ring him about it
    He left a message on their phone line ..so I left one after telling them to be in touch with him and not me,as he seems to want to deal with it. I can’t cope with it today….But that was only about 2 hrs ago and it’s now 5 pm so it’ll prob be tomorrow now….
    But on top of that the care agency rang me to say it’s a condition to have a TV in their bedroom ..so he will have to have an aerial put in and buy a TV…….IVE rung the council to see if it’s ok so I’ve gotta tell him that one now…..but he mite not have this agency now and I can’t tell them yet…..ugh….I’m so fed up and dh bp up..don’t know where to turn ..then will have to sort out aerial man and buy a TV .seems simple but my mind can’t move with it
    Feeling rough on the tablets. Sh.t
    Chris
    Ps. I’ll be better laterer
    Oh yes and Suzanne the photos will cheer me up

    • Oh Chris, I’m so sorry. I think you’re right in letting him, your Dad, take charge but unfortunately, the grim reality is you’ll end up picking up the pieces if all goes wrong. I know the TV idea is just more trouble but you can see it from the caregiver’s view, they do need some time to themselves but why didn’t they tell you all this in the beginning? Dear girl, have you told your Dad you’ve had enough and he’s on his own? Would that scare him into behaving himself? Surely there is some part of him that knows he’s being a pain in the tushie.

      I wish I knew why life got so complicated sometimes. I had a crying jag this AM because of the run around I’m getting trying to get my drivers license renewed and the birth certificate folks won’t take the info Beth sent them on the computer. Thinking of driving without one when the extension runs out but would probably end up in jail. Oh well, at least I’d get to see Jim working there. I said to myself a half hour ago, “How much can one woman take?” I didn’t get an answer but I think it’s a lot more than i have to give some days. UGGHH. Still having cramping and unable to go to PT right now. Living on yogurt, Ensure, soup, etc. Gees.

      I hope you can get away for the weekend and perhaps leave your Dad to stew in his problems. It might help but he knows you’ll always be there for him no matter how badly he acts up. Might have to remind him that you can’t both be crossing each other being in charge. It’s either you or him. This is nuts having him undo all of your hard work. Prayers for DH and his blood pressure. Poor guy. Thinking of both of you and hope life gets better for all of you. Love, Sue

  14. Jennie, oh dear. You must really want that exercise bike to put yourself through this. We’ve got to teach you how to say, ENOUGH!
    The pain sounds terrible for you. Does the heat help? Be sure to let us know how the trip goes for you. With the time difference I suspect you’re home by now. When are you seeing the doctor about the face and ear? Oh dear, oh dear. Thinking of you. Love, Sue

    • HI SUE…..GOT HOME AFTER FIVE HOURS THERE AND BACK…..PEOPLE SELLING WERE SO LOVELY, FELT I HAD KNOWN THEM FOREVER, PITY THEY LIVE SO FAR AWAY….NEIGHBOUR NEXT DOOR HELPED WITH THE UNLOADING OF IT, AND PUTTING THE OLD ONE IN THE CELLAR…….DOC IS BACK ON THE 22ND, SO I WILL BOOK UP AS SOON AS POSS…….GOOD TO BE HOME….LOVE YOU AND THANKS FOR CARING AS ALWAYS…JEN X

      • Jennie, sounds good. Glad trip is over for you. Hope you are up to getting some use out of the bike. I’m like Chris and don’t have room for machines like that. Wish I did, I’d get a NuStep. Hope you get a hot bath and rest now. Love, Sue

  15. Sue
    Well here I am again
    Looks like rain coming our way.. coming up from France….I don’t want it Jen!😁
    Had floods in the south
    So ..oh yea I know the young girl will want a TV ?poor thing really there’s no computer stuff there either
    If he didn’t have one they would have to take the 24 hr care away…they said they forgot to tell me! So will have to sort it when we can get out without me not we..ing myself
    What will you do about the birth certificate..will you just try again.what a bu..er. Will the people doing the extension help on that at all?,such a small thing to want to have such problems
    Let’s all hope next week is a better one starting this w.end
    Well she said to put this gel on my knee and rest it I,I can’t take meds becos of my stomach.
    The antibiotics are burning it anyway ,its ampicillin with an enhancer in it
    My dad just makes me feel guilty ,I seem to fit right into that slot! So I will probably ring him later,he didn’t sound to good after he’d rang these people and left a message
    Well it gives thunder and stuff for tonite…bring it on I think it will help!!
    Back to Mr breathing exercise now
    OH JEN…..SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE GONNA LOVE THAT BIKE I mite get one its where to put it really
    Chris

    • Chris, I know you’ll be there for your Dad no matter how irascible he gets but you can lay down some rules whether it ticks him off or not. I’m frustrated for you and Lord knows I’m half way across the world from you. Small wonder your DH has that old B/P gauge buzzing. Well dear, one thing at a time. Now you know what to ask the cheaper company about a TV; if they want one also. Right now you have to take care of you. Hope the ointment helps your knee as well as resting. There we go again with the subject of getting worn out and old. Feeling it myself today.
      The birth certificate place won’t take my drivers license as ID because it is expired now. AAGGHH. Have to come up with other ID. Total pain when I feel this badly.
      Rest dear girl, okay? You deserve it. Of course you’re guilty about your Dad. It’s part of the whole parent child relationship. Love you, Sue

  16. Jo dear, isn’t that the truth. This whole pain in the a– can change so many things. I wanted to write you after I checked out some of my pants brand names and see if you might like any of them. I used to wear jeans with latex content from LLBean but I agree, they are now too uncomfortable and wear almost all pure cotton drawstring waists and stretchy one like sweats. Some of my favorites are Soybu…they used to have soy in them, harder to find now. I also get an occasional pair that are light, cool and comfortable cotton from Orvis or Sahalie. They have a Wooby pant that is great for winter. I don’t wear capris because of my ugly ankles. Pride still onboard. Once i found a pair out shopping, which I almost never do, made of hemp and they have worn well and are comfortable. It’s probably just me but I’ve lost my tush but have gained in the waist from the prednisone years.
    Other changes which I’m sure you use also are soft, downy or memory foam cushions. I have one upstairs, down and two in the car. One has a handle for taking into restaurants.
    Have you ever tried a TENS unit? They help but can be a bit inconvenient if you have to lie down on them and can dig into the skin a bit.
    I guess I didn’t remember you are selling your house…oh so much work but I can see it is fun to find the long lost items. I have been taking or having Jim take, boxes of books to the library. They grow like single socks. Boo hoo, reminds me I am without my washing machines and now it will be rebuilt tomorrow. $400 for parts not counting labor cost for a 3 year old machine. Yuk and disgust.
    Hope you’re able to stay cool. Such amazing temps you’re dealing with as we are having drizzles. Take care dear friend. Love, Sue

    • Yes, Sue, it sure has changed the types of clothes i buy now.! Thanks for all the different brands you suggested. I haven’t heard of most of them except LL Bean. I will look into them. i had bought some comfortable jean-like pants (denim looking but lighter material) , with some spandex in them and elastic waist at Sam’s Club.They are pretty comfortable so I bought several. But even on some days for some reason, the waistband bothers me too. It seems I’ve lost a lot of weight this past year without really trying…some 15 pounds, everywhere but my tummy. my weight loss mostly shows in my face. I too was on prednisone for quite a few years and also have had many epidural cortisone injections, so i will blame that:) The days of getting those are over.

      You sound just like me with the cushions. I have a “tush cush” I ordered from Amazon many years ago with the little part cut out of the back for your tailbone (fractured mine years ago). I used to use it but it has now become uncomfortable too. I now have two memory foam pillows, one for keeping in my car in case I find myself out at a restaurant with hard wooden chairs. We must always be prepared!!

      No washing machine? The repair sounds expensive especially for a newer washer. THey certainly don’t make them like they used to. My Maytag washer just died….it was 30 years old!!! I guess its true what the commercial used to say about the” lonely Maytag repairmen”. I bought an LG brand at Home Depot and it is not nearly as good as the old Maytag.

      Hope your gastritis settles down for you. I know it gets old having to eat the same foods all the time.
      Take care and hope you have a restful evening. Love, Jo

      • Thanks Jo for your well wishes. Most of those, or rather all of those brands I gave you are catalogues and I buy most of my clothes online. I didn’t mention Eddie Bauer. Like their stuff, too. Ye[. Love those foam cushions. I used to have one of those with a cut out but they’re not quite thick enough, huh. We don’t have many chain or big box stores out here on the edge of the continent so that’s why I do so much online shopping.
        Life is change if it is nothing else, but of course it’s many things. Please take comfort in knowing I understand. I also hope the gastritis clears up. Sick of it…literally. Later dear, Love, Sue

  17. Sue
    Are you able to ask on line what they will accept now given your situation it’s really tick box thinking of them.life seems so easy for some folk..what they done that we ain’t?! But I know they got to be careful now.but it so annoying when it’s yourself and you know your ok
    Rain came tonite and we think we got leaks In The roof drip noises on ceiling.Dh went up but he’s not good enough to get thru loft but he couldn’t see anything .we have the plumber coming to service the boiler soon I’ll ask him to go and look,he’s very helpful ….joy oh joy!
    Look outside at the tiles tomorrow
    Going to sleep now..hopefully
    Chris

    • Chris, I’m sorry but I don’t understand what you’re asking me. Are you asking about the cancer possibly returning now that I’m not on the meds? Is that it? I see the oncologist in early September and the nodule I have will be watched and dealt with or not. As far as the gastritis we are waiting for it to get better. SUch a confusing picture with the IBS and diver. Yes, dear, you’re right. Some folks have it easier than others but ai truly believe everyone has some problem to test them if not their health, something else.
      Glad you got rain but the noise sounds worrisome. We’re to get rain tonight and tomorrow.
      Hope you sleep well dear lady. Let the problems go so you can rest. Love, Sue

  18. Sue
    What I was referring to was the certificate for the license. And to ask them what they would accept as proof, given that your situation is as it is .Also knowing they have got to be careful with all the illegal immigrants now Is probably One reason for Being so tough on it…it’s like txt on mobiles sometimes you gotta explain it !
    However
    Another long drive in September .but maybe you might get to enjoy a meal out better than last time.theres time for it to heal….
    The ibs and diver..one just stirs up the other .why won’t it just go
    Had to stay awake till now ..have to stick to taking meds every 8 hrs
    Chris

    • Chris, yes, they gave me some other ideas but they have to have my name on them, not Jim’s like utility bills, bank accts, etc. I’ll get it worked out. It’s just that sometimes these things are not much by themselves but when you add them all up, they get to be too much. I know you understand. Love…oh, be sure to be drinking lots of fluids with that antibiotic and bladder infection. Sue

  19. Sue, in regards to alternative I..d.’s for birth certificate, do you have a voter registration card or how about a Medicare card ? Wonder if those would be acceptable…

    • Thanks Jo. Here in OR we are registered to vote through the DMV. I did dig out my SS card tonight and Jim is going to grab our marriage license. That should do it. I just don’t understand why the DMV didn’t know you can’t use an expired drivers license for ID, even with the extension I got clearly attached to it. UGH. So much of it is me. I’m just not up to it right now. The chemo was a hormone and it really hit me hard emotionally as well as my gut. I keep hoping each day will get better and I believe it will. Thanks dear lady, Sue

      • Sue..each day will get better. Enough already! A very good friend of mine went through the same problems with the chemo pills for her breast cancer. Finally she stopped taking them and it took her 3 or 4 months to get back to her normal. Keep believing and one morning you’ll notice it’s gotten better! It’s hard having patience when life keeps hurdling one obstacle after the other!

  20. Sue
    You are so right..one thing on top of another, it’s the straw and the camels back.just to deal with one problem in isolation would be great. Just having to deal with mounting ones is sh.t.and especially when they don’t work out
    Hope you are sleeping well
    I’m expecting the lady from the NH to ring me. The lady at her office said she returned dads call three times yesterday and he didn’t pick up..he was there.he kept telling me they haven’t rang..so anyway I’m dealing with it today as we will never get anywhere
    I can’t mention the TV to him until he decides
    DH bp up and my cystitis the same
    Ugh
    Chris

    • Chris, sorry but it sure sounds like Dad is playing games…again, doesn’t it. Try to not let him get to you and don’t play. Take care of yourself, okay? I know you feel obligated but there are some things you can’t control. Apparently his behavior is one of them unless you try getting more stern with him. Would that help or would he just rebel?
      Sweet friend, you first. He’s just trying to be the squeaky wheel to get attention. Ornery. Love, Sue

  21. HELLO….JUST BEEN READING ALL THE POSTS……SEEMS LIKE WE ALL HAVE SIMILAR PROBLEMS IN THE GUT AREA……WENT A LONG WAY FOR THIS BLOOMING BIKE, GOT LOST ALONG THE WAY, THROUGH ALL THE LITTLE VILLAGE THAT ARE NOT EVEN A DOT ON THE MAP……………….HAD TO USE MY TENS AND A MASSAGER TO MAKE THE TRAVEL BEARABLE.
    GOT HOME, AND GOT HELP UNLOADING, AND GETTING RID OF THE OLD ONE, AND ALL SEEMED TO BE GOING WELL. THEN AFTER DINNER, STARTED TO FEEL ILL, AND FROM THEN ON ALL NIGHT WAS SPENT IN AND OUT OF THE LOO, I CANNOT FOR THE LIFE OF ME THINK WHAT I COULD HAVE EATEN TO HAVE CAUSED ALL THE PAIN AND CONSTANT NEED FOR THE LOO.
    IF THAT WASN’T BAD ENOUGH, I COULDN’T RAISE MY HEAD OFF THE PILLOW THIS MORNING, THE PAIN WAS UNBEARABLE, AND I DIDN’T KNOW WHAT TO DO……MY DH, BLESS HIM, GOT ME PROPPED UP WITH ENOUGH PILLOWS SO I COULD USE THE MACHINE AND I TOOK SOME ANTI INFLAMS.
    FOUND THAT MY OSTEO HAD NOT YET GONE ON HOLIDAY (THOUGHT HE HAD) SO WE POPPED IN ON THE OFF CHANCE, AND HE IS SEEING ME TONIGHT BEFORE HE LEAVES FOR 2WKS……I COULD HUG HIM.
    CHRIS……WE HAD THAT STORM TOO, WE LOST ALL POWER AND THE WHOLE VILLAGE WAS OUT…………….
    CONSTANT RAIN TODAY TOO. SORRY TO HEAR CYSTITIS HAS RAISED ITS UGLY HEAD AGAIN, AND HOPE IT CAN BE DEALT WITH QUICKLY, HAS YOUR DH SEEN THE DOC ABOUT HIS B/P?
    SUE………….NOT USED THE BIKE YET, NOT UP TO IT, I HOPE YOUR LICENSE PROBLEM SOON GETS SORTED OUT, AS IF YOU HAVEN’T ENOUGH TO BE DEALING WITH, WITH HEALTH ISSUES, HOW IS IT GOING WITH THE GASTRITIS, THAT’S SO HORRID, DON’T YOU WONDER IF ANY OF US WILL EVER COME CLOSE TO HAVING A DECENT DAY?
    JO…….HOPING YOU ARE COPING WITH GETTING THE HOUSE READY, I KNOW ITS NOT EASY WITH BEING IN SUCH A LOT OF PAIN, IT WOULD BE GREAT TO SETTLE IN THE PLACE YOU LOOKED AT, WITH THE POOL ETC ALL TO HAND……
    I GUESS I AM JOINING YOU WITH THE CLOTHES ISSUE, WHY IS IT THAT BY THE EVENING YOU SEEM TO GO UP TWO SIZES FROM THE MORNING?
    WELL HOPING FOR SOME RELIEF TONIGHT, EVEN IF ITS ONLY FOR ONE NIGHT….I’LL TAKE THAT.
    LOVE TO EVERYONE, HAVE A GOOD WEEKEND………………….JENNIE XX

    • Jennie, Hope you get past the trip. Still can’t understand why you had to go feeling the way you do but that’s your business. Glad you’re going to see the osteo. Is that the guy who helped you so much during your last flare on the head and ear? I know he helped enormously that time. How long were you without power? I hate that so much when it happens. Hope you didn’t lose any food, etc. Sounds like quite a storm.
      Love the pics of your garden and the new spot your DH created. He’s such an artist, truly.
      Yes, it does look like we’re all facing trouble but I’ve learned that will always be for many of us and we just have to learn to live around it.
      Finally got the washer fixed today. Hurray. Laundry piled up all around.
      Hope you have a good weekend after getting some help. Good thing you caught him before he left on vacation. Love, Sue

  22. Dear Jo, how very kind of you to tell me to be patient. With my gut and all…well, you know. This is the third oral chemo pill they tried for me and I had the sense to stop this last one sooner than the first one. No more. The doc told me to cut them in half and try it but that’s like asking me to try half the arsenic!
    I wanted to ask you after our missives yesterday if you also have problems..how do I say, going poop due to your SI and tailbone problems? Also, I was thinking about you last night wondering how the packing, weeding out and getting rid of stuff to move is effecting your back and rear. I find any lifting can throw me into a spell. The Tigny exercises have helped that quite a bit for me.
    Good to hear from you and your encouragement means a lot to me, although I am sorry your friend has such a bad time as well. Love, Sue

    • HI SUE…OH BOY, YES TO YOUR QUESTION. .IT CHANGES ALL THE TIME BECAUSE THE TAILBONE IS CROOKED AND DISLOCATED TO ONE SIDE, BUT SOMETIMES IT MOVES OR GETS AGGRAVATED LIKE AFTER SITTING IN A HARD WOODEN CHAIR FOR TOO LONG. I HAVE A ROUTINE DOWN TO A SCIENCE NOW TO KEEP THINGS GOING, SO TO SPEAK. FOR A LONG TIME, I HAD A TERRIBLE CONSTIPATION PROBLEM BECAUSE OF THE TAILBONE/SI.I ISSUES AND THAT WOULD INCREASE MY PAIN A LOT NOT GOING. BUT NOT ANYMORE I AM HAPPY TO SAY. NEVER MISS A DAY (TOO MUCH INFO??) THIS IS WHAT WORKS FOR ME. NOW MAYBE YOU MIGHT ALREADY TAKE SOME OF THESE THINGS. EVERYDAY, I TAKE A PACKET OF MAGNESIUM …THE BRAND NAME IS “CALM” AND CAN BE PURCHASED AT MOST STORES OR AT AMAZON.COM IT IS A POWDER YOU PUT IN A GLASS OF WARM WATER. THEY COME IN FLAVORS SUCH AS CHERRY, LEMON, ORANGE, ETC. MAGNESIUM HAS A VERY RELAXING EFFECT ON YOUR MUSCLES AND IT WORKS WELL TO HELP YOU GO.
      ANOTHER THING I TAKE EVERYDAY IS VERY GROUND UP FLAXSEED. I PUT A TABLESPOON IN MY CEREAL, OATMEAL, OR YOGURT. THIS HAS HELPED ME OVER TIME TOO. AND LASTLY, MY DR. TOLD ME TO BUY MIRALAX. YOU CAN GET IT AT WALGREENS, CVS, ANY PHARMACY OR GROCERY STORE.. I PUT A CAPFUL INTO A GLASS OF WATER EVERY OTHER NIGHT OR TWO AND DRINK IT DOWN. IT IS LIKE A MIRACLE THE WAY MIRALAX WORKS. MY DR. SAID IT IS SAFE TO USE A FEW TIMES OR SO A WEEK, BUT NOT EVERYDAY. WELL, I HOPE THIS HELPS.YOU.
      PROGRESS IN PACKING IS GOING VERY SLOW JUST BECAUSE I CANT LIFT ANYTHING EVEN SLIGHTLY HEAVY.. IVE BEEN AT A STANDSTILL THIS WEEK NOT FEELING LIKE DOING MUCH PACKING. I HAVE A STRAGEGY WHERE I WILL HAVE MY DH PICK UP THE BOXES THAT NEED GOING THROUGH AND PUT THEM ON TOP OF THE TABLE AND I WORK ON THEM LITTLE BY LITTLE. I ALSO HAVE MANY EMPTY BOXES LINED UP WHERE I AM WRAPPING FRAGILE DISHES, FIGURINES, AND FILLING UP THE BOXES AND THEN I HAVE A FRIEND OR MIKE CARRY THE BOXES INTO THE GARAGE. SLOW GOING, BUT I’M DIONG MY BEST. I MUST LOOK UP THE TIGNEY EXERCISES FOR S.I. JOINTS THAT YOU REFERRED TO. I NEED TO DO SOMETHING. MY AQUA P.T. DOESN’T START UNTIL SEPTEMBER. IT’S TOO HOT OUTSIDE TO BE IN A HOT THERAPY POOL.RIGHT NOW.
      SURE HOPE SOME OF MY INFO HELPS YOU.. HAVE A GOOD NIGHT.

      HI CHRIS, SO YOU HAVE SOME TAILBONE PROBLEMS TOO?? DID YOU BREAK YOURS LIKE I DID? YES, WERE HOPING TO HAVE OUR HOUSE UP ON THE MARKET BY END OF THIS YEAR. BUT ITS SEEMING A BIT IMPOSSIBLE RIGHT NOW. SO, WE’LL SEE… I HOPE THINGS SETTLE DOWN WITH YOUR DAD. YOU ARE SUCH A WONDERFUL DAUGHTER. HE IS LUCKY TO HAVE YOU. I FEAR I WILL BE GOING THROUGH THIS VERY SOON WITH MY MOM WHO IS 87 AND SHOULDN’T BE LIVING ALONE. IT’S SOMETHING MY SISTERS AND I ARE GOING TO TRY TO TALK ABOUT WITH HER SOON.

      JEN, I HOPE THE OSTEOPATH HELPED YOUR TONIGHT. YOU NEED TO FEEL BETTER SO YOU CAN GET ON THAT NEW BIKE OF YOURS.

      TAKE CARE AND GOOD NIGHT TO ALL!

      • Jo, how kind and thoughtful of you to go into such detail for all of us. No, dear girl, on here there is no such thing as too much information. I’m sure you’ve noticed no subject is out of bounds. I’m not familiar with the Magnesium powder and will look into that but have taken MOM as my back up for back ups for years. Miralax doesn’t work for me so we’re all different. I have discovered the benefits of cherry/grape juice with metamucil each night. The SI joints are my problem as well as the natural, always present dryness throughout the whole body brought on by Sjogren’s syndrome. I have a humidifier going all the time in my bedroom, drink fluids constantly but still…Irritable bowel syndrome for me means chronic constipation so when you put them all together they spell constant vigilance to keep from getting into a painful state.
        It sounds like so many of us live with such severe chronic pain that it makes my heart break at times to know so many have had their lives interrupted or altered to such an extent it effects everything we do. Yes, you can copy the R. Don Tigny exercises online. He’s well known for them which are especially designed for the pelvic, SI joints and tailbone.
        I think your packing ideas sound very sound and know it takes a certain degree of dedication to keep at it. Just the thought of moving is a nightmare for me and I find lately I’m doing a lot of throwing out, giving away, etc. I know what we went through with Jim’s Mom’s death and don’t want my kids to be faced with all of that BUT what can one do when we still are trying to make the most out of life? With my Mom it was different because she cut back during two moves to an assisted living, then convalescent living until she was almost all bedrest towards the end of her life in a rest home. She had little left to sort out and it’s mostly sitting in a shed at my sister in CA’s house. I’ll never see any of it. Years ago when she made her first move, after Dad died, we girls bought many of her antiques to help her out financially. This infuriated one of my sisters who said we were buying our own inheritance but I thought it was a great way of helping Mom. Those can be such difficult times for families as well as the aged.
        Hope you get to have that talk with your Mom. Life seems to always have some new challenge awaiting us doesn’t it? Do take care and thanks again for all the good sharing. Love, Sue

  23. Sue
    Re your post to Jo
    I have problems when my tail bone gets bad going to the loo..i told the pain clinic and he said it was a noted problem when it was inflamed.he offered a tens machine for it but added that it would be uncomfortable there to wear .and it was so didn’t .
    I have to just wait for it to go..I rub diclofenac gel on it..I can’t take antinflamitories Becos of my stomach
    Washer fixed..wohoo
    Jo
    You moving then?
    Jen
    Hope the osteo went well and your a bit better

    DD told my dad off I think he’s sulking and also the carer found out about the change he wants…so I’m keeping out of it at moment ,it all sounds a bit sparky..not sure I like it.but she will always speak up if she finds me wilting.
    Trouble with me is I always like to put things right..somehow that seems to somehow annoy anyone involved..
    So I left wondering how it all is

    Weather so miserable here so dull. I see in Cyprus it was about 139 f last week…it seems to be getting hotter in hot countries
    I think my cystitis is a bit better….just my muscles and joint to go
    Wonder if tonies Daughter arrived ok
    Back later
    Chris

    • Chris, I’m pleased to hear you’re a bit better. You know, I was wondering if Tonie’s daughter got there or not. Bet she did and Tonie has her hands too full to let us know with all that visiting, cooking, kids, etc.
      Yes, the good old tushie. It is difficult to lead a normal life when all is not right down below the sitter line. So much of life is bathroom, sitting in chairs, visiting, etc. It’s not like a broken leg that everyone can see so it becomes a bit of a social issue, you know?
      I can understand your wanting to make things right, especially when it comes to your own family and that’s exactly what you’ve done. You’ve made it as right as you could and so what if he’s pouting. You just wouldn’t play his game, that’s all. You can’t change your Dad, no matter how much you love him but that doesn’t mean you have to dance to his tune. I know my dear that it tears at your insides a bit but what’s the alternative?
      Shouldn’t you be asleep pretty lady?
      Yes, the first load of laundry I did and there was water on the floor. I called the tech and he said he spilled some in the bottom and it would be gone by tomorrow. Hope he’s right. Will be doing laundry all day today. Gut still bad today. Later, love ya, Sue

  24. Well it’s stil only 10.40 pm here now.In fact I have been asleep and awake now to have food before tablet
    These antibiotics make me tired been in bed most of day.
    But went downstairs and broke one of my better plates (half asleep). And hurt my bladder bending over to pick it up…didnt want to hurt my knees kneeling ! So a bit sore again…
    Its worrying when you see a water leek you wonder if to believe him or not..but his decision sounds adamant to me
    DH been downloading windows 10 on desktop and lap top today..hasn’t all gone to plan as is usual so his bp is prob up ….blimmin computers
    Well gonna read a book ,.will have no trouble sleeping tonite so see ya tomorrow
    Chris

    • AAGGHH!! How loudly can I yell before the neighbors call the cops. The washing machine just stopped in mid cycle. Called the nice tech and he came right over and said he’s never seen anything like it before. Called the company and of course GE isn’t going to admit they made a bad part. Now it’s working and he didn’t do anything to it. Think I have not seen the last of this problem. $500 dollars later and I had to take a Zanax I was so upset I could feel the arrthymia in my heart starting. I know I shouldn’t react so badly but gees. i’ve got stomach and gut cramps and then this. Pray I can get the laundry done that has been piling up for two weeks…please.Love to all, Sue

  25. Oh sue yes prayers for you are on going. These problems that don’t get fixed and just roll on till the next one are a bu..er I can completely understand your frustration. I’m not happy with it effecting you with your heart. But I know that does it with me too. It seems some problems just won’t work out whatever you do with them.lets just hope it will continue to work now. Blimmin machines. I hope you got all the laundry done .there comes a time when there is nowt you can do but vent.
    Thinking of you.its 6.30 am here and sending a special prayer that you are feeing ok and the blimmin machine is doing what it should
    Jo
    Yea I fractured my sacrum and also put the coccyx out of place about 26 yrs ago .the pain was excruciating for about a year.then it eased each year and I’m left with how it’s is now.. They tried various things in the beginning but only time eased it.but every thing effects it and it’s always with me. Sitting,bending anything
    You are very brave to move.we need to but I can’t put my mind to it….things like will I sell when there is a house available that i want to buy,all that packing and arranging. I know I’ll have to do it sometime.i just keep putting it off.so I admire you doing it bit by bit as you are doing. I think I will have to get into that mindset and do it
    Well it’s Saturday and it’ll be the usual b.fast out . But this time I’m just gonna have a scone not that hungry on these antibiotics,so that’s a good start to a diet..I’m thinking tonies meal replacement thingies may be a good start
    Hope all have a good w.end and Jen how’s the neck .hope it’s easier this morning.can we call the bike the bone shaker!?in honour of its part in your latest torment 😄.but I do hope the osteo was able to help again
    Ok that’s it
    Chris

    • Chris..me too with the sacrum 12 years ago. Excruciating!! Although better than it was in the first few years, It is always with you the discomfort in sitting, bending over and standing snd walking .Some days are better than others. Nothing the drs. Can really do about it. One doc said to remove the tailbone!! I never went back to him.
      Have a good weekend .

  26. Jo
    I dunno sometimes as I’ve said to sue I just feel guilty with my dad.and this latest escapade makes me feel it moreso. I just think he’s thinking I’m not doing as I should. It’s probably a daughter thing
    Chris

    • Chris..it is a daughter thing
      Your dad sounds like my mom in some ways.. She uses manipulation by guilt! I feel like I can never do enough or the right thing. Mom is good at getting me going. It’s going to take a miracle to get her to listen to us and go into assisted living. But we have to do what needs to be done for their welfare.

      • Jo, in regards to your remarks to Chris and your own situation, I concur. I forgot to mention I take Colace everyday…seven of them. Hope your weekend is going okay or even wonderful…dare we hope? Love, Sue

      • Wow! 7 colace a day? Im not familiar with that product. When snd if you look for magnesium, try to get magnesium malate, citrate or glycinate. They’re the best forms to take. Start out slow to see how your system takes it. We’re all different.
        I can only hope to be having a good weekend. Backside acting up this past week so I haven’t done ANY packing this week. Having a quiet day and puttering around the house. DH gets home from work at 6ish. Have a restful night, Sue. Love, Jo

    • Yes, Chris. It’s a daughter thing and it’s worse as many folk get older they become more self-centered and play this card well. What many parents forget is that we don’t owe them anything. We owe our children everything because we brought them into the world. What we give to our parents we give out of love and caring, not out of indebtedness. Those are lines straight out of one of my favorite movies, GUESS WHO’S COMING TO DINNER, Spencer Tracy and Hepburn with wonderful Sidney Poitier. Love, Sue

  27. Hello Peeps:
    Whew !! What a week ! Yes daughter dear made it in on Wednesday am. I set up bedding in the old trailer and they slept in there the first night. Now it is loaded up with their things and everyone is piled in here ! I can manage with all the people for a bit. But yes, stress level is up, having a bit of a flare right now. I was so tired yesterday I couldn’t get up to go and swim. I went to the pain dr later. Got a shot in the jaw for TMJ. Then worked on putting up the skirting around the bottom of the house. Nikki’s beau is helping me with that. Today we are putting the back porch back up. They are all so happy to be here . It is good to see my little ones and try and bond with them. THey are in school and Devin had her first dance last night 🙂 SO cute.
    I cannot stand my kitchen in a mess, and DD and I am struggling to get it to rights that when I wake up I want a clean kitchen with no dishes in the sink. My bathroom always has a que outside it 🙂 I made a little bonfire for the boys last night and we made smoores and I ate marshmellows THe smoores are too rich for me !
    Well I am falling back asleep again so I will talk to you all later You are ever in my prayers
    Love
    Tonie

    • Tonie, so good to get an update from you. It sounds like complete chaos and I can see some stress building up there but also a lot of love. Hope Nikki finds a place very soon. I know it must be wonderful to have some bonding time with the little ones. Bet they are adorable. Your DD has beautiful kids.
      We each think about you and I know the others hope you’re taking care of yourself as much as humanly possible. Much love, Sue

  28. Tonie
    Well it’s sounds wonderful to all be together. Like that family the waltons on TV. The small ones must be enjoying it so much.
    The injection in the jaw sounds painful. Wish you could rest more .

    Hope you got the washing done sue and no more happenings
    Jen
    You ok?
    Well I’ve managed to do a bit of housework and change the bedding.gonna rest till the next lot to do
    Chris

    • Chris, so far so good on the washing machine but I’m not too confident. Time will tell. Hope you’re bladder inf. is better and you and DH are getting some down time. Now that your Dad’s current worker knows what he’s up to I think it should get either better or worse. Hopefully he will stop these childish games but sorry, doubt it. You take care of you. You are worth it and so is DH. I know that sounds harsh but love has to stop somewhere short of death. Right? Love you, Sue

  29. I THINK FOLKS HAVE GOT THE WRONG IDEA ABOUT THIS BIKE, I WANTED IT BECAUSE ITS A BACK UP FOR WHEN ITS ALL I CAN DO….I TRY TO DO LOW IMPACT AEROBICS TO A DVD, KNOWING I CAN STOP IF IT ALL GETS TOO MUCH (IT OFTEN DOES) PLUS PILATES WHICH I DO ON THE FLOOR, SO THAT’S OK……BUT THE BIKE STANDS THERE AS A REMINDER THAT IF ALL ELSE FAILS, I CAN KEEP MY CIRCULATION GOING SOMEHOW.
    HAVE A GOOD WEEKEND…………………….LOVE JENNIE

      • HI SUE….THE TREATMENT WENT OK……GOT TO WAIT NOW TO THE END OF THE MONTH, BUT I HAVE A BIT MORE RANGE WITH HOW MUCH I CAN MOVE MY NECK……..I AM GRATEFUL FOR ANYTHING…..I AM BEING VERY CAREFUL WITH MY EXERCISES WHERE MY NECK IS CONCERNED, IF IT DOESN’T FEEL RIGHT, I DON’T DO IT.
        THANKS FOR ALL THE TUSH ADVICE, IT HELPS JUST KNOWING WE ARE ALL IN THE SAME BOAT…WISH WE COULD ALL GET BETTER THOUGH……..MUCH LOVE…..JEN X

  30. Oh I love all the advice on here. It’s so good to read it all
    Had an easy day and tomorrow we are going to a garden tea,party In The big grounds of a house.its for charity and we will know lots there..were going today but decided tomorrow would be better as DH bp up and it’s goes higher when he has to hear
    Manipulation by Guilt yes Jo its that….I do hope your mother ,when she does move ,well it goes ok and with no stress for yourself .Wishing ,I know!
    Sue
    How’s the gastritis today any improvements? Love the words get better or worse….
    Well I spoke to the carer ,I rang her on her mobile and asked her tto ring me when she was free.she rang back and said my dad had asked her to ring and give his notice in on Monday to the agency. When I rang him he said he was talking it over with the carer ,but she informed me it was that lady next door..so my dad told me a fib ,and not the first time. I do hope all goes well with the cheaper agency..and his next door neighbour is right. The carer is such a great girl
    Jen
    I was only joking about giving the bike a name ,I didn’t mean to cause any offence.,that’s if I did
    Ok folks
    Chri

    • HA HA! CHRIS, COURSE YOU DIDN’T…..BUT A NAME FOR THE BIKE,,,,,,WELL WHY THE HELL NOT…..I AM OPEN TO SUGGESTIONS……JUST WRITTEN TO YOU, SO I WON’T REPEAT MYSELF…..LOVE JEN XX

      • Jennie:
        Name the bike “Sam” After Sam Elliot!! 🙂 Give you more motivation if you say : Hey I am going to go ride Sam” HEEHEE Being evil today !!
        Love ya !!

    • Chris:
      I so envy your little jaunts to the tea parties, and checking out all the old homes, etc. I think it is mavey. I haven’t gotten any pics from you of late, you must send me some more. Enjoy !!
      Love
      Tonie

  31. Oh and yes sueMy DH and DD have talked to me today and they are worried about me and said to go for some freedom next week. So we are going to do just that………mmmmmm…
    Chris

  32. Jo, I am sorry…truly that you are in pain. I hope you can find some comfort in some form. Colace is a stool softener. I saw the product you described on AMazon but must wait until I get over this current bout of gastritis to try it. I took Mg. pills a few months ago and they caused severe cramping. Would have to dig out the bottle to tell you what kind. I know the body needs it and most certainly with osteoporosis.
    Hope you find a comfortable position, good food, maybe take out type and a good movie to watch. Do take care, Sue

  33. Dear Friends, so many of us have been chatting about pain in the tush these last few days, I was just lying down thinking about everyone and thought of a few things that bring me great comfort in that area, besides the usual which we have already discussed. One of those that helps me is switching from Cottonelle wipes to Basic H wipes. It shrinks problems far better and cleans well. Another couple of items are prescription only but easy to ask of the doctor and those are Proctocort cream and Proctocort inserts. They bring great comfort on a bad night. There are always hot baths, if you can still tub it, as well as nice hot cloths. It’s a miserable way to live but like all problems, we can keep working at it. Love to each of you as we mutually work on our problems and search for solutions. 30 years of them for me as well as my nursing experience hopefully help. Sue

    • Thanks, Sue, for all the TUSHI advice. I too like Chris, never heard of the wipes. Every little thing helps. I never realized so many people have these problems. We’re in good company. But like Jennie said, I wish we would all just get better. X

  34. Sue
    I use those preps sue..but the one I haven’t is the prep h wipes.i use just ordinary ones.i just looked on line and our main chemist sells those so I shall get them. I didnt know,they existed ,so thank you. Good to try those
    It’s funny as you said your ibs problem is constipation ,mine is continually having the runs.i know it can cause either. ,or even both together
    Jo yes I was told of taking the bone out ..didn’t sound good to me too
    Hope you enjoyed the film and the meal..sounds good
    Well I had the alarm on to take my antibiotic try and get back to sleep for a while
    Back later Chris

    • Chris, yes I enjoyed my chicken marsala and it came with a salad. I ordered it from a little Italian place in my town. I Enjoy anything I don’t have to c ook! Watched a great movie called “The Judge”. A very good twisted story I would recommend.
      Hope you have a relaxing week ahead.
      Jo

  35. Jo:
    THe Judge is indeed a good story. RObert Downy Jr doing a good dramatic role and Robert Duvall being his usual good acting self.

    Hey all:
    Been a long week, and a couple more to go. The pain Dr upped my dosage of Neurotin to see if it will help my back pain. It makes me so sleepy, not sure if I can do it. I am so out of it now from the dosage this morning.
    The kids have all (but Nathan) gone to Claytor Lake for the day. Nikki is meeting up with her step sister, Giving me a little break. So calm with al the noise gone. I wanted to ride today, but just too tired !! Maybe tomorrow. DD’s boyfriend and I worked all day yesterday. But the porch is up and the awning is installed over the front door. Just in time for the big rainstorm we got yesterday !! It was a gully washer !!
    Well I am going to rest a bit. I just finished a bowl of strawberries , blueberries and white grapes with a touch of honey and cinnamon. So good and cool,
    Well hope all is having a great day
    Love
    Tonie
    ps, my youngest grandson told me last night that he wants to “Stay here forever !!”

    • Tonie
      What a great thing to hear said ..you will remember that !
      and that fruit soundsso good..lucky you to get able to eat them
      I hope you get used to the extra dose and all will be well
      Chris

      • Don’t know what happened here
        Anyway I was gonna say you are naughty tonie,re. Sam…..Jen will love it
        No haven’t taken many pics of late,been laid down with things .i hadn’t realised that I hadnt tho times just gone

      • It’s odd I’m missing a post as I commented on tonies. And the above post starts with me wondering about it as it was all disjointed
        Anyway here it is again
        You’ll remember those words tonie.it must have been magic to hear your GS say them
        Chris

      • Chris, hope all your entries from yesterday are now showing up on your screen. I am sorry to hear your bladder is still having trouble. Sounds like they should or will change your antibiotic. There are some newer drugs than Penicillin that are great. Are you having symptoms when you go?
        Glad to hear the area under the roof is now safe and hope the sound doesn’t irritate too much. Your weather sounds much like Jennie’s. Bet it will warm up again for you before Fall approaches. Hope DH’s B/P will stay within a good, safe range. I guess no news about your Dad is good news, huh? Is he still changing services? Stay calm as you can and enjoy your lovely home. Much love, Sue

    • Tonie, so glad you’re all enjoying so much time together and glad you’re getting some down time. Watch that Neurontin. I stopped it when I stumbled going up stairs while on it. Made me feel out of it all the time, even in small doses. It also gave me urinary retention..couldn’t pee. I hear that isi an unusual side effect. My sister took it and loved it but as we so often say, we’re all different and react differently. Just don’t want you to trip or get hurt.
      Glad you’re getting some help. The porch and awning will be so much help. So is this boyfriend of Nikki’s a new one or the old one? So exciting that you’re getting acquainted with the littlest grands and most of all fortunate for them to get to know their grandma. You have so much to give. That’s why we have to take such good care of you dear friend. Love, Sue

      • Hey Sue:
        I NEVER have trouble peeing !! I drink too much ! 🙂 But I forgot this am, I already had a 100 mg in the pill box and I took another 300 on top of it. Should only be 300 ! Duh ! Yeah, My sis take 2400 mg of it a day. She says just takes time to get used to it. He is bringing me up slowly, so I will try to be careful.
        The boyfriend is an old one. The father of the last two children. They are a wild bunch of boys. They are enjoying running and playing outside. Hopefully they will find a house with a big yard.
        Love
        Tonie

    • Tonie..glad you enjoyed the Judge too. I love Robert Downey Jr and Duvall. They were so good together in this movie. I also am a Sam Elliott fan. Have u seen him in his latest movie “I’ll see you in my Dreams”? He’s still “got it”. A real good movie too.
      Take care, Jo

  36. Well I think we mite stay home for a bit. I just feel right here at moment. What with the cystitis DH bp and the boiler being serviced ,roof being looked at and I’ve gotta go back to dentist. so instead of trying to rush it all in I’m gonna take it easy
    Very autumn like here today sun has got more of a goldeness about it and the nites seem sharper somehow…I like it
    Jo meal sounds good…you know we never watch films..mainly as DH can’t hear them and he gets too. dizzy following subtitles..so I don’t bother to watch them on my own…but I did look it up and the film does appear intriguing .yea am looking forward to a relaxing week

    Went to this garden thingy Talking to someone who was in Germany when I was there and another who was in Malaya too when we were there ,small world .
    Chris

    • Chris, Glad you’re enjoying life and home. You sound so much better today. I think getting out has been good for you and the atmosphere sounds great as well as the weather. Love, Sue

    • Chris, don’t know what to say about disappearing pics. You know, Natalie tried to post this blog a couple of weeks ago from London and had trouble. Maybe it’s the old Colonies vs. the Homeland thing?
      I still am having terrible constipation no matter what I do. Cramps woke me up. Will keep hoping and expecting to feel better. Think I do overall but having so much joint pain it’s disgusting. Love, Sue

      • Maybe that’s what the problem is then….creaky wires somewhere!
        Becos they’ve just disappeared again….so for the 3rd time. Tonie
        Those words your GS said you will remember forever …?You may be reading it the third time I don’t know it keeps coming and going for Me
        Well sue. You know some sugarless sweets have that aspartame in Them..well they give me the …….and when DH has problems he has a few of them and it works….I can’t as my IBS is the runs and it makes it worse. Just a thought
        Also you can get prune juice and that aspartame together as a drink that works well .
        Do wish you could get some relief from something
        Chris

  37. Jennie, glad you got to have one treatment before he left for vacation. Indeed those necks of ours can be tricky. They have a big job to do carrying all those brains of ours around. Hope you’re enjoying life a bit more now and the pain in the neck, ear and jaw will improve considerably. Love, Sue

    • WHAT BRAINS….AND I AM STILL A PAIN IN THE NECK. …….YOU DON’T HAVE TO AGREE WITH ME…..HOW IS YOUR WEATHER SUE? ITS LIKE WE HAVE HIT AUTUMN HERE, I HAVE CHANGED MY CLOTHES THREE BLOOMING TIMES SO FAR TODAY, AND GOT THE FIRE ON. I AM MANAGING THE NECK PAIN AS BEST I CAN, GOT VARIOUS ITEMS OF EQUIPMENT ALL OVER THE HOUSE, LOOKS LIKE A “GADGET SHOP”
      ALL THAT STUFF THAT WAS BEING DISCUSSED RE:- THE BUM AND TOILETS….I CAN’T GET ANY OF THOSE PRODUCTS HERE, AND ITS DIFFICULT TRYING TO TALK TO OUR PHARMACIST….CAN YOU IMAGINE TRYING TO TALK POOP IN FRENCH…………YOU HAVE TO LAUGH DON’T YOU?? HOPE THE YOUR TUMMY HAS SETTLED DOWN SOME….LOVE YOU..JEN X

      • Jennie, Sorry I know you’re probably gone for the night with the time change but had a busy morning in the loo here. Then the grands and Beth came by to bring me some fresh fruit. Good to visit with family, I’m alone so much I get tired of it and the children always perk me up.
        As far as the items I talked about, well, some of the wipes could be obtained at Amazon. That’s where I buy them. The medicated cream, well, perhaps you could look up the words for steroids and cream and ask the pharmacist if there is a French or English version. They work so much better than the Preparation H ointment. No, I was awake a great deal last night with stomach cramps. I tried eating a baked potato with sour cream for dinner and a few pieces of steamed asparagus. Looks like this is going to be a long haul to heal the stomach and bowel.
        My goodness, your weather has been all over the place. Sounds like ours. No fall available here as yet. Everyone in this and surrounding states just praying for no more fires. They’ve been terrible in OR and CA due to dryness in eastern OR and most of CA. So many people displaced. We’re going to be in the 80’s out here tomorrow which is hot for us in this area. Will definitely have to crank up the little air conditioner and hang out in the bedroom in the afternoon. Thankfully we always get a good breeze, especially in the evening and can sleep well..or as well as usual. Take care of that poor neck. Love you, Sue

  38. Chris, never fear. All of your remarks to Tonie are visible here. Did i ever tell you about my Kamakazi cocktail? IT’s metamucil, MOM and prune juice. Gotta be near a toilet all day after that so it’s the other extreme. Life, huh? Love, Sue

    • Sue, wow..That sounds like a powerful mixture!! I will remember the Kamakazi when my usual methods fail. I laughed when I read in your comment to suzanne the “Bum Sisters”. I agree it is very socially isolating because it seems to affect everything. Sitting iS INVOLVED In all social activities. It’s definitely a “bummer”. Hope your gut gets better soon. Jo x

      • Jo, I was sorry to see in your remarks to Suzanne that you are off of FB. I probably should have noticed but had not. I hope it wasn’t some negative experience that drove you away.
        I think of you often when I see those temps in AZ. I communicated on FB with my niece in Lake Havasu and was so appalled by their temp yesterday; yikes 118. I pray the air conditioning doesn’t go out. Bum Sisters indeed. Thought it was fitting. I just noticed some droopy plants out in my yard. We think it’s hot when it’s in the 80’s because most don’t have air cond. The wind dries a lot of our outdoor plants though as much as heat.
        The gut is still being very picky. I can only hope time will make it better. Do take care of yourself dear girl. Love, Sue

      • Hi Sue..I did have a negative experience with FB having to do with a family member. It’s a shame some people use FB to start conflicts and spread hate. I’ve been so preoccupied with my house that I haven’t missed it too much. With all the friends you have on FB I’m not surprised you did not notice I was gone. You have a niece in Lake Havasu?
        lake Havasu is usually a few degrees hotter than where i am..but when you reach 110° a few degrees more doesn’t matter. HOT IS HOT. One more month of this..amen.
        how’s the tummy? Any improvrment? Love, Jo

  39. Tonie, the urinary retention has nothing to do with how much you drink. It was a muscle thing. Hope the Neurontin works out for you. It’s good to find some relief anyway we can. I’m not surprised by the amount Judy is on. Many folks do build up to that level. Hope all is going well with the family. It must be such a change for all of them and I’ll bet it’s glorious. Be good to yourself. Well, no more loneliness, huh? Love, Sue

  40. Hi all
    Just waiting for boiler service man to callHe will look in loft for me too
    Went to Dr… Still got blood In urine advised to not go away and go back Wednesday with another sample.still stay on these meds and she sent sample to lab today……so it goes on
    Nice and cool today
    How’s the bones Jen?
    Chris

    • HI CHRIS…..HOPE THE BOILER IS FIXED NOW, DID HE GO IN THE LOFT TO CHECK THE ROOF? I HOPE ITS NOT A SERIOUS PROBLEM, THAT YOU CAN DO WITHOUT.
      WHAT ARE YOU ON FOR THE CYSTITIS, ARE YOU MORE COMFORTABLE?
      YES ITS COOL HERE TOO, IN FACT ITS VERY COOL, HAD TO PUT A SWEATER ON, AND IT STILL BLOOMING AUGUST…………..
      THE BONES ARE ACHING, ESPECIALLY BEHIND THE EARS, NEVER MIND, NOWT I CAN DO TILL MY FRIEND COMES BACK TO HIS CLINIC………………..HOW IS YOUR DH’S B/P, DID HE GET IT BACK DOWN??
      WISH YOU BETTER CHRIS……………….LOVE JEN X

      • Jen
        They are co-amoxiclav..a penicillin and an enhancer to it.
        Well he went in loft and the other week I heard a wooshing noise there and never thought about it again..well some polystyrene balls from the soffits must have rushed in
        Then when there is a wind like we had with that rain it bounces up,and down like popcorn ,Hence the noise I heard like a moth caught in a lampshade ..so no worries I don’t mind now I know he said no leaks at all. Boiler serviced so all good
        Back later
        Day bp better but goes up quick
        Gives rain here tomorrow
        Chrisx

  41. TONIE……I BET THOSE KIDS HAVE HAD A GLORIOUS TIME WITH YOU…..WHAT A LOT OF STORIES THEY WILL HAVE WHEN THEY GO BACK TO SCHOOL………..I DO PELVIC FLOOR EXERCISES FOR HELPING WITH THE PROBLEM OF PEEING, BUT OF COURSE IF YOU ARE TAKING DIURETICS, WHEN YOU GOTTA GO, YOU GOTTA GO……GLAD TO HEAR YOUR NEW HOME IS TAKING SHAPE, YOU HAVE REALLY GOT ON WITH THINGS…..GREAT STUFF……LOVE JENNIE X

  42. HI SUE, I REMEMBER THAT COCKTAIL. YOU HAD TOLD ME ABOUT IT CAUSE OF MY CONSTIPATION. I HAD TO USE IT YESTERDAY. I WAS IN SUCH PAIN AND MY BACK WAS IN UNBEARABLE PAIN. FINALLY TODAY THINGS WORKED BUT TOOK ONE HOUR AND A HALF. I’M SO TIRED NOW BUT HAVE TO GO FOR MORE BLOOD TESTS TODAY.
    JUST TO SAY IT DOES WORK! THANK YOU MY FRIEND FOR THAT ADVICE.
    CHRIS HAPPY TO READ YOUR COMMENTS TODAY YOU SOUND AS IF YOU ARE FEELING A LITTLE BETTER.
    JO YOUR SUPPER SOUNDED FABULOUS. DH MADE US A TOMATO TART WITH EMENTHAL CHEESE AND THYME, IT WAS DELICIOUS.
    JENNIE POO, HOPE YOUR NECK IS STILL FEELING GOOD AFTER SEEING THAT DOC.
    OH TONIE SWEET PEA, THOSE WORDS FROM YOUR GRANDSON, PRECIOUS.
    LOVE TO ALL. HAVE TO GO NOW.
    XXX

    • SUZANNE…SO GLAD TO SEE YOU BACK ON HERE…….SO GLAD YOU MANAGED TO DO AS NATURE INTENDED….WASN’T THAT POLITE?? HA HA!!
      HOPE THE BLOOD TEST WILL BE ALRIGHT LOVE……..TAKE CARE…..JENNIE POO XX

    • Suzanne, I agree with Jen that it is good to see you on here. I am sorry to count you among our group of “Bum Sisters.” It can be a miserable way to live and isn’t it awful how it can affect our social existence? Your husband’s cheese tart sounds wonderful. Hope you’re having good weather for you and your wonderful yard and garden. Do take care and keep in touch dear lady. Love, Sue

    • Hi suzanne…your DH ‘ S meal sounds delicious too. It’s nice to have a husband that knows how to cook. Mine tries. Sorry your having the “bum” problems too and so much pain. Hope you feel better snf sre ovet thr virus you had. Keep in touch through email or here since I am off Facebook, okay? X

      • Hi Jo, I’m answering your note to Tonie because there wasn’t a reply to the reply you put on mine…well, you know. Yes, my gut is slightly better. As long as I stay on the right foods and drink plenty of fluids along with the other plans for “going” it stays better. It’s an everyday kind of thing as you know. How’s the packing coming along. Tortoises win sometimes so keep that in mind. I know we all feel like that so often and take our joys from smaller accomplishments than we used to.
        It’s very warm here today. Our air is so crystal clear we feel it and if there is not breeze it gets pretty hot in this ancient house of ours that is insulated by it’s wallpaper. Yes, my niece and her family are in Lake Havasu where her husband is a fireman. I’m sure he has a much more impressive title but I can’t remember what it is. They’re great. You’re right of course. Hot is hot and you guys really are getting it. Do take care and I am sorry about your FB experience. Yes, there are a lot of idiots on there and it’s really bad when they’re related to us. Love, Sue

  43. CHRIS…….OH THAT GOOD THAT THE ROOF IS OK, WHAT A RELIEF.
    SO GLAD DH’S BP IS STEADY, AND I HOPE IT STAYS THAT WAY…..FORECAST HERE NOT GREAT, BUT HOTTING UP TOWARDS THE END OF THE WEEK……………..SO THEY SAY……LOVE JEN X

  44. Yea all entries now appear
    They may change the meds when I next see Dr .i do have less trouble than I did in wanting to go.but it still uncomfortable and feels raw and not all but sometimes burns to go
    I did hesitate to go to Dr again but knew something wasn’t still right
    Trouble is I’m intollerant to a lot of the antibiotics .it makes my peripheral neuropathy worse.so they are careful what they give me
    But Im Getting ibs symptoms now..ho hum!
    The roof sounds like popping corn!…but only when it’s very windy ….well hope so…gives bad weather tomorrow so we will see
    My dad…..you don’t wanna know
    He keeps ringing the NHS and changing his mind..they ring me and I have to ring the carer..she says he is so….
    So at a stalemate
    Went over tonite to sort out his pensions and stuff and explained all to him…I have to leave it up to him now..he can afford it all..but now he says she’s not much good…it goes on and on….solve one problem and up pops another.his neighbour says she doesn’t clean well…..I said his neighbour can be trouble.he says she doesn’t go in becos of the carer?..oh dear….you mite as well just stop at the first problem!
    Well staying in tomorrow ..good book..raining..pie made…looking forward to it….
    Oh yes complete with popping corn!
    Chris

    • Chris, be sure to take acidophilus pills, liquid or yogurt, etc. Sounds like the IBS doesn’t like the antibiotics. Sorry you’re still uncomfortable. There are other forms of antibiotics now that you should be able to take. Please be good to you and enjoy your day tomorrow. Sounds like a good plan.
      Sorry Dad is still acting up. What a nuisance that can all be to you and DH; especially when you don’t feel well. Don’t play. Love you, Sue

    • CHRIS………..I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH SUE REGARDING THE PROBIOTICS, SO IMPORTANT, I TAKE ONE EVERY DAY NOW REGARDLESS THANKS TO SUE’S ADVICE…….
      SO SORRY TO HEAR OF ALL OF THESE MANY PROBLEMS, NOTHING SEEMS TO GET RESOLVED BEFORE LIKE YOU SAY, ANOTHER ONE POPS UP.
      I HOPE YOU ARE BEING TRUE TO YOUR WORD, AND TAKING A DAY OFF FROM EVERYTHING…..TRY TO ENJOY AND TO HECK WITH EVERYTHING ELSE……………….LOVE YOU……JEN XX

  45. Morning all:
    Well, this bed feels so good this am. And it is so quiet I could just sleep in. If I didn’t have to go to work 🙂 Oh well. THere will be a day soon huh ?
    Busy day yesterday. I went and got back on my weight circuit routine, And yes I am sore today. But I feel good too, Make sense ? Knowing I did something I guess. Anyhow. Got more done on the underpenning yesterday. DD did the weedeating for me, and stirred up a nest of hornets and got stung. Poor baby. We saddled up Ole Red and rode him. He did so good, the kids loved it. Not all of them wanted to ride. Was surprising to me. I think I will have to take my coffee intraveneously this morning ! 🙂
    Suzanne, so good to see you back on And Jo as well. Don’t think I have mentioned it but I thought it anyhow !
    Well I must be getting up and getting ready. My love to you all. You are in my prayers dailey.
    Love
    Tonie
    PS Sue, no not lonely at the present time 🙂 I did understand what you were talking of with the meds, just making a joke !

    • Tonie, I just read on FB that one of your horses was hurt. You said he so is it Red? Hope he’ll be okay. I know how worried you must be.
      Know how very much you’re enjoying having your family close again. Hope they can find a nice big house to live in. Are they staying in your area? Sorry Nikki got stung…ouch. Do take care and keep sneaking in those rest periods. Love you, Sue

  46. Hi folks
    Well did read some today and finished my book.but also went and did the weekly shop. Down to nowt..but I do like that as I can make stuff up out of the store cupboard .however we are now replenished
    Not heard from my dad today so no news.i think he will be waiting to see what the nh come up with.bit embarrassing to ring as the carer answers phone and I think she may think she mite be staying after I did my dads accounts..she has a two hr break in The day and my dad didn’t ring me when he was alone .
    So it’s a waiting game.i will ring tomorrow
    Been a dull old day and cool suited me I think
    Tonie
    Hope all is well with Red
    Sue
    Sounds like a minor improvement …is it?
    Jen
    How’s dem bones you got there?
    Chris

    • Chris, yes a bit better. It’s very hot here today and even hotter in the house. We have a small air conditioner going in the bedroom and reversible fans in a couple of windows. Ceiling fans? We have three of them. It’s just this ancient old oven we live in. I don’t do heat well; that’s why we moved here from CA.
      Well, I pray no news is good news but I suspect he’s like a small kid or a puppy…not necessarily good. Don’t be embarrassed with the worker. She knows it isn’t you and when she gets a bit more experience she will see it all in the elderly and the confusedly ill. For you, just keep in mind all those good memories of what your Dad once was. This whole aging business can be so painful for all concerned. Love, Sue

  47. Hi Sue, oh I like the tortoise thing. That’s what I am now. I used to be a race horse running around all day..always so productive. That’s the hardest part is not feeling productive. The packing..well, i haven’t done any for a week! The lower back and now my right hip are not good right now. I guess when one part hurts , it affects the rest of the pelvis. Do you experience problems with the hips when s.i. is bad? Glad your gut is a bit better!!. Take it easy and take care of yourself. Love, Jo

    • Yes Jo, I’ve had hip pain, particularly in my right one, for about twenty years. Now my knee is acting up and my right shoulder is bone on bone so I’m having trouble there as well as the tushie. Is there no end? No pun intended. As far as the tortoise…I told Jim the other day when I was crying, “Do you think I like lying up there like a vegetable? I hate it.” Poor guy. He’s a wonderful man but how could he possibly truly understand? He also hears felons whine all day long at his workplace. Oh dear.
      One day at a time dear girl. It’s all we have anyway. Love, Sue

  48. HELLO………….HOPE EVERYONE IS OK?
    GOT A PROBLEM, DON’T KNOW HOW TO SOLVE IT WITHOUT CAUSING OFFENCE, MY FRIENDS ARE GETTING A DOG, AND THEY GO TO THE UK A FAIR BIT, WHICH MEANS THEY WILL BE ASKING US TO LOOK AFTER IT.
    THE PROBLEM IS, MY DH IS GETTING ON A BIT NOW, AND FINDS SACHA A HANDFUL WHEN HE TUGS ON THE LEASH, HOW THE HECK CAN HE MANAGE TWO…….I AM GOOD FOR NOTHING IN THE MORNING, SO CAN’T HELP, I WOULDN’T DARE LEAVE THEM AT HOME TO GO SHOPPING, AND I CANNOT SEE SACHA BEING SQUASHED UP IN HIS BASKET, HAVING TO FIT ANOTHER DOG IN WITH HIM.
    HELP……HOW DO I SAY NO AND RISK LOSING FRIENDS…..THEY LOOKED AFTER SACHA WHEN WE WENT TO THE AIRPORT TO COLLECT MY MOM….BUT THEY ONLY HAD HIM TO WORRY ABOUT…..I CAN FEEL MY MUSCLES KNOTTING UP AS WE SPEAK.
    LOVE JENNIE X

    • Jennie:
      Just tell them straight out. Our health is not up to keeping another active dog . End of story. If they are good friends they will know this in advance. Don’t stress it !
      Love
      Tonie

    • Jennie, I just read all the replies and have to agree with each piece of advice. Jo has a good idea to drop some hints about it now before or even if you are asked. I might add that you throw in the fact that it would not only be too much for you and DH but it wouldn’t be the best place for a puppy. You would try, I know, but it wouldn’t be ideal for anyone, including the pup. Let it go dear girl. You have enough to worry about. True friends will understand. Love, Sue

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